Hello everyone, 
we just wanted to say HI and ask a simple question.
OK ............ we have been in the life style for about three years now, and too this date we continue to have a problem with meeting people. We (well we think anyway) discribed exactly what we wanted but we still have people who want one-night stands and quickies. Were not into that at all. We enjoy getting to know people, we don't have a problem with playing on the first date if we feel it will lead to other dates. But so far NO LUCK, We feel we've been used and abused. And now we've really clamped down, but now our problem seem to be meeting people who are just PLAIN FLAKES. Were in Texas as our profile says, and trust me folks the swingers in Texas arn't what they claim to be. They either want a quick screw or are people who drag you into meeting them and then you discover that they are SPACE CASES. One or the other has a sever problem with there mate being with someone else. ANYWAY.............
I guess what were really asking is what are we doing wrong. And are we LOSER magnets ??
we just wanted to say HI and ask a simple question. OK ............ we have been in the life style for about three years now, and too this date we continue to have a problem with meeting people. We (well we think anyway) discribed exactly what we wanted but we still have people who want one-night stands and quickies. Were not into that at all. We enjoy getting to know people, we don't have a problem with playing on the first date if we feel it will lead to other dates. But so far NO LUCK, We feel we've been used and abused. And now we've really clamped down, but now our problem seem to be meeting people who are just PLAIN FLAKES. Were in Texas as our profile says, and trust me folks the swingers in Texas arn't what they claim to be. They either want a quick screw or are people who drag you into meeting them and then you discover that they are SPACE CASES. One or the other has a sever problem with there mate being with someone else. ANYWAY.............
I guess what were really asking is what are we doing wrong. And are we LOSER magnets ??
Sorry to hear you are having those problems. I think most people who have been involved in looking has run into their share of nervous couples or wives/husbands that were not ready.
How are you going about meeting folks on the net? Perhaps you would pick another site. Most people involved in this are on several. Also you might wish to consider asking them ahead of meeting if they have had any experiences as a couple and how it went. If they have not had any don't have high expectations.
How are you going about meeting folks on the net? Perhaps you would pick another site. Most people involved in this are on several. Also you might wish to consider asking them ahead of meeting if they have had any experiences as a couple and how it went. If they have not had any don't have high expectations.
Stylex
We can feel feel your proverbial pain.
We have been in the lifestyle about 8 years now and have met a fair number of drama cases and wierdos. On the other hand we have met even more GREAT couples. We didn't really start meeting people that fit what we were looking for till we started going to on/off premise clubs. Most fakes or wannabes won't spend the money to get into the clubs so you eliminate that aspect. When we met someone online we let them know we are regulars at the Pleasure Palace in Tampa and to please come out and met us there. This seems to have dramaticly reduced the amount of losers that we have met.
If there isn't a club close to you then you could always take the lead and start holding meet and greets at a local bar or hotel ?
We can feel feel your proverbial pain.
We have been in the lifestyle about 8 years now and have met a fair number of drama cases and wierdos. On the other hand we have met even more GREAT couples. We didn't really start meeting people that fit what we were looking for till we started going to on/off premise clubs. Most fakes or wannabes won't spend the money to get into the clubs so you eliminate that aspect. When we met someone online we let them know we are regulars at the Pleasure Palace in Tampa and to please come out and met us there. This seems to have dramaticly reduced the amount of losers that we have met.
If there isn't a club close to you then you could always take the lead and start holding meet and greets at a local bar or hotel ?
Thanks everyone for the suggestions. The Meet & Greet thing we really like we may try that one, but it will have to be for more then a single couple. The last single couple we met went great during the meeting, we were all laughing and having a good time. Then a week later when we were suppose to meet again, (they invited us out to the house to hot tub) they gave us the extreme cold shoulder, they quit chattin' three days prior and on the afternoon of the meeting finally dropped us a note to say they were SORRY, but didn't want out company. Talk about being confused............................................
Anyway Thanks again.
Anyway Thanks again.
Sorry you are having problems, a pic and better stated profile may help you. Many couples will not meet with bi males, that may be a part of it too.
Either way there are many great Lifestyle clubs in your area, get out of the house and go meet the thousands of couples that are in them each week. You will not be disappointed for long.
Also there are many swingers sites on the web, many are regionalized more than others. Either get more from your area to join here or add another site along with this one.
Good Luck!!
Either way there are many great Lifestyle clubs in your area, get out of the house and go meet the thousands of couples that are in them each week. You will not be disappointed for long.
Also there are many swingers sites on the web, many are regionalized more than others. Either get more from your area to join here or add another site along with this one.
Good Luck!!
