My wife and I were talking the other night about this lifestyle. We have been involved in it on and off for about 15 years and have met many couples with many differant sexual feelings and perversions. One of them was and is bisexuality. So our question to the members of this website is what makes you bisexual. Women is it going all the way with another woman or maybe its just licking boobs maybe some fingering. We have ran into one couple that the lady said she was bisexual but all she did was play with boobs and touching and fingering the other woman. To us thats not bisexual but it was a good night. Same question for the men. If you let another guy blow you does that make you bisexual? If you like your wife or girlfriend to use a strap on on you does that make you bisexual? I dont want to upset or make anything hugh out of this just wondering what everyones take is on this.
Thanks
Dave and Jackie
Thanks
Dave and Jackie
Well for me and what I consider Bi-Sexual for females is when a woman enjoys the touch and feel of another woman both receiving AND giving, but still loves men. Bi- Curious = just testing the waters to see if you like it. For men I guess it would be the same but opposite. That is how I qualify myself as being a Bi-Sexual lady .
~M~
~M~
"We have ran into one couple that the lady said she was bisexual but all she did was play with boobs and touching and fingering the other woman."
If she received or perceived pleasure from it, she is bisexual.
"Same question for the men. If you let another guy blow you does that make you bisexual?"
Uh, yep!
"If you like your wife or girlfriend to use a strap on on you does that make you bisexual?"
Uh, yep!
There are varying levels of bisexuality. It is not something that someone just is. It is probably better to say someone is 75% hetero and 25% homo. Whoops, there it is. The "homo" label. Scientifically, it is a just a term; not deragatory at all. It is a descriptor.
As for guys, one of the pleasure spots is best reached through the anus. If they like a finger to touch it, then I would say that is not so much "homo" but if they enjoy a full on strapon and getting pounded in the ass, "If it smells like a duck, walks like a duck, and quacks like a duck..." embrace it and celebrate!
Christian
If she received or perceived pleasure from it, she is bisexual.
"Same question for the men. If you let another guy blow you does that make you bisexual?"
Uh, yep!
"If you like your wife or girlfriend to use a strap on on you does that make you bisexual?"
Uh, yep!
There are varying levels of bisexuality. It is not something that someone just is. It is probably better to say someone is 75% hetero and 25% homo. Whoops, there it is. The "homo" label. Scientifically, it is a just a term; not deragatory at all. It is a descriptor.
As for guys, one of the pleasure spots is best reached through the anus. If they like a finger to touch it, then I would say that is not so much "homo" but if they enjoy a full on strapon and getting pounded in the ass, "If it smells like a duck, walks like a duck, and quacks like a duck..." embrace it and celebrate!
Christian
I agree with WRLDRCKRS who said...
"Well for me and what I consider Bi-Sexual for females is when a woman enjoys the touch and feel of another woman both receiving AND giving, but still loves men."
That statement describes me fully! I still love men, but many times at play parties, I much prefer to play with the girls...I get "off" on a more intense level. Don't know why, I just do. Hey I love it..thats all I can say.
Z
"Well for me and what I consider Bi-Sexual for females is when a woman enjoys the touch and feel of another woman both receiving AND giving, but still loves men."
That statement describes me fully! I still love men, but many times at play parties, I much prefer to play with the girls...I get "off" on a more intense level. Don't know why, I just do. Hey I love it..thats all I can say.
Z
hmmm, I've always thought of bi-sexuality/homosexuality as the ability to LOVE someone of the same sex. I think that playing, curiosity, and erotica are largely spawned from societal views. For instance. You find so many women who are interested in playing with other women...they think it's hot...partly (I'm sure) b/c they feel comfortable being intimate with girls...as we grow up it's ok to hug, hold hands and cuddle and not think anything of it...so there's comfort. And it becomes erotic b/c we have seen over the years that the men we are trying to attract think it's super hot for girl/girl action... There are the playboys, etc. and movies, and it works it's way into a lot of things...so in our eternal quest to attract men (we wear our hair just so, color it, get boob jobs, wear certain clothing, wear makeup, etc. b/c it makes us more attractive in the primal sense at least) it falls into it.
