"My sex partner is very shy at first, but when she/he get warmed up she/he is a wild fucking animal."
I am sure most of you have seen a statement like this in more than one swinger ad. So I wonder which one of the partners is the initiator in the swinger lifestyle.
Which one of you initiated:
1. The subject of swinging?
2. The first swinger date?
3. The subject of sexual preferences with swinger dates?
4. Taking sexually explicit pictures?
5. Becoming members in a swinger web site, i.e., Swingular?
6. Contacting other swinger couples?
7. Writing in forums like this?
8. Etc?
Well you get the idea.
I think it would be interesting to know.
I am sure most of you have seen a statement like this in more than one swinger ad. So I wonder which one of the partners is the initiator in the swinger lifestyle.
Which one of you initiated:
1. The subject of swinging?
2. The first swinger date?
3. The subject of sexual preferences with swinger dates?
4. Taking sexually explicit pictures?
5. Becoming members in a swinger web site, i.e., Swingular?
6. Contacting other swinger couples?
7. Writing in forums like this?
8. Etc?
Well you get the idea.
I think it would be interesting to know.
LOL yea I see this alot. But when it comes to the typing end of things it is my job. Im the one that sits back and watches the people.
As far as swinging it was a mutual agreement.
This list and a few more we co-conspired.
But im also the talky one..
Jonix
As far as swinging it was a mutual agreement.
This list and a few more we co-conspired.
But im also the talky one..
Jonix
I get to do all the work contacting, setting up meetings, posting on forums etc... she just loves to show up for all the fun 
. She rarely chats and if you happen to get her to chat with you then that means she must REALLY like you lol.
Norm & Sharon
. She rarely chats and if you happen to get her to chat with you then that means she must REALLY like you lol.Norm & Sharon
I am the initiator in almost every part of the lifestyle but it is also that way in "normal" life. She has on occasion been the first one to get naked and be ready to party but that doesn't happen very often.
>1. The subject of swinging?<
For us, I (Donna) was curious to what it was all about so I asked Jim and found out he had been looking into it online. At first I thought it was something only hippies in the 60's did..lol So to answer the question it was a mutual thing, which I know isn't the norm.
>2. The first swinger date?<
First date was with a bf/gf couple in TN. He was a lead singer of a band, so we went to see him perform then hung out afterwards. We didn't play together but we did seperately in the same room. That led to 2 softswings (girls played/ oral swap) then to full swap and other wild times.
>3. The subject of sexual preferences with swinger dates? <
Not sure what you mean here but our sexual preference has been standard the entire time we've been exploring. I was bi-curious then I earned the official title of being bi and Jim has always been totally straight. I'm sure others have changed but we have been the same from day one.
>4. Taking sexually explicit pictures?<
Well that was his idea. At first, my confidence was low because of my upbringing and I was a little overweight. However, after the first set of pictures and the positive responses we received, my confidence increased, the weight came off and any chance we get we take suggestive pics.
>5. Becoming members in a swinger web site, i.e., Swingular? <
The first sites we joined were clubs (now groups) on yahoo as well as, message boards on IRC, etc. We later started a club on yahoo which we closed later because the party that it was centered around closed and participation started dwindling. Far as the current websites we are members of, we both iniciate membership.
>6. Contacting other swinger couples?<
We both located the couples but usually I'm the one who writes them or chats with them. I'm the better typist. Once we get past the chat, we both speak on the phone, etc. He's not shy, he's just the strong silent type.
>7. Writing in forums like this?<
As above, I usually do the writing. Sometimes they are his words and sometimes they are mine but always, when you see us post, it reflects us both.
>8. Etc?<
Etc? Well if you see us at a party. You'll see me (Donna) making the first contacts with the couples but he scopes the room. It usually floors the people that talk to us, they don't realize how much we work together even if we are sometimes seperated not to mention, the woman doing the initial contact, but isn't it all about the woman?
For us, I (Donna) was curious to what it was all about so I asked Jim and found out he had been looking into it online. At first I thought it was something only hippies in the 60's did..lol So to answer the question it was a mutual thing, which I know isn't the norm.
>2. The first swinger date?<
First date was with a bf/gf couple in TN. He was a lead singer of a band, so we went to see him perform then hung out afterwards. We didn't play together but we did seperately in the same room. That led to 2 softswings (girls played/ oral swap) then to full swap and other wild times.
>3. The subject of sexual preferences with swinger dates? <
Not sure what you mean here but our sexual preference has been standard the entire time we've been exploring. I was bi-curious then I earned the official title of being bi and Jim has always been totally straight. I'm sure others have changed but we have been the same from day one.
>4. Taking sexually explicit pictures?<
Well that was his idea. At first, my confidence was low because of my upbringing and I was a little overweight. However, after the first set of pictures and the positive responses we received, my confidence increased, the weight came off and any chance we get we take suggestive pics.
>5. Becoming members in a swinger web site, i.e., Swingular? <
The first sites we joined were clubs (now groups) on yahoo as well as, message boards on IRC, etc. We later started a club on yahoo which we closed later because the party that it was centered around closed and participation started dwindling. Far as the current websites we are members of, we both iniciate membership.
>6. Contacting other swinger couples?<
We both located the couples but usually I'm the one who writes them or chats with them. I'm the better typist. Once we get past the chat, we both speak on the phone, etc. He's not shy, he's just the strong silent type.
