We have been in this lifestyle for over 14 years now. We have have some good times & some bad times. There have been some folks that want to "play" with my wife but not with me.
What we would like to know is, what are your feelings on "interracial sex"? We know that it is not for everyone, how would you handle it?
Blkwhite
What we would like to know is, what are your feelings on "interracial sex"? We know that it is not for everyone, how would you handle it?
Blkwhite
We've had some very pleasurable experiences. We've run into a few couples that wouldn't play with an interracial couple but as distasteful as that may be, they are entitled to feel that way. Swinging is probably the only thing that you get 100% of what your looking for so if that's a couples choice we're happy that they passed us by because it probably wouldn't have been a good experience anyway. We've also run into couples where they were only looking for the Black experience and that is just as distasteful for us. Swinging is a constant learning experience for us.
Wow what a delicate topic...but a good one. You know, I'm going to be bold and be the first white couple to branch out on this one.....
In all honesty we've never played with an interracial couple (if I could spell it would be better LOL). However, I'm not saying that we would NEVER do it either. My husband has "played" with a black girl at the club one night and he thought it was pretty cool. But as a couple, we've never been approached by an interracial couple. I guess if the personalities matched, then I would say we would probably try it.
But let me assure you one thing....people in this lifestyle intrigue us in many different ways. They are not only discriminatory to interracial relationships, but many others also. I've seen people discriminate against age, size, shape, color....you name it.
So as for your questions....yes we would give it a try, but know many people who say they absolutely would not. So "to each his own". We wish you luck meeting folks and just continue being up front and honest with folks...and do like I do...ignore the rude and stupid ones LOL. Have a great day!!
In all honesty we've never played with an interracial couple (if I could spell it would be better LOL). However, I'm not saying that we would NEVER do it either. My husband has "played" with a black girl at the club one night and he thought it was pretty cool. But as a couple, we've never been approached by an interracial couple. I guess if the personalities matched, then I would say we would probably try it.
But let me assure you one thing....people in this lifestyle intrigue us in many different ways. They are not only discriminatory to interracial relationships, but many others also. I've seen people discriminate against age, size, shape, color....you name it.
So as for your questions....yes we would give it a try, but know many people who say they absolutely would not. So "to each his own". We wish you luck meeting folks and just continue being up front and honest with folks...and do like I do...ignore the rude and stupid ones LOL. Have a great day!!
We don't look at it as interracial.Couples are couples to us. It is personality that counts with us.The wife has been with a black man several times and also have other black friends so we don't look at them as being any different then we are.Sorry you have had problems with this.
Hope things get better for you.
Hope things get better for you.
We approach all people from a color-blind standpoint. We have had several pleasurable encounters with people of many different races and backgrounds.
I have friends where the male is black and the lady white. We have been together many times, playing in the pool and bedroom. I have never had a problem with mixed couples. The time has come when we all should put aside the color and take the person for their personallity and how we click. I have always wanted to be with an ebony lady, but it seems like they are afraid of being seen with a white man, due to presure from the black community.
I find that this topic, no matter what the forum, is always an interesting one. I am part of an interracial couple, like the first two respondents. In our own experiences, on swinger sites (we are paying members on two), we have found that we don't get positive responses from interracial or black couples and very little, positive, response from others. Now, having said that, let me explain in this way: Like many couples, regardless of ethnic makeup, we'll have initial contact initiated by us or other couples. Usually, one in twenty of the couples who contact us, we aren't interested in either because they are too over the top (hardcore); too far away; or through a combination of profile and looks they just aren't "our type." The other scenario, if you are expectant, can cause you to walk around saying to yourself..."WTF." We get many responses that just say, basically, "sorry but we don't think they we would be a match or compatible."
In this last scenario, these couples, for the most part are white, therefore, one could assume that the reasons for the negative responses could be due to my being the black half of this couple but, I don't. Yes, the thought has crossed my mind and I would be a liar if I said that it wasn't part of my mental process when trying to divine why "we may not be compatible" but, instead, I just go with the flow and take the canned response for what it is - their pat way for saying no. Now, in no way does this mean that we don't get to meet any couples. as a matter of fact what it boils down to is this: we wind up meeting very few couples but the ones we do meet are pretty much right on and, if you wish, our cup of tea - which is the way it should be.
