All of you swinging singles I have a question.....When you do get into a serious relationship are you still going to swing and bring this person in? Are you looking for a swinger as a long term partner? How are you going to feel sharing your partner when this happens?
OK I guess that's more than one question!
~K~
OK I guess that's more than one question!
~K~
I have talked to her about swinging and she is not interested, I have not swung since we have gotten serious and she is not interested. Should she change her mind, then we would.
We met as singles in the lifestyle...Took some time off...and came back after about a month...
We had a single gentleman friend and he is dating someone and starting to get serious and he has left the lifestyle and does not know if he is going to return. For us the newness of a relationship would be enough but most of our friends are in the lifestyle so we see it being a good chance that either of us would return to the lifestyle with our partner.
Ideally, I would hope that anyone I choose to get serious with would be as open and as interested in the lifestyle as I am.
I have been part of a married couple in the lifestyle and part of a serious relationship in the lifestyle over the past 6 years. Both had it's challenges and both required "breaks" to establish and stablize the relationship. But both were open to continue within the parameters of the relationship.
Ideal is great, but it is not always what is real. If the right guy/girl were to come along and sweep me off my feet? Who knows. While swinging is 'fun' it's not by any means define who I am as a woman/mother/wife. But it does beat the hell out of a potluck card game every saturday night... dontcha think? <grin>
Enjoy!
-Te
I have been part of a married couple in the lifestyle and part of a serious relationship in the lifestyle over the past 6 years. Both had it's challenges and both required "breaks" to establish and stablize the relationship. But both were open to continue within the parameters of the relationship.
Ideal is great, but it is not always what is real. If the right guy/girl were to come along and sweep me off my feet? Who knows. While swinging is 'fun' it's not by any means define who I am as a woman/mother/wife. But it does beat the hell out of a potluck card game every saturday night... dontcha think? <grin>
Enjoy!
-Te
To me this isn't just a matter of Honesty, as important as that is. It's also about doing what is right. You not only have to do what is right for yourself (always important), you also have to do what is right for your relationship.
People change and as they do the dynamic of any relationship changes as well. If you have someone very special in your life, Congratulations. If they are in the lifestyle already, then discussions about swinging are easier. If S/He isn't, then after being honest and open, you'll hopefully make the right decisions for you.
Ultimately, we all deserve to be happy, and sometimes those decisions are hard, but remain the right thing to do.
Ok, so would I try to bring a partner into the Lifestyle if She (my preeference) wasn't already ? Yes I would, but I'd not sacrifice my future for it. Swinging would remain an option still if things didn't work out.
People change and as they do the dynamic of any relationship changes as well. If you have someone very special in your life, Congratulations. If they are in the lifestyle already, then discussions about swinging are easier. If S/He isn't, then after being honest and open, you'll hopefully make the right decisions for you.
Ultimately, we all deserve to be happy, and sometimes those decisions are hard, but remain the right thing to do.
Ok, so would I try to bring a partner into the Lifestyle if She (my preeference) wasn't already ? Yes I would, but I'd not sacrifice my future for it. Swinging would remain an option still if things didn't work out.
First I would like nothing more than to meet someone who is already into swing or someone who is interested in doing so for the long and the short of it. After years of being in and out of jealousy riddled relationships I am ready for the freedom and pleasure that swinging promotes. I would love to share, watch, be watdhed, swap, groups and even a little kink, spankings, domination and such.
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At this point I would like to add a comment about the single male syndrome. I have been on this site for over two years and have had a couple of suggestions for meeting with no follow-up. I have been on another ALTernative webiste as well with the same although not the same amount of time. I don't know what is expected or desired and no one is willing to even talk when they have a slight interest so nothing happens. What's that all about? I have had quite a few views and yet the strongest response I have had was about a 48 year old picture of me with a couple of girls accusing me of publishing pictures of children, go figure. I have had a pictureless profile since then as I just haven't had the drive to update it. Maybe I am not the perfect single male model that everyone would like to meet but it would be nice if someone would take the time to just meet over a couple of drinks to say hi and talk about things even if not swinging. Hey, just a rant.. I don't expect everyone to understand the whine of a single male but then I am only a simple single male.
