i was just wondering with all this talk what is the perfect size so come on ladies lets hear it
imho The perfect size "for me" is 8" and so thick my fingers wont reach around it. Now thats perfect! Mrs LL
Mine is!!!!.......... DUH
my hubbies is the perfect size !!!!!! 
mine is so my wife tell me so hehehe ....
I like them 7". I have had them over 12 (and that hurt like hell) and as small as 4 (was not sure if he was in or not!). As for around like to get my fingers around it so the tips touch. Hmm I think I have just told you what I am use to! (OK my hubbies fits me GREAT)
my hubby fits perfectly!! But hoping to try out 8 to 10 inches in the future 
my personal opinion, my husband is the perfect length and width......he knows this already wink wink Mrs.Tart
Mrs.TartWell, I have to say that I like atleast 7" long and 7" around. If I can put my hand around it and my fingers dont touch then I am in heaven...My hubby is exactly what I described and he fits me perfect. I believe the thickness is the key anyway. If it fills you up inside then its perfect. Long and average doesnt do much for me....