Swingers on Swingular - Swingers Forum - Same room, Seperate room, and why? or why not?

Know this has been asked before but...

We wanted to know what you prefer Same room or seperate room swap, and why?

Thanks

We're good with either, but generally prefer separate rooms.

There are pros and cons to both of course, but have found that oft times when it gets down to the ergonomics of the situation, four adults in say a queen sized bed, or on a single sofa gets to be rather cumbersome. You have different "rhythms" going on, that most of the time are not in sync. Like ripples in a pond from two separate stones dropped in close proximity, your motions interfere.

Not to mention neither Siren nor myself like being on the floor, so that's never an option.

I guess what it boils down to is physical comfort for being the primary reason.

Either way...it's all good, and we can go either way.

~J~

we prefer same for awhile untill we really really get to know people then separate or whatever. we're open to whatever the mood suits. we're really not into too many rules of engagement.

whatever feels good and up to the limits of the other couple..

We have done it both ways and have no preferance. It is up to the couples as to what they like

We prefer same room..but we have a giant bed...

He likes to know she is "scoring" when he is out at work, class, or whatever, but she is a little uncomfy with it still...but is progressing to oral and such....

SHe has allowed him to play solo, but only with those who have established friendship beforehand...

We would guess it is moreso a comfort thing...If we feel VERY comfy with the playmate, not a problem...BUT if not as comfy...We tend to stay together...

We do not date but can play separately. We can and do, at times, play separately at events. Playing in the same room you each can see the other getting satisfied or in the throws of ecstasy and that can be a turn on. This is a shared experience to some. Some people play in separate rooms and talk about it later and get turned on by the story that is told...Personally we each play for our own enjoyment or call it our own fantasy and fun... So either way can be fun... I love to see her in the throws of ecstasy, it's a real turn on...

Same room for us, preferably same bed (even if it's a queen - lol). And have you ever done it on an air matress with another couple, talk about the ripple effect-ha ha! Much of our pleasure is derived from seeing each other and playing with each other during the experience. We are mostly interested in group activities (threesomes, foursomes, sometimes more) as opposed to simply pairing off, and separate room swap doesn't promote that. Our very first experience, years ago, was just swap; then and subsequent experiences have helped us realize that just switching partners is just not as exciting for us. While swapping is very often part of any play experience we have and that's great, there's always got to be the "group" stuff as well.

Very well put DPISFUN. We pretty much feel the same way with very few exceptions. the only difference would be that once in a while it would be fun and exciting to know that she is getting a little on the side and him as well. So once in a while a little playing alone would be fun.

Want to thank everyone for there views on this

We ourselves have only done same room swap.. so far that is...

Were not against or for it really. We just haven't ever had anyone
bring it up or want to do seperate rooms.

I know that a big part of the turn on for us, is to see the other
being pleased. She loves to watch me with another women. It's one
of the major turn ons for her. And I like to see and hear her being
pleased as well.
I can see how it can be good and bad... To me, I think we would have
to know the couple very very well to even consider it. We have heard
bad stories and good ones as well

Thanks everyone

Well for us.....we are in this because we enjoy the view. If we take it to seperate rooms then to us thats moving to a different level of swapping so to speak. The whole point is to see each other, watch each other, touch each other even during play so if we're not in the same area, or room then how can we do that? Neither one of us like the idea of playing seperate/seperate rooms just because we're not in this because we want to experience seperately our own thing we're in it to experience together something erotic, fun and exciting, and to bring something new to our already hot sex life ( it just makes it that much hotter!). We just enjoy the same room stuff, it just works best for what we are looking for. I am with Thoughtgarden, though....carpet burns hurt to bad, I perfer something soft such as a bed, or a couch but floor isn't my first, or second option!

Stitchutah couldn't say it any better. We are in this together, to share each others pleasures.

We have really enjoyed being in the same room together. I just love seeing another woman with him and seeing her enjoy him the way I do. He also loves seeing me with another and being pleasured.

I think it would be interesting to have sex in separate rooms and then talking about it later. Could be a big turn on. I have no issues with him going solo on his days off and would love to hear about his encounters. I think that would send me into some huge Os.

I think separate rooms would work better in some situations just cause I think some couples still have jealousy issues.

S&B

I know it's hard to imagine.... but I agree with TR (teasing ya handsome)....

It's easy to 'say' that you will only do one thing or the other, but you really just don't know what you'll want or need until you're in the situation. I've met couples that I've been comfortable with immediately... and some that have taken longer.

