hello everyone ,
i have been wondering . . . . . . we all look at other members and profiles and say wow or hmmm when we read their profile but where does it go from there ? We all do the add to friends list thing but after that it seems that you never talk to or ever meet those people we add to our friends list . Anyways my point is how many posers are actually here versus those real people . As far as i am concerned i have met and made friends with only a few couples (who by the way are really cool people ) but lately it seems nobody responds to emails or invites . help me out what are we doing or not doing to meet those real people out there ?
J & K
i have been wondering . . . . . . we all look at other members and profiles and say wow or hmmm when we read their profile but where does it go from there ? We all do the add to friends list thing but after that it seems that you never talk to or ever meet those people we add to our friends list . Anyways my point is how many posers are actually here versus those real people . As far as i am concerned i have met and made friends with only a few couples (who by the way are really cool people ) but lately it seems nobody responds to emails or invites . help me out what are we doing or not doing to meet those real people out there ?
J & K
on that note: if we ever get out to ut area we may never come back, lots of lovely couples out your way
I think generally speaking most people won't respond to the automated "so-and-so added you to their friends list" because it really isn't telling them A) anything about why you are interested in them or B) if you're adding them cuz you want to get together with them or you just liked their pics. We've had tons of people add us to their friends list, they've never written us personally and over half of them live so far away that there's pretty much no hope of getting together with them unless they were going to be in our area and well if they were they never bothered to write and say, "Hey we'd like to get together when we're in town".
Honestly we've had the greatest success as far as talking with and meeting people from the site in Chat. Its a good place to talk and get to know people and one thing very easily leads to another. Good luck!
-SG
Honestly we've had the greatest success as far as talking with and meeting people from the site in Chat. Its a good place to talk and get to know people and one thing very easily leads to another. Good luck!
-SG
yeah, we are thinking of moving to utah also
Hey ShyOnes....
I rarely add people to my friends list unless I've met them or chatted with them online. I typically don't respond to people who add me and then don't follow up to say something... or, well anything?? LoL... I try to, but don't always have time to figure out what people are really interested in... make sense?
Okay that said.... for as long as I've been in the lifestyle... as a single woman and as a couple - I've found that meeting people goes in fits and spurts. Especially as summer approaches and around holidays, time is even harder to find. As a couple - if we'd met a few people who just didn't fit in a row, we'd get a little frustrated. As a single - I have 4, maybe 5 evenings a month to meet people and get to know them, let alone play. I try to get to know people online, in chat and at the greets. To be honest - meeting quality people here is NOT the issue, at least for me. It's more about time... and the lack thereof.... Make sense?
So take a look at how you do it, how you might come across... chat with those that it's worked with and see what went well and what didnt. You'll figure it out. As long as you're not tooo shy
Good Luck and Enjoy!!
-Te
I rarely add people to my friends list unless I've met them or chatted with them online. I typically don't respond to people who add me and then don't follow up to say something... or, well anything?? LoL... I try to, but don't always have time to figure out what people are really interested in... make sense?
Okay that said.... for as long as I've been in the lifestyle... as a single woman and as a couple - I've found that meeting people goes in fits and spurts. Especially as summer approaches and around holidays, time is even harder to find. As a couple - if we'd met a few people who just didn't fit in a row, we'd get a little frustrated. As a single - I have 4, maybe 5 evenings a month to meet people and get to know them, let alone play. I try to get to know people online, in chat and at the greets. To be honest - meeting quality people here is NOT the issue, at least for me. It's more about time... and the lack thereof.... Make sense?
So take a look at how you do it, how you might come across... chat with those that it's worked with and see what went well and what didnt. You'll figure it out. As long as you're not tooo shy
Good Luck and Enjoy!!
-Te
We always try to send a little note along with adding someone to our friends list. We add them so that we remember that we have expressed some sort of interest, even if it is just to say we like your profile and wouldn't mind chatting or doing dinner. It does get frustrating when most don't evne respond even with a 'no thank you" Afet awhile we will go through our friend list and delete those that we haven't heard from.
rob n jan
rob n jan