We have been on this site for a while (well, AFF) and have been looking for a woman to join us for our first experience in this lifestyle. We've been searching for years really, and have only just recently attacked it with gusto. But, I swear! Finding a good looking, young, classy woman to join us as a couple is hard as hell! I see all these pics of girls with other hot women, and I don't see how it's been so hard for us!!
Any tips, suggestions? I'm just dying to be with a woman, and feel like it will never happen unless we join with another couple, which we might do eventually, but would prefer to have a girl join us first. We're laid back, fun, easy couple who is totally respectful.
Thoughts?!
What have your experiences been like with a threesome, and with other couples? Single women respond too!
Any tips, suggestions? I'm just dying to be with a woman, and feel like it will never happen unless we join with another couple, which we might do eventually, but would prefer to have a girl join us first. We're laid back, fun, easy couple who is totally respectful.
Thoughts?!
What have your experiences been like with a threesome, and with other couples? Single women respond too!
You can be rest assured your profile theivery did not help...
Seriously...You've eliminated 99% of the population...Good luck
Seriously...You've eliminated 99% of the population...Good luck
Thanks for the thoughts, they help! I'll try to adjust the profile. Hope I didn't offend anyone :-(
Definately make an adjustment on your profile. We've found that the more specific and particular a couple is, the fewer chances they have of actually finding what they are looking for.
That's not to say it's not ok to be picky...Lord knows both Siren and I are picky, but we also realize we could "pick" ourselves right out of the Lifestyle. You have to find a good balance, and always be open to the unexpected.
Our experiences with the "unicorn" have always been from the most unexpected places.
~J~
That's not to say it's not ok to be picky...Lord knows both Siren and I are picky, but we also realize we could "pick" ourselves right out of the Lifestyle. You have to find a good balance, and always be open to the unexpected.
Our experiences with the "unicorn" have always been from the most unexpected places.
~J~
The "Cinderella" you are looking for might exist. The chances of you finding one is slim to none. You are very beautiful and your male half would be one lucky SOB if you find someone as hot as you are. It would become a sensual overload I think. If you change your wants to maybe a couple with a "bi-female", you would have much greater luck. I think my wife is beautiful and we know other couples that have gorgeous wife's. But they come as a package deal. After looking at your pictures, I wish I were a woman because yes, I would want to lick there.. :-) Good luck in your quest.
UtHot
UtHot
Thanks again for more thoughts...I have one other questions. This one perplexes me, and perhaps the answer is a personality issue. With every single girl we have talked to...we'll chat back and forth a bunch, the conversation getting really hot and exciting (mutually), and we'll make tentative plans to meet up in the next week or so, there will be no indication that I've said something wrong, and then...poof, I don't hear from them again. Thoughts? Is this common? Are these girls just flaky, or not real, posers,shy? etc?
We initially didn't want to venture with couples, b/c I wasn't interested in a swap and was worried that the men would end up feeling somewhat left out or awkward just watching...but I think we are going in that direction, b/c the solo girl is too unpredictable...I have to say I feel for single men out their trying to get a date or some lovin...cuz it just ain't happenin'! I apologize if I was ever a tease to anyone!
PS - is the "profile theivery" on my page too harsh? I just feel too bad not responding or telling someone we're not interested b/c I dont' find them attractive.
We initially didn't want to venture with couples, b/c I wasn't interested in a swap and was worried that the men would end up feeling somewhat left out or awkward just watching...but I think we are going in that direction, b/c the solo girl is too unpredictable...I have to say I feel for single men out their trying to get a date or some lovin...cuz it just ain't happenin'! I apologize if I was ever a tease to anyone!
PS - is the "profile theivery" on my page too harsh? I just feel too bad not responding or telling someone we're not interested b/c I dont' find them attractive.
Just put in your profile something like we have in ours: If you don't get a response from us take it as a polite "no".
I think this has been hashed over and over again in the forums...lol
~J~
I think this has been hashed over and over again in the forums...lol
~J~
We have made it crystal clear many times on our profile that if you aren't above average in the looks department not to inquire. Hint: IT DOESN"T WORK! You'll get every Billy Joe Bob redneck and hatchet face still sending you emails. People just don't get it.
If you want to meet us, I'm sure I could handle just hangin and having a drink with your hubby, watching, while you two vixens make like Magellan on each others bodies. No hard feeling here. :-)
UtHot
If you want to meet us, I'm sure I could handle just hangin and having a drink with your hubby, watching, while you two vixens make like Magellan on each others bodies. No hard feeling here. :-)
UtHot
I'd say the single "girl" you chatted with was probably a guy. Or a chick who has no intention of meeting....... probably just getting off to the fantasy.
we have recently had luck with single female and it has worked out well.
but it took us a long time and we feel it was worth it
we have spent alot of time chatting with females and supposed females it is just part of the weeding out prosess
it takes time and some luck
but it took us a long time and we feel it was worth it
we have spent alot of time chatting with females and supposed females it is just part of the weeding out prosess
it takes time and some luck
I'll chime-in reiterating what other have said. First, the reason these single females disappear, never meeting you is because they are horny guys playing online games and looking at pictures to get-off.
