we have been in the life style for over 6 months now, and had a few encounters. we where just wondering if anyone had any good tips on getting the night going when the time comes. It seems as if everyone gets shy when the moment arrives.
crazymj
crazymj
WE've had the same experience and as a result i undiservingly placed blame on a couple we now realize was unwarranted.
we have found that if its just us and another couple we all knoew we were going to get naked and Mrs. Simple just either jumped in the shower as sson as we got in the room or stripped down and jumped under the sheets.
with more than one couple it gets more difficult. On one occasion a Mrs simple stripped down to a t-shirt and another close couple took the hent and started in on her. but the other couples felt left out. So we think the best theng to do is play a game. as corney as it sounds. everyone get involved and no one feels pressured or left out.
we have found that if its just us and another couple we all knoew we were going to get naked and Mrs. Simple just either jumped in the shower as sson as we got in the room or stripped down and jumped under the sheets.
with more than one couple it gets more difficult. On one occasion a Mrs simple stripped down to a t-shirt and another close couple took the hent and started in on her. but the other couples felt left out. So we think the best theng to do is play a game. as corney as it sounds. everyone get involved and no one feels pressured or left out.
so just any game or like strip poker type game
When flirting, touches can turn into instant change of a promising experience or into prompt awkwardness. Touches are powerful language and they are intimate in hundreds of meanings. If the other(s) favorably accepts your touch, chances are he/she also accepts the intimacy you have embraced.
In other words, don't just start the party up all of sudden by kissing, start it early with small touches (if they accept it), and take it slow to where it builds up.
Or play that truth n dare game lol
In other words, don't just start the party up all of sudden by kissing, start it early with small touches (if they accept it), and take it slow to where it builds up.
Or play that truth n dare game lol
It's all about the most important word in the dictionary. . . COMMUNICATION . . . Someone needs to take the lead and just say, "We are open to play are you?" if so, then the door opens up. . . Then you go from their, it could be girl on girl first, or the foreplay between the opposite sex and the new found excitement of the other 
. . .
Jim =-)
. . . Jim =-)
so beening shy is not a good thing in this life style or any other lol:l
We like the naked hot tubbin' approach.
i guess i need to go get a hot tube lol
Good Tunes. LOL!
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I usually have the wife ask. She knows what I want or don't want and if she asks, it sounds better.
so i guess i should be asking for some good ice breakers to get things going not how to make it go
Totally understand as we had the same problem till a friend did something and it worked so we stole the idea from him. Simply say " Am I the only horney one here". May sound a bit like a line from Animal House but has never taken more then a few seconds to get things moving.
i will have to try that one i'll let you know how it works
I have found that an enthusiastic "Lets Get Naked" works very well.
When I was part of a couple, there were times when we danced around the subject a little. I always recommend to couples that the wife or female partners be the one to initiate. Shy or not, a woman saying something along those lines works very well.
Good Luck!
-Te
When I was part of a couple, there were times when we danced around the subject a little. I always recommend to couples that the wife or female partners be the one to initiate. Shy or not, a woman saying something along those lines works very well.
Good Luck!
