Actually I have to admit -- I didn't know until after I got into the lifestyle. I always noticed when watching porns that the women together made me hornier than anything.
One night my husband had this idea to start talking dirty to me about how he'd like to see me with another woman....my FIRST reaction was.....THAT'S GROSS -- HUSH BEFORE YOU RUIN THE MOMENT HERE LOL. Afterwards he asked me why I thought that was gross, and I told him it just didn't sound appealing to me.
After that thought stayed in my head for a while, I eventually started talking dirty back to him about me with another woman...and needless to say....it escalated from there....tried it once and loved it!!
One night my husband had this idea to start talking dirty to me about how he'd like to see me with another woman....my FIRST reaction was.....THAT'S GROSS -- HUSH BEFORE YOU RUIN THE MOMENT HERE LOL. Afterwards he asked me why I thought that was gross, and I told him it just didn't sound appealing to me.
After that thought stayed in my head for a while, I eventually started talking dirty back to him about me with another woman...and needless to say....it escalated from there....tried it once and loved it!!
I have my husband to thanks for figuring out I was bi before I did. I know, it sounds funny but it's true. We'd be out somewhere and I'd make a comment on some girl being attractive, or this one had great boobs, or that one had a cute ass... Then one night we were watching a commercial that had a lot of images of men and women swimming, sunbathing, , etc in swimuits and he noticed that I perked up at one point. When he saw the TV there were 3 guys on it so he just wondered what one raised my eyebrows and I blurted out, "Actually, it was the blonde in the purple bikini in the scene before the guys." He looked at me and said, "Is there something you should tell me?", with a just the slightest grin on his face and one raised eyebrow. I had NOOOOOO clue what he was talking about and said, "Like what?" He asked if I really didn't know what he was talking about and I just shook my head no. So he says, "Let's have a little chat." I still had no idea what he was talking about! LOL So ater out chat i was all, "I don't think so." But I did notice, over the next few days, that I was checking out women and commenting on the ones I found attractive and their body parts. (Love a great butt!) So after a week or two I finally fessed up that maybe I was.
Well, he knew a bi girl that was more that willing so we did the threesome thing and the first time I kissed her I thought, "Maybe I am bi?" As soon as I got my tongue in her pussy I remeber thinking, "Oh yeah! This is for me!" But it still took a couple years to admit to myself that I was truely bi and not just playing around, and another while before I could tell friends and some family.
Looking back I realize I was bi-curious back in highschool, maybe even Jr high, but I knew that where I grew up (very small rural town) that it would only get me hurt in all kinds of ways in school so I just blocked it out, though I can now remember trying to look a bit at other girls. My only regret is that I didn't know my husband then! I would have figured it out sooner and had a lot more fun!
Well, he knew a bi girl that was more that willing so we did the threesome thing and the first time I kissed her I thought, "Maybe I am bi?" As soon as I got my tongue in her pussy I remeber thinking, "Oh yeah! This is for me!" But it still took a couple years to admit to myself that I was truely bi and not just playing around, and another while before I could tell friends and some family.
Looking back I realize I was bi-curious back in highschool, maybe even Jr high, but I knew that where I grew up (very small rural town) that it would only get me hurt in all kinds of ways in school so I just blocked it out, though I can now remember trying to look a bit at other girls. My only regret is that I didn't know my husband then! I would have figured it out sooner and had a lot more fun!
I knew before and it is the reason we are swingers.
My husband and I are very new to the lifestyle even thourgh we have been talking about it for two years.Two years ago we started to noticed when watching porns that the women together made me hornier than anything.I was with a woman one time but we did not get to finish what we started.
She went down on me but that was it.(My husband was watching.)Then she moved a few days later.Now we are trying to find a Bi-female to fulfill my fantasy of beening with a woman.
My husband and I are very new to the lifestyle even thourgh we have been talking about it for two years.Two years ago we started to noticed when watching porns that the women together made me hornier than anything.I was with a woman one time but we did not get to finish what we started.
She went down on me but that was it.(My husband was watching.)Then she moved a few days later.Now we are trying to find a Bi-female to fulfill my fantasy of beening with a woman.Here's a "shocker" I new the moment my wife pointed that pointed the cock she was sucking at me. Just seemed right.
It's not right for everyone, but I agree. There do seen to be more bi-curious men around. Most won't say so, but...... We do get e-mails.