Second, we agree with Thoughtgarden 100%. EVERY FMF we've had came from the most unexpected place when we weren't even looking at the moment. These are women we met at non-swinger parties, night clubs, etc.
I think this is because for the most part, unlike single guys, single women are not actively pursuing threesomes and moresomes. Single women are not creating the number of profiles on swingers sites like single men. If they happen, great. If they don't, that's okay too. It's now that they aren't interested, they're just not out there pursuing it on a daily basis.
A couple of suggestions:
1) Look everywhere. Remember when you used to go out to clubs by yourself or with a friend when you were single and you'd meet someone? Same thing, except now you're doing it as a couple. Instead of boy picking-up girl, or girl picking-up guy, it's now couple picking-up girl. You are BOTH dating her, not just one of you.
2) Couples is a good place to start, even if you are not interested in full swap right now. Going to the meet and greets and getting to know people and them getting to know you helps. You may find a couple that is okay with playing solo and would love to fulfill your fantasy with wifey playing with you two. But, if you don't get out there and get known to people you'll never find them.
Good luck! And keep trying. We were in the lifestyle as a full swap couple for quite a while before our first FMF, and it literally came-out of thin air when we were least expecting it.
Second, we agree with Thoughtgarden 100%. EVERY FMF we've had came from the most unexpected place when we weren't even looking at the moment. These are women we met at non-swinger parties, night clubs, etc.
I think this is because for the most part, unlike single guys, single women are not actively pursuing threesomes and moresomes. Single women are not creating the number of profiles on swingers sites like single men. If they happen, great. If they don't, that's okay too. It's now that they aren't interested, they're just not out there pursuing it on a daily basis.
A couple of suggestions:
1) Look everywhere. Remember when you used to go out to clubs by yourself or with a friend when you were single and you'd meet someone? Same thing, except now you're doing it as a couple. Instead of boy picking-up girl, or girl picking-up guy, it's now couple picking-up girl. You are BOTH dating her, not just one of you.
2) Couples is a good place to start, even if you are not interested in full swap right now. Going to the meet and greets and getting to know people and them getting to know you helps. You may find a couple that is okay with playing solo and would love to fulfill your fantasy with wifey playing with you two. But, if you don't get out there and get known to people you'll never find them.
Good luck! And keep trying. We were in the lifestyle as a full swap couple for quite a while before our first FMF, and it literally came-out of thin air when we were least expecting it.
As to the whole idea of not responding...We usually say, Thanks, but we do not think we are a match...good luck...No reason is necessary...We just said not thanks and confirmed receipt...
Your profile is much better now, in our opinion...
As to what you are looking for, if you put oit in as specific as it was, it eliminated a lot...NOW you are open to anyone who thinks they are hotties...Bravo!!!! And thanks for not taking offense at our (his actually) comments...He is a bit brash, but does not lie...
Your profile is much better now, in our opinion...
As to what you are looking for, if you put oit in as specific as it was, it eliminated a lot...NOW you are open to anyone who thinks they are hotties...Bravo!!!! And thanks for not taking offense at our (his actually) comments...He is a bit brash, but does not lie...
Here's how you do it.
Stop looking on here for your elusive playfriend, you won't find her here.
I'm (Mike) in a band and I see this going on time after time after time.
(LOT of fun watching from the stage!)
Go to a bar where there is good live music and "DANCING"
Scope out the dance floor and have "her" get into some
sexy dancing with ladies who are already doing that.
(They're always hot dancing and teasing where we play)
It helps to wait till just a bit later in the night when everyone is
loosened up from drinking.
While dancing be bold and ask if a threesome sounds interesting.
At a good meat market bar where everyone is looking to "hook up"
it shouldn't be too difficult for "her" to find someone who would be
interested in a threesome for the evening.
Good luck out there!
Mike
Stop looking on here for your elusive playfriend, you won't find her here.
I'm (Mike) in a band and I see this going on time after time after time.
(LOT of fun watching from the stage!)
Go to a bar where there is good live music and "DANCING"
Scope out the dance floor and have "her" get into some
sexy dancing with ladies who are already doing that.
(They're always hot dancing and teasing where we play)
It helps to wait till just a bit later in the night when everyone is
loosened up from drinking.
While dancing be bold and ask if a threesome sounds interesting.
