Say you have been chatting with someone,how long do you wait before meeting them.
We have talked to some from months and never met them, this week were
meeting a couple we've only talked to a couple of times.
You just have to play it by ear, you don't have to go
out with everybody you talk too,,, I think, maybe i'm wrong
meeting a couple we've only talked to a couple of times.
You just have to play it by ear, you don't have to go
out with everybody you talk too,,, I think, maybe i'm wrong
We will have to agree with CLAY...... You just have to go with what feels right thru your conversations with the other party!
We have talked with several couples and singles for several months prior to meeting. Some of which we still talk with weekly or even daily waiting on schedules to match. Then again, sometimes things never work out. Just go with your feelings!
We have even resopnded to Instant Messages and be naked with them the same evening!
Good Luck! Have Fun!
We have talked with several couples and singles for several months prior to meeting. Some of which we still talk with weekly or even daily waiting on schedules to match. Then again, sometimes things never work out. Just go with your feelings!
We have even resopnded to Instant Messages and be naked with them the same evening!
Good Luck! Have Fun!
Thanks to all your replys.
If we have chatted with someone it is because we are interested in meeting and seeing if there is the right chemistry between all. How long we wait before meeting is only set by schedules and when is good for both parties. Everyone's schedule is different depending on jobs, kids, or other friends that are not in the lifestyle.
Well i think everyone has pretty much covered what i would say.
We haven't met someone we got naked with the same night....but that just may be us being overly careful.
Just go with how you feel. If you don't feel comfortable, don't meet them or met in a public place. It's all in how you feel.
We haven't met someone we got naked with the same night....but that just may be us being overly careful.
Just go with how you feel. If you don't feel comfortable, don't meet them or met in a public place. It's all in how you feel.
We like to meet soon after chatting and making sure everyone is on the same page. We have communicated for a year with a couple before meeting due to location but that is unusual.
The preference is to meet within a couple weeks of the initial contact for drinks and talking...we like people in person rather than endless chatting on the computer...Good Luck
The preference is to meet within a couple weeks of the initial contact for drinks and talking...we like people in person rather than endless chatting on the computer...Good Luck
We attempt to meet people soon after our initial conversations once everyone agrees ona time and place and shedules allow then we meet. We find that REAL and SERIOUS people not the Cam only, fakes, and game players will keep in contact the others fade away without a word. we do everything possible to meet people within the same month we have waited as long as a year lol We met two cpls chatted about everything under the sun while we were still in Europe a year later we finally met in person.
Norm&Sharon
Norm&Sharon
For us works better to get to know a couple very good and view as much pics of them so there wont be no surprises and when we finally meet we dont need to talk about sexual prefrences do's and dont's and so on, insted we enjoy the company and if the chemistri is there, most likly the second time we meet, we get to have great sex.
We play it by ear as well. Some couples as well as ourselves have a difficult time trying to get schedules straight and such.
Our basic path is
find a couple that is looking for similar thing (for us we are looking for a couple that can be social and sexual)
Has the same concerns of safety. (ie condom usage)
Current/recent pics showing faces
--after that we normally try to set a dinner date. We are not really interested in trading life stories and such with people we have not met. We are also not interested in doing a lot of email trading.
Always meet in a public place. And if it's a single girl you are trying to set the date with--Always talk on the phone or over yahoo chat(voice) so you it helps rule out that stupid guys posing as single girls.
Our basic path is
find a couple that is looking for similar thing (for us we are looking for a couple that can be social and sexual)
Has the same concerns of safety. (ie condom usage)
Current/recent pics showing faces
--after that we normally try to set a dinner date. We are not really interested in trading life stories and such with people we have not met. We are also not interested in doing a lot of email trading.
Always meet in a public place. And if it's a single girl you are trying to set the date with--Always talk on the phone or over yahoo chat(voice) so you it helps rule out that stupid guys posing as single girls.
We like to chat for a couple weeks. We don't have video but we do have lots of photos.
we talk to alot of people . but we are very busy with life . so we tell everybody that when we can get out we go to pleasure palace and they are more then welcome to meet us there or say hi when they see us . but as for chatting with people and then wanting to meet them . we go alot on what their profile says about them and how well we think we would get along with them . we chat alot on the computer with people and then try to find something that we can go and do with the ones that we really click with . some people dont want to go to clubs . so we will meet them at reg bars or bowling or something like that . some people want to meet alot of people and some just want to meet a few . whatever u choose u will know when it is right . when it feels right then do it . but if for whatever reason it doesnt feel right then dont do it .
naughty dreams
freaky kitty
naughty dreams
freaky kitty
Unfortunately, we are one of those couples that are not "Free" a lot and sometimes it takes us months to get a meeting worked out 
We are not as active because of our schedules as we'd like to be, but if couples are patient, we make it up to them 
We are not as active because of our schedules as we'd like to be, but if couples are patient, we make it up to them We ususally wait a long time b4 meeting a couple we are interested in. We figure if they are really interested in us, they will be patient, and chat with us online until we all feel comfortable to meet up in person. It is more relaxing that way to meet a couple in public when you feel you already know them pretty good by just chatting online. Things seem to go a lot better when we go about it this way. So far we have made some awesome friends that we will have for a life time.
