Well it depends on what you say or how you say it. Even the topic is important to consider.
Personally, If the couples you meet have a problem with what you say - why bother worrying about it? If they don't like you for who you are then, if we were you, we would move on to the next couple.
Personally, If the couples you meet have a problem with what you say - why bother worrying about it? If they don't like you for who you are then, if we were you, we would move on to the next couple.
Your welcome- we hope what we said was helpul 
Hello, just to put our two cents in.We have talked to alot of people on this site..some we are going to meet later..busy with the holidays thing..some were rather rude..and some were way ou there..so I guess only you know what you will put up with..dont take this stuff tooo serious..youll go crazy..just be safe and have fun..bye KattNJohn
We have been very active in the lifestyle for 6 years now. There are sites where people are serious and other sites where people are not. We have been lifetime members of this site since 2003 and we have NEVER met anyone serious form Swingular. Perhaps they are out there, but we don't think this is a good site. If you really are serious about meeting anyone, perhaps you should try another site. Sorry, Swingular, that's what we've seen.
We have not had a face to face meeting with anyone we met from this site. We have met many couples thru other means and they happen to be on this site too. Some are regulars at our house parties. So we can say that there are very real couples on here. You will have the fakes just like any site does. Our feeling is what is meant to be will be so no sense wasting time giving the others that didn`t like what you said any thought. The more time you spend focusing on the negative is the less time you are devoting to meeting the right people.
SOUTHERNFOX in the lifestyle there are people who are voyeurs, pic whores, chat kings and queens, email king and queens, people who are fakes, people who are real but don't want to meet for real, and there are people who want to meet. So from listing all those types of people, you just have to weed the good ones out of all the BS ones. We are not Barbie or Ken but who cares, everyone is attracted to what they like, and some are shallow and some are not. You have to try and go with the flow sometimes, it does get frustrating at times when you don't find people whom you are compatible with. I am sure it happens to a lot of people on this website, it has happened to us, you just say oh well and move on, life is too short. We are from Idaho and there are a lot of flakes here in Idaho. I think for a lot of people it's a fantasy world for them and part of it is exciting to them just to know that they could live out one of their fantasies in some sort of form or fashion, even if they do not go through with the actual action part of things. Hope this helps a little SOUTHERNFOX. HAPPY HOLIDAYS.
We agree with NAYIR44
Just give it time, it took quite some time for Mrs Drew and I to find the "right couple(s). It was all worth it in the end.
If you are ready to throw in the towel perhaps the lifestyle is not for you.
Rejection is a part of it. If someone cant handle rejection well.....
Just my 2 cents not trying to be rude.
What I can recommend is get out to some of the meet and greets at Club Habits, The Eden House, or a Secret Desires Party. Meeting people face to face makes it much easier to create a relationship.
If you are ready to throw in the towel perhaps the lifestyle is not for you.
Rejection is a part of it. If someone cant handle rejection well.....
Just my 2 cents not trying to be rude.
What I can recommend is get out to some of the meet and greets at Club Habits, The Eden House, or a Secret Desires Party. Meeting people face to face makes it much easier to create a relationship.
We agree with you ULUV.
We agree with you too ULUV
Your question was...
"am I wrong here"
the simple answer is Yes.
You say that you wont go to meet and greets then how pray tell do you expect to meet anyone?
Am i as confused as everyone else here or is it just me?
Yea, we are proud of the fact that you are a soldier and spent time in Iraq to preserve our freedom, that DOES NOT mean that couples and or single women will be willing to come over to your house for sexual fun without meeting you in a public (safe) setting first.
No one in this thread is "looking down at your" either. They were attempting to give you encouragement, and advice.
Quit playing the "Woes Me" game.
"am I wrong here"
the simple answer is Yes.
You say that you wont go to meet and greets then how pray tell do you expect to meet anyone?
Am i as confused as everyone else here or is it just me?
Yea, we are proud of the fact that you are a soldier and spent time in Iraq to preserve our freedom, that DOES NOT mean that couples and or single women will be willing to come over to your house for sexual fun without meeting you in a public (safe) setting first.
No one in this thread is "looking down at your" either. They were attempting to give you encouragement, and advice.
Quit playing the "Woes Me" game.
Agree with 69sunrise we have not had much luck finding real play couples on swingurlur good forums but meeting people in the 3 yrs we have been on this site we have met with only three cpls face to face and one didn't seem to be much more than just a fantasy only type couple the other two actually did play now our success on other swing sites (sorry Swingular) has been exceptional :-)
Norm&Sharon
Norm&Sharon
this one makes my balls itch to
Big question here is:
Is this exactly sexy?