Coming back from this digression and getting more on target and to the point, I would be inclined to believe that as "diverse" in fantasies and ethnic/racial makeups as the swinging lifestyle is, we don't meet that many folks who appear to be truly open-minded enough to be willing to meet with this interracial couple. Is it that way all over? I won't even speculate - not having experienced the lifestyle anywhere else but here in Philly. With the plethora of groups on yahoo and msn dedicated to folks who want to experience some form of interracial activity, one would think that there are many out there who wish to indulge. However, the internet being what it is (a hotbed of virtual phoniness, fake/invented personalities and much voyeurism), I'd be inclined that this supposed attitude of diversity does not lend itself that much to IR contact beyond fetish.
Interracial relationships took a long time to become mainstrean, so to speak, and is still frowned upon, though not as heavily as say, the sixties and before. I would not be surprised if it would be some time before it becomes something that doesn't need to be questioned with a "why not?" within the swinging lifestyle. Everyone says that personality is the key but, human nature being what it is, looks and thereby, initial visual perception, is what dictates how things will proceed. If one can not "see" themselves with a black or interracial couple then personality will never be experienced. Let's face it, all of this starts in the mind. what we wish to experience is dictated by what our mind can see and feel. If someone can't see it or feel it...they ain't gonna want to experience it.
I've said enough...I will step down from my soapbox and sit in the corner.
Take Care
Rick (the male half of CR8TIVECPL)
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In this last scenario, these couples, for the most part are white, therefore, one could assume that the reasons for the negative responses could be due to my being the black half of this couple but, I don't. Yes, the thought has crossed my mind and I would be a liar if I said that it wasn't part of my mental process when trying to divine why "we may not be compatible" but, instead, I just go with the flow and take the canned response for what it is - their pat way for saying no. Now, in no way does this mean that we don't get to meet any couples. as a matter of fact what it boils down to is this: we wind up meeting very few couples but the ones we do meet are pretty much right on and, if you wish, our cup of tea - which is the way it should be.
Coming back from this digression and getting more on target and to the point, I would be inclined to believe that as "diverse" in fantasies and ethnic/racial makeups as the swinging lifestyle is, we don't meet that many folks who appear to be truly open-minded enough to be willing to meet with this interracial couple. Is it that way all over? I won't even speculate - not having experienced the lifestyle anywhere else but here in Philly. With the plethora of groups on yahoo and msn dedicated to folks who want to experience some form of interracial activity, one would think that there are many out there who wish to indulge. However, the internet being what it is (a hotbed of virtual phoniness, fake/invented personalities and much voyeurism), I'd be inclined that this supposed attitude of diversity does not lend itself that much to IR contact beyond fetish.
Interracial relationships took a long time to become mainstrean, so to speak, and is still frowned upon, though not as heavily as say, the sixties and before. I would not be surprised if it would be some time before it becomes something that doesn't need to be questioned with a "why not?" within the swinging lifestyle. Everyone says that personality is the key but, human nature being what it is, looks and thereby, initial visual perception, is what dictates how things will proceed. If one can not "see" themselves with a black or interracial couple then personality will never be experienced. Let's face it, all of this starts in the mind. what we wish to experience is dictated by what our mind can see and feel. If someone can't see it or feel it...they ain't gonna want to experience it.
I've said enough...I will step down from my soapbox and sit in the corner.
Take Care
Rick (the male half of CR8TIVECPL)
([email protected])
Female half here: Yes, to each his/her own...and variety is the spice of life and all those other cliche's out there that fit...all are true. What I don't care for is the people that ASSUME that I'm involved with black/interracial because of some "big taboo" (I'm originally from the south so those that know seem to take it in the wrong direction)...or some "visual" thing (of course the contrast is striking and part of the "turn on" but then I find black men the most attractive men on the planet period)...or some "size thing" (oh please, size for me isn't an issue unless under 6 - it's what you do with what you got - got it!!!).
I've even basically lost a job because a co-worker saw me out on a date with a black man and the next day it was all over the office (I didn't hide my preference but I also don't rub it in people's faces, it's my business and my life). Of course "budget reasons" was the excuse I got when they laid me off, but my job was posted online again the next week by the company (and my quality of work wasn't the issue - prior to the "black gossip" my boss had praised my work).
