I'll write you a profile.. For $50 or a BJ.... LOL.
Kidding, I'll read it and give you my opinion, if my opinion matters. But hey, at least you'll get an honest answer.
Mr. UtHot
Kidding, I'll read it and give you my opinion, if my opinion matters. But hey, at least you'll get an honest answer.
Mr. UtHot
Ok, read it. It's OK. Very generic. It sounds like every other profile you read. When we are hunting there are two things we look for.
First- Pictures. Must know what the "Couple" looks like. Maybe add a couple more to your public photo's and maybe add some of the Mr.
Second- Creativity and intelligence. Usualy can tell in a profile or chatting if a couple has got it together. Looks and intelligence for us is a huge turn on! If you want me to write you a sample profile (I do resumes too), let me know, I'll do it for you and let you decide. Maybe you can incorporate yours and mine both to come up with a profile that is more attractive and luring.
Good Luck,
Mr. UtHot
PS- my blurb about resume's wasn't to sell a service, only to help qualify me to write your profile..
:z
First- Pictures. Must know what the "Couple" looks like. Maybe add a couple more to your public photo's and maybe add some of the Mr.
Second- Creativity and intelligence. Usualy can tell in a profile or chatting if a couple has got it together. Looks and intelligence for us is a huge turn on! If you want me to write you a sample profile (I do resumes too), let me know, I'll do it for you and let you decide. Maybe you can incorporate yours and mine both to come up with a profile that is more attractive and luring.
Good Luck,
Mr. UtHot
PS- my blurb about resume's wasn't to sell a service, only to help qualify me to write your profile..
:z
Just wondering who is the profile writing expert?
Profiles?.... are we suppossed to have a profile.
Holly Crap someone stole my profile. :S
Profiles?.... are we suppossed to have a profile.
Holly Crap someone stole my profile. :S
Setting aside the red color issue, I'm just happy to be able to actually READ their profile, without all the obnoxious background distractions going on. There are plenty of files we'll pass up because if we have to work to read it, it's a definite distraction.
Hell, it's often like trying to browse MySpace....
Hell, it's often like trying to browse MySpace....
I think for most of us that live outside of the greater Salt Lake area its about location. We live in Southern Utah, which is a swingers wasteland.
Do people even read profiles? I think they just look at pics and if they like what they see they may read part of your profile, but not really pay attention to it.
I think in light of Mr Uthot's advice I may need a profile makeover too! Ours is as generic as the next one, but nobody really reads it anyway, except to pick at it when I post a controversial thread in the forum, then they read every word, mix it up and spew it back at me!
~K~
Do people even read profiles? I think they just look at pics and if they like what they see they may read part of your profile, but not really pay attention to it.
I think in light of Mr Uthot's advice I may need a profile makeover too! Ours is as generic as the next one, but nobody really reads it anyway, except to pick at it when I post a controversial thread in the forum, then they read every word, mix it up and spew it back at me!
~K~
CLASSY,
I never spewed your profile back at you did I? I hope not. Anyway, I think you are correct about pictures getting your initial reaction. We are guilty of that ourselves. You know how you're browsing along and suddenly hit the mouse breaks and say "Damn, who the hell is that"? So, yes pictures seem to be the precursor to evaluating a profile but I don't necessarily agree with the statement about "who reads profiles anyway". We definitely do. We look at their swinging preference, whether they are straight or bi, and read what they are about and what they are looking for. It can be very important information if you are looking for a couple to full swap with and after reading their profile realize they are only looking for the women to play, or soft swap, wanting to meet as friends first, etc..
There is no good or bad about preferences, but knowing ahead of time can save a lot of heartache when you show up with a hard on, ready to play and find out you're not invited to the party. Just my 3.2 cents worth..
Mr. UtHot.
PS- If and when you decide to explore outside the realm of "soft swap", let us know. We would love to walk you over to the dark side. LOL.
I never spewed your profile back at you did I? I hope not. Anyway, I think you are correct about pictures getting your initial reaction. We are guilty of that ourselves. You know how you're browsing along and suddenly hit the mouse breaks and say "Damn, who the hell is that"? So, yes pictures seem to be the precursor to evaluating a profile but I don't necessarily agree with the statement about "who reads profiles anyway". We definitely do. We look at their swinging preference, whether they are straight or bi, and read what they are about and what they are looking for. It can be very important information if you are looking for a couple to full swap with and after reading their profile realize they are only looking for the women to play, or soft swap, wanting to meet as friends first, etc..
There is no good or bad about preferences, but knowing ahead of time can save a lot of heartache when you show up with a hard on, ready to play and find out you're not invited to the party. Just my 3.2 cents worth..
Mr. UtHot.
PS- If and when you decide to explore outside the realm of "soft swap", let us know. We would love to walk you over to the dark side. LOL.
