This is a multi part question.
Do you or your spouse ever play alone, i.e. without the other being present?
If so, do you tell your spouse you did, and if not, why not?
If so, do you tell your spouse BEFORE playing or AFTER playing?
Do you and your spouse have any rules about playing alone? If so, what are they?
If you don't allow playing alone, why not?
Do you or your spouse ever play alone, i.e. without the other being present?
If so, do you tell your spouse you did, and if not, why not?
If so, do you tell your spouse BEFORE playing or AFTER playing?
Do you and your spouse have any rules about playing alone? If so, what are they?
If you don't allow playing alone, why not?
Ok, we'll go first. Yes, we do play alone at times, very rarely, but it does happen. Our only rule is that the other spouse knows when, where and who FIRST, and has veto power over the meeting. We agreed a long time ago, there is NO discussion about it, the other either says yes or no, and that's it. We also have a rule that if the other wants to join in the meeting, then that is allowed or there is no meeting.
To make this a little more understandable, when one of us meets alone with someone, it is usually because it is a first time meeting, me with a guy, or him with a girl, and we feel it would go more smoothly with just the two present the first time.
Ok, who is next?
To make this a little more understandable, when one of us meets alone with someone, it is usually because it is a first time meeting, me with a guy, or him with a girl, and we feel it would go more smoothly with just the two present the first time.
Ok, who is next?
Great topic.
We have been discussing this exact subject for a while, but so far not tested it. As it stands right now. The spouse is suppose to keep the other informed. There is no room for secrets so we even discuss flirting (though Christy gets all of that so far from the guys online). If the comfort level appears then the spouse is to discuss the possiblity of a date. We both have to agree it's cool and then the rule stands that we would hear all the details.
So far it's not been tested mostly because we are more comfortable with couples. It would be cool if we could find an attractive couple for seperate swing in our area to help explore this more before exploring seperate swing.
We have been discussing this exact subject for a while, but so far not tested it. As it stands right now. The spouse is suppose to keep the other informed. There is no room for secrets so we even discuss flirting (though Christy gets all of that so far from the guys online). If the comfort level appears then the spouse is to discuss the possiblity of a date. We both have to agree it's cool and then the rule stands that we would hear all the details.
So far it's not been tested mostly because we are more comfortable with couples. It would be cool if we could find an attractive couple for seperate swing in our area to help explore this more before exploring seperate swing.
We have played separately but it is definitely the exception. He has been with a close friend of both of us on a few occasions and each of those was actually arranged by SHE. She has played alone with another friend but each time was agreed to by both of us beforehand.
Would just have to say that been there, done that, and wont go back. Felt that it just wasnt the way to enjoy the lifestyle. There were no jealousy or hurt feelings, but with out each other there, it just isnt fun.
This is a good topic for single guys like me. I have been with couples many times and never asked if I could meet without the mate being present, but one couple brought up the subject. I was asked if it would be OK for her to show up alone in the afternoon. At first I thought I should say no. After thinking about I gave the OK. We had a great afternoon together. It almost felt like a little romantic thing, we were able to talk to each other, feel each other and satisfy each other. This is not an on going thing as we all play together both in and out of the bedroom.
This is a great subject...We do play alone at times, BUT we have a preset rules, the other has to meet & agree to the arrangement, also the person wanting to play with us has to talk to us.. If it is a couple we play alone due to work schedules.. but if either of us says no then it does not go farther & if it a new person, we discuss it before the meet... but if all is comfy then we can play when we want, but the other is aware of the date...
for work and sometimes fun, rich plays without chris... there is no rule saying chris can not play on her own, she just never has without rich there... chris has played while rich did not in same night as well.
We have the rule, tell first. If he meets an interesting couple for a three way and later they would like a four way the wife will sometimes join us. Wife never goes on her own nor will she meet anyone that I haven't been with and recomennded, her rule not mine.
Yes sometimes we both do, but it is not the norm.
we have talked about this for close to 3 years now and feel that we need to stay with cpls we tryed 3somes but lets face it 90 percent of the cpls in this lifestyle are really in it bacause the wife is very very bi close to gay and they play cpls for the others wife.
there for the hubby getting a 3some with a woman is very rare and to go 1 on 1 forget it this may not be true with where everybody is from but here in east tenn it is we tested it and found it to be true 4 out of 4 times
there for the hubby getting a 3some with a woman is very rare and to go 1 on 1 forget it this may not be true with where everybody is from but here in east tenn it is we tested it and found it to be true 4 out of 4 times
Great question,
For us we play together well what we call together is under the same roof at the same time. We do not have to be in each others site like we have been to a club where she was upstairs with someone and I was downstairs with someone or at house parties she is in one room and I'm in another.
