We have been on this site and others, and have found an interesting trend that overlaps on them all. While it is not the majority, maybe just the minority, of the people we have met, it still is. We are all on here (well most except for the poser and fakes we have uncovered
I one had a man come to the door for a date and I thought it was his father. He was not bad looking at all but I could not get past the dishonesty. I am turning 50 in a few days. I love being my age and love older mens bodies. I have a son 28 and younger bodies remind me of kids. I can appreciate a younger mans body from an artist point of view but when it comes to bringing a mans warmth in my bed I do like him close to my age or older. So men please be honest of your age you may find if you state a younger age you might be lessening interest.
Does this mean you think we are older than 69?...Damn the jig is up..P.S. Larry is really old...
Ohh we knew that age was off when we met you- LOL No it was more that Larry said he was physically fit, sexy and a male stripper in his profile until he recently changed it, that had us concerned and the reason we posted this forum. 
Well, he is male...and he has stripped...but I can undersatnd....LMAO
We have had this happen a couple times...especially when it comes to the mans height, there's nothing wrong with asking, "so where's the person in your profile" when someone answers the door and is a good 1/2 foot shorter than what their profile states. We feel that since our profile is 100 % honest, and the pics are VERY recent, we would expect the same courtesy.
We're not afraid to either turn around and walk away, or shut a door in someone's face. (Hope this doesn't sound too mean).
We're not afraid to either turn around and walk away, or shut a door in someone's face. (Hope this doesn't sound too mean).
We had to laugh at the comment about being short... lol
I think with me being only 5 ft tall.. and him being 5'6", as well as our ages.. we WISH we could fib.. but we couldn't get away with it.
OK.. I gained 8 pounds.. I changed slender to average ok?? lol (Will lose it in 6 weeks. rofl)
I promise everything else is accurate and pics are up to date.
Maggi
I think with me being only 5 ft tall.. and him being 5'6", as well as our ages.. we WISH we could fib.. but we couldn't get away with it.
OK.. I gained 8 pounds.. I changed slender to average ok?? lol (Will lose it in 6 weeks. rofl)
I promise everything else is accurate and pics are up to date.
Maggi
Honesty is the best policy. You're going to get "outted" if you lie and get caught.Hey, I ain'g no 29 year old blond, blue eyed hunk. I've been down the road and run over a few times. Everything works (whew) and I can get up out of bed every morning. I am a WYSIWYG guy and very for real.
Ok I ADMIT IT...................THATS NOT MY HUGE COCK IN THE PICTURE.....THERE YOU HAPPY NOW? SHIT!!!! :@
We didn't mean to sound like we have a problem with "short" people, just dishonest ones.
Let's put it this way, if ones profile says they are 6'2", and the person who meets you at the door is shorter than we are (5"8"), they may have some explaining to do.
Let's put it this way, if ones profile says they are 6'2", and the person who meets you at the door is shorter than we are (5"8"), they may have some explaining to do.
This is really nice that "all" are being so straight forward and outing them selfs! So her Goes. We are not really as Old as we said we are. We are not really as "Fat" as we said we are. I am not as Bald as I seem. But here are the truths. Yes we Still Love "SEX" Even if My Boner must come from a Pill. The little Lady Needs just a Bit of help Lubing. Yes A "Wet Pussy Comes" from the Bar, Not from Here Nether Regions. But Good Lord Folks these are the things that Make life interesting. So if your ever Looking to hang out with some really "Fake Fuckers" "Do Not Look This Way" We are as we seem Old, Fat, Bald, Died Up, Bonnerless, Sexually Starved, Mid Life? Oh Hell Folks We Truly is just plain Damn Old. "Fucking Kids Any Ways"
well our pics I try to keep up to date as much as possible and when we do people they say that our pics don't do us justice.....I try also to be myself when am writting and not try to sound like someone I am not.....
Deleted my post and figured I'd just add to this one....
Saw a profile on the birthdays list and the photo was hot so we opened the profile and was reading through the descriptions.. this is when the Mrs noticed that the profile has not been updated in 5 years!!! even though their Last Visit was a Week Ago. Can anyone tell me why you wouldn't update your profile in that long?? at least update your photo's for god sake!
Saw a profile on the birthdays list and the photo was hot so we opened the profile and was reading through the descriptions.. this is when the Mrs noticed that the profile has not been updated in 5 years!!! even though their Last Visit was a Week Ago. Can anyone tell me why you wouldn't update your profile in that long?? at least update your photo's for god sake!
we love the photos where the womans hair is a different length in every photo...
BICPL4BIF FL - Lady you are hot in those pool pics....
UTAHCPL 2006 - Why do you like the pics of the ladies with different hair lengths. My wife had medium hair on Friday afternoon now she has very short hair... @ months ago she had much longer hair ..... I miss your point.... Last week my hair was much longer than it is now... I finally got to the barber then the dentist office... Now the hair is shorted... And I wish more ladies would shave totally... Would save the trips to the ER for breathing problems...Just funning but I don't understand why the different length of hair thing.