So...those are my thoughts...I consider play to be just that, something hot and fun...not neccessarily encompassing the ability to love.
So...those are my thoughts...I consider play to be just that, something hot and fun...not neccessarily encompassing the ability to love.
I feel a body is a body...it is a beautiful thing,,, whether it is male, or female,,,it does not matter,,, if you feel the passion of intimasy and you want to touch boobs, suck cock, finger pussy, fuck ass, massage, kiss, caress or rub your bodies together or hug...Bi, what is Bi?
It's bodies comming together is lust and passion, why can't a man caress another man and not be categorized as bi? if it feels good and stimulates you in all the right places, go for it!
It's bodies comming together is lust and passion, why can't a man caress another man and not be categorized as bi? if it feels good and stimulates you in all the right places, go for it!
Well for me personally I would say I enjoy both sexes equally. That's what makes me bisexual. I am fine with labels but I just like to refer to myself as sexual. I enjoy whatever is appealing and pleasurable to me at the moment. Wether it be some fabulous Tits and pussy or blowing a nice cock or being blown, if it makes me feel good why limit myself with a label when there is so much to enjoy(preferably both at the same time)!
-Rich
-Rich
this is a question that I want answered too. I list myself as bi-curious but in the afore mentioned definition I should have graduated to bi-sexual by now, as I've tested the waters and enjoy them. Kissing women is incredibly hot, we're soft and sensual and just good at it 
When it comes to the oral sex I'm very open to recieving but have been very selective in the giving. When it comes to men, if you're naked and hard I want that to pound me, I'm nowhere near as picky with men. Why is that? is it that I'm attracted to both sexes and just programmed to be more comfortable with men? I can't deny that women's bodies turn me on, big time. So if I'm aroused by women, am I bisexual?
I know it's wrong to answer questions with questions, but I think this one is a really personal choice. It may be that bisexuality is defined only by each individual experiencing it.
Mrs.Curious
When it comes to the oral sex I'm very open to recieving but have been very selective in the giving. When it comes to men, if you're naked and hard I want that to pound me, I'm nowhere near as picky with men. Why is that? is it that I'm attracted to both sexes and just programmed to be more comfortable with men? I can't deny that women's bodies turn me on, big time. So if I'm aroused by women, am I bisexual?I know it's wrong to answer questions with questions, but I think this one is a really personal choice. It may be that bisexuality is defined only by each individual experiencing it.
Mrs.Curious
I don't think touching another person is Bisexual. When you have some type of sexual act such as oral sex with someone of the same sex or for a male anal sex with another also wold be included, but letting your female partner use her dildo on you would not make you bisexual but would her if she was with a female. Touuching and feeling another person of the same sex I would not consider bisexual.That's my 2 cents!
Rob
Rob
ULUV,
so if God decides what we are sexually and what we desire, does that mean it's God's fault if someone is a pedophile? I can hear it now, "your honor, my client's behavior isn't something he can control, God made him that way". . Riiiiiiiiiight...
Just something to think about...... That is, based on your belief.. (not mine btw)
Mr. UtHot
so if God decides what we are sexually and what we desire, does that mean it's God's fault if someone is a pedophile? I can hear it now, "your honor, my client's behavior isn't something he can control, God made him that way". . Riiiiiiiiiight...
Just something to think about...... That is, based on your belief.. (not mine btw)
Mr. UtHot
ULUV,
Ohhh, Ok. Sorry, missed the sarcasm..
Ohhh, Ok. Sorry, missed the sarcasm..
IMO, what makes you bisexual is that you enjoy having sex with both sexes. I'm not talking about someone who wants to try it once nor am I talking about someone who is doing it because the wife wants to see it once in a while and he doesn't mind. I'm talking about the desire to have sex with both sexes that comes from within.
