The 27th of this month I will have been a member for one year. In that year I've had 777 people view my profile but in all that time I've only had one couple make first contact. I've sent messages to more than a dozen and I've only had one couple answer my message but just to be courteous and say no thank you. I've read over my profile several times and can't find any thing I would change. I was honest and open. I'm a nice caring person but evidently not interesting enough to others. To those of you that have viewed my profile but passed me by could you reply to this and give me some idea what I'm doing wrong or why you think others aren't interested in getting together with me. I won't try to contact any one that replies here. I know my looks don't appeal to every one but I've seen guys that look older and way more out of shape than I am especially in the pictures of groups. Any helpful suggestions would be very much appreciated. Thanks :vTo be honest, you are a single male and thus in abundance. Single females would be at a premium except for us. The wife is not that hot for a single female and neither am I. Other than that, I don't see anything really wrong with your ad but that you are a single male. Many couples don't want that. We have had a couple of single males in the past and they have turned out to be jerks. As such, we won't be intersted in fooling around with another one. Same may apply to other couples who have had bad experiences with single males who are pushy or jerks. Yes, you can tell me that it is unfair that you may be a good one that is lumped with the jerks but such is life.
I hate to say it, but when the first thing the wife and I see is a big "ass" shot on a single male profile, we instantly think, bi or gay. If the profile says straight, then we just assume they are bi-curious. Maybe it's just me, but any guy showing their ass as their prize "asset", has some fantasies we aren't willing to explore in.
Women showing asses, now that's a whole different subject. Women have beautiful asses. Guys, just don't fair well in the ass department. And yes, being a single male is a rough road to hoe. We have met one single male in our experience, he was actually very nice, a complete gentleman, but when we got to the bedroom, turned into a one-man, selfish sexual circus.
I think you are better off finding a girlfriend who would be into the lifestyle and looking and exploring as a couple. That doesn't mean that there aren't couples looking for single males, but you can bet the pickins are a lot slimmer. Good luck in your quest!
Mr. X
PS- your profile is written very well and seems sincere. I wouldn't put to much worry in how or what you are saying, it's just rough being a single male plain and simple..
Women showing asses, now that's a whole different subject. Women have beautiful asses. Guys, just don't fair well in the ass department. And yes, being a single male is a rough road to hoe. We have met one single male in our experience, he was actually very nice, a complete gentleman, but when we got to the bedroom, turned into a one-man, selfish sexual circus.
I think you are better off finding a girlfriend who would be into the lifestyle and looking and exploring as a couple. That doesn't mean that there aren't couples looking for single males, but you can bet the pickins are a lot slimmer. Good luck in your quest!
Mr. X
PS- your profile is written very well and seems sincere. I wouldn't put to much worry in how or what you are saying, it's just rough being a single male plain and simple..
Agree with the two previous posters.
Dude,
Plain and simple, you are a single male. That makes you as close to a social pariah around here as it gets without being known as a jerk. I haven't read your profile but any single guy finds himself being left out more often than not. Keep in there and don't let a few rejections turn you sour.
Plain and simple, you are a single male. That makes you as close to a social pariah around here as it gets without being known as a jerk. I haven't read your profile but any single guy finds himself being left out more often than not. Keep in there and don't let a few rejections turn you sour.
After seeing your photos and reading your profile, I must say
that if you lived in the neighborhood we would have already contacted you.
You appear to be a very cool individual.
that if you lived in the neighborhood we would have already contacted you.
You appear to be a very cool individual.
Thank you to those of you who responed. I know that single men are the majority here and that makes it hard but I have listed my add as "single male" and 777 people have checked my profile out so there are people looking for single males. As to the photo of my ass, I honestly don't have secret unfullfilled desires. Many women have told me that most women like to see a man's ass and that I have a nice one so rather than a full frontal shot I thought a full rear end shot would show most of my body and a partial frontal shot would show the rest. That way people can see what shape my body really is in. As to a facial shot, I've included several of those in the private photos and those that ask would be able to see those but NO ONE even asks to see those. I don't feel comfortable posting a facial right up front because of my job. As to meet and greets, I've haven't seen any listed in my area. As to how I would act with another couple, I'm not a me, me, me person. I'm very courtious, respectful and totally non pushy type of guy. I don't want to get with a couple so I can have sex one on one with the wife. I get enough one on one sex now. The whole reason for me even wanting sex with a couple is to see and enjoy the woman being pleasured by Him (or more) and me. Again, Thank you all. I'll just do as I have and leave my add up here. You all seemed like nice people so very good luck to all of you and have fun.
Just at quick glance, we would say your age, HOWEVER, if you met us at a club...May be a different story...
Your profile is well written, HOWEVER, as was said before, a face pic is mandatory. Yes, you say you have them in your private album, but, again, with the amount of single men in the lifestyle, why would someone request to see it, wait for you to show it, etc, when there are plenty who have it right up front...
Also, saw you mention you work outdoors...Most outdoor work is not huge in the public eye. Why would you not feel comfy putting your face out on the profile because of your job? If someone sees your picture on this site, they were here for the same reason as you...Just don't post it as the first picture and you should be fine...We find that if a man is single, he will not have a problem posting a pic...If he is married, with someone in some way, or something of the sneaky variety, he won't post it...AGain, not accusing, just stating our experience...
Good luck to you...
Your profile is well written, HOWEVER, as was said before, a face pic is mandatory. Yes, you say you have them in your private album, but, again, with the amount of single men in the lifestyle, why would someone request to see it, wait for you to show it, etc, when there are plenty who have it right up front...