UTAHCPL 2006 - Why do you like the pics of the ladies with different hair lengths. My wife had medium hair on Friday afternoon now she has very short hair... @ months ago she had much longer hair ..... I miss your point.... Last week my hair was much longer than it is now... I finally got to the barber then the dentist office... Now the hair is shorted... And I wish more ladies would shave totally... Would save the trips to the ER for breathing problems...Just funning but I don't understand why the different length of hair thing.
Well we just had this conversation this weekend while sitting in the conversation pool at Paradise Lakes. The few couples in the conversation all agreed that profiles are like an advertisement and are created to generate interest in them as potential playmates. So cheating a few pounds or years, not having current pics or simply being that lazy to not update the profile are just ways to get you to bite and contact them.
Our very close friends that we went with know that the pics they have posted do not do them justice but their theory is that upon meeting, they prefer the couple to be pleasantly surprised at how good they look. This prevents them from getting as much attention as they could get on site like this but in person they seem to have almost all the couples gravitate to them.
We are not giving up on the honest approach in that our pics are current and info is as accurate as can be. We are very real and try to get that across in our profile. We have been told by friends to change our name to "no gimmicks needed" but that sounds arrogant to me so we will stick to what we are using. Our profile may sound boring but it is as honest an evaluation of us as we can put together. We hope those that read it and contact us are the type to appreciate that about us.
As far as house parties go, ours are always a bring a dish to share and we eat together and share some conversation. In the common area are towels, condoms, and flavored oils for you to grab and bring with you to the private rooms or group play area. So those preferring safe sex can let the other know before going off together by picking out the condom. We do not allow any drugs in the house and no drunks. Some of our friends travel to get to our parties so we have them stay the night. There is usually a few in the hot tub while others are in the pool so we get spread out here and it is a very relaxed and comfortable atmosphere.
All previous house parties we have been at had condoms in the rooms and no drugs so I guess we have been lucky in that manner. Also couples we have met seem to represent themselves honestly when we meet so there have been no surprises. Maybe our honest profile attracts a different type of personality.
Joe and Lori
Our very close friends that we went with know that the pics they have posted do not do them justice but their theory is that upon meeting, they prefer the couple to be pleasantly surprised at how good they look. This prevents them from getting as much attention as they could get on site like this but in person they seem to have almost all the couples gravitate to them.
We are not giving up on the honest approach in that our pics are current and info is as accurate as can be. We are very real and try to get that across in our profile. We have been told by friends to change our name to "no gimmicks needed" but that sounds arrogant to me so we will stick to what we are using. Our profile may sound boring but it is as honest an evaluation of us as we can put together. We hope those that read it and contact us are the type to appreciate that about us.
As far as house parties go, ours are always a bring a dish to share and we eat together and share some conversation. In the common area are towels, condoms, and flavored oils for you to grab and bring with you to the private rooms or group play area. So those preferring safe sex can let the other know before going off together by picking out the condom. We do not allow any drugs in the house and no drunks. Some of our friends travel to get to our parties so we have them stay the night. There is usually a few in the hot tub while others are in the pool so we get spread out here and it is a very relaxed and comfortable atmosphere.
All previous house parties we have been at had condoms in the rooms and no drugs so I guess we have been lucky in that manner. Also couples we have met seem to represent themselves honestly when we meet so there have been no surprises. Maybe our honest profile attracts a different type of personality.
Joe and Lori
Happy to say our photos are updated on at least a weekly basis, and enough people know us or have seen us at recent functions to know our profile is totally accurate. What ya see, is what ya get..lol!
~D&T~
~D&T~
the other dishonesty I don't care for is not replying to inquiries, if your not interested just say so, just have enough respect for people to give them an answer one way or the other. if your not honest about who you want to be with people go along making assumptions about you being stuck up or wanting a ken and barbie, when a simple reply would have sufficed
thanx
jeremy
thanx
jeremy
Seriously...we don't take what people put as the "stats" in their profiles as canonized scripture.
We've found that with virtually everything related to The Lifestyle, it's much simpler to merely have no expectations, but just to go with the flow. We could waste SO much energy grimacing about how misrepresented so and so was, or how we feel cheated and mislead...but why waste that energy? If we could say that we "expect" anything...it would be to simply expect the unexpected, and that way meeting new people remains fresh and exciting.
Most of the time people are very different in person than what they have represented themselves to be in their profiles, and it's not an intentional thing, it's merely being a natural human.