I have one family member (my half sister and her husband) who no longer talk to me due to their dislike of my preference and relationship - but that is their choice and their loss.
I also get "looked at" because I don't "hide" my relationship and I'm not ashamed in any way in any manner, but I've had so-called friends wonder "why" at me. Needless to say I limit or totally end my assoication with such people because life is too short (and meant to be lived and have fun both in my opinion) to have to deal or associate with such small-minded people. Yes, to each his/her own and BABY I KNOW WHAT I LIKE!!!!
Oh, since honesty is my policy - no I have not always been involved interracially and started seeing/dating black men after my divorce (my ex was white because that is who I was dating and "fell in love" with at the time)...because people are people...race isn't an issue - it's just like I said...I find black men more attractive...period.
Mary
I've even basically lost a job because a co-worker saw me out on a date with a black man and the next day it was all over the office (I didn't hide my preference but I also don't rub it in people's faces, it's my business and my life). Of course "budget reasons" was the excuse I got when they laid me off, but my job was posted online again the next week by the company (and my quality of work wasn't the issue - prior to the "black gossip" my boss had praised my work).
I have one family member (my half sister and her husband) who no longer talk to me due to their dislike of my preference and relationship - but that is their choice and their loss.
I also get "looked at" because I don't "hide" my relationship and I'm not ashamed in any way in any manner, but I've had so-called friends wonder "why" at me. Needless to say I limit or totally end my assoication with such people because life is too short (and meant to be lived and have fun both in my opinion) to have to deal or associate with such small-minded people. Yes, to each his/her own and BABY I KNOW WHAT I LIKE!!!!
Oh, since honesty is my policy - no I have not always been involved interracially and started seeing/dating black men after my divorce (my ex was white because that is who I was dating and "fell in love" with at the time)...because people are people...race isn't an issue - it's just like I said...I find black men more attractive...period.
Mary
Well now, this is interesting...and seemingly a topic of some controversy to many of the members. So I have to jump on my soapbox as well to express my humble opinion (though my wife says it's probably anything but humble...lol). We are a very discriminating couple, and by that, I mean we filter responses from folks we feel are too far out, too far away or too far off the mark for us. We love to meet people, regardless of ethnic background, who are real and compatible with us, and of course, attractive to us as well. But we are colorblind when it comes to those choices and have had many experiences with white, black and interracial couples and singles (there was even an oriental girl and her black boyfriend that were very hot!!!)
We're open to any situation involving caring, sensible people and their color is of no consequence at all. And, if the truth be known, there is something definitely hot about the color contrast at the very least...and who doesn't love a little chocolate now and then?
Jim and Lynn
We're open to any situation involving caring, sensible people and their color is of no consequence at all. And, if the truth be known, there is something definitely hot about the color contrast at the very least...and who doesn't love a little chocolate now and then?
Jim and Lynn
A good subject but I really wish it wasn't worth talking about.
We all have our criteria or what we look for in couples we are going to meet. Race is not a part of our criteria as either a positive or a negative. We tend to go with total design of the couple including personality, looks and sexual compatability.
If race is a real issue for you, (as either a positive or a negative) then we are white and perhaps not the right couple for you. Not because we are white but because we really don't have time to fool around with your issues and I doubt if race is the only one. If it is not an issue for you then we are fun loving, sexy and fairly attractive.
I wonder if sometimes we make this sort of issue worse by somehow expecting it to be an problem. We go into the situation with the race chip on our shoulder and create a self fullfilling prophecy.
If you are an attractive, fun loving sexy couple and have run into this problem, then look us up and we would like to buy you a drink. My first toast of the evening will be to the ladies. Our second toast will be to anyone who is not interested in joining us. We can raise our glasses and tell them all to go to hell together.
We all have our criteria or what we look for in couples we are going to meet. Race is not a part of our criteria as either a positive or a negative. We tend to go with total design of the couple including personality, looks and sexual compatability.
If race is a real issue for you, (as either a positive or a negative) then we are white and perhaps not the right couple for you. Not because we are white but because we really don't have time to fool around with your issues and I doubt if race is the only one. If it is not an issue for you then we are fun loving, sexy and fairly attractive.