Also, saw you mention you work outdoors...Most outdoor work is not huge in the public eye. Why would you not feel comfy putting your face out on the profile because of your job? If someone sees your picture on this site, they were here for the same reason as you...Just don't post it as the first picture and you should be fine...We find that if a man is single, he will not have a problem posting a pic...If he is married, with someone in some way, or something of the sneaky variety, he won't post it...AGain, not accusing, just stating our experience...
Good luck to you...
We would say the pony tail, ass shot, no face photo. We like a 3sum now & then but long hair, earings ect. turn us off. And yes we were into that in the 60's
It's brutal being a single male, plus NC doesn't seem to be well represented on here. This site seems to be primarily more a Utah and Florida thing. You may want to update your look. Loop earings and a haircut would help.
For what it's worth, 5933 views and 2 1/2 years later, not much to tell. I have better luck on some other adult searcher-finder site. I will say that I have been a little unconcerned lately about updating my profile but there are a couple of things that ring true as far as I am able to observe.
For one it is a catch-22; it seems you can't get anywhere as a single male unless you have someone else's endorsement. A male is expected to provide pictures to portray a calm, cool and collected man of stability and trust as if to offset the awful stigma of single males (but then if a married male he may be as naked and careless as he wants in profile) but this has me doubting a worthy meeting with such people who think so.
Here's a second viewpoint; I have been a rather respectible person and have never been arrested but this doesn't mean a damn thing, in fact it may mean to some that I am not bad enough to be good in the sack to someone else, I don't know. None the less I don't like to take advantage of people and I would prefer willingness to feel good about any interaction. With that in mind, my listing as "bisexual" is truthful in that I am not curious, I would be very interested in being with another man since I have done so once in my life about 24 years ago. If however I were meeting a couple and the MR. is NOT bi-anymeans, I would not for any reason try to impose but I would be respectful of the wishes of the people I am with just like not pissing in the sink.
Now before getting carried away with the "gay" thing just remember that I would have to be attracted to the male before even considering anything and believe me it is much more critical than my attraction for women. Think I don't like women-?, think again! That is the first and foremost interest I have (of course friends with singles and couples too).
How to end this.. ? All I can say is that you have to be you. You can't expect the public to dress you like a "Ken" doll nor can you expect reliable or universal feedback for a makeover. Maybe a different view on the pictures to include a face shot but it's something I don't care about. I have used face shots and I don't give a damn either. If someone in public points his pussy little finger to me and says, "He's a goddamn faggot on a website!", I just might kick his fucking ass and then go to jail, LOL.
For one it is a catch-22; it seems you can't get anywhere as a single male unless you have someone else's endorsement. A male is expected to provide pictures to portray a calm, cool and collected man of stability and trust as if to offset the awful stigma of single males (but then if a married male he may be as naked and careless as he wants in profile) but this has me doubting a worthy meeting with such people who think so.
Here's a second viewpoint; I have been a rather respectible person and have never been arrested but this doesn't mean a damn thing, in fact it may mean to some that I am not bad enough to be good in the sack to someone else, I don't know. None the less I don't like to take advantage of people and I would prefer willingness to feel good about any interaction. With that in mind, my listing as "bisexual" is truthful in that I am not curious, I would be very interested in being with another man since I have done so once in my life about 24 years ago. If however I were meeting a couple and the MR. is NOT bi-anymeans, I would not for any reason try to impose but I would be respectful of the wishes of the people I am with just like not pissing in the sink.
Now before getting carried away with the "gay" thing just remember that I would have to be attracted to the male before even considering anything and believe me it is much more critical than my attraction for women. Think I don't like women-?, think again! That is the first and foremost interest I have (of course friends with singles and couples too).
How to end this.. ? All I can say is that you have to be you. You can't expect the public to dress you like a "Ken" doll nor can you expect reliable or universal feedback for a makeover. Maybe a different view on the pictures to include a face shot but it's something I don't care about. I have used face shots and I don't give a damn either. If someone in public points his pussy little finger to me and says, "He's a goddamn faggot on a website!", I just might kick his fucking ass and then go to jail, LOL.
Well let me put MY two cents in right here..First yes you need to find a 'partner' and you need to know that that will be the hardest thing you will EVER do..she will need to know that you are NOT using her to get sex..she can trust YOU to have her back if she gets into a PROBLEM..and that you will NEVER EXPECT SEX FROM HER....Then you need to be TOTTALLY honest with each other and whatever site you put a profile on..Or find swinger parties,clus or groups..it will be like ALOT of hassell..but believe me I would NEVER trade my wife with any other woman on any swinger site..thats the best you can hope for ..Now I used to work construction..in Atlanta,Ga and I would give the guys SOME hind of tales about the things I DID over the weekend..everytime I came into work on Monday..they used to yell ,Here comes Love Doctor!!' now you could say that maybe they were laughing at me but dont think for ONE MOMENT it BOTHERED me...I didnt have to impress them..and they CERTALY didnt impress me..so bro..there it is take it or leave it...I am what I am and THATS all that I am..kinda makes sense now ...dosent it??? BeanyKatt
Your profile seems honest, that is appealing One spelling error you might want to correct is in the word "disease." Some are turned-on by good spelling 
You look fit and that's a big plus, it comes across in your pictures.
You look fit and that's a big plus, it comes across in your pictures.Bill,
there ya go. Just do what URIAH does and get yourself a fan club... What sound advice...
there ya go. Just do what URIAH does and get yourself a fan club... What sound advice...
I've decided to just leave things as they are. I am what I am. Like I said "I'm not hurting for sex one on one." Just looking for some spice. The only way to be able to go to any swinger clubs around here is to be invited and to get invited you have to know a couple. Catch 22. Thank all of you for your comments and suggestions. Have fun and play safe.