-Te
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suck this pussy just like you should
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Lick my pussy and my crack
My Neck, my back
Lick my pussy and my crack
My Neck, my back
Lick my pussy and my crack
First you gotta put your neck into it
Don't stop, just do, do it
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make sure I keep bustin nuts nigga
all over your face and stuff
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the best head comes from a thug
the dick good dick big and long
slow fuckin til the crack of dawn
on the edge makin faces n stuff
Through the night, making so much love
Dead sleep when the sun comes up
So, lick it now, lick it good
Lick this pussy just like you should
Right now, lick it good
Lick this pussy just like you should
[Chorus]
My Neck, my back
Lick my pussy and my crack
My Neck, my back
Lick my pussy and my crack
You might roll dubs, you might have G's
But fuck that nigga, get on your knees
A bitch like me moans and screams
Thug misses know what I mean
At the club so fresh, so clean
Hoes hatin' niggas watchin' me
So hot in the line, on green
With a unit on my face, so mean
I gotta pick which nigga I need
to suck a thug nigga satisfy me
Try me nigga I'll make you see
them bitches aint got shit on me
So, lick it now, lick it good
Lick this pussy just like you should
Right now, lick it good
Lick this pussy just like you should
My Neck, my back
Lick my pussy and my crack
My Neck, my back
Lick my pussy and my crack
So, lick it now, lick it good
Suck this pussy just like you should
Right now, lick it good
Suck this pussy just like you should
My Neck, my back
Lick my pussy and my crack
My Neck, my back
Lick my pussy and my crack
[Chorus repeats x10]
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"My Neck, My Back (Dirty Version)"
All you ladies pop your pussy like this
Shake your body, don't stop, don't miss
All you ladies pop your pussy like this
Shake your body, don't stop, don't miss
Just do it, do it, do it, do it, do it now
Lick it good suck this pussy, just like you should
Right now, Lick it good
suck this pussy just like you should
My Neck, my back
Lick my pussy and my crack,
My Neck, my back
Lick my pussy and my crack
My Neck, my back
Lick my pussy and my crack
My Neck, my back
Lick my pussy and my crack
My Neck, my back
Lick my pussy and my crack
First you gotta put your neck into it
Don't stop, just do, do it
Then you roll your tongue, from the crack back to the front
then suck it off til I shake and cum nigga
make sure I keep bustin nuts nigga
all over your face and stuff
slow head show me so much love
the best head comes from a thug
the dick good dick big and long
slow fuckin til the crack of dawn
on the edge makin faces n stuff
Through the night, making so much love
Dead sleep when the sun comes up
So, lick it now, lick it good
Lick this pussy just like you should
Right now, lick it good
Lick this pussy just like you should
[Chorus]
My Neck, my back
Lick my pussy and my crack
My Neck, my back
Lick my pussy and my crack
You might roll dubs, you might have G's
But fuck that nigga, get on your knees
A bitch like me moans and screams
Thug misses know what I mean
At the club so fresh, so clean
Hoes hatin' niggas watchin' me
So hot in the line, on green
With a unit on my face, so mean
I gotta pick which nigga I need
to suck a thug nigga satisfy me
Try me nigga I'll make you see
them bitches aint got shit on me
So, lick it now, lick it good
Lick this pussy just like you should
Right now, lick it good
Lick this pussy just like you should
My Neck, my back
Lick my pussy and my crack
My Neck, my back
Lick my pussy and my crack
So, lick it now, lick it good
Suck this pussy just like you should
Right now, lick it good
Suck this pussy just like you should
My Neck, my back
Lick my pussy and my crack
My Neck, my back
Lick my pussy and my crack
[Chorus repeats x10]
-D-
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Jim
Jim
I don't think that it is has as much to do with being shy as it has to do with finding a way to break the ice. That being said we have a set of naughty dice that works great for us.
Just be open and honest. You both (couples) are together for the same reason, right? Or you can do what my wife did once and just get naked and say "or we going to do this or what?" Love her...
If someone will just be the first to start taking clothes off others will too.
I have always found that drinks never hurt, games are AWSOME, sometimes poppin in a good porn or riskey movie like wildthings or cruel intentions
into the dvd player gets the message acrost and the blunt gettin naked or "am I the only horny one here?" Is best served by the female half of the party.
But there is always that piont where u just have to take the leap or it just aint gonna happen. (As for the games spencers is one hell of an asset GREAT place)
Hope I helped good luck in your quest to end the shy akwardness :h
into the dvd player gets the message acrost and the blunt gettin naked or "am I the only horny one here?" Is best served by the female half of the party.
But there is always that piont where u just have to take the leap or it just aint gonna happen. (As for the games spencers is one hell of an asset GREAT place)
Hope I helped good luck in your quest to end the shy akwardness :h
Getting back to the communication is BIG.. I AGREE! Yes , some pre-naked touching at the meet&greet is good and kinda lets you know if others are ok, but it can also be misconstrued ... just friendly v. intimate encounter yes we are interested.