I wonder if sometimes we make this sort of issue worse by somehow expecting it to be an problem. We go into the situation with the race chip on our shoulder and create a self fullfilling prophecy.
If you are an attractive, fun loving sexy couple and have run into this problem, then look us up and we would like to buy you a drink. My first toast of the evening will be to the ladies. Our second toast will be to anyone who is not interested in joining us. We can raise our glasses and tell them all to go to hell together.
A good subject but I really wish it wasn't worth talking about.
We all have our criteria or what we look for in couples we are going to meet. Race is not a part of our criteria as either a positive or a negative. We tend to go with total design of the couple including personality, looks and sexual compatability.
If race is a real issue for you, (as either a positive or a negative) then we are white and perhaps not the right couple for you. Not because we are white but because we really don't have time to fool around with your issues and I doubt if race is the only one. If it is not an issue for you then we are fun loving, sexy and fairly attractive.
I wonder if sometimes we make this sort of issue worse by somehow expecting it to be an problem. We go into the situation with the race chip on our shoulder and create a self fullfilling prophecy.
If you are an attractive, fun loving sexy couple and have run into this problem, then look us up and we would like to buy you a drink. My first toast of the evening will be to the ladies. Our second toast will be to anyone who is not interested in joining us. We can raise our glasses and tell them all to go to hell together.
We all have our criteria or what we look for in couples we are going to meet. Race is not a part of our criteria as either a positive or a negative. We tend to go with total design of the couple including personality, looks and sexual compatability.
If race is a real issue for you, (as either a positive or a negative) then we are white and perhaps not the right couple for you. Not because we are white but because we really don't have time to fool around with your issues and I doubt if race is the only one. If it is not an issue for you then we are fun loving, sexy and fairly attractive.
I wonder if sometimes we make this sort of issue worse by somehow expecting it to be an problem. We go into the situation with the race chip on our shoulder and create a self fullfilling prophecy.
If you are an attractive, fun loving sexy couple and have run into this problem, then look us up and we would like to buy you a drink. My first toast of the evening will be to the ladies. Our second toast will be to anyone who is not interested in joining us. We can raise our glasses and tell them all to go to hell together.
Well I guess we are color blind too as we have never seen a difference and believe if you are a true swinger you don't let race,religion,age spoil your fun. We recently attended her first true "gangbang" and thier were both Balck and white and to be honest the biggest jerk was a white young white guy who thought he was mr. big and acted like he was ordering the ladies around tillthey put him in his place. The best guy was a black guy who ate my wifes pussy and massaged her feet at the same time she loved it! As long as everyone has fun thats what counts perdudice of any color has no place in the lifestyle in our opinion.
N&S
N&S
Hi all. I have to second the sentiment that it really should not be a topic that is worth discussing in this day and age.
Personally one of my greatest fantasies is finding ourselves friends with Tyra Banks...always wanted to meet and become friends with and have for sex partner a beautiful African American woman. It just does not seem to happen that much in the area that we live in. Way too conservative around here I guess.....
Just this morning I had the opportunity to chat with a gentleman that we had met several months ago at a party. He happens to be black, and impressed us nicely even though we ggenerally do not make contact with single men. He had made mention of the fact that he has trouble hooking up with couples because he is black. I asked him outright if he really thought that or if maybe because he was single....there are many couples that I have read slam single guys because they do not want to be bothered by them. His reply was he felt it was black first and single second. I think it a shame that we humans still would have our world be like this.
We have long ago decided that the color does not really matter at all (with the exception of the Tyra Banks fantasy...lol), and the inside and the connection of personalities is all that really matters for us.
Personally one of my greatest fantasies is finding ourselves friends with Tyra Banks...always wanted to meet and become friends with and have for sex partner a beautiful African American woman. It just does not seem to happen that much in the area that we live in. Way too conservative around here I guess.....
Just this morning I had the opportunity to chat with a gentleman that we had met several months ago at a party. He happens to be black, and impressed us nicely even though we ggenerally do not make contact with single men. He had made mention of the fact that he has trouble hooking up with couples because he is black. I asked him outright if he really thought that or if maybe because he was single....there are many couples that I have read slam single guys because they do not want to be bothered by them. His reply was he felt it was black first and single second. I think it a shame that we humans still would have our world be like this.
