If I am attracted to someone, it is first because of personality, then what we may share in common. Then of course attraction is a factor as well. It
Just tell him "chicks dig scars, dude!"
Kidding....
A plastic surgeon once remarked to me at a party that people seems to think that looking alike is beauty, where it's the individual "quirks" that sets us above the standards.
Ever wondered why english accents are so "sexy" here? where in britain, it's just talking?
Also, it's the attitude about the looks that are important too. People have a way to pick up on the "vibes" of anyone else's mood and self esteem.
Kidding....
A plastic surgeon once remarked to me at a party that people seems to think that looking alike is beauty, where it's the individual "quirks" that sets us above the standards.
Ever wondered why english accents are so "sexy" here? where in britain, it's just talking?
Also, it's the attitude about the looks that are important too. People have a way to pick up on the "vibes" of anyone else's mood and self esteem.
Sure wouldn't bother us in any way. In fact we have a couple we are friends with, and he has pretty much exactly the same scar. His operation happened after we had known them. It didn't slow things down a bit!
T and V
T and V
Ok as far as imperfections I have one that I am very much aware of. When I was 8 months old I had burns on 90% of my body. My hands and tummy had 3rd degree burns and it did leave scars. Through elementary the kids were ruthless and I spent many afternoons in tears when I got home. It took me many years to get over my scars even though I don't remember a time without them and now as a 34 year old I still notice them but in a different way. They are a part of me and a part of my uniqueness. They aren't as noticable and most people don't notice them. As a matter of fact my father in law noticed them only a year ago and I have been with his son for 14 years. I notice them more than other people do.
I say that I agree it is what makes you unique from others that deinfes you. I personaly wouldn't have a problem with the scar from the heart surgery... I would be more worried that I would cause another heart attack.
Tasha
p.s. The scars on my tummy were basically taken care of by stretch marks too...... one good thing that came from caring my kids around inside!!
I say that I agree it is what makes you unique from others that deinfes you. I personaly wouldn't have a problem with the scar from the heart surgery... I would be more worried that I would cause another heart attack.
Tasha
p.s. The scars on my tummy were basically taken care of by stretch marks too...... one good thing that came from caring my kids around inside!!
Everyone has things about their bodies that they wish were different. Everything from blemishes, to scars, to sags to bags. The older we get the more we seem to accumulate them.
However, in this scenario, I'd find it hard to believe that any one female would discount any on person due to a so-called cosmetic aberration, especially a surgical scar, not any more than a male might discount physical attraction to a female due to her stretch-marks, or toughened and enlarged nipples; both legacies of motherhood and femininity.
It's not a question of "if" but a matter of "when" we all will get similar scars as our bodies age and lose the ability to adapt. If we live long enough, guaranteed we will get them.
I'm typically hard on myself due to what I think are flaws and imperfections in my physical appearance, but then am always taken back to how and why I'm attracted to females, DESPITE their physical "idiosyncrocies" that you don't see portrayed in the media.
I don't mind them at all. In fact they give character and enhance the intrigue of the personality of the individual, which is often times where most of the attraction happens anyways. We've all been in situations where we find that someone is what society would call flawless on the outside, , but once you get to know them, and seeming beauty of the personality, the once-perceived exterior flawlessness and beauty has lost it's lustre.
In my experience and observations of females, I've always found romance, love, sex and sensuality to be more of a mind game than it is for males. Women appear to be more inclined to be stimulated and attracted to any man that exhibits qualities of intellectualism, heart, balanced emotion, integrity and a healthy blend of masculinity/femininity (Yes guys...being in "touch" with your feminine side does indeed help us to understand the intricacies of the female mind).
Bottom line 1SEXYMRS, I wouldn't worry; women are still going to find you attractive, and look at the bright side: Now that you have had your coronary arteries bypassed, think of the stamina you'll have now!!
Have fun!
!J!
However, in this scenario, I'd find it hard to believe that any one female would discount any on person due to a so-called cosmetic aberration, especially a surgical scar, not any more than a male might discount physical attraction to a female due to her stretch-marks, or toughened and enlarged nipples; both legacies of motherhood and femininity.
It's not a question of "if" but a matter of "when" we all will get similar scars as our bodies age and lose the ability to adapt. If we live long enough, guaranteed we will get them.
I'm typically hard on myself due to what I think are flaws and imperfections in my physical appearance, but then am always taken back to how and why I'm attracted to females, DESPITE their physical "idiosyncrocies" that you don't see portrayed in the media.
