What did u feel the morning after the first time? not meaning physically. i am more after the emotional side of the experience. Did your view of your partner change? Did u go through a short drama stage? looking for some different views.
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Why would it change? Bare in mind, if you went into it with a mutual understanding of what would occur, how would it change? What drama would there be?
-D-
-D-
I agree XXX... for us there was no drama involved at all, but a lot of talk about what happened and what was good,bad, fun and different. We have found that talking about it has been one of the best parts of our experiences.
Thanks for the replies all. My wife and I have a very honest communicative relationship. We haven't done anything as of yet. We are at the beginning stages of this, just want to make sure we don't endure any pitfalls if we proceed further. Like i said we both are into the idea, was just getting some feedback before we explore further into our desires. (trying to figure out comfort ground rules etc)
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We are glad you are asking these questions...and they are valid ones. We can't stress enough the value of communicating before, during, and after playing.
We expect as you both go down the Lifestyle path early on you will have some familiar emotions. That is normal. Sometimes we still get them if we are meeting a new couple somewhere. It is JUST like those feelings you got when you were dating each other...anxiety, giddiness, fear and optimism. You dress the part. You act the part. You flirt and get to be sexy again. You may sweat, feel faint, and your hearts may skip a beat or feel like it is in your throats. All of those emotions were part of dating. Now you will get that rush without being alone...you will have your partner right beside you the whole time. It's that rush, and the unknown of how the "date" will come out that drives a lot of us. The sex is the prize!
Just go slow, ask folks in the Lifestyle lots of questions, talk about about what you want or expect to get out of the Lifestyle with your partner and others, and you both will do fine! After your first experience, you will both sit back and have that rush of emotions again as you mentally relive the night. Some will think it was a dream, some will feel guilty and rationalize the evening, but chances are you will both want to do it again!
What you both will get out of it is a deeper, more communicative relationship, more understanding of your partners wants and needs, and a strong bond of trust. It may also change you both personally in your normal everyday lives. You may be more socialable, open, and friendly. Both of our families have commented on how we both seem a LOT happier the last couple of years!
Trust us, a year from now, you will both be wondering what the fuss was all about!
- The (not so) Newbies
We expect as you both go down the Lifestyle path early on you will have some familiar emotions. That is normal. Sometimes we still get them if we are meeting a new couple somewhere. It is JUST like those feelings you got when you were dating each other...anxiety, giddiness, fear and optimism. You dress the part. You act the part. You flirt and get to be sexy again. You may sweat, feel faint, and your hearts may skip a beat or feel like it is in your throats. All of those emotions were part of dating. Now you will get that rush without being alone...you will have your partner right beside you the whole time. It's that rush, and the unknown of how the "date" will come out that drives a lot of us. The sex is the prize!
Just go slow, ask folks in the Lifestyle lots of questions, talk about about what you want or expect to get out of the Lifestyle with your partner and others, and you both will do fine! After your first experience, you will both sit back and have that rush of emotions again as you mentally relive the night. Some will think it was a dream, some will feel guilty and rationalize the evening, but chances are you will both want to do it again!
What you both will get out of it is a deeper, more communicative relationship, more understanding of your partners wants and needs, and a strong bond of trust. It may also change you both personally in your normal everyday lives. You may be more socialable, open, and friendly. Both of our families have commented on how we both seem a LOT happier the last couple of years!
Trust us, a year from now, you will both be wondering what the fuss was all about!
- The (not so) Newbies
duly noted, thanks for the replies, food for thought for sure...
Well our first experience wasn't a great one. One I don't care to go into details about. It almost made it so we didn't continue with swinging but I am glad we did. It is my opinion that you will have bad experiences as well as good and keeping that in mind is always a good thing. Don't let the bad interfere with the good because there is always more good than bad. A lot more good!
Good point. We have had our share of bad experiences. Actually, we never really thought they were "bad" experiences, just experiences we decided we would not want to do again.
It is all a learning experience when you are starting out. If you both end up doing something you don't like, just talk about it and move on. You will soon find a comfortable vibe in the Lifestyle that will work for you.
- The (not so) Newbies
It is all a learning experience when you are starting out. If you both end up doing something you don't like, just talk about it and move on. You will soon find a comfortable vibe in the Lifestyle that will work for you.
- The (not so) Newbies
After our first time we felt excitment to have some more of eachother and others.. It brought back a feeling of like our first time and then some 
since then we have explored so much more and gotten even closser then ever... Never in a million years was there any drama for either of us
since then we have explored so much more and gotten even closser then ever... Never in a million years was there any drama for either of usLike XXXTASYX2 thats how it happened with us "Was that a dream? Did that really happen? Whoa lets do that again!!!" LOL
Mrs. Wild
Mrs. Wild
As we have said in the past, just jump in and go full boat a few times. Otherwise, what are you trying to do? First time you get over the shock. A couple times more to see if you like it. Just like a game of golf. Tried it a couple times and decided it wasn't for us. Otherwise, you can stand at the driving range or golf course and look and look till doomsday and you may never know what you are talking about.
I've been through 3 "first times" in this lifestyle...I can say that communication is the key. Since I'm not the only one on that soap box, I think it's probably pretty sound advice!
Talk, don't set your expectations too high and have fun!
-K_T
Talk, don't set your expectations too high and have fun!
-K_T
First time we went to a meet with some couple. 2nd time we went to a club. Each time we had a blast so we went back for more. After the first event, we talked and decided we liked it enough to go back for more.
its nice to have a open line of comunication in our relationship.... sara knows that i am atracted to thicker (not that the smaller sexy ladies dont get me going, just my preference and attraction is thicker....) voluptious ladies, and i am aware that she doesnt care how big the cock is,,, if he has a large mushroom head sizeably larger than the shaft (probably because my shaft is close to the diamater of my head)...she loves it... we think its because its something diferent for us both... usually oue love making together lasts a couple hours... but after we have been with another couple or a threesome with another male.. the next time we make love wether it be that night or the next morning its usually 3-4 hours.. and stays that way for a week or so slowly diminishing.....are we just odd or is this reaction to the mental state common... here is a pict of sara's after glow.. the first time we got buissy after a MFM threesome.. a mass dp and sucky fuckie session ...dennis and sara