Why? well, on her side her dad ran off with another lady and that lead to a divorce so she just feels more comfortable when we are least all in the same house at the same time. Not a jelousy thing more of a safe way becuase we have met some cpls where they say they play apart only to see them split becuase one wasn't really cool with that idea even though they said they were so to keep things at the fun and "no hassle" level we want to at least be under the same room not nessecarily the same room though.
N&S
For us we play together well what we call together is under the same roof at the same time. We do not have to be in each others site like we have been to a club where she was upstairs with someone and I was downstairs with someone or at house parties she is in one room and I'm in another.
Why? well, on her side her dad ran off with another lady and that lead to a divorce so she just feels more comfortable when we are least all in the same house at the same time. Not a jelousy thing more of a safe way becuase we have met some cpls where they say they play apart only to see them split becuase one wasn't really cool with that idea even though they said they were so to keep things at the fun and "no hassle" level we want to at least be under the same room not nessecarily the same room though.
N&S
We have played alone but it is very rare.
I am in the Military so we have to deal with deployments from time to time. While I am gone Belinda might spend a weekend or evening with a couple that we both know. It is always a couple. Always a couple that we both know very well and enjoy. It is always set up in advance, most often by me prior to my deployment.
This is good for us and for Belinda for several reasons. It gets her out of the house. She gets to spend time with good friends. The sex is there but the primary reason from my point of view is to break up the loneliness for her.
It is a trade. She plays with some friends and I get an evening at whatever "local entertainment" might be available where I am going. If I am in the US I might meet with a swinging couple. When I am in the Middle East, she makes it up to me when I get home. The last part of the trade is that I get a very detailed email complete with pictures. She gets a very detailed email of my adventures too.
These adventures give both of us something to write about other than the weather, children and jobs.
It is not for the jealous nor the insecure but it works for us.
I am in the Military so we have to deal with deployments from time to time. While I am gone Belinda might spend a weekend or evening with a couple that we both know. It is always a couple. Always a couple that we both know very well and enjoy. It is always set up in advance, most often by me prior to my deployment.
This is good for us and for Belinda for several reasons. It gets her out of the house. She gets to spend time with good friends. The sex is there but the primary reason from my point of view is to break up the loneliness for her.
It is a trade. She plays with some friends and I get an evening at whatever "local entertainment" might be available where I am going. If I am in the US I might meet with a swinging couple. When I am in the Middle East, she makes it up to me when I get home. The last part of the trade is that I get a very detailed email complete with pictures. She gets a very detailed email of my adventures too.
These adventures give both of us something to write about other than the weather, children and jobs.
It is not for the jealous nor the insecure but it works for us.
We agree with FITZNBELINDA. Retired Navy here. The wife used to play with a friend of ours (Single male) and another couple. She did it with my knowledge and consent. It broke up the pressures of raising 2 kids alone, and sure did make for some iintresting phone calls from over seas! :h
we swing for the fun of it. if she wants to play solo that's cool. I don't ask her business. she says she's going out and that is all. I don't ask, out of trust and respect for her privacy. I don't want to come of as nosey or jealous.
she feels the same way. my business is mine. I offer the same courtesies as well, like telling her I am going out and with whom.
neither of us push things to the limit, per se, we enjoy the swing for the fun of it, the experiences, the friends we make, etc.
"naked fun with friends" is our mantra. if it isn't fun, then get out. have a great one, friends!!
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she feels the same way. my business is mine. I offer the same courtesies as well, like telling her I am going out and with whom.
neither of us push things to the limit, per se, we enjoy the swing for the fun of it, the experiences, the friends we make, etc.
"naked fun with friends" is our mantra. if it isn't fun, then get out. have a great one, friends!!
[email protected]
Our opinion on this matter is...whatever is good for the goose is good for gander. Our rules are pretty much the same as everyone else's. Almost anyhow. As long as the other one feels comfortable, and BOTH of us have met the other other couple/single...then it is ok. But we do prefer to play as a couple most times. Each situation is different and unique. It just depends.
We've played alone also. We've found that it's more fun to play as a couple and under the same roof. The wife feels safer that way. It really depends on mood and who we have the chance to play with.
we can if and when we wanted to . but we like to tease and flirt with someone and then tell each other about it . and then all go out and hang out and see what happens .
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