This happen on another swingers site but our profile is the same as the one on here and it says that We will chat with couples and get together and become friends. (But no sexual stuff.) I did not save the first e-mail this couple send us but there profile says while friendship is nice,we aren't looking for best friends.We are looking for playmates!So I send them Hey! Thank You for writing. Right now I don't think we are compatible, good luck in your search. And they send me Hey! Sorry didn't realize you were expecting! So to explain more I send them Hey! We are very new to the lifstyle.We are looking for only friendship from couples.My husband is not ready to see me with another man.(watching,playing or sex)In your profile you said that friendship is nice but that you are looking for playmates.You are execting more then we can give and we are execting more then you can give.And they send me We Really do not know what you are talking about,just from your pictures it appeared you were pregnant, but remember this is a "swing" website, if your looking for a lady you might go to a "lesbian" website..And if your looking for friendship and campanionship, you might go to church. There is one on every corner! Happy Emailing! And then they blocked me.
First of all why did they e-mail us when if they read our profile they would have known that we will chat with couples and get together and become friends. (But no sexual stuff.)
Second of all I was trying to be nice by explaining, why did they have to be so mean.
Third of all I had a baby two year ago and I am still trying to loss it,it has been very hard.
Fourth of all I do go to church,but that is not the friendship and campanionship I am looking for.
We are very new to the lifestyle so did we do something wrong here?
First of all why did they e-mail us when if they read our profile they would have known that we will chat with couples and get together and become friends. (But no sexual stuff.)
Second of all I was trying to be nice by explaining, why did they have to be so mean.
Third of all I had a baby two year ago and I am still trying to loss it,it has been very hard.
Fourth of all I do go to church,but that is not the friendship and campanionship I am looking for.
We are very new to the lifestyle so did we do something wrong here?
Just some advice, we respect that you are quite obvious of what you are seeking in your profile, however I do have to say that the forum you are seeking friendship from may not be the best one to accomplish what you are seeking. Since this is a lifestyle forum, most people are seeking others who want to participate with them in the lifestyle, if we make new friends in the process that is a bonus. So if you are not looking to participate in the lifestyle, then you may be better off checking out a "vanilla" couples group.
Just our 2 cents
Just our 2 cents
Please read our Profile..
We are looking for Single Females for Girl on Girl.
The only place it says anything about couples is at the very bottom and it says We will chat with couples and get together and become friends. (But no sexual stuff.) And we only did this because alot of couples always e-mail us.And we want them to know what we wanted from them before they e-mail us and wasted our time and theirs.We thought we were at the right place for what we are looking for (Single Females for Girl on Girl) so Please tell us what Sites or forums we sould go to if these sites and forums are not the right place. .
We are looking for Single Females for Girl on Girl.
The only place it says anything about couples is at the very bottom and it says We will chat with couples and get together and become friends. (But no sexual stuff.) And we only did this because alot of couples always e-mail us.And we want them to know what we wanted from them before they e-mail us and wasted our time and theirs.We thought we were at the right place for what we are looking for (Single Females for Girl on Girl) so Please tell us what Sites or forums we sould go to if these sites and forums are not the right place. .
Your profile is clear, this type of site is appropriate for you and some couples just want sex and nothing else. We would have answered just as you did and thought nothing of it. We expect friendships before play, if you are not the type to be friendship quality, why would we want to have sex with you.
There are some Bi ladies on these sites but most don't have the time to waste on them like the single guys do. Read our profile, you may find more what you want with soft swingers with Bi ladies where they will respect your wish not to have sex with the other male.
Good luck and keep looking, you will find what you want eventually...Frank and Diana
There are some Bi ladies on these sites but most don't have the time to waste on them like the single guys do. Read our profile, you may find more what you want with soft swingers with Bi ladies where they will respect your wish not to have sex with the other male.