We have long ago decided that the color does not really matter at all (with the exception of the Tyra Banks fantasy...lol), and the inside and the connection of personalities is all that really matters for us.
Unfortunately it occurs everyday, the sad part is that it occurs in the lifestyle where one would suppose people are more open and liberal, but that has never stopped a person from having personal preferences (or even prejudices)...but the one thing that everyone seems to forget - and that is - JUST BE HONEST and say no thanks instead of being rude and ignoring the email or trying to be polite and say something like "not meeting new people at this time"...that's all we wish would occur...we're not trying to start a revolution...we're just trying to have fun!!! So can we play now??? :z
Lets see if I have this straight....inter-racial seems to only be a black/white thing from what I read....I always thought it applied to anyone not of the same race...white/asian, black/asian, whatever....am I wrong in my thinking?
I have spent a lot of time overseas in the Navy, and don't really see what the problem is. Although I am primarily attracted to white or asian women...I wouldn't kick someone out of bed over skin color......how cheesy!
I guess it all depends on how you were raised to start with.
that's my story and I'm sticking to it......
BobbyD
I have spent a lot of time overseas in the Navy, and don't really see what the problem is. Although I am primarily attracted to white or asian women...I wouldn't kick someone out of bed over skin color......how cheesy!
I guess it all depends on how you were raised to start with.
that's my story and I'm sticking to it......
BobbyD
Interracial is not just black and white. But it seems as though we tend to forget that!
It is a shame that we have to discuss this but discussion is healthy. Nothing wrong with talking about touchy issues. But I can also see how some people might see this topic as beating a dead horse. I on the other hand see it as a positive, I enjoy hearing others opinions.
I agree with one reply that was posted. We have no time to fool around with people that have issues whether it be race or otherwise.
I am the "brown skinned" half of an interracial couple and I am blessed to say that we were both brought up color-blind and remain that way. I do understand that everyone has their preferences and respect that but I also agree with a prior post......if your not interested due to race or anything else just be nice about it and honest. No need to lie and give a lame excuse like "we aren't meeting anymore couples at this time". Not interested works just fine. You never know when and where you might run into the couple you were rude to!
Angela
It is a shame that we have to discuss this but discussion is healthy. Nothing wrong with talking about touchy issues. But I can also see how some people might see this topic as beating a dead horse. I on the other hand see it as a positive, I enjoy hearing others opinions.
I agree with one reply that was posted. We have no time to fool around with people that have issues whether it be race or otherwise.
I am the "brown skinned" half of an interracial couple and I am blessed to say that we were both brought up color-blind and remain that way. I do understand that everyone has their preferences and respect that but I also agree with a prior post......if your not interested due to race or anything else just be nice about it and honest. No need to lie and give a lame excuse like "we aren't meeting anymore couples at this time". Not interested works just fine. You never know when and where you might run into the couple you were rude to!
Angela
Well this is a touchie subject, but as another couple from Oklahoma, we will tell you we are pretty color blind. However even the way we are, we have noticed it has caused some issues for us. We have friends that either black or in a mixed marriage and sometimes we have cought some grief from some people for even just being friends, cause they assume we are playing with the couple. Well we don't plan to change, the others who feel the way they do, can just stay away from us I guess. We always judge couples on how well we get along with them, not the color of their skin. We both go tanning alot after all, does that mean couples may not like us cause we have dark skin? Who knows, but we have noticed that in Oklahoma and some other Southern and mid western states, there is still people who are very narrow minded on this subject. We wish you guys the best and just keep trying, you will find that there are couples who will have fun with you if they are attracted too you, no matter what.
We have run into another side of the coin that we find almost as disturbing. The couple who will meet us simply because they want a "hot black stud for wifey". This type of (sometimes hidden) agenda will eventually hinder the enjoyment of the gathering, at least for us.
Personally, I would prefer that if we are selected, it is because we are good people. There have been a couple of times when I miss the signals, but My Little Princess is quite astute at getting to the "meat" of the matter when she has her discussion with the lady involved. It makes for a rather uncomfortable social meeting when you know that you are simply being viewed like a side of beef to be enjoyed and then discarded.