I'm always told I'm taller than I look in the pictures (I'm actually 6' 1 15/16" when I'm slumping, which is most of the time). My hair is no longer as dark as it was when we first started swinging as the "natural" premature grey is overtaking it. Sirensextress, as beautiful as she is all the time may not "glow" as much when she gets up the morning after a night on the town (she's gonna slap me for that one). Oh...not to mention that my weight yo-yo's 10-20 lbs. throughout the year, depending upon how indulging I'm feeling on the late-night Oreo
We've found that with virtually everything related to The Lifestyle, it's much simpler to merely have no expectations, but just to go with the flow. We could waste SO much energy grimacing about how misrepresented so and so was, or how we feel cheated and mislead...but why waste that energy? If we could say that we "expect" anything...it would be to simply expect the unexpected, and that way meeting new people remains fresh and exciting.
Most of the time people are very different in person than what they have represented themselves to be in their profiles, and it's not an intentional thing, it's merely being a natural human.
I'm always told I'm taller than I look in the pictures (I'm actually 6' 1 15/16" when I'm slumping, which is most of the time). My hair is no longer as dark as it was when we first started swinging as the "natural" premature grey is overtaking it. Sirensextress, as beautiful as she is all the time may not "glow" as much when she gets up the morning after a night on the town (she's gonna slap me for that one). Oh...not to mention that my weight yo-yo's 10-20 lbs. throughout the year, depending upon how indulging I'm feeling on the late-night Oreo
I think that goes for mis-leading ages. I'd like to see some birth certificates. I think you know who you are.. I think everyone from time to time or at least once in their life have taken a year or two off their age. Just like guys add an inch or two to their dicks. I think it only human nature to want to present what you feel is the best about "you". I can tell you even though my wife is pushing the big 40, she still gets carded at the liquor store. Age is really only relevant to how you have lived your life and genetics. My aunt looked 40 when she was 60.
I think the part that matters the most is the physical description in the profiles. If you look good, we don't care how old you are. But don't say you are athletic and put 10 year old pics on your profile if that isn't what you really are. It's very mis-leading. Honesty will get you a long way in here.
UtHot
I think the part that matters the most is the physical description in the profiles. If you look good, we don't care how old you are. But don't say you are athletic and put 10 year old pics on your profile if that isn't what you really are. It's very mis-leading. Honesty will get you a long way in here.
UtHot
well other than the new leg jewlery (knee brace, surgery) on Brooke........our profile is right there.....some of the pics might not be yesterday.......but we really have not changed.......oh my hair is a little longer, and we even state that we smoke....unlike others that say "UNKNOWN"....glad to see they took that option out.......lol.........hugs all
Brooke and Tony
Brooke and Tony
P.S. we really dont look as old as our ages state.....well he might with the silver hair.......but he has had that since high school........lol.....
OK you've got me I am really 63 posing as a 37 yr old. LOL
I have been tempted to throw an old pic on there just to let you know what I used to look like. That way no one would have questions when my recent pics might actually flatter me. Not that it happens all the time as I am not very photogenic.
B and I use pics as a guideline and take a profile's stats tounge in cheeck. We only expect that you resemble within a few years what you state or show.
As for the STD thing - I feel that in my life I have been fortunate NOT to have ever contracted one of these foul remenents of an evening with another. I wonder every time we choose to play what kinda shit we are getting into.
How many people have had that shit pulled on them after the fact?
I have been tempted to throw an old pic on there just to let you know what I used to look like. That way no one would have questions when my recent pics might actually flatter me. Not that it happens all the time as I am not very photogenic.
B and I use pics as a guideline and take a profile's stats tounge in cheeck. We only expect that you resemble within a few years what you state or show.
As for the STD thing - I feel that in my life I have been fortunate NOT to have ever contracted one of these foul remenents of an evening with another. I wonder every time we choose to play what kinda shit we are getting into.
How many people have had that shit pulled on them after the fact?
Great forum thread!....Is your profile honest and accurate?
I have been on swingular for a few years and met some great people, but I have also ran across my share of posers, fakers, and people with profiles that are not accurate.
I have had my profile Verified and I always send a face pic with my messages.... Usually, I am contacting a couple or female interested in single men, so I also add them to my freind list so they can see my private album pics and get a good idea of what I look like.
I travel every vacation I get, so I can meet people in other parts of the country if it seems as though we might click. I certainly would not travel to the other side of the country just to meet a swinging couple or single, but the fact that someone I am clicking with online lives someplace of interest to me may influence my travel choice.
With that said, it is extremely frustrating to meet someone and find that their profile is dishonest or inaccurate, so any info you can share regading posers, fakes, or people with dishonest profiles would be much appreciated.
Thank you,
Jack
Yahoo IM: Bradtuckeyman
E-mail: [email protected]
I have been on swingular for a few years and met some great people, but I have also ran across my share of posers, fakers, and people with profiles that are not accurate.