When and if the moement arrives, and your a little shy ; ), start with what your comfortable with... gosh what's that? YOUR PARTNER... kissing and fondeling in front of the others is a turn on, and a show at the same time. At any level after affection starts with each other a hand can invite , and work.
Asking if you can touch , more usually is appropriate and very much appreciated by the females who lets face it, more then not, controls moementum.
This is where the shy males find a little trouble. For some reason it's hard to open your mouth sometimes and keep a hard dick, because nothing comes out right... lol..accept our cum.
However, when the moment is right, you can always ask to share a same gesture...wether a kiss, a feel, or head, a complete switch or possibly sharing a moement before switching works well also.
Guys are cool being left out for a minute and watching two women gang up on one guy with some feeling and touching, then a team spirit developes and confidence seems to grow with the females as a trust is instantly developed. This then is easily transfered back and forth and then awwwwwayyyyy you go!
So often, it pays to communicate in conversation to feel out what the other is comfortable with soft swap, full swap, what do you guys like type of thing?
Questions are actually appreciated and are seen as a great show of respect without getting into the 20 or so field. ; ) Then it's a report and an interview... ; ) LOL..
Maybe a healthy hint... guess what we are adults but we are all still kids playn in lots of ways.
Have fun at play
SexySecret
When and if the moement arrives, and your a little shy ; ), start with what your comfortable with... gosh what's that? YOUR PARTNER... kissing and fondeling in front of the others is a turn on, and a show at the same time. At any level after affection starts with each other a hand can invite , and work.
Asking if you can touch , more usually is appropriate and very much appreciated by the females who lets face it, more then not, controls moementum.
This is where the shy males find a little trouble. For some reason it's hard to open your mouth sometimes and keep a hard dick, because nothing comes out right... lol..accept our cum.
However, when the moment is right, you can always ask to share a same gesture...wether a kiss, a feel, or head, a complete switch or possibly sharing a moement before switching works well also.
Guys are cool being left out for a minute and watching two women gang up on one guy with some feeling and touching, then a team spirit developes and confidence seems to grow with the females as a trust is instantly developed. This then is easily transfered back and forth and then awwwwwayyyyy you go!
So often, it pays to communicate in conversation to feel out what the other is comfortable with soft swap, full swap, what do you guys like type of thing?
Questions are actually appreciated and are seen as a great show of respect without getting into the 20 or so field. ; ) Then it's a report and an interview... ; ) LOL..
Maybe a healthy hint... guess what we are adults but we are all still kids playn in lots of ways.
Have fun at play
SexySecret
We have not been with a couple yet ourselves
We have had one no show
that we were going to have some fun with
Were planning pretty much for our first time couple is well we would have to host because of our kids
We weer thinking maybe some drinks a normal movie me and my girls kinda relax naked and make out alot and invite them to make out with us
We have had one no show
that we were going to have some fun with
Were planning pretty much for our first time couple is well we would have to host because of our kids
We weer thinking maybe some drinks a normal movie me and my girls kinda relax naked and make out alot and invite them to make out with us
Porn.
Get a Hot tub then you have to get naked and its on from there.
What's the big deal here?
If you see someone you'd like to party with, walk up to them and just start an innocent conversation about nothing in particular.
If that person or persons share your interest, it will soon be evident by body language, gestures and/or the direction THEY take the conversation.
If, after you've talked with them awhile, and it appears you're hitting it off, then it's OK to make a few suggestive comments.
If there's a mutual spark, it won't take long for all concerned to realize it.
Although I've had others approach me and instantly ask if I'd like to fuck, I have NEVER been that blunt with someone.
But that's just me.
If you see someone you'd like to party with, walk up to them and just start an innocent conversation about nothing in particular.
If that person or persons share your interest, it will soon be evident by body language, gestures and/or the direction THEY take the conversation.
If, after you've talked with them awhile, and it appears you're hitting it off, then it's OK to make a few suggestive comments.
If there's a mutual spark, it won't take long for all concerned to realize it.
Although I've had others approach me and instantly ask if I'd like to fuck, I have NEVER been that blunt with someone.
But that's just me.