Get rid of the red on blue difficult to read hurts the eyes other than that don't see anything wrong with your profile.
Norm&Sharon
Norm&Sharon
UTHOT,
HMMMMM!!!!, I will keep that in mind!
You know your on my list!
~K~
P.S.
I always read profiles, I like to at least know what someone wants me to think! And I always check the "height" because I like tall guys!
HMMMMM!!!!, I will keep that in mind!
You know your on my list!
~K~
P.S.
I always read profiles, I like to at least know what someone wants me to think! And I always check the "height" because I like tall guys!
am with you guys Classy...after checking the pics I go straight to swing preference and then the height....I like em tall also...
Guess it's good to be tall
Mr. UtHot
Mr. UtHot
Well, there's the answer. Everybody wants tall. I'm fucked!!!!!! Here's your sign.
WETTFEM,
No pressure on this site huh? After reading the forums, what the women want is simple:
Tall - 6' or taller
In Shape - nice bod no lard
Big Cock - at least 7 inches long and thick
Funny - Like Dane Cook
Smart - The opposite of Forrest Gump
Be in a couple - sorry single guys, you're hosed!
See, no pressure, just an Adonis-like make-up and you're in!!
Guess I better hit the Gym.... lol
No pressure on this site huh? After reading the forums, what the women want is simple:
Tall - 6' or taller
In Shape - nice bod no lard
Big Cock - at least 7 inches long and thick
Funny - Like Dane Cook
Smart - The opposite of Forrest Gump
Be in a couple - sorry single guys, you're hosed!
See, no pressure, just an Adonis-like make-up and you're in!!
Guess I better hit the Gym.... lol
I love writing profiles and have been told that I'm pretty good at it. BUT, nowhere near a professional.
I did hear an interview with a guy who wrote them professionally and he had this advice.
Find something unique about what you have to offer.
Most consist of "I Am", "I Want" but never explain why!
Lighten up! Not too many rules or restrictions.
Be who you really are. If you say you're funny? Be funny! If you say you're serious, be serious (but not heavy).
And I agree with Hot...that first picture is the killer. Make it a good one! Leave things to the imagination.
Voila...done.
-K_T
I did hear an interview with a guy who wrote them professionally and he had this advice.
Find something unique about what you have to offer.
Most consist of "I Am", "I Want" but never explain why!
Lighten up! Not too many rules or restrictions.
Be who you really are. If you say you're funny? Be funny! If you say you're serious, be serious (but not heavy).
And I agree with Hot...that first picture is the killer. Make it a good one! Leave things to the imagination.
Voila...done.
-K_T
For us..
Goptta get rid of the red, gotta make him not blend in..
Also...You're a couple...Show him too...Don't use the hot lady for bait...Let everyone know what he looks like too..You say full swap, but how would a lady know if she wanted to swap with your hubby if he is not present in profile?
We only have a gew pictures and a few words to catch someone's eye, BUT when someone finds you and there are no pictures or a frutrating color scheme, they will move on in a minute...At least we do...
Goptta get rid of the red, gotta make him not blend in..
Also...You're a couple...Show him too...Don't use the hot lady for bait...Let everyone know what he looks like too..You say full swap, but how would a lady know if she wanted to swap with your hubby if he is not present in profile?
We only have a gew pictures and a few words to catch someone's eye, BUT when someone finds you and there are no pictures or a frutrating color scheme, they will move on in a minute...At least we do...
Profiles don't have to be visually stunning or perfect works of literature. Just write something, mean it, and who you are will show through. This isn't rocket science. It's just meeting people. Keep it simple, keep it real.
Not too hard. I don't think, anyway.
-R (& T)
Not too hard. I don't think, anyway.
-R (& T)
CHAMMY,
You said "not too hard". After looking at your pictures it's very Hard! Nicely done. And I agree with you. As long as simple isn't so simple there isn't enough info to understand what a couple is after.
As far as rocket science goes, I wish you were a rocket, and I wish I were a scientist because the exploration might be a lot of fun. There are way too many hotties in FL. Damn!!
Mr. UtHot
You said "not too hard". After looking at your pictures it's very Hard! Nicely done. And I agree with you. As long as simple isn't so simple there isn't enough info to understand what a couple is after.
As far as rocket science goes, I wish you were a rocket, and I wish I were a scientist because the exploration might be a lot of fun. There are way too many hotties in FL. Damn!!
Mr. UtHot
Your profile is good, the problem is that this website is has not too much visibility on the web like their major competitors, as a test try a trial membership on sites like sls or sdc and you will see how many replies you will have in days.
Not saying this website in bad, not at all, as a matter of fact this site in terms of design, graphich and services is one of the best, but needs to get more space on the web.
