We realize that difference make the world go round, but when it comes to first impressions (ala posting pics on a swinger site), is it me or should you not try to put your best foot forward?
Realizing that not everyone is as photogenic as some people (we can attest to that ourselves), but why do some couples post pics of their spouse looking pissed? or while holding a bass fish? or wearing hats of some sort?
Not knocking anyone in particular at all...but if this strikes a chord with you, all the better. Why not take 5 minutes and take some pictures that you can be proud of?? I don't know, maybe...smile or something.
We have seen some beautiful ladies pics, then you see their spouse and not one decent pic of him...come one guys, lets show people that guys can take a 1/2 way decent pic too.
After all, it takes 2 to be a couple...
Your thought?
Realizing that not everyone is as photogenic as some people (we can attest to that ourselves), but why do some couples post pics of their spouse looking pissed? or while holding a bass fish? or wearing hats of some sort?
Not knocking anyone in particular at all...but if this strikes a chord with you, all the better. Why not take 5 minutes and take some pictures that you can be proud of?? I don't know, maybe...smile or something.
We have seen some beautiful ladies pics, then you see their spouse and not one decent pic of him...come one guys, lets show people that guys can take a 1/2 way decent pic too.
After all, it takes 2 to be a couple...
Your thought?
I understand what you are saying and think we have somewhat decent pics. However, including pics of a couple in every day life gives us a better feeling of what they enjoy seeing we are always seeking friendship as well. As far as the looking pissed goes, can`t help you there but possibly the partner just trying to show the other how silly they look when frowning. I don`t know, just my hunch. Smiles are contageous so we look for a profile that has pics with smiles and shows every day life events like boating, beaches, fishing, and travel pics are the best. That is our preference.
Joe and Lori
Joe and Lori
I hear ya! I've wondered the same thing myself? Although I can appreciate some "real life" pictures portraying interests and other day to day activities. I sure don't want to hook up with someone who looks pissed off in every picture. Maybe they are just trying to look tough, sexy tough.... lol! I'm certainly not saying that I don't have my share of trouble getting that perfect pic that I'm proud to post. But it seems that some dont' put any effort into choosing them?? Is that a fair comment? Again not judging anyone here, I certainly understand we all have different desires and I welcome diversity... It is an interesting topic!
There is a group started here. Photo Platoon. It is a group for people who want to know how to take better pics or how to improve current ones. I'll bet there might even be a few "photographers" who would be willing to help out taking some nice pics.
on the flip side of this argument i dont know that i ever want someone to meet us and say "gee you looked far better on film" that said pro photos and lots of photoshop work are probably not the best idea in the world
Great point utahcouple! Personal opinion here, but the thing that kinda puts me off in pictures is the stuff folks leave in the background. Ever see that priceless pic of the couple where the anal lube is on the end table next to them? LOL
My point is, you dont have to be a photoshop guru to have nice pictures.
A couple of pointers. First, lighting. Unless its an art pic, light it well. Second, be aware of your surroundings, hence the comment earlier. And last, Its ok to crop! LOL
Anyway, just my opinion. In reality, everyone's profiles are their own and they can do with them what they wish! LOL
My point is, you dont have to be a photoshop guru to have nice pictures.
A couple of pointers. First, lighting. Unless its an art pic, light it well. Second, be aware of your surroundings, hence the comment earlier. And last, Its ok to crop! LOL
Anyway, just my opinion. In reality, everyone's profiles are their own and they can do with them what they wish! LOL
WHAT ABOUT PICTURES WITH THE BOOBS HANGING DOWN TO THE BELLY BUTTON OR THE PENIS JUST SLEEPING? I THINK THESE PICTURES HURT MORE THAN HELP.
I can see the points here, and agree with some of them. We love taking pics and some of those are purely "candid" shots. Others, we set to look a bit more "professional". All depends on the mood. When you're in the middle of play, you don't want to say "STOP! Hold that pose!"
Case in point...recently took a whole set of pics (i.e. ran the camera battery down). After a bit, I looked at one of the other participants and said "Shooting porn is a LOT harder than people think!" That and not everyone is a pro photographer (a bit more interested in the sex they're capturing than taking the pics...we fall in both camps!)
Have a great weekend all!
-K_T
Case in point...recently took a whole set of pics (i.e. ran the camera battery down). After a bit, I looked at one of the other participants and said "Shooting porn is a LOT harder than people think!" That and not everyone is a pro photographer (a bit more interested in the sex they're capturing than taking the pics...we fall in both camps!)
Have a great weekend all!