Is this exactly sexy?
I'm not even in the boat to consider you, but if I were a couple or a single female looking at your profile and especially reading your posts I would get the overwhelming sense of some pessimistic overtones. It was hit on the nose when Drew stated something about playing the 'woe is me' card. Nobody wants to meet someone that only complains. Ken or not Ken, if you're not a happy person you're not going to meet anybody.
About your little tiff about everybody wanting your wife rather than you... do a head count. Males on this site (single or in a couple) want your wife over you. Half the females on the site would rather meet another woman for sex rather than meet a man, especially if they're married, they already have a male for that type of pleasure but they don't have a woman.
If you really want to see how hard it can get... list yourself as a single male! Then check your inbox and see how many emails you get with the subject 'No Thanks'. The better you can handle rejection the more success you will find!
To answer your original question... 'Are we doing something wrong?' the best answer I can think of is: Yes, change your attitude. The attractive couples are the ones that are joking around in posts or having other good attitudes towards life, not the ones that post complaints and arguments.
About your little tiff about everybody wanting your wife rather than you... do a head count. Males on this site (single or in a couple) want your wife over you. Half the females on the site would rather meet another woman for sex rather than meet a man, especially if they're married, they already have a male for that type of pleasure but they don't have a woman.
If you really want to see how hard it can get... list yourself as a single male! Then check your inbox and see how many emails you get with the subject 'No Thanks'. The better you can handle rejection the more success you will find!
To answer your original question... 'Are we doing something wrong?' the best answer I can think of is: Yes, change your attitude. The attractive couples are the ones that are joking around in posts or having other good attitudes towards life, not the ones that post complaints and arguments.
P.S. Wildcraze... yes that is funny! Thats what I'm talkin about!
I agree with you 8THHOUSE, it can be a numbers game. But I also think when you start out in this Lifestyle you need to know what your expectations are before you start trying to meet people. We been on the site for a few years now and we meet alot of cool couples and we have also been to a few Secret Desires party
WOW!! sorry you guys are not having the time you expected, Me, being a single male and also being older, I get alot of rejection. But, I have remained persistent and actually played and met with 2 couples on this site that were not even looking for a single.
Pete
Pete
Ok now our two cents worth........Some may like it some may not, if you didnt want to hear it you should have reconsidered posting in a open forum. We are all proud of the sacrifices made by our people in uniform. But understand that just because you have been to Iraq does not mean you have anything special coming from anyone in the lifestyle.......Theres plenty of soldiers out there in the lifestyle. Point is maybe its time to put down your weapon now that your home and act like a person and not a trooper. The war in Iraq is a touchy subject to alot of people out there. Be thankful you didnt have to get off a plane to a public that spat on you and called you a babykiller, and didnt respect you for the job your goverment sent you to do. Also maybe alot of people dont want to know what you have done in the field. Also if the term "raghead" ever came out of your mouth you might be considered a racist in some folks eyes. The lifestyle is hit and miss, when you find the right couple it will all come together, but to want quit because cause your not getting laid like YOU think you should.....or because your a soldier and think you have it coming, you have quite a bit to learn about the lifestyle.
And BTW NAY you can eat crackers in my bed anytime!
And BTW NAY you can eat crackers in my bed anytime!
We have had our fair share of rejections as well. But, you just have to learn to move on, and go with the flow. There are men and women out there just looking for the women half of the couple, but with me being straight....they just walk on by, or they try to turn me over to the "dark side" LOL.
I agree, you need to go to the meet and greets, Secret Desire parties, or the Eden house to meet people. We have met plenty of very nice people from Swingular, but also plenty of not so nice people as well. Which is true about life in general.
If you are active in persuing people and going to functions, then you will eventually find quality people from here.
Good luck to you both.
And thank you for your service in Iraq.
I agree, you need to go to the meet and greets, Secret Desire parties, or the Eden house to meet people. We have met plenty of very nice people from Swingular, but also plenty of not so nice people as well. Which is true about life in general.
If you are active in persuing people and going to functions, then you will eventually find quality people from here.
Good luck to you both.
And thank you for your service in Iraq.
We agree with you what you guys said thanks all you hotties
Myeye, Firsttime1, MagnoliaCpl, and UTFunCouple111
Myeye, Firsttime1, MagnoliaCpl, and UTFunCouple111Southernfox,
Did you expect to put up a profile and then have couples knocking down your door?