Unfortunately, there are a lot of people that assume you are going to fuck them because you've agree to meet. Many people have many different perceptions of what "swinging" is. Thus, many couples are apprehensive about just jumping into meetings, especially private ones.
It would help your endeavor to have some pictures on your profile. This will help you weed out the superficial assholes, save you money on needless dinner dates and find people that are actually attracted to you. You don't have to have public photos, however you should have private ones that display your faces. At least one pic should display you and spouse/lover engaging in affection somehow. This will put peoples' minds at ease concerning the validity of your profile and allow people to see what they are getting themselves into.
You may also try meeting on cam in the chatroom or on yahoo IM. This give them an idea of what you are like in person. As this is a couple thing in nature, compatibility has to work 4 ways. To facilitate the meeting process, you should do your best to let the people size you up and decide whether they really want to take the time to meet you.
We hope this helps. We all know about the flaky people out there. We also know what it's like to be unattracted and be put in a situation where you don't wanna crush a potential friendship because you don't wanna fuck the couple. People don't take rejection well. Meeting online helps you give the signals from a safe distance and build the friendship first.
Take all this how you will. This post is based on our experience. We ourselves are still learning the intricacies of the lifestyle. We wish you guys the very best in the hunt. We feel your pain.
-TR-
It would help your endeavor to have some pictures on your profile. This will help you weed out the superficial assholes, save you money on needless dinner dates and find people that are actually attracted to you. You don't have to have public photos, however you should have private ones that display your faces. At least one pic should display you and spouse/lover engaging in affection somehow. This will put peoples' minds at ease concerning the validity of your profile and allow people to see what they are getting themselves into.
You may also try meeting on cam in the chatroom or on yahoo IM. This give them an idea of what you are like in person. As this is a couple thing in nature, compatibility has to work 4 ways. To facilitate the meeting process, you should do your best to let the people size you up and decide whether they really want to take the time to meet you.
We hope this helps. We all know about the flaky people out there. We also know what it's like to be unattracted and be put in a situation where you don't wanna crush a potential friendship because you don't wanna fuck the couple. People don't take rejection well. Meeting online helps you give the signals from a safe distance and build the friendship first.
Take all this how you will. This post is based on our experience. We ourselves are still learning the intricacies of the lifestyle. We wish you guys the very best in the hunt. We feel your pain.
-TR-
We wouldnt know, people have to read and reply to our mail so we can worry about that step.
Just got back from coffee with a female i met on yahoo talked to her Friday night but been a busy weekend for me, I wont meet anyone i cannot see or hear first ....I'm not gonna travel to meet someone without hearing a voice or have an intelligent conversatioon over a simple phone call.. Besides would you have sex with someone who wont even call to say hello as a freind first???
Even some video webcam chats are phony ..There are quite a few programs for yahoo IM and MSN that you can load a movie file from your pc ..When i used to chat on ICUII i talked to a couple from miami 10pm at night and thier msgs werent REAL since all that sunshine coming threw there bedroom window at 10PM LOL ...way too many fakers and phonies out there ...
Dont have time to waste LOL
Even some video webcam chats are phony ..There are quite a few programs for yahoo IM and MSN that you can load a movie file from your pc ..When i used to chat on ICUII i talked to a couple from miami 10pm at night and thier msgs werent REAL since all that sunshine coming threw there bedroom window at 10PM LOL ...way too many fakers and phonies out there ...
Dont have time to waste LOL
What's the best time or how long to wait before meeting someone?...
I think it depends on the answers to several questions being answered. Do I feel confortable with this person or persons? Do I believe, from the communications that they are real and that they are somewhat compatable with me/us?
HAve you ever just talked to someone and instantly knew that these people/this person and you are compatable? Not just in the lifestyle but in your "normal" life. Well sometimes that happens in the lifestyle as well and you know that you would like to meet this person or couple ASAP... You don't have to meet everyone you talk to but I think that if they are asking when and you are not sure or you do not want to simply let them know that things don't seem to be clicking... OTOH.... Sometimes people do not do well in print but do do well in person... You have to make decissions about people and compatability, honesty, and yes even looks if that is important..
So there is no hard and fast rule unless you want it hard and fast... LOL to when to meet or if to meet, at all. It's really not difficult to do this.. If you're not comfortable wait... and when you do feel comfortable or you ultimately do not then it's decission time.
I think it depends on the answers to several questions being answered. Do I feel confortable with this person or persons? Do I believe, from the communications that they are real and that they are somewhat compatable with me/us?
HAve you ever just talked to someone and instantly knew that these people/this person and you are compatable? Not just in the lifestyle but in your "normal" life. Well sometimes that happens in the lifestyle as well and you know that you would like to meet this person or couple ASAP... You don't have to meet everyone you talk to but I think that if they are asking when and you are not sure or you do not want to simply let them know that things don't seem to be clicking... OTOH.... Sometimes people do not do well in print but do do well in person... You have to make decissions about people and compatability, honesty, and yes even looks if that is important..
So there is no hard and fast rule unless you want it hard and fast... LOL to when to meet or if to meet, at all. It's really not difficult to do this.. If you're not comfortable wait... and when you do feel comfortable or you ultimately do not then it's decission time.