I have had my profile Verified and I always send a face pic with my messages.... Usually, I am contacting a couple or female interested in single men, so I also add them to my freind list so they can see my private album pics and get a good idea of what I look like.
I travel every vacation I get, so I can meet people in other parts of the country if it seems as though we might click. I certainly would not travel to the other side of the country just to meet a swinging couple or single, but the fact that someone I am clicking with online lives someplace of interest to me may influence my travel choice.
With that said, it is extremely frustrating to meet someone and find that their profile is dishonest or inaccurate, so any info you can share regading posers, fakes, or people with dishonest profiles would be much appreciated.
Thank you,
Jack
Yahoo IM: Bradtuckeyman
E-mail: [email protected]
not fair.... now we feel selfconsious about our intro pict.... we dont do picts often.... but it made me realise that the pict of us is about 5 yrs old... damn where does time go..... so we will get some new picts soon... ive just realised i had been shaved bald for about 4 months and now its about to collar length again.... guess its time for new picts.... there is more but sara just brought me babby d and i cant type one handed so ill post more later....dennis and sara
I agree, simply be honest.
Have your ages correct (at least within a month or two).
And recent pics are great! Met several who look NOTHING like their photos...that's always...interesting.
-K_T
Have your ages correct (at least within a month or two).
And recent pics are great! Met several who look NOTHING like their photos...that's always...interesting.
-K_T
Funny thing is it never really occurred to us to "fake" our stats, mostly cuz if someone doesn't like us for who we are we wouldn't want to hang out with them no matter how hot they are. My pics are updated at least once a month, but ofcourse I take them as much for his benefit as for everyone else's. As for his, its hard to get hold of him to take any, so they are few and far between, but his appearance doesn't change nearly as often as mine (hair color, style, length, not to mention my currently expanding waistline).
-SG
-SG
#1 profile pet peeve: Lying about your height.
Why do men do this? I swear! I am 5'6" and with heels closer to 6' If I am meeting a couple with a man who says he's 6' and hes more like 5'9", well.........shit!! wore 6 inch stilettos, crap now I have to look down at him all night. (You see how this could be a problem?)
Bottom line is don't lie to me about you height, because I AM paying attention, and I will out you for "Profile indulgence"!!!! LOL!!
~K~
Why do men do this? I swear! I am 5'6" and with heels closer to 6' If I am meeting a couple with a man who says he's 6' and hes more like 5'9", well.........shit!! wore 6 inch stilettos, crap now I have to look down at him all night. (You see how this could be a problem?)
Bottom line is don't lie to me about you height, because I AM paying attention, and I will out you for "Profile indulgence"!!!! LOL!!
~K~
Damn,,,,,, Kelly! I thought you liked me. I'm a short shit.
Our profile is about as straight forward as I could be. I even posted a thread about how to get started here. The pictures are real, the stats are real and so are we!
Since we haven't had any experience yet (sigh!) we have nothing upon which to base any comments, complaints or complements ....
But we are being patient............................
Since we haven't had any experience yet (sigh!) we have nothing upon which to base any comments, complaints or complements ....
But we are being patient............................
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<br>If you are not honest about who you are in your profile, how do you expect to meet the people you want to? Be upfront about yourself, have lots of pics, even if you don't post them, and only share them when you are interested.
And please, be honest about any type of sexual diseases you may have, that is our biggest pet peeve!
We know we are not Ken and Barbie, and our pics are there to show you are physical appearance, but, please don't judge based on that. Try and get to know the person or couple a little bit first, it always helps!
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<br>-Ron-
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<br>If you are not honest about who you are in your profile, how do you expect to meet the people you want to? Be upfront about yourself, have lots of pics, even if you don't post them, and only share them when you are interested.
And please, be honest about any type of sexual diseases you may have, that is our biggest pet peeve!
We know we are not Ken and Barbie, and our pics are there to show you are physical appearance, but, please don't judge based on that. Try and get to know the person or couple a little bit first, it always helps!
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<br>-Ron-
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For us honesty is best and we ask for it also. If someone lies about anything and its quite clear to us when we meet..that will be the last meeting.
Just can't trust a liar:@
Just can't trust a liar:@
And I would like to add, when you do respond to someone that you are not interested, it is rude and impolite for that person to continue to push messages on you!
Someone on this thread even made comment about that very issue.
Updating profiles when your status has changed - no longer being a couple is very important. I think there is another thread about that issue. We all know that this all about sex, but come on people...let's at least be a little honest here....
No means no..not keep trying and maybe we'll say yes! Don't try to guilt someone into saying yes...bad idea!
Someone on this thread even made comment about that very issue.
Updating profiles when your status has changed - no longer being a couple is very important. I think there is another thread about that issue. We all know that this all about sex, but come on people...let's at least be a little honest here....
No means no..not keep trying and maybe we'll say yes! Don't try to guilt someone into saying yes...bad idea!