How do you discuss certain sexual topics? Of course, open communications. But how do you tastefully discuss them in first few times you e-mail, talk? If I wanted to find out if a woman is kinky (anal, cum facials, toys, etc.), and it's important enough to me that it's a condition of getting together, how do I ask? It's in my profie, but not in theirs. Some profiles say "into everything but pain...", but then have a long list of things they won't do when I ask. And of course I feel like a crude oaf for being blunt about my desires. How do you find out if your wants & desires matches someone elses upfront, before you spend a lot of time?
Well for us it's always been; Be honest and upfront.
it is true that we all tend to make broad statements...
To us if you are on a swing site you ought to be able to handle whatever question someone poses to you. If you are unsure simply ask "do you mind if I ask a very sexually explict question?" It doesn't hurt to ask first as far as we go, we have very thick skin so no question is out of bounds you may be shocked by our answer though LOL.
Norm&Sharon
Norm&Sharon
thats funny ampussy
First off, we are a cpl that does say, we are open to most everything except pain and the like. When asked, we answer the same again, with the added line, Beyond that ask, so long as its discussd first, we might.
Think about who you are talking to (male or female) when you ask about the topic and what you are trying to ask... Does she like/enjoy _____ or ECT
Depending on who it is, ask tastefully... We all are here about the same thing ... sex....
After being online 8 yrs, we are pretty much unshockable. But that doesnt say we cant be grossed out...
Respect, and How things are asked about are key to how we answer.
Think about who you are talking to (male or female) when you ask about the topic and what you are trying to ask... Does she like/enjoy _____ or ECT
Depending on who it is, ask tastefully... We all are here about the same thing ... sex....
After being online 8 yrs, we are pretty much unshockable. But that doesnt say we cant be grossed out...
Respect, and How things are asked about are key to how we answer.
The only stupid question is the important one that isn't asked. If you are afraid to endure the "embarrassment" of asking a delicate question, then how much more embarassed and uncomfortable would everyone be when something undesireable is attempted?
First, thanks for the replies. They really do help. Second, I'd never do anything w/o their knowledge or approval. And I try to be as tasteful & respectful as I can when asking these types of questions. I'm not a "Hi, I'm _______. Can I fuck your ass & cum in your face?" type. And excuse me now for being so explicit.
But I guess I was wanting feedback on how to be explicit w/o being crude. I never feel that I've crossed that line, but sometimes after corresponding with someone for a while, and then bringing up my desires, they pull back. I'm not too disappointed because if they're no into it, then we weren't a good match. But then I feel like I wasted their time & mine, and that I offended them. And I don't want to be offensive.
But I guess I was wanting feedback on how to be explicit w/o being crude. I never feel that I've crossed that line, but sometimes after corresponding with someone for a while, and then bringing up my desires, they pull back. I'm not too disappointed because if they're no into it, then we weren't a good match. But then I feel like I wasted their time & mine, and that I offended them. And I don't want to be offensive.
LOL - I love the responses here.
You might also try telling the person you are e-mailing or chatting with that this is one your preferences. You really like anal, etc. etc. And then ask them if they are up for those type things. Maybe initiate the conversation with what are their fantasies, sexual likes or dislikes. Then lead with YOUR interests and onto the question....good luck!
You might also try telling the person you are e-mailing or chatting with that this is one your preferences. You really like anal, etc. etc. And then ask them if they are up for those type things. Maybe initiate the conversation with what are their fantasies, sexual likes or dislikes. Then lead with YOUR interests and onto the question....good luck!
I must apologize to all for being a hypocrite. I just looked at my profile, and it's all the things I'm saying I'm not in this topic. When I signed up, I did it quickly & wasn't sure if I'd participate. So I made my profile short & blunt (and somewhat crude now that I've looked at it). While the things listed ARE what I'm looking for, I could have & will do better in expressing that. So please accept my apology.
i think u should always be honest about what u want and need and what u are willing to do for the other people . what ever matters most to u should be talked about . that way u have a better chance of having a good time and everybody getting what they want . . u can just ask the from the get go . or take them time to chat with them a bit and ask ? and stufff like that back and forth .and each of yall get to ask ? or just say what they want . we like to ask alot of questions ... and we like to tell some stories of what we have done or would like to try ,u can also have everything in your profile and ask the people did u take the time to read my profile ????????? cause most dont . and then ask them if there is anything they want to ask u or tell u about it . or ask them if there is anything they arent into and stuff like that .
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