Personally, I would prefer that if we are selected, it is because we are good people. There have been a couple of times when I miss the signals, but My Little Princess is quite astute at getting to the "meat" of the matter when she has her discussion with the lady involved. It makes for a rather uncomfortable social meeting when you know that you are simply being viewed like a side of beef to be enjoyed and then discarded.
Yes I agree it is sad that we even have to discuss this topic, BUT it is something that is interesting to talk about. I love to read others opinions on this matter. My husband and I have NEVER discriminated against a couple based on age, race, religion...It is just not in our nature. WE look for couples who are fun and nice looking. It could be ANYTHING. We are not looking for any ONE thing specifically, we are just looking for other fun good looking couples.
I guess I do not even comprehend or understand someone who would discriminate against someone else for any reason. It is just not right. And I think that if your preference is to stay away from interracial couples...then that is just your preference...just don't be rude. We have several friends who have recieved some rather nasty e-mails from others whom they contacted. It just a sad, sad part of this world in general that I am afraid we will never be able to change.
But I will be darned if it will limit us from playing with those whom we choose to play with!
XOXOX,
Wicked N Geek
I guess I do not even comprehend or understand someone who would discriminate against someone else for any reason. It is just not right. And I think that if your preference is to stay away from interracial couples...then that is just your preference...just don't be rude. We have several friends who have recieved some rather nasty e-mails from others whom they contacted. It just a sad, sad part of this world in general that I am afraid we will never be able to change.
But I will be darned if it will limit us from playing with those whom we choose to play with!
XOXOX,
Wicked N Geek
Hey wickedand geek why is it all the good cpls who understand what this lifestyle is about such as yourselves have to live so damn far away ever get to the panhandle of Florida look us up. Too many cpls get so hung up on age, race etc... its ashame they don't know the fun theyare missing out on :-)
Norm&Sharon
Norm&Sharon
Ampussy, we just LOVE your attitude. There should be more people like you around. Or better yet, place it in a bottle and let's see if we can make it contagious and infect the world!!!!!
Hi All~ Being new to this forum, but a veteran of other forums, I'd just like to add my humble opinion on the subject of bias & prejudice. Why it surprises anyone that it still exists in this lifestyle mystifies me. After all, we are a microcosm of society, and just because someone enters this lifestyle, it doesn't mean they leave a lifetime of learned prejudice at the door. I don't agree with it, and I'll never accept it, but I'm not surprised by it. If those with a bias do last in this lifestyle, they will eventually learn to accept all people for who they are. The alternative is that they don't last, because the majority of us will not accept them! If we as swingers can help just one other couple or person to become enlightened, then we've done far more than society as a whole. We are by far a marvelous bunch of people. J
nyky2FLA right on! You said it just like it is if lifestylers want to prejudge and show bias they won't last long and your right if you can just show one cpl in this lifestyle how to turn away from the prejudging you have made a diff.
Norm&Sharon
Norm&Sharon
we treat everyone as friends and play with the ones that turn us on . we dont worry about age or race . we dont mind playing with people that are different if they are our type that turns us on . but i also dont judge others for not wanting to play with certain people for what ever reasons . swinging is just like dateing but more freedom to explore and more often . but u play with people that turn u on . so i dont mind if someone tells me iam not their type . thats understandable . i just let themknow that i ok with being friends also .
i have seen people in thelife style more willing to explore with people that are different . i think most find it a big turn on . but i think people need to be more understanding when someone says u arent my type .for whatever reason . cause we all go to parties and clubs trying to find what we want . so everybody needs to just be themselves and have fun and find people that want them or that want to hang out and not worry about whoever doesnt .
if u are having a hard time finding people u click with then try to go to more parties and clubs . sign up on more sites . there is a bunch of sites and groups .and if u are looking for a certain type try looking for those groups .single girls /single guys . couples . soft swap full swap . gang bangs , mixed couples there is groups for everything . and that way u find more of what u are looking for then trying to find them all over . hell i was just told about a group that all gets tog. and just plays with themselves ..... so i know what ever u are into or looking for u will find a group for it . dont give up and try to hang out with the ones u have the most fun with .
