Maybe this topic has been discussed here before and yet again, maybe not. But since I cannot find anything recent, maybe it's time to bring it up again (pun intended)!
We are new to the lifestyle as well as new to this site. We seem to be having difficulty getting started and communicating with others on this site with whom we feel are mutually compatible.
So, I guess this is a "help" call.
As someone mentioned in another post/thread, sexual drives/hormone levels differ at different times during the month, but that shouldn't be a deterrent to at least the courtesy of a reply to a "hi, we are interested" message.
We have posted some classy pictures in our profile and explained in our profile why there are only pictures of the female half - if you want more information, that will be forthcoming as we are comfortable. As I stated already, we are new to this!
We do take the time to read profiles carefully and try to send messages accordingly. So, how do we get started?
L
We are new to the lifestyle as well as new to this site. We seem to be having difficulty getting started and communicating with others on this site with whom we feel are mutually compatible.
So, I guess this is a "help" call.
As someone mentioned in another post/thread, sexual drives/hormone levels differ at different times during the month, but that shouldn't be a deterrent to at least the courtesy of a reply to a "hi, we are interested" message.
We have posted some classy pictures in our profile and explained in our profile why there are only pictures of the female half - if you want more information, that will be forthcoming as we are comfortable. As I stated already, we are new to this!
We do take the time to read profiles carefully and try to send messages accordingly. So, how do we get started?
L
If we were closer to you, we'd have already hit on you. Us old farts need to stick together. LOL. The no smokers rule may have deterred a contact also.
Just wanted to say Hi and welcome to the site. I have been over two years trying to get started myself. Something tells me your luck will be better than mine. Wishing you a nice time.
Thanks for the replies. The no smoking is not negotiable because I cannot breathe around smoke! I don't know how to get around it! Sorry folks...it's not something that I just don't like, it's something that I can't tolerate due to health reasons. Believe me I just can't breathe! So, what's a girl to do!
I've made some changes to our profile. Hopefully they will help. I will add some photos in the next few days that may help as well!
And who calling an old fart?
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I've made some changes to our profile. Hopefully they will help. I will add some photos in the next few days that may help as well!
And who calling an old fart?
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Find a couple you are ok with and get on with it. If you try it 2 or 3 times and find it is not for you, what have you lost? Nothing. If you are sitting on the edge and wondering if the water is cold or not, you probably won't be able to tell much by looking. Like I said, if you find swinging is not for you, you are not out money or anything. What have you to lose? Try it 2 or 3 times to get over the shock. talk about it with your partner and see where it goes.
AKLIM69 Thanks for the reply but the problem is nobody is home! We would love to find someone to get started with! It all sounds so easy, but it's not!
We tend to be very patient people. Good things cum to those who wait, and wait, and wait! So we are waiting!
We tend to be very patient people. Good things cum to those who wait, and wait, and wait! So we are waiting!
I would say go on vacation some place that has swing clubs and then just go to one.i am surprised that you can't even get a single male to respond.
Highway1 - single males are "replying." That's not the problem! We want more than to swap photos. Shoot, I can get all the naked hard cock photos I want! I don't need to join a "swinging online site" to get that!
Get it! We do have a sense of humor! And truly are fun to be with --- sex is good!
Get it! We do have a sense of humor! And truly are fun to be with --- sex is good!
Well. In a sense, it's good for me to hear that even hot couples have trouble finding swing partners - not just us desperate single males (smile).
For what it's worth, my wife and I tried swinging together - and we went *years* trying to find partners online - and never hooked up. Most people here are real, but many aren't sure what they're looking for - and it is *tough* to find that ONE couple who is in synch with you enough to meet and actually DO anything - partly also because of the pressure that once you finally MEET - it can feel too awkward to actually jump into bed.
What we found to work - both as a couple - and for me now that my wife has retired from swinging - is, as was suggested by my Florida "neighbors": go to a club. By definition anybody in a swing club really *is* real - and they really do look how they look - and is interested enough to find a club and go there. You can meet gobs of possibilities in a short amount of time - and you can tell more about your compatibility with another couple in about 2 minutes of *talking* to them - than you can in a month of emails. You *will* still have to be somewhat aggressive in actually "pariing up": everybody else is as shy as you, but the rule remains: to really truly jump into the pool - you have to go to the pool.
Now. On the other hand, if you really, truly, wanna MFM as your first experience - and you can get yourselves to Florida for a vacation, I would just love to meet the two of you and see what happens. (smile).
It seems like your attitude is right. You just have to get to where the "swinger density" is higher and you'll reach critical mass (smile).