Good luck and keep looking, you will find what you want eventually...Frank and Diana
so i went to read your profile, it is clear once you read it all, and people should if they are going to contact you... in my opinion, (rich), you have a lot of words there, makes lazy people skip some... even though it is clear at the top, you might want to steamline your ad, so the things that are most important stand out... think of it as effenciency advertising.
there are a few sights which also might better serve your needs at this time, (the ladiesclub dot com , and rainbowfriendfinder dot com) will most likely help to find what you are currently looking for... and you can go to singles sights as well, they let women sign up free normally, and you can ad for a girl, the last thing i can think of is you joining yahoo groups and such dealing with that matter... hope this advise helps... rich of richandchris
there are a few sights which also might better serve your needs at this time, (the ladiesclub dot com , and rainbowfriendfinder dot com) will most likely help to find what you are currently looking for... and you can go to singles sights as well, they let women sign up free normally, and you can ad for a girl, the last thing i can think of is you joining yahoo groups and such dealing with that matter... hope this advise helps... rich of richandchris
First: To Candy -- I think this is the right site for you. I will explain more below.
Second: I have read your profile and many of your posts in these forums. Sweetie, it seems to me that you and your husband are not in the same place regarding swinging. If I am right, this is sad and probably leaves you very frustrated. His aversion to seeing another man even looking at you naked means you two are very far apart.
Third: You are not clear about having sex with another man. Again, it seems that your looking for a bi-woman might be a compromise to satisfy some of your sexual desires. This is a good place to let it all out. It would help us to know how many sexual partners you have had - both men and women - before and since you have been married. Tell us all and lets see what we can do to help you.
Fourth: To experienced swingers -- Candy needs our advice. She and her husband are young, and we all know most young husbands are not mature enough to handle
Second: I have read your profile and many of your posts in these forums. Sweetie, it seems to me that you and your husband are not in the same place regarding swinging. If I am right, this is sad and probably leaves you very frustrated. His aversion to seeing another man even looking at you naked means you two are very far apart.
Third: You are not clear about having sex with another man. Again, it seems that your looking for a bi-woman might be a compromise to satisfy some of your sexual desires. This is a good place to let it all out. It would help us to know how many sexual partners you have had - both men and women - before and since you have been married. Tell us all and lets see what we can do to help you.
Fourth: To experienced swingers -- Candy needs our advice. She and her husband are young, and we all know most young husbands are not mature enough to handle
Hello Sexy Candy,
Sorry you seem to be having problems but sometimes things just go with the territory. There may be a few times where someone may send a mail before completely reading a profile. We don't do it often but have had it happen a time or two and we are pretty sure we aren't the only ones who have made that mistake at least once.
Secondly, while your profile does state what you are looking for, please try and remember what type of site this is. While not completely uncommon, it is rare to find a couple "just looking to be social friends". Usually there is a desire to at least have some sort of "soft swing" , " girl on girl" etc.......
We don't see anything wrong with your reply to the other couple, there are times when a reply can lead to offense taken by the other couple no matter how well worded it may have been. No need to worry always, as it is impossible to please everyone everytime : ) Just do your best to be polite.
If you and your husband are not on the same level here, ie: one looking for more or less than the other, it might be a wonderful idea to take a step back, talk openly and honestly with one another and make sure you are both heading in the same direction before jumping in. If you truly love each other, it isn't worth losing a marraige over of course, and if either of you have any reservations regarding the other, this certainly wouldn't be the place to find those answers. Hope this helps some, Jesus, I feel like Dear Abby here............
We wish you both the best of luck, take care and be safe : )
Sxy2
Sorry you seem to be having problems but sometimes things just go with the territory. There may be a few times where someone may send a mail before completely reading a profile. We don't do it often but have had it happen a time or two and we are pretty sure we aren't the only ones who have made that mistake at least once.
Secondly, while your profile does state what you are looking for, please try and remember what type of site this is. While not completely uncommon, it is rare to find a couple "just looking to be social friends". Usually there is a desire to at least have some sort of "soft swing" , " girl on girl" etc.......
We don't see anything wrong with your reply to the other couple, there are times when a reply can lead to offense taken by the other couple no matter how well worded it may have been. No need to worry always, as it is impossible to please everyone everytime : ) Just do your best to be polite.
