Hi all! Yes its me again, and yes another vent.
Lately I have been thinking a lot about disrespect, why it happens, if I let it happen, and more importantly what can be done about it.
There is this little girl, her and Mr Classy have been friends since their teens, in his mind she is "the one who got away" and I have been recently informed that she feels the same way, They were interested in each other in high school but neither had the "huevos" to act upon it.
Now its 8 years later, hes a stud, successful, truly a catch. Shes a trashy, jobless, single mother (Nobody is really sure who's the Daddy of her 3 kids), who just got out of jail for cultivation of Marijuana.
They have been friends forever, they talk once in a while, but I had noticed that its only when I was not around. Being a female, I am not OK with "secret" conversations, being a swinger I believe there is nothing to hide from me EVER.
I told Mr of my apprehensions of their quiet talk and explained that if they spoke in front of me there would be no question as to what the conversation was about. He agreed and said that from then on he would only talk to her within earshot.
Well, sounded good didn't it?!, she cannot do this, she will not even look in my direction, even when I speak to her, she wont look at me! and continues to wait til my back is turned to try to get him alone.
He is convinced that she is intimidated by me and is only "cowering away" and I should feel flattered that I am so powerful. OK WHATEVER!! I think she has a guilty conscience, I think that she knows shes trying to get with a married guy, and that's not cool, even by swinger standards its all about honesty.
I feel this is disrespect, I feel like even if she only wants to be his friend she has to go through me. In my opinion it is disrespect to try to bypass me for any reason.
Now the question, how do I handle this? This is not my friend so in some ways I think its not my job to handle it, but Mr does nothing, just keeps playing her game. Do I confront her and call her out? or do I ignore it? I know being a swinger I should just let him have her, but its WAY to close to home, (and also I believe shes to trashy for us, even if we did play at home, a girls gotta have her standards right?)
Anyway thanks, and happy swinging.
~Mrs~
Lately I have been thinking a lot about disrespect, why it happens, if I let it happen, and more importantly what can be done about it.
There is this little girl, her and Mr Classy have been friends since their teens, in his mind she is "the one who got away" and I have been recently informed that she feels the same way, They were interested in each other in high school but neither had the "huevos" to act upon it.
Now its 8 years later, hes a stud, successful, truly a catch. Shes a trashy, jobless, single mother (Nobody is really sure who's the Daddy of her 3 kids), who just got out of jail for cultivation of Marijuana.
They have been friends forever, they talk once in a while, but I had noticed that its only when I was not around. Being a female, I am not OK with "secret" conversations, being a swinger I believe there is nothing to hide from me EVER.
I told Mr of my apprehensions of their quiet talk and explained that if they spoke in front of me there would be no question as to what the conversation was about. He agreed and said that from then on he would only talk to her within earshot.
Well, sounded good didn't it?!, she cannot do this, she will not even look in my direction, even when I speak to her, she wont look at me! and continues to wait til my back is turned to try to get him alone.
He is convinced that she is intimidated by me and is only "cowering away" and I should feel flattered that I am so powerful. OK WHATEVER!! I think she has a guilty conscience, I think that she knows shes trying to get with a married guy, and that's not cool, even by swinger standards its all about honesty.
I feel this is disrespect, I feel like even if she only wants to be his friend she has to go through me. In my opinion it is disrespect to try to bypass me for any reason.
Now the question, how do I handle this? This is not my friend so in some ways I think its not my job to handle it, but Mr does nothing, just keeps playing her game. Do I confront her and call her out? or do I ignore it? I know being a swinger I should just let him have her, but its WAY to close to home, (and also I believe shes to trashy for us, even if we did play at home, a girls gotta have her standards right?)
Anyway thanks, and happy swinging.
~Mrs~
It sounds to me that she is being disrespectful but unintentionally. why not take this person to lunch (just the 2 of you) and just talk. she probably does feel guilty about her feelings towards the Mr. and doesn't want to cause trouble with you.
the Mr. might want to put some distance between himself and this woman if for no other reason than to send a strong message that you are his wife and you are the one he supports.
-Richard
the Mr. might want to put some distance between himself and this woman if for no other reason than to send a strong message that you are his wife and you are the one he supports.
-Richard
ah hell just shoot the bitch
no just kidding i think mr spalding hit it on the head.if she refuses at least you tried to be civil.your mister should back you on this as i am sure you would back him if it were reversed.but then did you not have a craving for another friend of yours?so introduce the two of them.
no just kidding i think mr spalding hit it on the head.if she refuses at least you tried to be civil.your mister should back you on this as i am sure you would back him if it were reversed.but then did you not have a craving for another friend of yours?so introduce the two of them.
I can truly appreciate your feelings on this. My personal thoughts on this would be that you should do nothing else other than make it known to her either in person or through Mr. Classy that you have no problem with a friendship as long as it