We are in the same boat how we fix that we started going to swinger dances and to Natural Pines Resort to meet cpl atleast there you know they will be back and they r for real
I think the biggest problem in the lifestyle is unreliable people. I'm in my 40's and try to meet with women or couples about my age or a little over, I feel older people are more reliable.If I ever make plans to meet with people I will be there 100% of the time.
I would appreciate it, if after you've met with people,and if their really not your type or something isn't right,let the other people know,don't drag things out if it doesn't feel right.
I would appreciate it, if after you've met with people,and if their really not your type or something isn't right,let the other people know,don't drag things out if it doesn't feel right.
We just try to enjoy it every chance we get. I know swingen can become frustrating at times but thats when ya just have to remember, this is all extra credit. Its not required not is it a necessaty. Its just for fun and adding that extra kick. After all if things dont work out with a swinger prospect you still have someone to take home at the end of the night.
More often than not you will find that pleasures require some work. And those pleasures worth working for are the sweetest. Don't give up because there are many of us out there who may fulfill your preferences to a "T". Unfortunately, you will have to wade through a few frogs first.
OK to start Not all Texans are the same.. We have made a lot of friends that are not only in the lifestyle but fun in general. Tho you going to find moore than you fair share of those that are into one thing. Get it and run! We have get togethers once a month at a club here in Dallas.
As for the Bi male thing its like being a Bi female you have to "feel" your way on this one. Not ALL females appreciate the pleasures being with another woman can bring. But hang tuff stay in touch. Mabey we will see you some time..
YEA its almost camping time! Wolf runs and skinny dippin are on their way!
As for the Bi male thing its like being a Bi female you have to "feel" your way on this one. Not ALL females appreciate the pleasures being with another woman can bring. But hang tuff stay in touch. Mabey we will see you some time..
YEA its almost camping time! Wolf runs and skinny dippin are on their way!
Sorry to hear your problems we have been in this lifestyle going on 4yrs and have figured out its a big numbers games you have to contact lots and lots of people to weed through the fakes and flakes of course to some people we are the flakes I guess as we love to party and tell it like it is "we like to "fuck"!
We enjoy the friendships too but, lets face it if it was only friendship we wanted we would not be on swing sites. Try doing like we did we revised our profile many times over till we wrote it to where we get only the serious people contacting us and it keeps the shy away.
We do enjoy helping 'NEWBIES" but we make it clear you have to SAY what YOU want and MEAN what you say people are not mind readers! To sum up whatwe just said is contact LOTS and LOTS of cpls and learn to say NEXT when they turn out to be fakes or flakes and learn to not take the lifetyle too serious have fun and be glad the good cpls you met were fun and remeber one thing had you not been in the lifestyle you would have never met that special cpl/person don't give up and good luck. Ever in florida look us up we don't bite (well maybe just a little)
S&N
We enjoy the friendships too but, lets face it if it was only friendship we wanted we would not be on swing sites. Try doing like we did we revised our profile many times over till we wrote it to where we get only the serious people contacting us and it keeps the shy away.
We do enjoy helping 'NEWBIES" but we make it clear you have to SAY what YOU want and MEAN what you say people are not mind readers! To sum up whatwe just said is contact LOTS and LOTS of cpls and learn to say NEXT when they turn out to be fakes or flakes and learn to not take the lifetyle too serious have fun and be glad the good cpls you met were fun and remeber one thing had you not been in the lifestyle you would have never met that special cpl/person don't give up and good luck. Ever in florida look us up we don't bite (well maybe just a little)
S&N
We been having alot of problems meeting people to, only because of work and kids being at home. We dont mind people coming over for a drink and getting to meet them. My(her) problem is i like to get to know the people, I personal dont think it hurts to actually know the people i mean if i dont feel comfortable with them the first time , i want them to come over for the second just to get to know them first. And to feel relaxed..................Hope this makes sense, Plus the fact I cant get comfortable with pushy people.......................:q
WE ALSO ONLY PLAY WITH GOOD FRIENDS , TO US WE ARE SWINGERS YES , BUT THAT DOESNT MEAN THAT SALL THE LIFE STYLE IS ALL ABOUT TO US . WE WANT TO PLAY WITH FRIENDS . NOT EVERYBODY AND ANYBODY THAT WILL PLAY WITH US .TO US ITS NOT ABOUT HOOKING UP AND HAVIGN SEX . ITS ABOUT SHARING EACH OTHER AND EXPLOREING WITH FRIENDS .
WE DONT REALLY HAVE A PROBLEM WITH MEETING PEOPLE OR HOOKING UP WITH THOSE THAT WE WANT TO . AND WE FOR THE MOST PART ARE STILL GOOD FRIENDS OR PLAY MATES WITH ALL OF OUR FRIEND S.