>7. Writing in forums like this?<
As above, I usually do the writing. Sometimes they are his words and sometimes they are mine but always, when you see us post, it reflects us both.
>8. Etc?<
Etc? Well if you see us at a party. You'll see me (Donna) making the first contacts with the couples but he scopes the room. It usually floors the people that talk to us, they don't realize how much we work together even if we are sometimes seperated not to mention, the woman doing the initial contact, but isn't it all about the woman?
Which one of you initiated:
1. The subject of swinging?
Scott brought it up while we were discussing fantasies.
2. The first swinger date?
Went to a party and meet a couple we both liked a week later we went over their house for dinner. Nothing sexual. Mostly though Scott sets up the dates.
3. The subject of sexual preferences with swinger dates?
Christy had fantasies about bi sex so it just was something she wanted to explore, but only does so when the comfort level and chemistry are there.
4. Taking sexually explicit pictures?
Christy loves to show off at times. Scott loves to take pictures.
5. Becoming members in a swinger web site, i.e., Swingular?
Scott's idea. Yahoo groups and such are ok, but there are so many fakes on the internet it's really hard to meet serious people that are looking for a similar relationship.
6. Contacting other swinger couples?
Scott does most of the screening.
7. Writing in forums like this?
We both do at times, but Scott does most of the pc work.
Christy gets so frustrated with the search process only Scott has the patience to screen people and deal with the asshole single guys pretending to be girls or part of a couple. I will chat and webcam(g-rated) with folks normally after scott has already done some screening and thinks they are ok and honest. Even still he sometimes gets tricked by a person that tells lies well. However actions always speak loud than words and even they are soon found out. We are not big online chatters so if you keep making excuses on not meeting we assume you are fake and have something to hide.
IF the chemistry is there and Christy is comfortable (sometimes after a drink or two) she's normally the sexual aggressor or should I say she readily accepts advances at that point. Scott's very respectful and lets Christy set the tone and pace even though he's normally more comfortable.
1. The subject of swinging?
Scott brought it up while we were discussing fantasies.
2. The first swinger date?
Went to a party and meet a couple we both liked a week later we went over their house for dinner. Nothing sexual. Mostly though Scott sets up the dates.
3. The subject of sexual preferences with swinger dates?
Christy had fantasies about bi sex so it just was something she wanted to explore, but only does so when the comfort level and chemistry are there.
4. Taking sexually explicit pictures?
Christy loves to show off at times. Scott loves to take pictures.
5. Becoming members in a swinger web site, i.e., Swingular?
Scott's idea. Yahoo groups and such are ok, but there are so many fakes on the internet it's really hard to meet serious people that are looking for a similar relationship.
6. Contacting other swinger couples?
Scott does most of the screening.
7. Writing in forums like this?
We both do at times, but Scott does most of the pc work.
Christy gets so frustrated with the search process only Scott has the patience to screen people and deal with the asshole single guys pretending to be girls or part of a couple. I will chat and webcam(g-rated) with folks normally after scott has already done some screening and thinks they are ok and honest. Even still he sometimes gets tricked by a person that tells lies well. However actions always speak loud than words and even they are soon found out. We are not big online chatters so if you keep making excuses on not meeting we assume you are fake and have something to hide.
IF the chemistry is there and Christy is comfortable (sometimes after a drink or two) she's normally the sexual aggressor or should I say she readily accepts advances at that point. Scott's very respectful and lets Christy set the tone and pace even though he's normally more comfortable.
1. The subject of swinging?
For us, I'm (Candy) curious about it so we talked about it and we agreed to try it.So to answer the question it was a mutual thing, which I know isn't the norm.
2. The first swinger date?
We have not had one yet but we will soon.
3. The subject of sexual preferences with swinger dates?
I'm bi-curious then and Chris is totally straight.
4. Taking sexually explicit pictures?
Chris loves to take pictures and I love to show off at times.
5. Becoming members in a swinger web site, i.e., Swingular?
My idea.Yahoo groups and such are ok, but we have found so many fakes on the internet it's really hard to meet serious people that are looking for a similar relationship.
6. Contacting other swinger couples?
We both located the couples but usually I'm the one who writes them or chats with them. I'm the better typist. Once we get past the chat, we both speak on the phone, etc. He's not shy.
7. Writing in forums like this?
As above, I usually do the writing. Sometimes they are his words and sometimes they are mine but always, when you see us post, it reflects us both.
8. Etc?
As above,we have not done anything yet but we will soon.
For us, I'm (Candy) curious about it so we talked about it and we agreed to try it.So to answer the question it was a mutual thing, which I know isn't the norm.
2. The first swinger date?
We have not had one yet but we will soon.
3. The subject of sexual preferences with swinger dates?
I'm bi-curious then and Chris is totally straight.
4. Taking sexually explicit pictures?
Chris loves to take pictures and I love to show off at times.
5. Becoming members in a swinger web site, i.e., Swingular?
My idea.Yahoo groups and such are ok, but we have found so many fakes on the internet it's really hard to meet serious people that are looking for a similar relationship.
6. Contacting other swinger couples?
We both located the couples but usually I'm the one who writes them or chats with them. I'm the better typist. Once we get past the chat, we both speak on the phone, etc. He's not shy.
7. Writing in forums like this?
As above, I usually do the writing. Sometimes they are his words and sometimes they are mine but always, when you see us post, it reflects us both.
8. Etc?
As above,we have not done anything yet but we will soon.