I have been emailed a lot from guys and couples looking for a bisexual male to come and play. In most cases their ad states that the guys are almost always straight. Why are so many guys not posting their true sexuality . Come on guys post your true self and what you desire. That what this site is about.
CONCORDMAN4U,
This topic seems to have come up often recently.
The answer as to why really isn't much of a mystery. Homophobia, as it applies to bi men, is rampant even within the "lifestyle"--in some regards, even more so than in other settings. Female bisexuality is not only accepted, but it very oftern presumed; whereas male bisexuality is shunned--as a generality. Luckily, not all feel that way, but the feeling is shared by a significant number that some bi/curious men don't want their "straight" friends in the lifestyle to know. For other men, they may not consider themselves bisexual in the sense that they aren't at all interested in a man-to-man meeting, yet they are comfortable with a MMF meeting in which male-to-male touching/activity occurs.
We know we aren't going to change the double standard, although it is obviously inconsistent with the idea of tolerance that most in this lifestyle ostensibly profess to honor (as it applies to their preferences, anyway). Afterall, it is one thing not to be interested, yet quite another to judge. In that same vein, we don't judge others based on the level of discretion they choose for themselves. So finding out the guy is also into bi stuff when we talk to them (note: when we talk, which is before we potentially meet) versus seeing it on the profile has very little effect on us, because we understand the quest for discretion while appreciating the diversity of interests/preferences.
B&B
This topic seems to have come up often recently.
The answer as to why really isn't much of a mystery. Homophobia, as it applies to bi men, is rampant even within the "lifestyle"--in some regards, even more so than in other settings. Female bisexuality is not only accepted, but it very oftern presumed; whereas male bisexuality is shunned--as a generality. Luckily, not all feel that way, but the feeling is shared by a significant number that some bi/curious men don't want their "straight" friends in the lifestyle to know. For other men, they may not consider themselves bisexual in the sense that they aren't at all interested in a man-to-man meeting, yet they are comfortable with a MMF meeting in which male-to-male touching/activity occurs.
We know we aren't going to change the double standard, although it is obviously inconsistent with the idea of tolerance that most in this lifestyle ostensibly profess to honor (as it applies to their preferences, anyway). Afterall, it is one thing not to be interested, yet quite another to judge. In that same vein, we don't judge others based on the level of discretion they choose for themselves. So finding out the guy is also into bi stuff when we talk to them (note: when we talk, which is before we potentially meet) versus seeing it on the profile has very little effect on us, because we understand the quest for discretion while appreciating the diversity of interests/preferences.
B&B
We have friends where both husband and wife are bi but we do not discriminate against them becaue they don`t discriminate against us for being straight. Sorry, but we only share ourselves with friends and if you are considered a friend by us then that also comes with our respect for you. We would never out anyone that is bi but keeping it private because it is not our place to do so but we wish the world and lifestyle was more mature so those offended could accept them for who they are and how they are. And just because you accept someone doesn`t mean you have to sleep with them. We don`t sleep with all of our friends but those we do sleep with are our friends. Are we wrong to think this is all about a lack of respect for the bi males?