naughty dreams
freaky kitty
i have seen people in thelife style more willing to explore with people that are different . i think most find it a big turn on . but i think people need to be more understanding when someone says u arent my type .for whatever reason . cause we all go to parties and clubs trying to find what we want . so everybody needs to just be themselves and have fun and find people that want them or that want to hang out and not worry about whoever doesnt .
if u are having a hard time finding people u click with then try to go to more parties and clubs . sign up on more sites . there is a bunch of sites and groups .and if u are looking for a certain type try looking for those groups .single girls /single guys . couples . soft swap full swap . gang bangs , mixed couples there is groups for everything . and that way u find more of what u are looking for then trying to find them all over . hell i was just told about a group that all gets tog. and just plays with themselves ..... so i know what ever u are into or looking for u will find a group for it . dont give up and try to hang out with the ones u have the most fun with .
naughty dreams
freaky kitty
There seems to be a two sided coin on this issue. We belong to several sites and notice that there are quite a few mixed couples and they must be playing with someone. Then there are the pictures of the white women who have a fettish about playing with black men and have the pics in their profile to prove it.
But there are women who just do not want to play with black men at all.. We are not prejudiced but my wife will not bed a black man. SHe will dance with black men, has kissed them and been quite friendly with them but to go to bed with a black man...it is out of the question. She says it has to do with an experience with a black boyfriend when she was young. From what she will says it has something to do with an abusive situation. I personally think that exotic women, women of color, oriental, and middle-eastern and mediteranean ethnicities are extrememly sexy. I can't say exactly why that is so, but I am, all the same. I have been talking to her about her irrational attitude about black men but to date she is firm in her resolve. I do believe that she is turned on by black men but for some reason just will not play that way... I would love to find a couple who we could meet and become friends with, in the lifestyle, and maybe the color thing would disappear.
As for what you should do about people wanting to play with your lady and not you.... I thought that, basically, swinging was a couples thing...I know it isn't always, actually quite often, but if I no play....we no play.. It's kind of like the only rule we have.. No comdom no penetration... No exceptions...
But there are women who just do not want to play with black men at all.. We are not prejudiced but my wife will not bed a black man. SHe will dance with black men, has kissed them and been quite friendly with them but to go to bed with a black man...it is out of the question. She says it has to do with an experience with a black boyfriend when she was young. From what she will says it has something to do with an abusive situation. I personally think that exotic women, women of color, oriental, and middle-eastern and mediteranean ethnicities are extrememly sexy. I can't say exactly why that is so, but I am, all the same. I have been talking to her about her irrational attitude about black men but to date she is firm in her resolve. I do believe that she is turned on by black men but for some reason just will not play that way... I would love to find a couple who we could meet and become friends with, in the lifestyle, and maybe the color thing would disappear.
As for what you should do about people wanting to play with your lady and not you.... I thought that, basically, swinging was a couples thing...I know it isn't always, actually quite often, but if I no play....we no play.. It's kind of like the only rule we have.. No comdom no penetration... No exceptions...
As with TAMPA, we have absolutely no problems with getting to know someone. We are an odd enough combination in our own right so there is no reason for us to avoid someone because of their race or religion. That is until such time as THEY prove to US that they are not worth wasting our time with.:@
Being a single male, I just wish that I could play with any one. Jerry
This is an interesting subject. Keep hearing all the talk about "white" people. I KNOW I must have seen others, but the only "white" person I can remember is Johnny Winter. Seems to me that ALL the people I see, including me, have some color to them. So to me, it isn't a "white/black" thing, it's just variations in color.
I come accross couples not wanting to be with black couples and find many black couple who don't want to be with white couples. What I find interesting is, people usually are O.K. with couples who are considered "brown" i.e. Latino's, Asians, light middle easterners, etc. It's like, people are saying "you're hot, but not to different than me, so I guess it's O.K."
This is a reflection of greater social life in America, so of course it will come out in sexual life.
I think we should promote Full On interacial multi ethnic orgies, gang bangs, female parties, and have coming out parties for those who have not been with someone from another ethnic group. That will bring the swing community to a new level.
This is a reflection of greater social life in America, so of course it will come out in sexual life.
I think we should promote Full On interacial multi ethnic orgies, gang bangs, female parties, and have coming out parties for those who have not been with someone from another ethnic group. That will bring the swing community to a new level.