I totally agree with WRLDRCKRS. I think they hit the nail on the head. I know I'm str8 but have had offers. Just doesnt seem to do it for me. My wife on the other hand can go from soft to all the way with a woman just depends on chemistry. Uluv ... I think we all missed your sarcasm on that one than i did a google search for theromans 9:13 just for curiousity and i didnt see anything in that verse that supported his sign just about god hating Esau. Doesnt say anything about Esaus sexual preferance LOL
Somebody said it was the ability to LOVE someone of the same sex..... BiSex..uality really has to do with sex and having sex and enjoying sex with someone of the same gender. Bi is not a constant anymore than hetro/straight is a constant. Sometimes ladies see another lady who they think is hot and well maybe thay have thoughts of what it would be like to touch or more with her. Women, I think women are more prone to touching other women because they are brought up with the idea that they are caregivers and therefore dolls and cuddling others of the same or other gender is encouraged. Boys, on the other hand are taught or conditioned to the idea that it is not manly to cuddle other boys... So they are therefore prone to be less likely to touch others of their same gender. This is the basis of the double standard...
Lately there seems to be a greater number of men who are bi and or prone to enjoy their own gender. So bi is partially environmental... Partially social... partly just how we are wired, chemically and emotionally. Bi is therefore just as normal as say apple pie and ice cream or Heckle & Jeckle.. Light and dark... It just is and bi is as the name implies that 2 genders are involved. Having sex with each gender is "BI".
Having sex with someone in a passive mode... just laying there and enjoying the sensations does not make one bi... Bi is a partipatory thing... One can be straight but in the heat of the moment they might be engaged by someone of the same gender and they simply go with the flow.... If a person does not feel drawn to particapate with someone of the same gender but is engaged by someone else then that is not bi nor is it homosexual, in any respect, either male or female...it's simply a sexual act that happens and is not particatory. I guess by way of demonstration I could ask.... Have you..guys.... every been involved in group sex and had someone touch your genitalia or you touched their genitalia, by accident in the heat of the moment..... It happens... Does that make him or you gay... No. I would say... accidents do happen... Sometimes ladies do get so involved in sex that another woman who is close becomes an object of affection... does that make her bi or gay... I say not at all. ON the other hand if she or he enjoys what is happening with someone of the same gender.... and wishes to participate.. now we have a bi situation...
"BiSex.ual" also has the connotation of participation with both genders at sometime because one likes it. So does that make the casual touching or the non-participatory thing make one bi? I believe Not..
This is a subject that could be debated but if one does some research on the net one will find that gay's and lesbians believe that bi is not a condition at all but simply someone who doesn't know which gender someone wants to be with.... and in the same way one will find discussion that sexuality is like a line... One end is hetro and the other is homo... and anywhere along that like are varying degrees of bi sexuality... Pick your phylosophy...
Just my dollar three eighty sexen ....
Lately there seems to be a greater number of men who are bi and or prone to enjoy their own gender. So bi is partially environmental... Partially social... partly just how we are wired, chemically and emotionally. Bi is therefore just as normal as say apple pie and ice cream or Heckle & Jeckle.. Light and dark... It just is and bi is as the name implies that 2 genders are involved. Having sex with each gender is "BI".
Having sex with someone in a passive mode... just laying there and enjoying the sensations does not make one bi... Bi is a partipatory thing... One can be straight but in the heat of the moment they might be engaged by someone of the same gender and they simply go with the flow.... If a person does not feel drawn to particapate with someone of the same gender but is engaged by someone else then that is not bi nor is it homosexual, in any respect, either male or female...it's simply a sexual act that happens and is not particatory. I guess by way of demonstration I could ask.... Have you..guys.... every been involved in group sex and had someone touch your genitalia or you touched their genitalia, by accident in the heat of the moment..... It happens... Does that make him or you gay... No. I would say... accidents do happen... Sometimes ladies do get so involved in sex that another woman who is close becomes an object of affection... does that make her bi or gay... I say not at all. ON the other hand if she or he enjoys what is happening with someone of the same gender.... and wishes to participate.. now we have a bi situation...
