Is anyone else aware of this? In the Myrtle Beach, SC area people that are in the lifestyle are wearing wishbone necklaces and wishbone jewelry to distinguish themselves as people in the lifestyle. I'd like to see this phenomonon spread. The gay and lesbian communities have their symbols to distinguish themselves without having to announce to the world that they are gay/lesbian.
With most people's desire for discretion within the lifestyle, an outward symbol would not only save alot of question, but could potentially save some embarrassment as well. When people ask me what mine means, I try to answer according to how the question was asked. If someone asks me pointedly what it means I tell them "Good Luck", which is true. If someone asks me about it that has that "Does that mean what I think it means?" look, I tell them it's a swinger's symbol. LOL
The following quote is from the profile of the couple that started the wishbone thing in SC....."For as long as the swinging lifestyle has been around, there has not been a symbol to associate swingers with. Other alternative lifestyles have developed a symbol that represents them; the gay and lesbian community has the rainbow, the BDSM have their converted ying yang symbol; now the swingers have the wishbone. The wishbone represents many aspects of the swinging lifestyle. The closed end represents two halves coming together as one. For a swinger knows, it takes much trust and compromise to make the lifestyle work. The open end represents the open-mindedness and open sexuality of the lifestyle. And, let's face it, the entire wishbone reminds us that we live a lifestyle that many people only wish for. To the ordinary person, the wishbone is just a typical piece of jewelry. But, to those in the lifestyle, the wishbone identifies you as someone in the lifestyle."
In this area, people are fairly familiar with the wishbone as a lifestyle symbol and we can immediately identify couples or singles within the lifestyle. My primary profile pic shows me wearing my wishbone necklace. I'd like to see this symbol adopted as a standard for all people within the lifestyle...Any thoughts?
With most people's desire for discretion within the lifestyle, an outward symbol would not only save alot of question, but could potentially save some embarrassment as well. When people ask me what mine means, I try to answer according to how the question was asked. If someone asks me pointedly what it means I tell them "Good Luck", which is true. If someone asks me about it that has that "Does that mean what I think it means?" look, I tell them it's a swinger's symbol. LOL
The following quote is from the profile of the couple that started the wishbone thing in SC....."For as long as the swinging lifestyle has been around, there has not been a symbol to associate swingers with. Other alternative lifestyles have developed a symbol that represents them; the gay and lesbian community has the rainbow, the BDSM have their converted ying yang symbol; now the swingers have the wishbone. The wishbone represents many aspects of the swinging lifestyle. The closed end represents two halves coming together as one. For a swinger knows, it takes much trust and compromise to make the lifestyle work. The open end represents the open-mindedness and open sexuality of the lifestyle. And, let's face it, the entire wishbone reminds us that we live a lifestyle that many people only wish for. To the ordinary person, the wishbone is just a typical piece of jewelry. But, to those in the lifestyle, the wishbone identifies you as someone in the lifestyle."
In this area, people are fairly familiar with the wishbone as a lifestyle symbol and we can immediately identify couples or singles within the lifestyle. My primary profile pic shows me wearing my wishbone necklace. I'd like to see this symbol adopted as a standard for all people within the lifestyle...Any thoughts?
Maybe it would be a good idea to start an informational website about the wishbone idea and offer the it for sale to those interested. It definately sounds like a great idea.
It's just like nay other symbol..even if it is true, it will eventually become known as a swinger symbol to regular people. If you end up wearing one, someone will eventually know what it means, so people won't wear them especially if they want to keep it a secret from the normal people in their lives.
I think the wishbone Idea is a great one. My husband and I have been in the lifetyle for many years now and some times it can be difficult to meet other couples with the same interest. There have been times when we have approached friends and couples with a proposal and not only did they get insulted, the stoped talking to us and treated us as if we asked them to join a satanic cult or something. The wishbone necklace would have save us in that situation, but of course as the other responder stated once everyone understands what it means there becomes a stigma attached to it. Being openly gay in a gay comunity is fine, but go to a straight club its not so fun. The same thing may apply here. We are open with our lifestyle to a certain extent meaning we will not lie about it, but we have had problems in the past from people who did not agree with the lifestyle. I guess it all depends on your comunity and they are willing to accept. Keeping the symbol as a secret mark amongst ourselves would be great.
I think this is a great idea! We once went to a local bar for a gathering of swingers (not a swingers bar), but didn't know the regular couples from the swingers and spent all night not approaching anyone and not being approached. (more than likely because they didn't know we were swingers). I could see this working, but the problem is we need to spread the word!
Also, where do we get one of these? Besides going to Myrtle Beach! (internet site mabye?)