Thanks
Leo
Not saying this website in bad, not at all, as a matter of fact this site in terms of design, graphich and services is one of the best, but needs to get more space on the web.
Thanks
Leo
SexyMrs - I liked your profile, but as a graphic designer (who hasn't done ANYTHING graphically with our profile yet) I have to agree the red on blue scheme isn't working for legibility. Not that it's a deal breaker, I see a LOT of websites, MySpace pages, etc., that I have to hilite all the text on in order to read.
So, do you get down to Salt Lake often?
Everyone else - I'm curious, what are the thoughts on primary pics? Kinbaku Theater said it's very important. Due to our desire to be discrete we're using a cartoon for our primary and put our real pics in our private folder. I know some people aren't going to take the time to add us just to look at our pics. Do you all think it's important enough to have some shots in our public album that have been cropped to leave out identifiable parts, like faces, tats.. etc?
I've spent a little bit of time on our profile here lately since we're finally moving from the 'uh, do we really want to do this' phase to the 'what the hell, let's meet some people' stage. I'd like to get it right and create one that reflects our personality.
Ro
So, do you get down to Salt Lake often?
Everyone else - I'm curious, what are the thoughts on primary pics? Kinbaku Theater said it's very important. Due to our desire to be discrete we're using a cartoon for our primary and put our real pics in our private folder. I know some people aren't going to take the time to add us just to look at our pics. Do you all think it's important enough to have some shots in our public album that have been cropped to leave out identifiable parts, like faces, tats.. etc?
I've spent a little bit of time on our profile here lately since we're finally moving from the 'uh, do we really want to do this' phase to the 'what the hell, let's meet some people' stage. I'd like to get it right and create one that reflects our personality.
Ro
Love the revision!
ROAND,
First pics ARE important, it's what people see when their searching. We totally understand the privacy thing. However, there are MANY poses you can place people in that hides recognizable features, their are quite a few excellent examples on this thread alone, or do like we did and just crop your pics.
You can buy the photoshop "elements" software for a hell of a lot less that the full product, and while you lose some of its abilities, its more than enough for what most normal folks do.
First pics ARE important, it's what people see when their searching. We totally understand the privacy thing. However, there are MANY poses you can place people in that hides recognizable features, their are quite a few excellent examples on this thread alone, or do like we did and just crop your pics.
You can buy the photoshop "elements" software for a hell of a lot less that the full product, and while you lose some of its abilities, its more than enough for what most normal folks do.
On the flip side is those profiles with full pics. We have very close friends who for private reasons cannot put pics on the profile and we respect that. We feel that if someone is here browsing the profiles and recognizes us they are as "guilty" as us for being here s oif they confront us then it gives us one more thing in common we share and if they ignore us they can`t tell anyone because then they would have to explain being here themselves as well. From having face pics on our profile we have been recognized in public and always came out of it in a positive manner either by making a new friend or playmates.
As far as what we look for is pictures of both with a description telling us a little about both people. We like to see pics where it depicts the couple in their natural environment like at the beach, a club, or even riding dirt bikes so it tells us what they may not have written on their profile.To many rules are a turn off because we try to be open minded and seek the same but to refuse so many thing before meeting isn`t our idea of fun. Poor grammer, as common as it is, kinda makes us wonder if they can hold a conversation or understand the word no since they couldn`t spell it. We also look for hints that a couple is honestly secure in the relationship. When they say we are only looking for a female or very select couple it makes us wonder about how secure the male half really is not wanting another male involved unless he is "select". Worse thing is the print blending in with the backround giving us a headache trying to read it.
Regarding the comment about using a cartoon character as a pic, is this a common thing when there are private pics involved or was this just random. We always wondered why bother putting a cartoon because to us this is the same as no pic but am now wondering if we were missing something all this time.
As far as what we look for is pictures of both with a description telling us a little about both people. We like to see pics where it depicts the couple in their natural environment like at the beach, a club, or even riding dirt bikes so it tells us what they may not have written on their profile.To many rules are a turn off because we try to be open minded and seek the same but to refuse so many thing before meeting isn`t our idea of fun. Poor grammer, as common as it is, kinda makes us wonder if they can hold a conversation or understand the word no since they couldn`t spell it. We also look for hints that a couple is honestly secure in the relationship. When they say we are only looking for a female or very select couple it makes us wonder about how secure the male half really is not wanting another male involved unless he is "select". Worse thing is the print blending in with the backround giving us a headache trying to read it.
Regarding the comment about using a cartoon character as a pic, is this a common thing when there are private pics involved or was this just random. We always wondered why bother putting a cartoon because to us this is the same as no pic but am now wondering if we were missing something all this time.
We had the same problem, but I titled my thread "how to get started"
We received some good advice on how to change our profile. Some do's and don't's.