-K_T
wow, lance n luvvy, we detected absolutely NO anger from anyone..lol
just goes to show you how easy it is to misinterpret forums posts :z
just goes to show you how easy it is to misinterpret forums posts :z
just be you, put a couple photos up that show good and bad, then people see the best and worst, let them decide; I surely wouldn't want to have a great photo in mind and find out it was twenty years old, I actually like profiles without photos. Get to know the person then exchange photos after you've communicated and you will always have a better liking of the person no matter what they look like.
thanx
jeremy
thanx
jeremy
I don't know if the original poster was talking about us but the pic with the fish was taken at the 2004 Aug Bass Masters Classic. It is one of the few pics of us that has ever been taken as full body shots. The fish was put there by computer and the hat on B was part of the gig but my hat was there because I wore it to the classic. I think it's better to have full body shots of a couple, G rated is absolutely fine, than to have separate shots of each of you or us. As to putting the best foot forward, that's why B is the prevalent theme in the pics. But some of us don't have many pics to choose from to put anywhere, at least not current ones. Ours are current for the most part.... Fish excluded, we make a good showing as a pair.... hats and all. We use B to get people's interest and my pics to keep the rats and roaches from eating our profile...
No photo? NO disrespect intended here, whatever works for other people...but, I don't get why you even reply to someone without photos.
There are a.) too many flakes on sites that just want to collect pics, b.) guys posing as chicks or couples.
I can only speak for us at this point in the lifestyle and say that there has to be at least an initial attraction for us to be interested in a couple. We are all about making friends in and out of the lifestyle, but in order for us to consider playing with a couple we have to have an inclination of attraction with someone.
To each his own....
There are a.) too many flakes on sites that just want to collect pics, b.) guys posing as chicks or couples.
I can only speak for us at this point in the lifestyle and say that there has to be at least an initial attraction for us to be interested in a couple. We are all about making friends in and out of the lifestyle, but in order for us to consider playing with a couple we have to have an inclination of attraction with someone.
To each his own....
Not sure why pictures are needed... I guess it helps people pick the people they want to get to know.. But then that is like judging a book by its cover and speaking from experience it shouldnt be that way at all.... Just goes to show how people in here judge others.... Our picture on here is old doesnt do either one of justice but we put it on here just to see what response we get and well the responses suck until we are in person and introduce ourselves and wow the looks and the hellos and everything come out then... Why is that? Well my thoughts are because there are way to many people that are judgemental....
Just my 2 cents
The Mrs
Just my 2 cents
The Mrs
I don't think it's any secret that pictures are the number one thing if not tone of the first things people notice while browsing through forums, profiles, etc.
It's also no secret that this is a sexually oriented site, and who could deny that a certain percentage of overall attraction is based upon looks. In the absence of quality photos that either show you at your best or your worst, how could you possiblly ever market yourselves, and show what you're about?
SirenSextress and I make no apologies for relying on pictures when we are contacted, but that is certainly not the ONLY thing we are limited to. We'll typically ask for pics if there are none, but entertain conversation with the pictureless peeps if they are polite, interesting and well-worded in the dialog.
I certainly think it MOST awkward if we would ever meet someone from a sex site without having seen at least some likeness of them, and find out that they are definately NOT our types (we're also open to the possibility of being "pleasantly surprised").
~J~
It's also no secret that this is a sexually oriented site, and who could deny that a certain percentage of overall attraction is based upon looks. In the absence of quality photos that either show you at your best or your worst, how could you possiblly ever market yourselves, and show what you're about?
SirenSextress and I make no apologies for relying on pictures when we are contacted, but that is certainly not the ONLY thing we are limited to. We'll typically ask for pics if there are none, but entertain conversation with the pictureless peeps if they are polite, interesting and well-worded in the dialog.
I certainly think it MOST awkward if we would ever meet someone from a sex site without having seen at least some likeness of them, and find out that they are definately NOT our types (we're also open to the possibility of being "pleasantly surprised").
~J~
AMEN BROTHER! Testify!! (that means we agree with J) lol
We've been at this lifestyle for a relatively long time now, and we have yet to suffer negative repercussions, personal or professional, from having nice, clear, and up-to-date pictures in our profile. I can understand those who don't post facial pictures, as that certainly could be a risk for some. For us, it's only been a positive thing, netting us some very sexy playmates, and a few great friends/couples along the way. There *HAVE* to be pics, and pics of both halves of the couple. Profiles who email us without pics are summarily deleted. We just see no point in responding. Everyone's modus operandi is different, and to each their own. For us, pictures are an absolute must. While friends are a great thing and we'll never have enough, when it comes to playmates, there's got to be an attraction for us and we won't know that if we can't see you.
-Roger (& T)
-Roger (& T)
Problem is that I read somewhere here that you can google our pics. As such, we have put them in private albums. So if people here are interested, they can talk to us and we can send it to them. If the pics were secure, we'd have no issue with making them public.
Interesting point about someone being able to google you. I think that is a rumor. I know a little something about it and in order for google to even know about the pics, the site would have to allow a search bot into their servers, which I doubt it's allowed to do. Further more, if you look at someones pics they have a small encryption key included in the URL and you would need that encryption key as a part of your search in google. If you search your handle in google, it should put to rest the thoughts and fears of that.
But, it is always a good practice to put your sensitive pics in private anyway...that way only whom you actually give access to can see them.
Good points though.
But, it is always a good practice to put your sensitive pics in private anyway...that way only whom you actually give access to can see them.