At a good meat market bar where everyone is looking to "hook up"
it shouldn't be too difficult for "her" to find someone who would be
interested in a threesome for the evening.
Good luck out there!
Mike
We have had three girl friends, None were from a site like this. The first two we met at a club. The last one we worked with. On her last day at work he drove her home and she asked. "Since we no longer work together can I be with your wife?" He was shocked as we both thought the fact she liked women was under wraps at work. Don't give up but think outside the box.
There are many single Bi Females out there Hubby and I only went that way for years. The thing is you the Female have to put it out there. I've meet and we've dated a lot of women.
Look around I've meet women Shopping, Art Shows, Ect. Now We're not from Utah we are just here for a while working,but I meet and we hooked up with a sweet girl at the Mall. In Utah is a little harder to find them but there out there don't give up. GOOD LUCK
Look around I've meet women Shopping, Art Shows, Ect. Now We're not from Utah we are just here for a while working,but I meet and we hooked up with a sweet girl at the Mall. In Utah is a little harder to find them but there out there don't give up. GOOD LUCK
This whole thread cracks me up;
Beautiful, sexy, toned, tan, fit, attractive people looking for another sexy, toned, fit, tan attractive, beautiful female.
Oh.. and if you're slightly less than "barbie" status... please don't waste our time, nor your time by thinking you're going to get a piece of this.
Pretty funny, actually.. something to be said for sheer transparency.
Beautiful, sexy, toned, tan, fit, attractive people looking for another sexy, toned, fit, tan attractive, beautiful female.
Oh.. and if you're slightly less than "barbie" status... please don't waste our time, nor your time by thinking you're going to get a piece of this.
Pretty funny, actually.. something to be said for sheer transparency.
This may not make sense but we found our "third" when we weren't even looking. After a few months of playing around she moved in with us and has been here now over 5 years.
The elusive triangle does exist, but we never found anything while we were looking. Maybe try giving up the hunt and she'll find you - worked for us!
The elusive triangle does exist, but we never found anything while we were looking. Maybe try giving up the hunt and she'll find you - worked for us!
we have ours..lol
but not from here
kristylynn
but not from here
kristylynn
Hi there,
I think there's a pretty simple solution to meeting the Single Female.
Be yourselves.
Let them laugh.
And take the advice of everyone else...stop looking and you're almost sure to get what you're trying to find.
Oh...be patient!
Voila!
Sounds simple and it is.
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On a serious note...define (between you and your partner) what you're looking for and how you'll actually handle a 3-some. That can get tricky if one of you wants it more than the other.
Have fun! Good luck!
-K_T
I think there's a pretty simple solution to meeting the Single Female.
Be yourselves.
Let them laugh.
And take the advice of everyone else...stop looking and you're almost sure to get what you're trying to find.
Oh...be patient!
Voila!
Sounds simple and it is.
----
On a serious note...define (between you and your partner) what you're looking for and how you'll actually handle a 3-some. That can get tricky if one of you wants it more than the other.
Have fun! Good luck!
-K_T
its been our experince that single women tend to come from relationships we have outside the internet.
just our two cents
S & C
just our two cents
S & C
We also have spent years looking for the single female and had absolutly no luck what so ever.. We open alittle and decided that we would meet couples that have a bifem in them .... Alot more luck there.. As far as HOT well to each our own .. We too are picky but have found that each and everyone of like differant people... The calls and chat and so on TEASE is all i can say... Met or tried to meet alot of flakey people but then again thats life so on we go .. Keeping our eyes open and looking always for hot naughty females or couples ;-) ever you decided to go into couples let us kow for sure.. Female on female promised for sure
Our first time was with a single female. We will never repeat that. It turned out to be a nightmare. We have also been with couples where only the girls play. I am fine with that, I actually enjoy watching my wife get off more than being with the other girl myself. You might look for couples where only the girls play and the guys just watch. You will be able to find this a lot easier than a single female, plus you will not have all the drama that comes with a single female.
well our first time was with a single female turned out great .. we have been in the lifestyle for about 4 or 5 yrs and have not had much luck with anything since the first time .. we have met with 1 female and 3 single guys 0 couples in that time but we are in north alabama ( middle of the bible belt ) lol dont know if that has anything to do with it or not lol could be as simple as our looks ..
Thanks for all the tips guys! Funny enough...that post was MONTHS ago...and we've since taken teh advice from several of the people who replied...we decided to meet up with couples, and I think it's probably a better experience, b/c there are more dynamics...more conversation...and I worry so much about just finding someone out there...b/c when alcohol's involved, I just don't know if you can trust someone about STD's. Scares the hell out of me!
Anyway, thanks to the few who supported me on our preferences...it's funny how riled up some people on this site will get about your preferences...whether it's sexually, or physical appearance, etc.