If you and your husband are not on the same level here, ie: one looking for more or less than the other, it might be a wonderful idea to take a step back, talk openly and honestly with one another and make sure you are both heading in the same direction before jumping in. If you truly love each other, it isn't worth losing a marraige over of course, and if either of you have any reservations regarding the other, this certainly wouldn't be the place to find those answers. Hope this helps some, Jesus, I feel like Dear Abby here............
We wish you both the best of luck, take care and be safe : )
Sxy2
First: We were childhood sweethearts. (At the age of 12.) We are best friends. We have been together for 10 years,been married for 8 years.For the ten years we have only be with each other.Before we were togrther I had been with 5 men (I do mean men.When I was a teen,I went out with men : 18 to 23.) Before we were togrther he had been with 7 girls.I was with one woman and Chris was there but we had to stop before we got started.(she only when down on me and Chris was watshing but then I told him to go down on her,so he did.Then we had to stop because someone was try to come in the room.We were at a house party.This is why we are here.
Second: We are in the same place regarding swinging.I only want to be with another woman.I do not want to be with another man.(We both are not ready to have another man with us.)I just thought it would be easyer to fine a couple to do what we want.Then to find a single female.Because every where I go everyone is saying the samething " There are not as many single females looking for coupls as there is couples looking for single females."Please reread the post.It saids that We want to be with a single bi-female..... I only want the women to play and the men to watch......
Third: Nothing can get in the way of our marraige.We would never leave each other.We have been through too much together.At 18 we got back together and we had our frist miscarrage.At 19 we had our frist son and our son and I almost die and we had our second miscarrage and was told by a DR. that I could not have any more children.For 4 year we had sex maybe once a month because it hart to have sex.(When we had sex it was over real fast because he did not want to hurt me.)He never steped out on me.He never thought to step out on me.at 23 we had our second son.What ever was wrong with me was gone because it did not hart to have sex any more.At 25 we had our daughter and I almost die having her.For the past 2 years we have wild sex almost every night.After having kids we finely got our sex life back.Now if only I can get my body back. LOL <(That is a joke Chris loves my body)
Chris is the best man out there for me.I should know because I have been looking for a husband since I was 16.All the men I went out with only cared about themselves and what they could get.Chis cares about me and trys to give me everything I want.THAT IS WHY WE ARE HERE.Because he is trying to give me what I want.He is the type of person that would give you the would if he could.
Just so you know we as a couple have researched the swingers lifstyle for a year before we as a couple decieded to join the swingers lifestyle.
We wrote this together.I just typed it .
Candy & Chris
Second: We are in the same place regarding swinging.I only want to be with another woman.I do not want to be with another man.(We both are not ready to have another man with us.)I just thought it would be easyer to fine a couple to do what we want.Then to find a single female.Because every where I go everyone is saying the samething " There are not as many single females looking for coupls as there is couples looking for single females."Please reread the post.It saids that We want to be with a single bi-female..... I only want the women to play and the men to watch......
Third: Nothing can get in the way of our marraige.We would never leave each other.We have been through too much together.At 18 we got back together and we had our frist miscarrage.At 19 we had our frist son and our son and I almost die and we had our second miscarrage and was told by a DR. that I could not have any more children.For 4 year we had sex maybe once a month because it hart to have sex.(When we had sex it was over real fast because he did not want to hurt me.)He never steped out on me.He never thought to step out on me.at 23 we had our second son.What ever was wrong with me was gone because it did not hart to have sex any more.At 25 we had our daughter and I almost die having her.For the past 2 years we have wild sex almost every night.After having kids we finely got our sex life back.Now if only I can get my body back. LOL <(That is a joke Chris loves my body)
Chris is the best man out there for me.I should know because I have been looking for a husband since I was 16.All the men I went out with only cared about themselves and what they could get.Chis cares about me and trys to give me everything I want.THAT IS WHY WE ARE HERE.Because he is trying to give me what I want.He is the type of person that would give you the would if he could.
Just so you know we as a couple have researched the swingers lifstyle for a year before we as a couple decieded to join the swingers lifestyle.
