When searching this site you cannot help but to notice the amount of profiles that contain zero effort.I understand having a lack of time to spend on the internet in the busy life that most of us entertain in todays world, but seriously how do people expect you to contact them when they post nothing about themselves.
I guess it just really bothers me when you really want to meet interesting couples, and put yourself out there to do so, and you get profiles like"big c@@@,want to have lots of sex....just looking for sex....LOL duh! we all are! LOL! I don't know, just seems like if you want to find it you would tell us something about yourself!
I know I we do not have face pics on our public profile. Unfortunatly my ex has a brain smaller than his manhood, and it causes serious problems in the custody situation, but I have many photos to share with interested couples and would love to make many more friends!
I am just blabbering, but does anyone else find this annoying that people do not take the time to try to sound interesting!
p.s. we are 1 hour from vegas, if anyone is in the area.we would love to meet for diiner and drinks!
michelle
I guess it just really bothers me when you really want to meet interesting couples, and put yourself out there to do so, and you get profiles like"big c@@@,want to have lots of sex....just looking for sex....LOL duh! we all are! LOL! I don't know, just seems like if you want to find it you would tell us something about yourself!
I know I we do not have face pics on our public profile. Unfortunatly my ex has a brain smaller than his manhood, and it causes serious problems in the custody situation, but I have many photos to share with interested couples and would love to make many more friends!
I am just blabbering, but does anyone else find this annoying that people do not take the time to try to sound interesting!
p.s. we are 1 hour from vegas, if anyone is in the area.we would love to meet for diiner and drinks!
michelle
I totaly agree with that, while looking around in profiles it pretty much lets me know who to pass over and who to contact. Its like a resume or a job app. The better it sounds the more attection your going get. And it sure would be nice if people truely read whats on your profile. Like NO SINGLE MEN, for petes sake it says that for a reason. Anyway the better the profile sounds the more chances of being contacted, but thats just my opion and I went so far as to get help in changeing the colors and adding a background pic in ours! Has gotton me alot of complaments if nothing elce..
Dave
P/S nice profile to you!! :-)
Dave
P/S nice profile to you!! :-)
Thanks dave !
Nice profile to you too!:h
Nice profile to you too!:h
I am o -negative.LOL
We both definitely agree. It is also frustrating when it is obvious that their profile hasn't been updated since they first signed up. Ok, everybody was a "newbie" at one time but at what point are you no longer a "newbie" We are fairly new to the lifestyle (1 YR) but figured we pretty much graduated from "newbie" within the first couple of months. Now we are just plain SERIOUSLY inexperienced, (not for the lack of trying) Also pics that are posted that no longer really look like them either because they are old pics or they have just changed.
Just out 2 cents worth
Rob n Jan
Just out 2 cents worth
Rob n Jan
We agree with everyone concerning not having a good profile...How much time does it take to build a profile. Spend 15 minutes to make your profile somewhat enticing. It is fun looking at someone profile that has spent the time to create one.
We thought we had a good profile, we've mailed people with less content and gotten no replies. There is a couple from out of town coming next week, but we came to contact them through the forum, not a mail.
Just two days ago we mailed a couple, it was read, and then deleted shortly after. No reply. We got the lifetime membership when the restarted the site, thinking we would be meeting people. We've met less then 5 people, from out of town visits.
Our profile is as complete as we think it needs to be, don't think it sounds bad. So the only thing we can think is we're not attractive enough to meet peoples requirements. If it weren't for the fun we find at the local swing club, we wouldn't meet anyone.
Just two days ago we mailed a couple, it was read, and then deleted shortly after. No reply. We got the lifetime membership when the restarted the site, thinking we would be meeting people. We've met less then 5 people, from out of town visits.
Our profile is as complete as we think it needs to be, don't think it sounds bad. So the only thing we can think is we're not attractive enough to meet peoples requirements. If it weren't for the fun we find at the local swing club, we wouldn't meet anyone.
Well the no face pics in your public album isn't a deal breaker. We don't even have a pic of him in ours cuz he says people looking at our profile just want to see me anyway, which I still think is silly, but hey they are his pics so whatever.