WE TELL EVERYBODY WE ARE JUST LOOKING FOR FRIEND S. THAT WAY THE PEOPLE THAT ARE IN A HURRY TO HOOK UP WILL LEAVE US ALONE . WE TAKE OUR TIME AND GET TO KNOWPEOPLE AND PLAY WHEN IT FEELS RIGHT .
THE BEST WAY TO FIND PEOPLE WHAT UA RE LOOKING FOR IS .
TO ....
PUT AS MUCH INFO IN YOUR PROFILE AS U CAN .
TRY TO WRITE A LOT OF PEOPLE ON DIFFERENT SITES .
AND SAYING UP FRONT . U ARE LOOKING FOR NEW FRIENDS .
GO TO AS MANY PARTIES AS U CAN . THAT WAY U CAN MEET ALOT OF NEW PEOPLE ALL THE TIME .
STUFF LIKE THAT HELPS OUT ALOT .
MAYBE START YOUR OWN YAHOO GROUP OR SOMETHING LIKE THAT . WE JUST STARTED A NEW GROUP CALLED [email protected]
WE ARE GOING TO TRY TO MAKE IT FOR SWINGERS THAT ALSO WANT TO BE FRIENDS .
STUFF LIEK THAT CAN HELP ALOT .
TRY TO LOOK FOR NEWBIES . OR GROUPS FOR NEWBIES .
I THINK U WOULD HAVE A BETTER CHANCE ON MEETING MORE PEOPLE LOOKING FOR FRIENDS ....
THERE IS SO MANY DIFFERENT SITES OR GROUPS OR CLUBS FOR SWINGERS . U HAVE TO FIND A FEW THAT WORK BEST FOR YOU AND WHAT U ARE LOOKING FOR . IF U CAN T FIND WHAT U ARE LOOKING FOR STARTING YOUR GROUP MIGHT BE THE BEST THING .
DONT KEEP LOOKING . CAUSE I CAN TELL U THERE IS COUPLES OUT THERE LOOKING FOR THE SAME THINGS AS U . U JUST HAVE TO FIND THEM .
NAUGHTY DREAMS
FREAKY KITTY
WE DONT REALLY HAVE A PROBLEM WITH MEETING PEOPLE OR HOOKING UP WITH THOSE THAT WE WANT TO . AND WE FOR THE MOST PART ARE STILL GOOD FRIENDS OR PLAY MATES WITH ALL OF OUR FRIEND S.
WE TELL EVERYBODY WE ARE JUST LOOKING FOR FRIEND S. THAT WAY THE PEOPLE THAT ARE IN A HURRY TO HOOK UP WILL LEAVE US ALONE . WE TAKE OUR TIME AND GET TO KNOWPEOPLE AND PLAY WHEN IT FEELS RIGHT .
THE BEST WAY TO FIND PEOPLE WHAT UA RE LOOKING FOR IS .
TO ....
PUT AS MUCH INFO IN YOUR PROFILE AS U CAN .
TRY TO WRITE A LOT OF PEOPLE ON DIFFERENT SITES .
AND SAYING UP FRONT . U ARE LOOKING FOR NEW FRIENDS .
GO TO AS MANY PARTIES AS U CAN . THAT WAY U CAN MEET ALOT OF NEW PEOPLE ALL THE TIME .
STUFF LIKE THAT HELPS OUT ALOT .
MAYBE START YOUR OWN YAHOO GROUP OR SOMETHING LIKE THAT . WE JUST STARTED A NEW GROUP CALLED [email protected]
WE ARE GOING TO TRY TO MAKE IT FOR SWINGERS THAT ALSO WANT TO BE FRIENDS .
STUFF LIEK THAT CAN HELP ALOT .
TRY TO LOOK FOR NEWBIES . OR GROUPS FOR NEWBIES .
I THINK U WOULD HAVE A BETTER CHANCE ON MEETING MORE PEOPLE LOOKING FOR FRIENDS ....
THERE IS SO MANY DIFFERENT SITES OR GROUPS OR CLUBS FOR SWINGERS . U HAVE TO FIND A FEW THAT WORK BEST FOR YOU AND WHAT U ARE LOOKING FOR . IF U CAN T FIND WHAT U ARE LOOKING FOR STARTING YOUR GROUP MIGHT BE THE BEST THING .
DONT KEEP LOOKING . CAUSE I CAN TELL U THERE IS COUPLES OUT THERE LOOKING FOR THE SAME THINGS AS U . U JUST HAVE TO FIND THEM .
NAUGHTY DREAMS
FREAKY KITTY