I don't mind them at all. In fact they give character and enhance the intrigue of the personality of the individual, which is often times where most of the attraction happens anyways. We've all been in situations where we find that someone is what society would call flawless on the outside, , but once you get to know them, and seeming beauty of the personality, the once-perceived exterior flawlessness and beauty has lost it's lustre.
In my experience and observations of females, I've always found romance, love, sex and sensuality to be more of a mind game than it is for males. Women appear to be more inclined to be stimulated and attracted to any man that exhibits qualities of intellectualism, heart, balanced emotion, integrity and a healthy blend of masculinity/femininity (Yes guys...being in "touch" with your feminine side does indeed help us to understand the intricacies of the female mind).
Bottom line 1SEXYMRS, I wouldn't worry; women are still going to find you attractive, and look at the bright side: Now that you have had your coronary arteries bypassed, think of the stamina you'll have now!!
Have fun!
!J!
TG,
Very well said, I agree with you 100%!
~K~
Very well said, I agree with you 100%!
~K~
You're welcome...and good luck!
Speaking of this topic...there are two pictures that I've recently come across that I have found to be both powerful and inspiring.
They are found on DeviantART, which is a forum for many types of artists to share their creative endeavors. Those of you that already have an account can view the adult tagged material, those of you that may not have a free account may sign up for one to view them.
http://www.deviantart.com/deviation/40504056/
http://www.deviantart.com/deviation/24054756/
~J~
They are found on DeviantART, which is a forum for many types of artists to share their creative endeavors. Those of you that already have an account can view the adult tagged material, those of you that may not have a free account may sign up for one to view them.
http://www.deviantart.com/deviation/40504056/
http://www.deviantart.com/deviation/24054756/
~J~
scars add character to the human body and soul,and chicks do dig scars and glory is forever!!! so show that scar and tell the tale behind it for it might not make all the ladies wet and wanting, but you can bet your bottom that some ladies will want to give it up just cause you have one .....luck to you
I have been shot 3 times and cut up with a bayonet quite badly...LUCKILY nothing in my face...BUT if I take off my clothing, it shows...Lucky I am a fast healer and was able to get the scars minimized.....
It has NOT stopped me from scoring...
Lest you forget, tatoos are also scars...
It has NOT stopped me from scoring...
Lest you forget, tatoos are also scars...
Imperfections are natural... They add character to everyone.
Are there going to be those that are closed minded, sure.. Its as common as someone wanting to hang a drape on Michealangelo's David. Its those same people that can go to hell..
Dont let the closed minded command your thoughts.. We are all different, and the scars, blemishes, and whatever else you can think of, make us who we are. Sharing ourselves as we in this lifestyle do, do we freak out when we come across others with differences, or do we accept the person?
And I am sure the Doctors have already mentioned, Vitamin D and E help the scars fade a bit.
Are there going to be those that are closed minded, sure.. Its as common as someone wanting to hang a drape on Michealangelo's David. Its those same people that can go to hell..
Dont let the closed minded command your thoughts.. We are all different, and the scars, blemishes, and whatever else you can think of, make us who we are. Sharing ourselves as we in this lifestyle do, do we freak out when we come across others with differences, or do we accept the person?
And I am sure the Doctors have already mentioned, Vitamin D and E help the scars fade a bit.
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I can relate to how he feels, I have a real nasty looking scar that runs across my right side to my stomache, its about 7-8" long and sometimes even after 12 yrs looks ugly, it took me awhile to come to tearms with it as I HAD a 6 pack at one time and now its just skin that will never be the same again. I can also relate to women who had a c-section as the musles in the stomache never really are the same after being cut...Now I look at the scar as a time in my life where I almost died and if not for that scar I would be dead. so its kinda like a badge where few people have one. Makes me unigue. Your husband I am sure feels the same way, its gross, its ugly, who would want to look at it. Tell him if not for that lovely scar he would be buried 6'ft in the dirt where hed be even more ugly....Kind of a harsh way but it helps the mind to relize things could be worse....To be honset I have never had a women turn her head away after looking at it.....It part of life for him now and he should wear it like a badge of honor. It saved his life, and hes able to wear it knowing he still has time to walk on this earth with a women he loves deeply! Not sure if that helps but it did for me!