Swingers are people, just like everyone else, we have personal tastes, likes, dislikes, preferences, or desires. You are not going to be a perfect match to everybody,
Do you remember what it was like to be a single guy looking? thats alot like swinging. You go out, meet people, put up the best fight you can, put your hook in the water and hope. Then go home alone 98% of the time. Lick your wounds, learn from your mistakes and get over it
Your profile says you want to get out of the house, why not meet and greets? We have driven 4 hours from where we live to meet some cool new people at some of the secret desire parties. You are less than and hour away...if it doesn't work out, or it isn't fun..split, go get a movie and muchies and chalk it up. What do you have to lose?
As for the women wanting your wife and not you...come on man, 98% of the women on this site are Bi or Bi-curious, if your looking for a girl for yourself look for the 2% of us that are straight. Or get a hooker, no strings there!
Basically my advice to you is to put up or shut up, you will only get something out of this if you put effort into it. Nobody is going to chase you.
P.S.
To the ones who have said swingular doesnt work for them....we have tried other sites that didn't do it for us, for the same reason I imagine you don't have luck on this one.
Most of the people on this site are from Ut, others are Nevada based, or New York, or wherever. Stick to one closer to home or do a google search and find one closer to home. Its not the site, its the people on it.
Did you expect to put up a profile and then have couples knocking down your door?
Swingers are people, just like everyone else, we have personal tastes, likes, dislikes, preferences, or desires. You are not going to be a perfect match to everybody,
Do you remember what it was like to be a single guy looking? thats alot like swinging. You go out, meet people, put up the best fight you can, put your hook in the water and hope. Then go home alone 98% of the time. Lick your wounds, learn from your mistakes and get over it
Your profile says you want to get out of the house, why not meet and greets? We have driven 4 hours from where we live to meet some cool new people at some of the secret desire parties. You are less than and hour away...if it doesn't work out, or it isn't fun..split, go get a movie and muchies and chalk it up. What do you have to lose?
As for the women wanting your wife and not you...come on man, 98% of the women on this site are Bi or Bi-curious, if your looking for a girl for yourself look for the 2% of us that are straight. Or get a hooker, no strings there!
Basically my advice to you is to put up or shut up, you will only get something out of this if you put effort into it. Nobody is going to chase you.
P.S.
To the ones who have said swingular doesnt work for them....we have tried other sites that didn't do it for us, for the same reason I imagine you don't have luck on this one.
Most of the people on this site are from Ut, others are Nevada based, or New York, or wherever. Stick to one closer to home or do a google search and find one closer to home. Its not the site, its the people on it.
I think that there were some very good points made here. What stands out for me is your rotten attitude. You don't come off as a fun person to meet up with. Someones personality is a big factor in who we decide to meet up with. Looks are important too, but attitude can make or break a play session. A lot of times a semi attractive couple becomes very attractive to us because of their personality. Hope this helps. xoxoXXX M&M
Way to go CLASSY_NOT_TRASHY
P.S. WILDCRAZE we love your new pic, very hot. Nothing is better than two hot chicks kissing.
Thanks a bunch sexies! U 2 going to the spice party?
SOUTHERNFOX, I would like to say that you appear like nice people. I would like to add that I am not what you are looking for but I wanted to show my support.
It is true that not everyone is Ken and Barbie but I see a lot of age bias here on this site. Furthermore there is a bias toward H/W non-proportionate, again as I have observed. Much of it is like "birds of a feather" and I don't just speak to hear myself. None of this is in any way to suggest that you don't deserve to meet others here, just to point out that there is bias.
Personally I would like to hang with friends who appreciate who I am but at the same time I would like to know that I could be invited to a gang-bang. This said would suggest two different viewpoints for interaction. If I could have a wish, it would include both; however I have neither.
Good luck and wishing you a lot of fun as well.
-Rick
It is true that not everyone is Ken and Barbie but I see a lot of age bias here on this site. Furthermore there is a bias toward H/W non-proportionate, again as I have observed. Much of it is like "birds of a feather" and I don't just speak to hear myself. None of this is in any way to suggest that you don't deserve to meet others here, just to point out that there is bias.
Personally I would like to hang with friends who appreciate who I am but at the same time I would like to know that I could be invited to a gang-bang. This said would suggest two different viewpoints for interaction. If I could have a wish, it would include both; however I have neither.
Good luck and wishing you a lot of fun as well.
-Rick
Thanks for the Cudos WILDCRAZE......you two look pretty hot yourselves
Thanks hotties! Wish you guys were down here partying and not so far away lol
A&B
A&B