OK, lets try this one again........Is it possible?
Is it possible to find mind blowing sex in this lifestyle? Is it possible to find passion and energy?
Does it get old and mundine? After a while, is it just routine?
I know that one night stands suck because you are not in "the groove" with each other. What has been your experience? Can the flame go out?
Is it possible for swinging to become "the same old-same old"?
~K~
Is it possible to find mind blowing sex in this lifestyle? Is it possible to find passion and energy?
Does it get old and mundine? After a while, is it just routine?
I know that one night stands suck because you are not in "the groove" with each other. What has been your experience? Can the flame go out?
Is it possible for swinging to become "the same old-same old"?
~K~
Of course it become mundane...
When you go to the same club, you will see the same people.
When you use the same site all the time...Same people..
When you have a small circle of friends you play with exclusively...
The idea we like about swinging is the change...NOT just having sex with someone besides each other...
When you go to the same club, you will see the same people.
When you use the same site all the time...Same people..
When you have a small circle of friends you play with exclusively...
The idea we like about swinging is the change...NOT just having sex with someone besides each other...
Variety IS the spice of life!
~D&T~
~D&T~
I've had mind blowing experiences.
I've had ones that weren't worth writing home about. Mostly due to a lack of communication before hand, fatigue on both parts or other reasons.
Thankfully the good has outnumbered the bad! We've met some awesome people on this journey and look forward to meeting more.
Ali
I've had ones that weren't worth writing home about. Mostly due to a lack of communication before hand, fatigue on both parts or other reasons.
Thankfully the good has outnumbered the bad! We've met some awesome people on this journey and look forward to meeting more.
Ali
We have found it very execiting! Yes one night stands are not the greatest but the first time you enter/get entered by someone new is an exciting experince! The more you are with someone the more same old, same old it can be. But we each have someone we love to be with that has been a long term relationship. It is just fun to have sex with others and enjoy the different ways others can make you feel!
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If you are a "soft swapper" I don't personally see how it would ever be anything but mundane. How are you supposed to stimulate new senses? By doing your partner in front of people? If I wanted that, I would stay home, pop in a porn and do my wife. At least then, I can pick the couples I want to watch. :-)
Does it get boring? I don't think so. I think it can get frustrating sometimes. But all of that frustration leads to that one encounter that is the Grand Daddy of sex! So, it's worth it.
CLASSY, sorry if we were one of the couples that took your original thread out of context. I was merely answering the quetions you stated in black and white..
Mr. UtHot
Does it get boring? I don't think so. I think it can get frustrating sometimes. But all of that frustration leads to that one encounter that is the Grand Daddy of sex! So, it's worth it.
CLASSY, sorry if we were one of the couples that took your original thread out of context. I was merely answering the quetions you stated in black and white..
Mr. UtHot
UTHOT,
Just wanted to let you know that we think you are both hot, and we would pick to watch you two fucking anyday. LOL. Any exciting plans for this labor day weekend?
LVSTRIPPERBABE
Just wanted to let you know that we think you are both hot, and we would pick to watch you two fucking anyday. LOL. Any exciting plans for this labor day weekend?
LVSTRIPPERBABE
This is exactly what the problem is with the different swap status choices in this room, you are either Hard Swap, or Soft Swap. Basically its the same as "All or Nothing". We have friends that are both soft, and full swap. We are categorized by the fact that at this time, we only finish up with each other. Does that mean were there for everyone to watch?..UMMM, NO. The few hours leading up to that is being with several partners swapping oral, touching, kissing, group touching, toys, multiple orgasms, etc. Is it mundane? oh far from it. We're the most hard core soft swap going.
Bottom line is, most of us were Soft at one point, and until someone comes along that changes that,(you know who you are..lol) thats just the way it is. We're not defined by hard or soft, we're defined by what we do when it matters.
~D&T~
Bottom line is, most of us were Soft at one point, and until someone comes along that changes that,(you know who you are..lol) thats just the way it is. We're not defined by hard or soft, we're defined by what we do when it matters.
~D&T~
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Swinging can become boring and mundane, just like anything else. I think if you set your sights too high, then you'll never be satisfied. We are all people, despite certain people's delusions of themselves. Everyone is capable of giving you an orgasm. It's where your mind is and if you want it to actually happen. If you have hang ups such as physical attributes or aethetics, you will only be happy when those desires are fufilled. The amount of hang ups you have is the amount of obstacles in the way of your great time. Granted, somethings we do not budge on because it conflicts with our very nature. However, there is plenty of baggage people can discard, but choose not to.
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Swinging can become boring and mundane, just like anything else. I think if you set your sights too high, then you'll never be satisfied. We are all people, despite certain people's delusions of themselves. Everyone is capable of giving you an orgasm. It's where your mind is and if you want it to actually happen. If you have hang ups such as physical attributes or aethetics, you will only be happy when those desires are fufilled. The amount of hang ups you have is the amount of obstacles in the way of your great time. Granted, somethings we do not budge on because it conflicts with our very nature. However, there is plenty of baggage people can discard, but choose not to.
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-Don-
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I say yes. It can be boring or mundane. Interest can wax and wane. I've been in this lifestyle with a few different partners for about a decade...heheh. Sometimes you just take a break and do other things.
Communication is the key. To keep your own personal sex life, with your partner(s) of choice is to be open, honest and rather fearless. Talk about things that are interesting. I promise, no matter who you're with? Sex will never get boring.
-K_T
Communication is the key. To keep your own personal sex life, with your partner(s) of choice is to be open, honest and rather fearless. Talk about things that are interesting. I promise, no matter who you're with? Sex will never get boring.
-K_T
We have a good friend who is "Vanilla" but really one of the very open type. He had a "sure thing" all set up, after he told us it sucked because he didn't have to chase her.
Got me thinking........Is the chase half the fun? Does it take any of the fun away to know someone is willing?
~K~
Got me thinking........Is the chase half the fun? Does it take any of the fun away to know someone is willing?
~K~
I don't think willingness takes away the thrill. If it did, then we would always lose that thrill with our partners... Maybe?
Like you classy, I am picky. And even when I do decide someone is a go, it may take quite some time before I actually proceed. Other times, it may be a go right then. Both have been equally exciting.
I think sometimes we have fantasies built up in our heads so much that when they start coming true they can't live up to our expectaions sometimes. We think about it, we think of all the various details and possibilities and then nothing can really compare to what we have imagined. Does that make sense?
Ali
Like you classy, I am picky. And even when I do decide someone is a go, it may take quite some time before I actually proceed. Other times, it may be a go right then. Both have been equally exciting.
I think sometimes we have fantasies built up in our heads so much that when they start coming true they can't live up to our expectaions sometimes. We think about it, we think of all the various details and possibilities and then nothing can really compare to what we have imagined. Does that make sense?
Ali
After a dozen years, yes it could. Oddly enough when we swapped with the same couple for 4 or 5 years (exclusive for the most part) it was really really fun. Maybe because it was a RARE time where all four really dug each other and we had lots of non-swinger things we enjoyed.
Sometimes the chase is really the fun part for the male half.....
Sometimes the chase is really the fun part for the male half.....
We have been with the same couple for over seven years and not a bit boring, having as much fun now as we did the first year. It Is All What You Make It.
We have been with the same couple for over seven years and not a bit boring, having as much fun now as we did the first year. It Is All What You Make It.