Peace
~Dave~
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I can relate to how he feels, I have a real nasty looking scar that runs across my right side to my stomache, its about 7-8" long and sometimes even after 12 yrs looks ugly, it took me awhile to come to tearms with it as I HAD a 6 pack at one time and now its just skin that will never be the same again. I can also relate to women who had a c-section as the musles in the stomache never really are the same after being cut...Now I look at the scar as a time in my life where I almost died and if not for that scar I would be dead. so its kinda like a badge where few people have one. Makes me unigue. Your husband I am sure feels the same way, its gross, its ugly, who would want to look at it. Tell him if not for that lovely scar he would be buried 6'ft in the dirt where hed be even more ugly....Kind of a harsh way but it helps the mind to relize things could be worse....To be honset I have never had a women turn her head away after looking at it.....It part of life for him now and he should wear it like a badge of honor. It saved his life, and hes able to wear it knowing he still has time to walk on this earth with a women he loves deeply! Not sure if that helps but it did for me!
Peace
~Dave~
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TG, Siren - Awesome words. And I agree with everyone on here who's agreed that scars are simply signs of life.
As a male, I once told my first wife that I found her stretch marks a wild attraction. I kissed my second wife's c-section scar in tribute to her sacrifice. My current partner has a wild scar across her forhead that I find amazingly attractive.
Personally I have scars everywhere and I'm well above the 20+ broken bones mark (not including fingers and toes).
And my daughter and I are celebrating her first broken bone (nose...in a mosh pit) this weekend.
We're all alive...and scars simply mean we survived.
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TG, Siren - Awesome words. And I agree with everyone on here who's agreed that scars are simply signs of life.
As a male, I once told my first wife that I found her stretch marks a wild attraction. I kissed my second wife's c-section scar in tribute to her sacrifice. My current partner has a wild scar across her forhead that I find amazingly attractive.
Personally I have scars everywhere and I'm well above the 20+ broken bones mark (not including fingers and toes).
And my daughter and I are celebrating her first broken bone (nose...in a mosh pit) this weekend.
We're all alive...and scars simply mean we survived.
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Had a quad bypass back in 95 after 3 heart attacks within 5 months. The first one did quite a bit of dammage.... So scars on the chest and on the right leg from ankle to 6 inches above the knee. Hasen't seemed to make any difference yet. I have been asked where I got all of my scars... and I simply tell them that an angry mother did this or that and a jealous girlfriend of the girl I was with..did that one... and that one is from Viet Nam and that one is from frying eggs and bacon while nude, on one sunday morning.... After the first hour of sex they won't even think about the scars..... just wondering when he'll cum....:h
Okay, in response to this I just HAVE to post something that went on my blog a few weeks back. I had been asked what "unusual" bodily features attract me, and came up with a few different things, one of them being scars. So without further adieu... an edited version of that entry:
There is one thing you can possess that pretty much guarantees my attention, anywhere on your body. Almost everyone has one somewhere for whatever reason. It can be big or small, and I won
There is one thing you can possess that pretty much guarantees my attention, anywhere on your body. Almost everyone has one somewhere for whatever reason. It can be big or small, and I won
After 2 back surgeries, I too, had the fear of being naked in front of others. I worried that my doggy style days may be over since I now had a 'tainted' view from the back. My sexperiences have been almost equally divided. Half either never notice or don't mention the scar that starts above my ass crack and runs 5 inches up my spine. The other half notice or touch the scar and inquire if they need to be careful with me so I won't break again.
Your hubby will have an adjustment period, the lighter the scar gets the less he'll worry and start to feel his scar is a badge of honor to be celebrated not hidden away. My pain endured in that time period prompted my tattoo design and is a good conversation piece. When your hubby is feeling back in the 'swing' of things, we'll all be waiting
We wish him a fast recovery and are glad he's still with us.
Mrs. Curious
Your hubby will have an adjustment period, the lighter the scar gets the less he'll worry and start to feel his scar is a badge of honor to be celebrated not hidden away. My pain endured in that time period prompted my tattoo design and is a good conversation piece. When your hubby is feeling back in the 'swing' of things, we'll all be waiting
We wish him a fast recovery and are glad he's still with us.Mrs. Curious
I just wanted to say that those of us who have scars that are noticeable and large, you should not feel ashamed. You wear on the outside what many people have on the inside.
say its a battle scare .. well it is . in most countrys scare to women is very sexy. it is a sighn of a brave man.