We had a crazy couple respond (after telling them that we were looking for girl/girl play) that "they could get that show on TV, that we were in dreamworld, and that we would probably only be playing with fat asses and old farts (no kidding, I swear they said this!) and to kindly take them off our friends list" - then they blocked us :-)
I just think it's hilarious when people get upset over someone's preferences. Being in Utah, I'm sure many of us understand that the pure existence of this site upsets some people...so why contribute?
Mean people suck is my feeling - sorry I digress.
Hope everyone's having fun in their choices, and happy new year!!
Anyway, thanks to the few who supported me on our preferences...it's funny how riled up some people on this site will get about your preferences...whether it's sexually, or physical appearance, etc.
We had a crazy couple respond (after telling them that we were looking for girl/girl play) that "they could get that show on TV, that we were in dreamworld, and that we would probably only be playing with fat asses and old farts (no kidding, I swear they said this!) and to kindly take them off our friends list" - then they blocked us :-)
I just think it's hilarious when people get upset over someone's preferences. Being in Utah, I'm sure many of us understand that the pure existence of this site upsets some people...so why contribute?
Mean people suck is my feeling - sorry I digress.
Hope everyone's having fun in their choices, and happy new year!!
Single women are overrated, they're no better than a married woman.
-D-
-D-
Amen Utah-Cpl-2006...that's been our experience as well!
And a big Amen to TequilaRose...the Golden Uni is not necessarily any better than a married female, except for that baggage called a hubby that perhaps many couples looking for single gals don't want to have to deal with.
And a big Amen to TequilaRose...the Golden Uni is not necessarily any better than a married female, except for that baggage called a hubby that perhaps many couples looking for single gals don't want to have to deal with.
Oh, I don't know. Select single women are a blast!
But then again, we usually have no trouble playing with couples either. Since Ms. K_T does hunger for women a lot of the time, it's nice to be on good terms with some of the delicious Golden Unicorns around here. Made some great friends!
But, like any segment here, some are great, some are bad. We usually weed them out before we actually meet them (IM, email, phones, etc.)
-K_T
But then again, we usually have no trouble playing with couples either. Since Ms. K_T does hunger for women a lot of the time, it's nice to be on good terms with some of the delicious Golden Unicorns around here. Made some great friends!
But, like any segment here, some are great, some are bad. We usually weed them out before we actually meet them (IM, email, phones, etc.)
-K_T
ok ok - lots of advice on finding single women..thanks guys! But I haven't heard anyone address the STD issue when meeting people in bars, or out...I want an honest opinion of how often the question is asked when you meet people.
Do most of you "try to get a feel for if they're clean" or ask straight up, or feel like a condom is enough? Especially when girl girl oral play is involved...I feel like the only way to feel secure is to know they've been tested recently...
so what do ya'll do about that? on swingular it's easy to ask in back and forth chats...but I feel like a bar or real life setting makes it much more difficult
Do most of you "try to get a feel for if they're clean" or ask straight up, or feel like a condom is enough? Especially when girl girl oral play is involved...I feel like the only way to feel secure is to know they've been tested recently...
so what do ya'll do about that? on swingular it's easy to ask in back and forth chats...but I feel like a bar or real life setting makes it much more difficult
We have had the same experience as you. Fortunately we HAVE found a lot of fun finding couples. The beautiful thing that has happened for us, is that the Mrs. can go on a date and have fun and myself the same. We always set it up so there will be no distractions and it has proven to build and even better trusting relationship for us.
As far as the G/G thing, the Mrs has not had that one on one but I it is totally open to happen should she invite one of the other Mrs we have found here.
Good luck!
As far as the G/G thing, the Mrs has not had that one on one but I it is totally open to happen should she invite one of the other Mrs we have found here.
Good luck!
been there done that more then i can say lol
and i like it when they have never been with a girl
and barely legal..but thats what i do hehe
say hello to raquel she is lesbian and one of my many girl friends
kristylynn
and i like it when they have never been with a girl
and barely legal..but thats what i do hehe
say hello to raquel she is lesbian and one of my many girl friends
kristylynn
Yeah, did you check her ID? lol
-D-
-D-
duh yes believe it or not she is 19 in this photo
we put her in a cheerleaders uniform & pigtails and she looked all of
12 lol i guess you never looked at my website,,hehe
kristy
we put her in a cheerleaders uniform & pigtails and she looked all of
12 lol i guess you never looked at my website,,hehe
kristy
LMAO.... who is Raquel and how do we find her?
Actually, the Mrs. want the Mrs "CURIOUSBLONDE" all to herself one on one! Are you up for that?
through me hehe
eating at the y is one of my favorite pastimes
I like girls better then guys lol
kristy
eating at the y is one of my favorite pastimes
I like girls better then guys lol
kristy