It's not right for everyone, but I agree. There do seen to be more bi-curious men around. Most won't say so, but...... We do get e-mails.
My question is why is it Taboo for men to say they are bisexual and everyone accepts women very quickly as being bi..Until the last couple of years i never realy thought about it ,but we have been playing with toys and watching videos with bi men and women playing together ..Now we would like too do some of the things that turned us on so much watching..Also we have noticed that some people put straight on their profile but contact you and say they are bi whats up with that..It's hard enough to find people that you may be compatable with .If the profile says that the woman is bi and her mate is straight we will not send email so we don't waste their time or ours..
I too had a bi experienc a long time ago. My first 3-some I was 21 and they were in their late 30's. He would go down on me she liked to watch. I do not think on myself as bi but enjoying going there in MFM situation when it turnes on the F. Do not do it often but am very open to again and do look for the male to be bi in the ads.
The wife here is Bi, i am not...
She came to realize she was bi BEFORE we ever delved into the lifestyle at all. Being that we are in rural southeast Missouri, we came to the realization that there were no bifems to be found around here other than in the lifestyle scene. She has enjoyed licking and being licked almost totally due to the lifestyle. If anyone has a better idea for making the other bifems cum out of the woodwork, we will gladly listen to your ideas, because we are both extremely tired of the crude remarks made by the men involved in the lifestyle within our area...
Paul & Audrey
P.S. The simple fact of the matter is that she has the cock she loves hidden away in my briefs and has no need for another, she (and I) are ONLY hunting for pussy...nothing more...
She came to realize she was bi BEFORE we ever delved into the lifestyle at all. Being that we are in rural southeast Missouri, we came to the realization that there were no bifems to be found around here other than in the lifestyle scene. She has enjoyed licking and being licked almost totally due to the lifestyle. If anyone has a better idea for making the other bifems cum out of the woodwork, we will gladly listen to your ideas, because we are both extremely tired of the crude remarks made by the men involved in the lifestyle within our area...
Paul & Audrey
P.S. The simple fact of the matter is that she has the cock she loves hidden away in my briefs and has no need for another, she (and I) are ONLY hunting for pussy...nothing more...
My wife didn't figure out she was bi until she joined the lifestyle with me. I noticed it first as well when we watched movies together she would get really excited with the girl-girl scenes. The first time she went down on another woman was about all it took, but she still had the denial thing going for about a year or so. She says she loves to lick and be licked, but has to have the feeling of a man and can't do with out it (that's good for me LOL). It is really cool to be able to be out with her and we both be able to make comments about a woman without her wondering why I am looking at another woman. The subject of men being bi or bi-curious is still and looks like will always be a touchy subject for many in and out of the lifestyle. There are several profiles that we have seen including our own where the man is stated as straight and then either in the description or after initial contact it is stated the man has bi-curious tendencies. Our profile states; He is straight but has the occasional oral bi-curious thoughts (usually in the midst of a foursome, but won't pursue it with str8 men). To me I am not bi, but in the right situation and everyone willing oral with another guy can be very erotic and exciting for all. It is really suprising to us how many profiles clearly state no bi or bi-curious men even if you say you wont do something with a straight guy. The only thing we can figure is that there has been a very bad image associated with gay men for such a long time that even us guys that are just bi-oral or more with proper protection get lumped in with the BAD APPLES that ruined the whole bushel. There have been several people we have talked with that say they will not contact profiles where the man is stated as bi or bi-curious and have also seen it the other way as well. The thing we know without any doubt is that as long as everyone is in agreement and having fun it doesnt matter what label has been placed on them or whose hand or mouth is where. So above all else have fun and enjoy the friends and lovers you have and don't worry about what others say about how you live in the lifestyle.
I noticed that B was Bi when she was in her early 20's . I suggested that she might be since she got so excited and wet watching some of the early GOOD tapes with girl girl action. I think her early training kicked in and she said flatly that she was not bi.. Well it took getting into the lifestyle for her to accept being bi. The older I get the more I'm interested in bi male play. Not so much a turn on as a curiosity.
One of the worst prejudices within the lifestyle does not seem to be interracial sex or relations but bi males. Nearly 80% of the women in the lifestyle, statistically, are bi by desire or, and this is a quote, "because my husband/man/SO expects me to be". It seems to be expected that bi women are not only OK but almost a requirement...somehow... Even bi women will not play, and some quite rigorously, reject bi males. One reason given: they may have some disease... or the odds are that they may have something.