We wrote this together.I just typed it .
Candy & Chris
ok now it is time to be blunt you all appernlty dont know what this is about nor have you got a clue i do realize that you are new but other people have said the same thing to you over and over again not only on this thread but others that you have posted like i belive that cplinjax said if i missed spelled the name i am sorry but people come here to expolre thier wants and desires with like minded people whatever thier comfort level is with others in this area is completly up to the couples in question but from everything you say it seems that you either try to justfiy or explain your stance on what you are looking for i think you two should talk and try to look at it from another persons point of view of what you are sayin you might learn something
Punctuation. Try it. It's cool.
Do what's best for YOU. Don't justify yourself to others. Don't explain yourself. Chock it up to a learning experience and move on. Pondering motives in the lifestyle is a waste of time.
-R
Do what's best for YOU. Don't justify yourself to others. Don't explain yourself. Chock it up to a learning experience and move on. Pondering motives in the lifestyle is a waste of time.
-R
mmmmmm yeah it could be cool. point do i really care i say what I want ill run on and on and on dont like it dont read it
Heres a bit of advice from a cpl that has had it the reverse we ARE NOT looking for only one sided play (which is what your profile tends to indicate). If you say what YOU BOTH want and MEAN what you say then possibly you will get a better response. Try shortening up your profile make it clear EXACTLY what you BOTH are looking for simply say in LARGE BOLD LETTTERS Looking for Ladies ONLY single or married your husband can be there but he is going to just WATCH. WE WANT FRIENDS FIRST DON't PUSH US we want to get to know you as FRIENDS not rulling out future sex (LADY to LADY) but, LADY to LADY SEX is the ONLY thing we are looking for.
Reading your profile there are somes misleading things its not very clear and very contradictary. Since we re-wrote and re-wrote our profile we no longer get as many wrong hits on our profile. We say it clear FULL SWAP ONLY ! O.K. That is our opinion hope it helps and hope you can clear your profile of the misleading statements and that you do trully find what you are BOTH looking for.
S&N
Reading your profile there are somes misleading things its not very clear and very contradictary. Since we re-wrote and re-wrote our profile we no longer get as many wrong hits on our profile. We say it clear FULL SWAP ONLY ! O.K. That is our opinion hope it helps and hope you can clear your profile of the misleading statements and that you do trully find what you are BOTH looking for.
S&N
Our experiences has shown that there are a lot of people on swinger sites that don't take the time to read the ENTIRE profile before writing. No matter how clearly you try to write up your profile there will ALWAYS be people that are so intent at sending messages out they don't take the time to read.
One site we goto we have all our contact info in the profile and even put in the profile 3 times that we can't respond back since we are not paid members. We have lost count of how many times people don't read this even though it's clearly marked in the profile.
One site we goto we have all our contact info in the profile and even put in the profile 3 times that we can't respond back since we are not paid members. We have lost count of how many times people don't read this even though it's clearly marked in the profile.
i think as long as u are honest on your profile about everything that u want and dont want then they cant blame u if they dont want to take the time to read it all before they try to email u . just be honest with yourself and others . and tell everybody up front . it would also be more helpful if u wrote the people that u wanted to meet that way u have some control over who the people are . adn the ones that write u that are looking for something else . dont worry about it . it happnes to all of us . dont let others get u down . find people that are looking for what your want and have fun . we tell everybody that we are just looking for friends and we hang out with alot of different people . and we have been with different people looking for different things . sometimes people just clikc and can have fun . and some dont click even wanting the same things .jsut be honest and look and try to find people like u and make friends on the way . if u want to try someting new then do it . if not stick to what u like .
i like females . but we have a hard time finding a single female . so sometimes we find where the wife and i can play . and sometimes the husband wants nothing more then to watch . and we all have a great time . dont give up on your search .
naughty dreams
freaky kitty
i like females . but we have a hard time finding a single female . so sometimes we find where the wife and i can play . and sometimes the husband wants nothing more then to watch . and we all have a great time . dont give up on your search .
naughty dreams
freaky kitty