I like the visual. A lot. I also like one - on - one as well.

It's all good.

-Te

Don, What kind of small bird is it?

Aren't we all a little bit crazy Don? Kind of hard to get through this thing called life without it crossing your wires a bit.

Ali

We're completely cool with either/or if the company is right.

we were asked that tonight by a couple. we have never done the seperate room thing. but yes it would be exciteing to hear about from him. but for me i will do it after i know the other couple really well but it is a real turn on to watch him please another woman

For me ( the male), I like being alone with a woman. I love women, and I love being very intimate with them. The " 1 2 3, let's fuck thing" doesn't do it for me. I like going through the whole thing ... from initial eye contact to flirting to kissing to touching, and yes, to fucking. I love making love to a woman, and we are not threatened by doing that with other people.

Same bed is awkward...like TG said, the whole ripple thing just screws with the rhythm.

The visuals, sounds, everything of Same Room (as Dev said) are awesome...but there are some you can just hear from any room in the house.

So it doesn't matter WHAT room you're in.

Seriously though.

Personally, I'm fine with different room and in many cases I prefer it. I may be an exhibitionist in many ways, but I prefer to do my nasty in private. However, as a friend said in a recent conversation, my partner is most precious to me and I want to assure her safety. So, I will put aside my own wants in this case and go with what she's comfortable with and what my own instincts are telling me.

Usually, sep. rooms only comes when we have a good familiarity with the ones we're playing with.

-K_T

wetfem AMEN to that (male half)

Female half does not like same room... apparently I am distracting. I also tend to stop to watch her too much.... so normally seperate rooms

UNLESS it is a male then I get to stay and watch Just have to be quiet or I get gag'd and tied up...

BTW some have asked NO, that is not us gettting married we just stood up in a swinger wedding

At first we wanted to always be together in the same room when we first met a couple. Then maybe go separate rooms after we have been with them a few times. But, we quickly found out that all the bouncing and "noise" was a BIG distraction from us pleasing our new partner. And, since it is the first time with a new partner, we felt it was VERY important to make sure we pleased that new partner. So, we decided separate rooms was best for the first few times we met a new couple so we could fully concentrate on the new partner. After that, we would try same room for watching, reaching out and touching each other, etc, etc.

There some interesting points of view, stuff we'd never really thought about here. We're same room only. For us (like others have said) being in the lifestyle is about sharing sex together with other people and we can only do that in the same room. We like to swap around and spend time with our own partner as well as with the new ones (in fact if everyone is comfortable with it we like to focus attention on one person, then switch it out). More of a 3/4some situation that true swapping, we guess thats not technically swinging is it?

We totally agree with stitchutah. Th whole point for us was to increase "our" fun and pleasure.
It's also totally hot to watch you mate.

T and V

we prefer separate rooms

Besides the view, there is the economics of it. Getting one motel room for 4 costs less than getting 2 motel rooms for 4. :z :l

prefer same room, enjoy sharing the experience. When we started this 10 yrs ago would not consider seperate but with our comfort levels, now seperate is cool. Michele also enjoys meeting others alone and I enjoy her doing that so we have come along way.

She had her first exp with a couple (alone) while i was away on a businees trip and I loved getting the details in that email!

Clay and Michele

We totally enjoy being in the same room, for visual purposes. Like others have said, we are in this to enjoy it TOGETHER, and we get off watching each other perform with another. I just don't think I would enjoy it as much if we were in separate rooms, I need to see that face, and see the pleasure she is receiving, and vice versa.

Ron

It is kinda like watching a live porno movie except the "actor", in this case, is the one making the wife cum and vice versa. Much more realistic and exciting than a porno movie.

We love same room, but sometimes separate rooms can be allot of fun. Both Mrs. and I are self-professed voyeurs and sometimes same room can be distracting so playing in separate rooms allows our attentions to be fully on our partner. So we can go either way and be happy.

We love same room sex!! It makes us feel more excited when we see each other getting off with another couple!! Plus it feels more like an orgy- no one left out and its so much fun

To start out with, we won't do different room. Why? Because we don't know you. I watch out for her if the guy gets too rough. It has happened before and she managed to stop it but with a new person, who knows. She watches out for me because sometimes, my little head thinks for the big head and it might get me into trouble.

Now, later, if we get to know you and you want to, we could do that.

You have a good point AKLIM69, we will keep that in mind! Thank you!!