For what it's worth, my wife and I tried swinging together - and we went *years* trying to find partners online - and never hooked up. Most people here are real, but many aren't sure what they're looking for - and it is *tough* to find that ONE couple who is in synch with you enough to meet and actually DO anything - partly also because of the pressure that once you finally MEET - it can feel too awkward to actually jump into bed.
What we found to work - both as a couple - and for me now that my wife has retired from swinging - is, as was suggested by my Florida "neighbors": go to a club. By definition anybody in a swing club really *is* real - and they really do look how they look - and is interested enough to find a club and go there. You can meet gobs of possibilities in a short amount of time - and you can tell more about your compatibility with another couple in about 2 minutes of *talking* to them - than you can in a month of emails. You *will* still have to be somewhat aggressive in actually "pariing up": everybody else is as shy as you, but the rule remains: to really truly jump into the pool - you have to go to the pool.
Now. On the other hand, if you really, truly, wanna MFM as your first experience - and you can get yourselves to Florida for a vacation, I would just love to meet the two of you and see what happens. (smile).
It seems like your attitude is right. You just have to get to where the "swinger density" is higher and you'll reach critical mass (smile).
Hi there after looking at your profile we like what we see and read and if you find your way to this side of ut drop us a line we would be glad to meet. And if you want to chat e mail us
Mr.TA2CPL just pulls out his junk and we go from there.lol
We just wanted to say that you are not alone, we have been searching for a local cpl, but there does not seem to be many people here, sure there are profiles in the area however many of them have no photos and not very much written in them. You are right patience is key and we wish you luck in your search.
C&K
C&K
I used to live in JAX. St. Augustine is a good place to find lots of action. Never had a problem there! LOL! But of course, that was a few years ago...Too bad we are on opposite sides of the country now!
So, "Mr.TA2CPL just pulls out his junk and we go from there.lol " what kind of junk do you have? Or is that a personal question?
So, "Mr.TA2CPL just pulls out his junk and we go from there.lol " what kind of junk do you have? Or is that a personal question?
AKLIM69 Thanks for the reply but the problem is nobody is home! We would love to find someone to get started with! It all sounds so easy, but it's not!
We tend to be very patient people. Good things cum to those who wait, and wait, and wait! So we are waiting!
What about a swing club in your area then?
We tend to be very patient people. Good things cum to those who wait, and wait, and wait! So we are waiting!
What about a swing club in your area then?
"What about a swing club in your area then? "
There aren't any! If there are, they are well hidden! We've thought about that and will look into travelling to one!
There aren't any! If there are, they are well hidden! We've thought about that and will look into travelling to one!
Checked out your profile!
Thanks everyone for the replies and the tips! It's been fun chatting with all of you and getting to know some of you. this is a friendly place. Or it's getting friendlier!
Thanks everyone for the replies and the tips! It's been fun chatting with all of you and getting to know some of you. this is a friendly place. Or it's getting friendlier!
LRACHELLE,
go look at our profile and see "the junk"
go look at our profile and see "the junk"
We are by far not the experts on this site but our best advice, and you've already said it, is to patient. Rushing into it seems to cause more problems than its worth. Enjoy what you have together. Enjoy the sexy nights out. Enjoy the newly found group of friends, ones that have a similar mindset as yourselves. Find some house parties to attend, or host one or two. Really its just as the old saying goes "You get out of it what you put in to it"...of course that can have a sexual overtone too
put your right foot in, take your right foot out?
TA2,
LOL! You guys ever going to come hang out again? Maybe come over, take your junk out and let's see what happens.. Can I take mine out too? Sounds like a real easy way to get things going.
-K-
LOL! You guys ever going to come hang out again? Maybe come over, take your junk out and let's see what happens.. Can I take mine out too? Sounds like a real easy way to get things going.
-K-
We would recommend to find someone interesting to you, write and meet.
We have found, and this is not scientific, but it is our experience, that if they do not want to meet for drinks or coffee after an email or two, they are not really interested but do not know how to say as such. This is not to say that you should meet and jump into the bed, but meeting is key. We have found very few people who are what their pics and profile say, us included, we hear many times, "Boy glad we took a chance, you should get better pics" and such. Those who post old pics are easily identified, they have the old hair styles, clothes, etc.
As to single men, we have found that MOST of them are unreliable at best. Few are truly swingers, rather they are men who want sex without a relationship. If something they see as better comes along, they will not show for you.
The going to the club idea is probably your best bet, aside from an email intro, a few minutes on yahoo, AIM, or MSN messenger to set up a meeting time and place.
WHo knows, maybe you just live in a crappy area for lifestyle activities...Come to Tampa, it has the most adult orriented businesses per capita than any other metropolitan area in the USA, at least in 2004 it did, according to Playboy.