We belong to 3 or 4 sites like this and are quite active and as someone said there seems to be more and more men comming out that they are bi on these sites... Also there seems to be acceptance by more and more women to bi men.. including their husbands.. I think that many men will not or would not say that they had any bi thoughts simply because they were afraid that their wife/lady/GF/SO would think that they were less of a man.
I think that bi-ness(if that could be a word), both male & female is more a journey than a discovery. Some people know early but are afraid to act on it. Some are afraid of what others may think. Some deny because of religious reasons or training. But descovering and admitting to oneself is like the end of a journey, it seems.
Ray
One of the worst prejudices within the lifestyle does not seem to be interracial sex or relations but bi males. Nearly 80% of the women in the lifestyle, statistically, are bi by desire or, and this is a quote, "because my husband/man/SO expects me to be". It seems to be expected that bi women are not only OK but almost a requirement...somehow... Even bi women will not play, and some quite rigorously, reject bi males. One reason given: they may have some disease... or the odds are that they may have something.
We belong to 3 or 4 sites like this and are quite active and as someone said there seems to be more and more men comming out that they are bi on these sites... Also there seems to be acceptance by more and more women to bi men.. including their husbands.. I think that many men will not or would not say that they had any bi thoughts simply because they were afraid that their wife/lady/GF/SO would think that they were less of a man.
I think that bi-ness(if that could be a word), both male & female is more a journey than a discovery. Some people know early but are afraid to act on it. Some are afraid of what others may think. Some deny because of religious reasons or training. But descovering and admitting to oneself is like the end of a journey, it seems.
Ray
I don't see a problem with both men and women being bi ( we both are) but I do have issues with people who don't post what they really are.. EG: Straight when you look at the profile but "bi" when they talk to you. I guess I just like when people are honest in the profiles. Not that its easy (especially for a man) to say you are bi in this society, but its 2004!
Keep the good posts up!
Nick
Keep the good posts up!
Nick
Was Bi way before ever thought about or was in the lifestyel. Just one of those things found at an early age! 
I agree with you about "being way back" and the thoughts and philosphies of the "bi" person is a book that has been written 100's of times. Nora is bi, and we once went out with this "straight" couple and the woman was frightened that Nora was gonna put the moves on her! I don't understand why people act the way they do but it makes for an interesting outting!
LOL ( I won't go into me being "bi" right now! It would fill a few pages!) but I understand the paranoia, I just don't like it very much.
Nick
LOL ( I won't go into me being "bi" right now! It would fill a few pages!) but I understand the paranoia, I just don't like it very much.
Nick
My first sexual experience was with another female at the age of 12. I have always been in the alternative way of thinking. "J"
Christy did not decide she was bi until after we had started exploring swinging. She states the thought had never even crossed her mind before then. It was only by exploring fantasy and really looking at what was erotic that she came to understand she was bisexual.
In regard to more guys. I have serious doubts about that. I feel that there just seems like more because more of them are being honest and coming forward. There is less stigma associated with it than there was even as early as 10 years ago.
In regard to more guys. I have serious doubts about that. I feel that there just seems like more because more of them are being honest and coming forward. There is less stigma associated with it than there was even as early as 10 years ago.
I was invited to a party, at age 18, by a girl I'd just met. She said it was a "hedonist" party - I thought that must be some kind of religion - LOL - what did I know. Lots of women and men naked, a tropical pool and a huge house. Everyone was pretty stoned and since I was new I got lots of attention. Ever played pin the tail on the donkey with a group of partying hedonists?
I enjoyed it but it kind of scared me also - at the time people were either gay or straight and I'd never heard of bi. Didn't have another bi experience until about 2 years ago and now think it is great fun.
I enjoyed it but it kind of scared me also - at the time people were either gay or straight and I'd never heard of bi. Didn't have another bi experience until about 2 years ago and now think it is great fun.