"BiSex.ual" also has the connotation of participation with both genders at sometime because one likes it. So does that make the casual touching or the non-participatory thing make one bi? I believe Not..
This is a subject that could be debated but if one does some research on the net one will find that gay's and lesbians believe that bi is not a condition at all but simply someone who doesn't know which gender someone wants to be with.... and in the same way one will find discussion that sexuality is like a line... One end is hetro and the other is homo... and anywhere along that like are varying degrees of bi sexuality... Pick your phylosophy...
Just my dollar three eighty sexen ....
first of all...I agree with UTHOTCPLEXTREME
I would consider myself 50/50. I SEXUALLY DESIRE WOMEN. I would be considered bisexual. I have been with more women than men, but I could never hold hands with a woman and say "I love you". That's how I know I am not a lesbian. I would consider anyone who enjoys to either give or receive oral or any other kind of sex with the same sex as bisexual. As for me, I like it all. I love going down on a woman even more so than receiving the same!
As far as how to desipher whether or not someone is bisexual:
bisexual=likes sex with both women and men
bi-curious=has a curious desire to try out the same sex, but has not tried it yet.
M
I would consider myself 50/50. I SEXUALLY DESIRE WOMEN. I would be considered bisexual. I have been with more women than men, but I could never hold hands with a woman and say "I love you". That's how I know I am not a lesbian. I would consider anyone who enjoys to either give or receive oral or any other kind of sex with the same sex as bisexual. As for me, I like it all. I love going down on a woman even more so than receiving the same!
As far as how to desipher whether or not someone is bisexual:
bisexual=likes sex with both women and men
bi-curious=has a curious desire to try out the same sex, but has not tried it yet.
M
Posted By: XTRAFUN42 Reply posted on:
Jan 2, 2008 - 11:48 am
We have never figured out the labels that are placed on people or things people do as far as sex is concerned. We feel that what ever happens when couples or women/men in gage in sex all is open and should be enjoyed and not either having to say that was bi or I am bi,all it meant was someone had a great time.
Well, you are right about that and I agree with that part of it. However, the other part of the equation is that the labels, IMO, help you distinguish between what you want and don't want. For instance, both of you are bi. Well, it lets me know what to expect when I meet you. I tell you that we are both straight. You know what to expect then too. Now if I find the both of you sucking on my dick, I might not like it. But if you know I am straight, you would know that. Without knowing it, the best you can do is ask. Sometimes, people forget to ask and go do what they want. Well, it might irritate the other party. IMO, best you know what you are dealing with before going in so there are no awkward moments. Take this girl who stuck her finger up my ass. She didn't know I don't enjoy it. Should she have asked? Yes. However, in the heat of the moment things happen. It isn't perfect either but adds one more safeguard to having something done that you don't like.
Jan 2, 2008 - 11:48 am
We have never figured out the labels that are placed on people or things people do as far as sex is concerned. We feel that what ever happens when couples or women/men in gage in sex all is open and should be enjoyed and not either having to say that was bi or I am bi,all it meant was someone had a great time.
Well, you are right about that and I agree with that part of it. However, the other part of the equation is that the labels, IMO, help you distinguish between what you want and don't want. For instance, both of you are bi. Well, it lets me know what to expect when I meet you. I tell you that we are both straight. You know what to expect then too. Now if I find the both of you sucking on my dick, I might not like it. But if you know I am straight, you would know that. Without knowing it, the best you can do is ask. Sometimes, people forget to ask and go do what they want. Well, it might irritate the other party. IMO, best you know what you are dealing with before going in so there are no awkward moments. Take this girl who stuck her finger up my ass. She didn't know I don't enjoy it. Should she have asked? Yes. However, in the heat of the moment things happen. It isn't perfect either but adds one more safeguard to having something done that you don't like.