Also, where do we get one of these? Besides going to Myrtle Beach! (internet site mabye?)
Wow what an AWESOME idea! As for where to get them. I guess maybe you could make your own wishbone necklace and spread the word around other Swinger sites and than it Will become a swinger craze. I know Ill spread it around the swinger lifestyle!
We were invited to a meet and greet awhile back and hung around the lounge for several hours waiting for the couple who invited us. We found out later that most of the couples at the club were swingers, but as it was not a swinger's club, we were hesitant to approach perfect strangers and ask if they were swingers. Getting a black eye or broken teeth is not our idea of a good time! A symbol of swingularity (lol) would have been useful in this situation.
NASCA has the bite out of the apple symbol and that is the only widespread sign we know of...a wishbone?? LOL too funny.
That's what I was going to say about the apple....but I wasn't sure so I kept mum. Haha. I read somewhere on another site in a similar discussion (SwingersBoard) something about there have been a symbol awhile ago that never caught on, though I don't remember what it was at the moment....
The real problem is our Lifestyle community has several symbols, some online sites try to start their own. This really causes confusion, most sites and clubs are affliated to NASCA there for their symbol , the apple with a bite out of it, would be the most widely known. Now if you could find a place to buy the darned thing and not have to join NASCA personally to get one, we would have 2...LOL So HELP, anyone know where you can buy the pin or pendant??
I love the idea,we go to a club here in Jax that touts itself as a "nightclub for like minded adults" well sometime it is difficult to deciede who is there for swinging or what. The necklace would make it very known. If you have any idea where we can get something like that in Fl I would greatly appreciate knowing about it.
A symbol would be a great idea! Not only at meet and greets but what about just being out for dinner and seeing people where them or at the movies. Its a lso a great way to start a conversation just asking about the necklace. The problem I think would be what Destin said, everyone would have ot be on the same page with the symbol, it would only make things confusing if every group had their own!
seems like every swingers club has had the same disscussion with different symbols. getting to the point where you can't wear any kind of jewelry with out being labeled something or other. how about something more club oreinted like a swingular necklace or bumpersticker. there will still be those who would rather be more descrete but something the club should consider. as far as the wishbone? we'll wait and see if it becomes a fad or not.
And we would like to have the apple too. Anyone having an idea how to get two???
Bea and Alex
Bea and Alex
Hi.
Thanks for the advice where to buy them. But about wearing a swingers identification... We presume you don't wear them on a birthday party with the family. But its a good idea to show you are swingers on vacation, public party's or elsewhere. These are the places to meet like minded people and how can you otherwise find them. If they like you, they will get in contact and if others recognise you as swinger without being a swinger themself, who cares!
A swingers hug from The Netherlands
Bea and Alex
Thanks for the advice where to buy them. But about wearing a swingers identification... We presume you don't wear them on a birthday party with the family. But its a good idea to show you are swingers on vacation, public party's or elsewhere. These are the places to meet like minded people and how can you otherwise find them. If they like you, they will get in contact and if others recognise you as swinger without being a swinger themself, who cares!
A swingers hug from The Netherlands
Bea and Alex
well, it couldn't hurt to wear a symbol, the least itcould do would be tospark a conversation with someone who notices it. Who knows, that could possibly turn into a good thing! One thing is for sure, neext time I go to Myrtle Beach I'm looking for wishbones!
Since we joined the lifestyle we've thought the idea of a symbol of some sort was a great one. I've read about the apple, but not the wishbone before now. I think swingers are in a good place for this right now - the internet has made it possible for those with an interest to pursue it, but it's not mainstream enough so that people who are in it "stand out." Pretty much everybody knows about the rainbow now, but I think very few would know about a swingers symbol, for a while anyway.
Whether it was the rainbow or what ear the earring went in as a sign for gays, or I believe at one time the BDSM community used bandanas to communicate preferences, it's great to have a way to be tipped off that others share the same interest. It'd be nice if this takes off.
Whether it was the rainbow or what ear the earring went in as a sign for gays, or I believe at one time the BDSM community used bandanas to communicate preferences, it's great to have a way to be tipped off that others share the same interest. It'd be nice if this takes off.
The apple with the bite is also the only symbol we have heard about. We have had the same experience as several of you of going somewhere and not approaching or being approached because it could be catastrophic :@ I think the wishbone makes sense when we are out I am sure wishing to meet a great couple for great fun !
Sugar
Sugar
Here is another option.
D n D
http://www.swingring.com/
D n D
http://www.swingring.com/
http://www.teeezuso.com/forum_posts/penisnecklace.jpg
Now that is cute but not something I would wear to a family function LOL....even though it might get some interesting looks.
Becky and Jimmy
Becky and Jimmy