To expound on my posting from back in October...I didn't know that I was bi until I experienced a guy when I was 13. My sexual experiences where only with other girls between the time I was 12-13 years of age. Frankly I thought I was a lesbian or something. "J"
I like Heteroflexable too. I think this was more of a bi male discussion. I was introduced to mfm threesomes by a girlfriend. She was bi and I had many fmf 3 somes then one day she brought home a bi male friend. He came on to me very strong and I got pissed and threw him out. She got pissed at me and told me about all the fmf we had. OK, I was red in the face. I felt bad. She asked me to give it a try. She said I didn't have to have contact but just have a MFM without the male contact if I didn't want it but asked me to be opened to it if it felt right. Well I told her I would call her friend to apologies and invite him back if she liked and if he would accept my apology. I had no idea who else I would suggest to have a mfm. I wouldn't invite anybody I knew, it felt very strange to me. I thought about it a lot before I called and before he came over and I realized why I couldn't get turned on my men. It was the smell. I'm really turned on by the scent of a woman but the scent of a man didn't turn me on at all, in fact it turned me off so I thought there was no way I could do it with a man. So the night came to be. Her friend came back over and I explained to him how I felt before and didn't think he could turn me on. He told me to sit close and watch him and my girl friend while I was naked and when I got turned on I could join in just with her and he would give me way. He was really nice and understanding Well we sat and talked and he asked me what turned me on about my girlfriend as he did he undressed her and said thing like she has beautiful tits feel them, so as he explored her he involved me, what a fuckin sneak. Before I knew it we were all over her and as my mouth was in her pussy she was sucking his cock then she said to me, he has a real nice cock, she took my hand and said, feel his cock. Well as I put my hand on his cock he put his hand on my cock. I went nuts. His hand felt so good on my cock and having my hand on his cock was such a turn on but the thing was I had my nose in her pussy so I was consumed with her scent. Then they both started blowing me. It was the best blow job I ever recieved. After that they found a way for me to give my first blow job. He fucked her first and got her scent all over his cock and as he serviced me she helped me give my first blow job. I explored everything with them. Since then she moved away and I can be with a man unless there is a woman involved. I can't get turned on unless a woman is there. When a woman is there I'm in for anything. I still get just as turned on with a woman but found the opportunities very slim for mfm because as I was other men can't imagine themselves with another man. Like me they don't get turned on by a man but I think if they were introduced to it the way I was they would love the cock like I do. Maybe even without a woman around but I can't swing like that. I think if you can turn a man on he would do anything but if you make him think about it you can forget about it. I did it mostly because I was afforded so many FMF situations and she asked me to please try it. I do like it but mostly I'm looking for a a girl I can swing with. I think it is a great deal when both male and female are into bi. I'm sure most woman would love to have a mfm or fmf when the opportunity arises. I really would like to have a mfmf where everybody was bi so if there are any single bi ladies out there who are interested please blow me a kiss. I think for a woman it would be great because instead of going home alone with nobody to cuddle with or talk to now you could have someone to share the total experience and you could ask eachother how both the other couple felt, smelt and tasted like.....I think I would like that kind of relationship...
Doc
Doc
I knew that I was bi from the beginning. I recall looking at mens pictures as well as womens. Men have always been interested in me since I can remember. I guess I had that look that attacted guys as well as girls. I had a few j/o encounters before my teens and even had a guy get me off orally when I was 15. I never did much about my bi side until a few years ago, but thought about it very often. I finally got the nerve to meet with a married guy and I loved it. Been with both sexes since and I don't have any dout about my bisexuality. Actually I have found that there are a lot, and I do mean a lot of guys that are like minded. And I for one really like that. My belief is that most people are bi, but just don't want to admit it.
I have always had bi-curious fantasies, but didn't get to experience another woman until a few years ago. I love the touch & taste of another woman, and my husband enjoys watching me. I think it's a huge turn-on for two guys to get so turned on watching that they aren't afraid to stroke each other or perform orally on one another. We have come to realize that most people have the same feelings & fantasies, just are afraid of being labeled. We aren't afraid to admit it, we aren't bi-sexual...we are just sexual & loving every minute of it.
I don't want to offend anyone here but.......if you are a woman and you want and enjoy sex with an other female and you want and enjoy sex with a man........I'm sorry but you are bisexual......the same goes for the man. I have noticed one thing in the lifestyle.......women are incouraged to have sex with women and the men are looked down on if they do so. I think that is one of the reasons that men almost always put they are straight when in fact they either want to experience sex with an other man or do so and hide it until they find some one they can experiment with. There is nothing wrong with that. Well I guess I should here so I don't start pissing people off.