We bring this topic up with another couple we are very close with and am curious to see what responses we get here. What do the ladies get out of the lifestyle? Simple question, be honest, keep it simple and humorous or be serious. This is the lifestyle as a whole and not just individuals in it.
I get the same as my husband gets. Fun new friends and the opportunity to act out my fantasies/fetishes. 
Fantasy fulfillment, variety, and watching him do his thang!
Well, there's the obvious opportunities to fulfill fantasies as has been mentioned. There's the fact that many women like watching their men just as much the men like watching them. The girl-girl action is a huge draw for those who are bi or have been curious (yes it fits into the fantasy category, but I think it deserves mentioning on its own). I also think that it helps remind many women that they are more than "just mom", but I could mostly be speaking about myself on that one. LOL
-SG
-SG
One word: FREEDOM!
~K~
~K~
I find the question very sexist and offensive. How about what are you bringing for the ladies? Because thats what we will get out of it. If your not bringing anything to great, well then i am glad im not swinging with you.
Women like to fuck and suck and be found attractive by other people outside of the tradtional "marriage"
just the same as men. I hoped people on this sight would be progressive enough to know that. What you think men are having the time of their lives and we girls are just going along to please our men? Pretty pathetic!
-J
Women like to fuck and suck and be found attractive by other people outside of the tradtional "marriage"
just the same as men. I hoped people on this sight would be progressive enough to know that. What you think men are having the time of their lives and we girls are just going along to please our men? Pretty pathetic!
-J
One word: Laid.
I am going to have to agree with JJADE333.
Although I am a single male, so discount my opinion all you want. Women have the same sexual needs, wants, and desires that men do. I don't see how we can differentiate men and women as far as that goes.
Furthermore, the women in this lifestyle all have different wants and desires. Some want to just be with other women, some want to watch their male partner with other women, some want to experience other partners while their partner does the same, some want to have multiple males partners (either serially aor concurrently), etc.
Although I am a single male, so discount my opinion all you want. Women have the same sexual needs, wants, and desires that men do. I don't see how we can differentiate men and women as far as that goes.
Furthermore, the women in this lifestyle all have different wants and desires. Some want to just be with other women, some want to watch their male partner with other women, some want to experience other partners while their partner does the same, some want to have multiple males partners (either serially aor concurrently), etc.
we both think we are very lucky that we grew kinky together...lol
I am multi orgasmic and love the attention additional partners bring. I enjoy watching him as well as him watching ME! I enjoy multiple men, I am submissive and enjoy pleasing my partners....Heck I enjoy it all...
and I can assure I am not along for the ride, I am the ride...lol
Michele
I am multi orgasmic and love the attention additional partners bring. I enjoy watching him as well as him watching ME! I enjoy multiple men, I am submissive and enjoy pleasing my partners....Heck I enjoy it all...
and I can assure I am not along for the ride, I am the ride...lolMichele
Well Jade, sorry you got offended and either find the thread or me pretty pathetic but if this is how you feel then why did you answer it? Yes, I agree it is great that you do not swing with me and trust me you never will.
Everyone else, thanks for understanding this thread is to lighten the mood in here and share some fun. We both love the friends we have made in the lifestyle and every little thing we might learn from a partner we use to please each other. Freedom is a great way to describe it because that just covers so much.
Everyone else, thanks for understanding this thread is to lighten the mood in here and share some fun. We both love the friends we have made in the lifestyle and every little thing we might learn from a partner we use to please each other. Freedom is a great way to describe it because that just covers so much.
LUTHERTIDE: I agree with you. I find it hot to put on a show for the hubby. 
I also quite enjoy watching him as well. Yay for live porn.
I also quite enjoy watching him as well. Yay for live porn. so dont respond unless i agree with you? is that the point of this thread. we girls should really learn our place!
( i am half kidding of coarse )
( i am half kidding of coarse )
pretty much what has been said before i will agree with, i love the fantasies and the rollplaying but most of all, i like knowing someone sees me as a woman not just mom, wife house cleaner. and there is always the new sex fireworks that you use to get in a new realationship that face it all women love.
I think the majority of women here are in it for the other women. Don't get me wrong there is nothing wrong with that. As long as they like the men better. LOL
I love the freedom!
When I'm in a play situation or just hanging out with Lifestyle people, I can be me - the real me. I can say or do just about anything I want to do and know that I'm in a safe place. I'm not going to make others faint at the thought of what I'm doing or be judged for who I am, who I choose to be. I love to dance and maybe this is the same thing... expression of me, my sensuality and raw energy.
I love the spontaneity!
There is excitement in the unexpected. When you head out for an evening to go to a party, a bar, or even dinner with other Lifestylers - you just never know what will happen. I've been to events where I never thought there would be play and a few hours later I'm naked in bed with a number of other people. You just never know and that is an adventure.
I love the play!
The flirtation, seduction and sex. To me it's about sensation. Touch, taste, smell, sights - it's all part of the experience. I'm a literal sensation junkie... soft, hard, rough, gentle, large men, small men, big boobs, little boobs, the fall of hair across my stomach, a bite on my back - it's all delightful. I don't ever stick to a body style, a gender or race. I love sex with young men, their enthusiasm is infectious! I love older men who's experience can rock my world. I love to play with women - most are soft, gentle and always leave me satiated. Couples who all touch at once or groups where it's assess and elbows everywhere. Long sweaty nights or rough quick encounters in a closet... it's all great.
This is not to say I've not had bad experiences, we all do at one point or another. However, I am lucky and smart enough to choose people who are kind and have a sense of humor. We all have a good laugh at it all and try again, or not - it's all good.
This Lifestyle has a lot to offer a woman like me, I'm just glad I've had the courage to grab it by the balls - so to speak, of course
Enjoy!
-Te
When I'm in a play situation or just hanging out with Lifestyle people, I can be me - the real me. I can say or do just about anything I want to do and know that I'm in a safe place. I'm not going to make others faint at the thought of what I'm doing or be judged for who I am, who I choose to be. I love to dance and maybe this is the same thing... expression of me, my sensuality and raw energy.
I love the spontaneity!
There is excitement in the unexpected. When you head out for an evening to go to a party, a bar, or even dinner with other Lifestylers - you just never know what will happen. I've been to events where I never thought there would be play and a few hours later I'm naked in bed with a number of other people. You just never know and that is an adventure.
I love the play!
The flirtation, seduction and sex. To me it's about sensation. Touch, taste, smell, sights - it's all part of the experience. I'm a literal sensation junkie... soft, hard, rough, gentle, large men, small men, big boobs, little boobs, the fall of hair across my stomach, a bite on my back - it's all delightful. I don't ever stick to a body style, a gender or race. I love sex with young men, their enthusiasm is infectious! I love older men who's experience can rock my world. I love to play with women - most are soft, gentle and always leave me satiated. Couples who all touch at once or groups where it's assess and elbows everywhere. Long sweaty nights or rough quick encounters in a closet... it's all great.
This is not to say I've not had bad experiences, we all do at one point or another. However, I am lucky and smart enough to choose people who are kind and have a sense of humor. We all have a good laugh at it all and try again, or not - it's all good.
This Lifestyle has a lot to offer a woman like me, I'm just glad I've had the courage to grab it by the balls - so to speak, of course
Enjoy!
-Te
Thanks (not so) Silent
-Te
-Te
I'm here for the excitement of having sex with someone other than my husband, just the same reason he is here. We can each learn something new to bring to our bed to add to our shared excitement.
Mrs. Fender
Mrs. Fender