Good points though.
google your screen names and your names on any sites you belong too....now we are idiots and used our yahoo name as our names on a few sites, but we were not happy with what we found....
Clay and Michele
Clay and Michele
was rather surprised at what I found from google myself
, even my myspace was on there!
jeremy
, even my myspace was on there!jeremy
Have to agree that it is entirely a preference thing here, but I do have to say that the google comment is not rumor and has been talked about at large extent on these very forums. It has it's own caveats but it is a concern and can show up so you do need to be careful. In the end, there are far far too many finding out exactly how public, and potentially permanent the internet really is.
Anyone realize that potential employers are searching the net based on yahoo, msn messenger and full names etc to see what is out there on their potential new hires? Just some food for thought there but they do use google for part of this search, and yes I have done so on employees I have looked at hiring.
Anyone realize that potential employers are searching the net based on yahoo, msn messenger and full names etc to see what is out there on their potential new hires? Just some food for thought there but they do use google for part of this search, and yes I have done so on employees I have looked at hiring.
Ouch.
We Google our screen name and it took us to a page in the forum where we'd made a post. The forum appears that Google can catalog *AND*allow access to it. I tried to follow the links on the forum page that came up, and it then shuttles you straight to the login page.
I'm writing an email to the administrator about it now. That's a little disturbing. We only use this screen name on swinger websites, so we're not too worried about anyone finding us via the nickname, but still... the *FORUM* shouldn't be able to be accessed by Google if it were truly secured.
Like I said previously, we've been on the forums and websites with our faces for better than six years now, and have yet to suffer negative repercussions... but that doesn't mean the possibility can't exist on a site that doesn't take security as seriously as it should be.
-R (& T)
We Google our screen name and it took us to a page in the forum where we'd made a post. The forum appears that Google can catalog *AND*allow access to it. I tried to follow the links on the forum page that came up, and it then shuttles you straight to the login page.
I'm writing an email to the administrator about it now. That's a little disturbing. We only use this screen name on swinger websites, so we're not too worried about anyone finding us via the nickname, but still... the *FORUM* shouldn't be able to be accessed by Google if it were truly secured.
Like I said previously, we've been on the forums and websites with our faces for better than six years now, and have yet to suffer negative repercussions... but that doesn't mean the possibility can't exist on a site that doesn't take security as seriously as it should be.
-R (& T)
Sorry to say this, but the Google issue has been coming up for more than a year now, which is why lots of people don't have face pics as their primary and why many people aren't posting pics in the forums anymore. Also if you have your personal page activated it will come up as well. Unfortunately, it doesn't look like its an issue that is terribly important to admin, despite the fact that MANY people have repeatedly sent them emails about this never getting a response and it looks like it will never be resolved even though there is a simple fix to it.
-SG
-SG
Wow, it really is amazing when you Google your screen name, Its all there folks..everything you post on topics here, and the ones around you that posted. Profiles from other sites, etc.. So be it, anyone that wants so find out about us that bad is welcome to it!
Our beef with pics is this. POST A FACE PIC. We like to see who we want to meet. Not a pic of their boobs or their cock or pussy. We have clear pics of us, it is only fair. So what if someone sees that you swing, Are you that repressed.If they say anything to you, just smile. They willonly care if you make a big deal out of it.
I googled my user name and found this link on the first page:
http://209.85.165.104/search?q=cache:RZqkZNHw_JoJ:www.muslimmatch.com/preview.miniprofile.php%3Fid%3Drooster76+rooster76&hl=en&ct=clnk&cd=6&gl=us
*cackle*
I don't blame anyone who wants to keep their face pic at least semi private. While it's improbable public photos will cause a problem for most people here, there's still potential for a hassle no one would appreciate dealing with.
On the other hand, I've met with *TWO* separate BYU students who would only allow me to meet them at their apartment (no public meeting place first, no hotel room allowed), while their roommates were out, for a limited amount of time (typically less than 30 minutes), AND one wanted to wear a mask, the other a paper bag. I am not kidding. Could you take anonymity to a more silly extreme?
The paper bag girl was from India and didn't know how caller ID worked. Imagine her surprise when I called her a few days later to say hi.
http://209.85.165.104/search?q=cache:RZqkZNHw_JoJ:www.muslimmatch.com/preview.miniprofile.php%3Fid%3Drooster76+rooster76&hl=en&ct=clnk&cd=6&gl=us
*cackle*
I don't blame anyone who wants to keep their face pic at least semi private. While it's improbable public photos will cause a problem for most people here, there's still potential for a hassle no one would appreciate dealing with.
On the other hand, I've met with *TWO* separate BYU students who would only allow me to meet them at their apartment (no public meeting place first, no hotel room allowed), while their roommates were out, for a limited amount of time (typically less than 30 minutes), AND one wanted to wear a mask, the other a paper bag. I am not kidding. Could you take anonymity to a more silly extreme?
The paper bag girl was from India and didn't know how caller ID worked. Imagine her surprise when I called her a few days later to say hi.