We have found, and this is not scientific, but it is our experience, that if they do not want to meet for drinks or coffee after an email or two, they are not really interested but do not know how to say as such. This is not to say that you should meet and jump into the bed, but meeting is key. We have found very few people who are what their pics and profile say, us included, we hear many times, "Boy glad we took a chance, you should get better pics" and such. Those who post old pics are easily identified, they have the old hair styles, clothes, etc.
As to single men, we have found that MOST of them are unreliable at best. Few are truly swingers, rather they are men who want sex without a relationship. If something they see as better comes along, they will not show for you.
The going to the club idea is probably your best bet, aside from an email intro, a few minutes on yahoo, AIM, or MSN messenger to set up a meeting time and place.
WHo knows, maybe you just live in a crappy area for lifestyle activities...Come to Tampa, it has the most adult orriented businesses per capita than any other metropolitan area in the USA, at least in 2004 it did, according to Playboy.
UTHOT,
Yes we are going to hang out soon. Im just working crazy hours. Lets make a date to have our junks hangin out and see what happens from there.
TA2
Yes we are going to hang out soon. Im just working crazy hours. Lets make a date to have our junks hangin out and see what happens from there.
TA2
There's no doubt about it that where we live is NOT the capitol of swing! We already figured that one out a long time ago LOL! It's not even a suburb.
The pictures in our profile are very recent. Some within the last week. But most within the last couple of months. No misleading on our part. We believe in truth in advertising. You get what you see! But that's just us. Maybe we are too honest ----
Hmmm...now there's a thought (scurrying to profile to change everything!) See now we are 23, young, Ken and Barbie types! ha ha ha...made you look!
It makes no difference. Sex is sex. That's what we are after. The same as most people on this site. We are looking for some extra curricular activity and some Fun! Meeting new people to share some fun times and fun sex - it relieves stress. And that's good. Stress relievers are good for you soul and your health! Don't you know that! A good massage, and and and.......ah! yes....
where was I?
The pictures in our profile are very recent. Some within the last week. But most within the last couple of months. No misleading on our part. We believe in truth in advertising. You get what you see! But that's just us. Maybe we are too honest ----
Hmmm...now there's a thought (scurrying to profile to change everything!) See now we are 23, young, Ken and Barbie types! ha ha ha...made you look!
It makes no difference. Sex is sex. That's what we are after. The same as most people on this site. We are looking for some extra curricular activity and some Fun! Meeting new people to share some fun times and fun sex - it relieves stress. And that's good. Stress relievers are good for you soul and your health! Don't you know that! A good massage, and and and.......ah! yes....
where was I?
We have changed some of the photos in our profile.
I also wanted to make a couple of comments: since my original posting I've read some other comments about other profiles and why aren't there any pictures of the two of us in our profile. It is only because of job issues, plain and simple.
Some of you may think that's no big deal, but it is. There is a picture of me in our private album. But until we are comfortable with who we are talking to, no picture of my husband.
We are still looking for our first encounter. We keep thinking we are going to make it down to the Salt Lake area, but every time we think that's going to happen, job travel takes us in the other direction.
We are for real! Any other suggestions on profile changes?
I also wanted to make a couple of comments: since my original posting I've read some other comments about other profiles and why aren't there any pictures of the two of us in our profile. It is only because of job issues, plain and simple.
Some of you may think that's no big deal, but it is. There is a picture of me in our private album. But until we are comfortable with who we are talking to, no picture of my husband.
We are still looking for our first encounter. We keep thinking we are going to make it down to the Salt Lake area, but every time we think that's going to happen, job travel takes us in the other direction.
We are for real! Any other suggestions on profile changes?
we did post one a few months back look it up its in life style questions named newbies there is lots of good info in it
crazymj
crazymj
I read your thread and I posted on it.
for us it is not the problem of finding people to talk to it is that our free time is not anyones free time. we have a new work schedule hopefully that will help. hope all works out well, and you find a couple.
There is nothing wrong with posting more recent things, and a good topic for discussion.
We have not met a single couple from this site either, so we are on two others and try to increase our chances.
We can share your pain there!!!
Meet and greets can also be good to some degree, but depending on your area...very cliquey and not a good place to start from.
Speaking freely and at risk of sounding non-supportive here...try multiple sites for starters. You will find in different areas, there are people on all different sites and some people that aren't on others sites, especially if you feel your not getting any bites from here.
Diversity is a good starter.
We have not met a single couple from this site either, so we are on two others and try to increase our chances.
We can share your pain there!!!
Meet and greets can also be good to some degree, but depending on your area...very cliquey and not a good place to start from.
Speaking freely and at risk of sounding non-supportive here...try multiple sites for starters. You will find in different areas, there are people on all different sites and some people that aren't on others sites, especially if you feel your not getting any bites from here.
Diversity is a good starter.