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At this point I would like to add a comment about the single male syndrome. I have been on this site for over two years and have had a couple of suggestions for meeting with no follow-up. I have been on another ALTernative webiste as well with the same although not the same amount of time. I don't know what is expected or desired and no one is willing to even talk when they have a slight interest so nothing happens. What's that all about? I have had quite a few views and yet the strongest response I have had was about a 48 year old picture of me with a couple of girls accusing me of publishing pictures of children, go figure. I have had a pictureless profile since then as I just haven't had the drive to update it. Maybe I am not the perfect single male model that everyone would like to meet but it would be nice if someone would take the time to just meet over a couple of drinks to say hi and talk about things even if not swinging. Hey, just a rant.. I don't expect everyone to understand the whine of a single male but then I am only a simple single male.
it all depends i would bring it up and see if she would want to. or if i find someone in the lifestyle would continue in it as long as all parties agree. as long as there is trut there can be no conflict i say
I may be a more uncommon case. My ex got me into swinging after we had be together for about six months. It was only after we had developed enough trust that being intimate with others wasn't a threat to the relationship. I feel like this question is almost "so singles, are you just here for a lot of sex, or do you actually appreciate the life style."
That is a totally valid question. I, for one, don't think I could answer whether I would want to return or bring a new partner in - as I don't have enough experience to say whether I want to swing for the long haul, myself.
On that note, I think a new topic is in order....
That is a totally valid question. I, for one, don't think I could answer whether I would want to return or bring a new partner in - as I don't have enough experience to say whether I want to swing for the long haul, myself.
On that note, I think a new topic is in order....
I don't know if I actually qualifiy as a single, I am married but my wife has absolutely no sex drive or even wish for intimacy. I have met a woman and her and I have become fairly serious but both of us still participate in the lifestyle.
After reading some of the comments... It begs the question aren't the singles on here advertising the fact that they are or want to be swingers? Looking for partners to explore the swinging experience? Or are they just people who are looking to get free sex? I'm not saying that any of it is wrong but singles used to date then have sex and then get involved with others. I'm not sure when the swinger sites became dating sites for sex starved singles. Not saying it's bad or good just asking.
WOW ????'s Well this is what we did but first let me tell you our past before we met: hubby was, as I called it a boy toy for some couples and was introduced to the lifestyle by one of those couples. Me I had done FMF in the past but never considered it to be "the lifestyle"...I was just having fun.
After going thru the University of Life in relationships I decided to take a new approach when meeting a guy. If things looked serious and it did with my now hubby, I laid all the cards on the table...this is me take it or leave it: I love girls, luv sex with the right person but only if you approve. I will never do anything behind your back as long as we both agree on this.....
Well turns out hubby puts his card on the table and tells me about the lifestyle and how he was introduced and what he likes and not likes.....It turns out we are the perfect match...
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After going thru the University of Life in relationships I decided to take a new approach when meeting a guy. If things looked serious and it did with my now hubby, I laid all the cards on the table...this is me take it or leave it: I love girls, luv sex with the right person but only if you approve. I will never do anything behind your back as long as we both agree on this.....
Well turns out hubby puts his card on the table and tells me about the lifestyle and how he was introduced and what he likes and not likes.....It turns out we are the perfect match...
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Sounds somewhat familiar...I (the guy) was somewhat involved in the lifestyle a few times before meeting her, and after we got together the subject came up one night. I was somewhat reluctant to tell her I HAD in fact participated with a few couples, but i was honest with her, and I was blown away to find out it was actually a huge fantasy for HER!
Didn't take long for us to find a willing couple, and we've been swinging together since. In my opinion, It's really brought us much closer together.
As always, honesty is ALWAYS the best policy. Had I lied to her, I would've been carrying around a secret that would've driven me crazy. There's no garuntee that the person you're with will understand, or even participate, but it's just the right thing to do.
*And off subject, the guys on here who post pictures of their wives/girlfreinds/internet models to attract attention, but are actually playing alone - shame on you. This is a major deception, and would definitely disqualify a meeting with us. If you're not honest about WHO YOU ARE on HERE, why would we invite you into our HOME? I NEVER posted photos of anyone but MYSELF when I was on here alone, and never had any problems receieving emails. A good personality will take you farther than you can imagine!
(sorry, just seems to be happeneing ALOT lately, and I needed to vent
Didn't take long for us to find a willing couple, and we've been swinging together since. In my opinion, It's really brought us much closer together.
As always, honesty is ALWAYS the best policy. Had I lied to her, I would've been carrying around a secret that would've driven me crazy. There's no garuntee that the person you're with will understand, or even participate, but it's just the right thing to do.
*And off subject, the guys on here who post pictures of their wives/girlfreinds/internet models to attract attention, but are actually playing alone - shame on you. This is a major deception, and would definitely disqualify a meeting with us. If you're not honest about WHO YOU ARE on HERE, why would we invite you into our HOME? I NEVER posted photos of anyone but MYSELF when I was on here alone, and never had any problems receieving emails. A good personality will take you farther than you can imagine!
(sorry, just seems to be happeneing ALOT lately, and I needed to vent
OMG...tell me about it...what is it with these internet photos...like we can't tell