Swinging wasteland! LOL! That's a good one, I like that. I've been through Elko and with the Casino's there, one would think there would be a lot of action, but I guess maybe not. Maybe it's where people go "to swing" but not where swingers "are?" Just a thought.
And I thought Boise was a wasteland! We all have our ideas of what a wasteland is.....
Nice profile changes!
We received some good advice on how to change our profile. Some do's and don't's.
Swinging wasteland! LOL! That's a good one, I like that. I've been through Elko and with the Casino's there, one would think there would be a lot of action, but I guess maybe not. Maybe it's where people go "to swing" but not where swingers "are?" Just a thought.
And I thought Boise was a wasteland! We all have our ideas of what a wasteland is.....
Nice profile changes!
Maybe we're the anomoly here, but we ALWAYS read the profile before we bother with pictures. The fact is there are some hot looking people who can't hold a decent conversation - and to us, the brain is the most important sex organ. Different things work for different people, and certainly you have to go with what works for you, but for those who think it's all about the pictures, not everyone uses that as the gauge.
An additional 2 cents, if it's even worth that much! : )
K
An additional 2 cents, if it's even worth that much! : )
K
Being a single guy, I know my opinion is usually worth somewhere in the negative but here goes.
Pictures are important. Too many spammers and fake profiles will not post a picture. Other than that though, a profile should say something about yourself and be honest.
I know that my profile pretty much sucks but being a single guy no one is all that interested anyway so why put too much effort in it, right? After all, I don't fit the whole Adonis thing mentioned earlier.
Pictures are important. Too many spammers and fake profiles will not post a picture. Other than that though, a profile should say something about yourself and be honest.
I know that my profile pretty much sucks but being a single guy no one is all that interested anyway so why put too much effort in it, right? After all, I don't fit the whole Adonis thing mentioned earlier.
AWESOME REVISION!!!!!
sometimes we feel the same way. We try to have plenty of pics and change them from time to time, but our biggest problem though is probably availability. When we find couples that want to play, we need to plan around a sitter. I think this puts off some people because they want to play now, not plan for it. But for those who we have gotten with, we all really had a great time.
This is our couple profile. both have lots of pics, we hope they are enjoyed and let people know a little more about who we are
We know what you mean. We had a party last night and most of the couples had t oplan on when a sitter was available and what weekend the kids would be with the other parent and such. We are lucky and only have a cat to worry about but with our freedom we don`t mind planning the night because the fun can still be spontaneous. A private meeting with good friends turned into a small 6 couple party but we know everyone had a good time. Maybe you can join us the next time.
Whatsmyname- why are there a lot of people on here "from Florida for obvious reasons"?
It isn't so obvious to me. Thanks.
It isn't so obvious to me. Thanks.
2UVUS,
Thanks for the input. Took your advice and we're trying a different photo as our primary. Leg shots always do it for me, anyway. hehehe.
RoandRonni
Thanks for the input. Took your advice and we're trying a different photo as our primary. Leg shots always do it for me, anyway. hehehe.
RoandRonni
There are a few things that make a profile better. !st never say what you don't want be totally positive. If you have a preference state it as such. We prefer to play in our own race or we only play with single women or couples. On another site I was once asked what I thought of someones profile. I started reading and found in the first paragraph 221 words. There were almost no positive statements and 187 words that were pointedly negative, not stated as preferenes but...., "we don't like this or that"; "No blacks cause we don't play outside of our own race"; "If you're over 45 you're too old and if you're under 30" you're too young...." Interestingly enough, this couple was over 45... They had pics of both male and female genatilia in their pics and excuse me those pics could have been from a medical movie. So being positive and say what you DO like, what your interests are, what you you like in terms of how you like to play. Limiting age is like limiting the number of people you want to play with to a minute cross section of what or who is available... Go back and reread your profile after a few days and a few weeks and read it out loud.... you may hear something you didn't intend to say there. Read it to your partner, out loud. They may hear something that needs to be emphasized(sp) or that doesn't come out the way you meant it. When you discribe yourself in words realize that your bodily and chronological information or specs preceed your written information... If it's not in the specs then let people know that you have a 20 " member or that you are multi-orgasmic or that you can cum 40 times in a night with no rest between... If you don't want to talk to single guys then say so with the block. When people send a message, always try to sent them a no thanks at this time typwof message. Don't burn bridges... preferences change over the years and what you liked at one poing may not be what you like now. It's all about communication, communications, communications.... Sounds like real estate..... If you've ever sold anything you always sya the good things and try not to say anything bad about anything .... Meeting people and becomming friends or maybe I should say getting to know people is like selling but it's yourself you are selling.....but remember don't sell too hard... Or in this case since it's swinging... Maybe the hard sell is what it takes...