A profile that tells a bit about yourselves is a great thing... and no, "we want to fuck your brains out" or "we just love sex" isn't really telling anything about yourself, cuz that's pretty much how we all are. No matter how appealing your pics might be, it'd be great to get a feel for your personalities from what you have to say about yourself/ves in your profile. And Val is right, if you don't do well with filling out profiles posting in the forums and talking to ppl in Chat are good ways to let people get to know you and determine if you're compatible with them. Ofcourse getting to know people through Chat you run the risk of needing to start a vacation destination wishlist of who you'd like to go spend some time with, but hey is that really such a bad thing?
And for those of us who do take the time to create a profile it would be so incredible if they DID read the whole thing, cuz we still just get added to ppl's friends lists and then we never hear from them. What's the point of that? They want to dangle their private pics (parts) in front of us and hope that we're going to want to drag them to bed as soon as possible? Hate to say it, but it'd happen faster if you just start a conversation with us whether its in chat/email/IM. We only get out a couple times a month so it'd be nice to have something lined up ahead of time to look forward to, instead of being on a ton of friends lists and never being spoken to.
-SG
A profile that tells a bit about yourselves is a great thing... and no, "we want to fuck your brains out" or "we just love sex" isn't really telling anything about yourself, cuz that's pretty much how we all are. No matter how appealing your pics might be, it'd be great to get a feel for your personalities from what you have to say about yourself/ves in your profile. And Val is right, if you don't do well with filling out profiles posting in the forums and talking to ppl in Chat are good ways to let people get to know you and determine if you're compatible with them. Ofcourse getting to know people through Chat you run the risk of needing to start a vacation destination wishlist of who you'd like to go spend some time with, but hey is that really such a bad thing?
And for those of us who do take the time to create a profile it would be so incredible if they DID read the whole thing, cuz we still just get added to ppl's friends lists and then we never hear from them. What's the point of that? They want to dangle their private pics (parts) in front of us and hope that we're going to want to drag them to bed as soon as possible? Hate to say it, but it'd happen faster if you just start a conversation with us whether its in chat/email/IM. We only get out a couple times a month so it'd be nice to have something lined up ahead of time to look forward to, instead of being on a ton of friends lists and never being spoken to.
-SG
FUNUTCPL,
You had said "It is fun looking at someone profile that has spent the time to create one."
Yes, in our opinion it is, however we also think that needs to be readable without highlighting all of the text. We are not trying to be rude or curt with you, however you may want to think of a different color scheme for your profile.
You had said "It is fun looking at someone profile that has spent the time to create one."
Yes, in our opinion it is, however we also think that needs to be readable without highlighting all of the text. We are not trying to be rude or curt with you, however you may want to think of a different color scheme for your profile.
Have to agree with JENN4YOU, some of the profiles look great and obviousely the poster put alot of effort into the art but fogot that it is also important for it to be legible. We are hoping to upgrade ours as soon as we have some free time.
Bob
Bob
Wholeheartedly agree!
We don't mind taking the time to read a good profile. In fact, we'll just skip over the Zero-effort profiles altogether.
I know that doesn't seem fair, but it's fact. We don't have time to email every one-liner on here, we're out to meet people who seem to be interesting. A Zero-effort profile just doesn't seem that interesting.
Having said that, we've met several people/couples who have said profiles that ARE interesting when we meet them in person. So....translate that to a page!
I actually listened to an interview with a guy who makes a LOT of money writing profiles on dating sites for people...it was very interesting. Taking what he said and looking at most of the profiles here (ours included) most of us seem to be almost exactly the same, looking for almost exactly the same thing!
So, when writing a profile I guess the secret is...put something in there that catches people's interest and makes you unique!
Hell, I met a long term partner once by mentioning that I was good with Yo-yo's! It just happened to set me apart I guess...that and a really good picture of my ass.
-K_T
We don't mind taking the time to read a good profile. In fact, we'll just skip over the Zero-effort profiles altogether.
I know that doesn't seem fair, but it's fact. We don't have time to email every one-liner on here, we're out to meet people who seem to be interesting. A Zero-effort profile just doesn't seem that interesting.
Having said that, we've met several people/couples who have said profiles that ARE interesting when we meet them in person. So....translate that to a page!
I actually listened to an interview with a guy who makes a LOT of money writing profiles on dating sites for people...it was very interesting. Taking what he said and looking at most of the profiles here (ours included) most of us seem to be almost exactly the same, looking for almost exactly the same thing!
So, when writing a profile I guess the secret is...put something in there that catches people's interest and makes you unique!
Hell, I met a long term partner once by mentioning that I was good with Yo-yo's! It just happened to set me apart I guess...that and a really good picture of my ass.
-K_T