me and my wife just joined the site and we are having trouble getting the swing of things lol. we were told this was one way to do it so please give us some ideas
crazymj
crazymj
Good Luck! Seems that people are pretty hesitant with anyone new... which I suppose is understandable. We are new also and haven't really made any contacts yet. I'm sure it just takes time, and finding the people who will click with you.
try going to some meet and greets.I know there is one advertised on here at habits in slc
Go to say 2 or 3 parties. Don't worry about it. If you sit there trying to assess it, you won't understand it. Just play with people there2 or 3 times and see what happens. Fist time is to get over the shock. After that see if you enjoy it. If you don't, stop. If you do, continue till it is no longer fun. Sitting at the edge of the pool looking at the water wondering if it is cold will not get it done. Jump in. If you don't like it, what have you lost?
hey we are good at sitting alone!!
lol we wouldnt even know who we were sitting with since we can really see you lol
come on you can help us out better than that....... how do we get a member to chat with on here or is email the only way to get ahold of someone?????
if you are looking for chat email some memebers ask if they chat on yahoo or aol etc....exchange user names and chat with them...Michele and I use luthertide on either aol or yahoo add us we will be happy to discuss the last 12 yrs with you....
Clay and Michele
Clay and Michele
CRAZYMJ.......... Nice profile!!...... You shouldn't have any problems. Love your breasts. Face pics help.
try going to the chat room and just start chatting some one will chat back
wow that is cool we got alot out of this. we got many emails and lots of helpfull info but still are open to ideas
crazymj
crazymj
i just wanted to say i was a bit nervous at first but you guys mad me feel welcome thank you
and please dropp us a line
and please dropp us a line
We just wanted to say HELLO to everyone also! Another newbie here 
Talk to you all soon!
A&J
Talk to you all soon!
A&J
*sounding off another chime*
we are also newbies and just getting familiar with the site and appreciate all the tips given in this topic. thanks everyone!
we are also newbies and just getting familiar with the site and appreciate all the tips given in this topic. thanks everyone!
Just our 2 cents on this...
There are some big hesitations for some couples to contact newbies for a number or reasons. First off, there is always the unknown...is there going to be drama?
Secondly, I think a lot of people (us for sure) are hesitant contacting people who don't have any face pics in their profile. If it is a privacy thing, then try putting a few in privates and you control access to privates.
There is also the flake issue. There have been a lot of guys posing as couples and females on sites like this one and wasting peoples valuable time.
Suggestions:
If you make contact with people, be honest about what you want and are willing to do, be upfront and don't flake.
Meeting people as you get out to meet/greets and parties is also a great idea.
Good luck...
There are some big hesitations for some couples to contact newbies for a number or reasons. First off, there is always the unknown...is there going to be drama?
Secondly, I think a lot of people (us for sure) are hesitant contacting people who don't have any face pics in their profile. If it is a privacy thing, then try putting a few in privates and you control access to privates.
There is also the flake issue. There have been a lot of guys posing as couples and females on sites like this one and wasting peoples valuable time.
Suggestions:
If you make contact with people, be honest about what you want and are willing to do, be upfront and don't flake.
Meeting people as you get out to meet/greets and parties is also a great idea.
Good luck...
Hi Everyone: We are also a Very New Couple. In fact we are so new, (How New Are You) We are so new, We have not had time to remove the Price Tags from our Linggeree. We also are very Shy and most times sit in the back (Away From Loud Music) of most Meet and Greets. We have tried the Email contacts, But when we send our Photos, We never get an answer Back. ( I suppose the photo of Me Holding the Pitch Fork, and Ma in her Gingham Dress and White Apron) Just aint working for us. I sure thought it was a better picature than the one were we is out in the Barn Yard. Me sloping Pigs and Ma Feeding them Chickens. Well if any of yall take a hankerun to meet some back to Nature, Down to Earth, Pure Country Folk. Yall know our Number,_______(BR-549)________ Thanken ya in advance! _______Ma and Pa
hey all you ohter newbies its tuf to get going and i just wanted to let you no give us a shout we can get our feet wet toghether
Posted By: BELLESOUTHERN Reply posted on:
Oct 5, 2007 - 9:35 am
There are some big hesitations for some couples to contact newbies for a number or reasons. First off, there is always the unknown...is there going to be drama?
Secondly, I think a lot of people (us for sure) are hesitant contacting people who don't have any face pics in their profile. If it is a privacy thing, then try putting a few in privates and you control access to privates.
There is also the flake issue. There have been a lot of guys posing as couples and females on sites like this one and wasting peoples valuable time.
Problem with playing with newbies is that they don't want to play but quite often, they say they do. Maybe they changed their mind at the last minute. However, it is pretty irritating to deal with people that are not sure of themselves. It is harder to try not to send them running because they are unsure of what to do or more importantly, what they really want. One party might want to play and the other might not.
I don't see a problem with that. If we decide to hook up, you send us a pic and we take it from there. If not, we don't meet.
Again, not an issue. I won't travel way the hell out into the boonies just cos. If we can't speak to both of you, we don't meet. If we show up and you are not like your pic, we walk.
Oct 5, 2007 - 9:35 am
There are some big hesitations for some couples to contact newbies for a number or reasons. First off, there is always the unknown...is there going to be drama?
Secondly, I think a lot of people (us for sure) are hesitant contacting people who don't have any face pics in their profile. If it is a privacy thing, then try putting a few in privates and you control access to privates.
There is also the flake issue. There have been a lot of guys posing as couples and females on sites like this one and wasting peoples valuable time.
Problem with playing with newbies is that they don't want to play but quite often, they say they do. Maybe they changed their mind at the last minute. However, it is pretty irritating to deal with people that are not sure of themselves. It is harder to try not to send them running because they are unsure of what to do or more importantly, what they really want. One party might want to play and the other might not.
I don't see a problem with that. If we decide to hook up, you send us a pic and we take it from there. If not, we don't meet.
Again, not an issue. I won't travel way the hell out into the boonies just cos. If we can't speak to both of you, we don't meet. If we show up and you are not like your pic, we walk.
We are new as well and live in an area where there isn't much action! In fact, it's rather dead! We don't have any face pictures in our profile due to our family and job security. But would be more than happy to trade face pics when we know that the person we are trading with isn't someone either of us works with!
It's been tough breaking into the lifestyle. We did the same thing that you are doing. We started a thread asking for help and got a lot of suggestions. We are still looking for our first encounter.
We think it is going to take a trip to the SLC area as there isn't any interest here in Boise.
Sad, but true.
Welcome! Nice profile!
It's been tough breaking into the lifestyle. We did the same thing that you are doing. We started a thread asking for help and got a lot of suggestions. We are still looking for our first encounter.
We think it is going to take a trip to the SLC area as there isn't any interest here in Boise.
Sad, but true.
Welcome! Nice profile!
it seems like using Yahoo or someother IM works well. We are only three weeks into this and were fortunate enough to get invited to a party with some really great people for halloween. They did a great job of making us feel comfortable and respected our limits and hesitations. We did a meet and greet last night at Habits and met a nice couple there as well (but then we had planned to meet them there after chatting on IM).
If you want to chat more we can share our experiences at our69chevelle on yahoo.
If you want to chat more we can share our experiences at our69chevelle on yahoo.
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nice touch TR; patience in finding the people you are comfortable with is the important part
jeremy
jeremy
Bring it
wow its good to see thise subject go so far but we are still having trouble getting people to fallow through with there emails exc....
crazymj
crazymj
You can make people do anything they don't wanna do. All you can do is keep trying.