Here's a question for you. We are a couple that enjoys partying with single guys. Specifically for her! I'm straight. But it seems most of the guys never want to actually meet. Whats with that????? Something always comes up. I just don't get it. And when we do meet, (we require a one time meet in a public place) everything is fine for awhile, they say they are interested, very interested, but then thats it. Sometime weeks or months later they will email us again saying lets get together. I don't think its us???? Maybe I'm wrong tho'.
We recently hosted a party for 5 ladies that wanted a GB. So I contact as many guys as I could. Some that we have been with before, some more than once and invited them. At first everything is fine, yeah, yeah, I want to come, but then one by one they drop out for one reason or another.
Now this isn't a one time thing. This has happened to us and several other couples that we know. It's not all singles, just seems to be a lot of them. I guess many of these guys are all talk!
We recently hosted a party for 5 ladies that wanted a GB. So I contact as many guys as I could. Some that we have been with before, some more than once and invited them. At first everything is fine, yeah, yeah, I want to come, but then one by one they drop out for one reason or another.
Now this isn't a one time thing. This has happened to us and several other couples that we know. It's not all singles, just seems to be a lot of them. I guess many of these guys are all talk!
it is a rule of many, you invite 10, 2 show up... i work for a guy that throws partys, it took awhile to get a system worked out so you have quailty guys that are dependable... we through these partys for web girls trying to get GB content, now all works out great, and i have a fun job, (i edit the material for our websites...) if you want that kind of fun find a local group with a good reputation for getting things done, if you were in tampa i could help...
Ricjand Chris are probably right. There's so many fakes and wannabe's out there, that it's like a mass mailing thing. Spam 5000 addresses and how for a 2% return.
Not that I know anything about that stuff!! :z
Not that I know anything about that stuff!! :z
We have help setup parties agree with the other person who said invite more we have found for whatever number you invite 1/2 will show.
Fakes, wannabes, and most likely... married men who are cheating.
It's just like anything else, you have to weed through the garbage to find the gold.
My suggestion is that you use the "NOTES" feature that is available on each profile.
This will make it easier to remember who the duds are and who is reliable.
It's just like anything else, you have to weed through the garbage to find the gold.
My suggestion is that you use the "NOTES" feature that is available on each profile.
This will make it easier to remember who the duds are and who is reliable.
I figured the 1/3rd rule out the hard way as well....I'm not sure what the problem is, but it seems that people just don't stick to plans. Maybe they are like the airlines and overbook? :@ LOL
Don't let it get you down....It's worth the wait to find something tha tworks. Good luck!
Kat :h
Don't let it get you down....It's worth the wait to find something tha tworks. Good luck!
Kat :h
I have played both as a single male, and as part of a couple, and I still do when the occasion calls for it, and I must agree with the consensus here. There is a difference between a man who parties solo who is in the lifestyle, and a guy who parties solo because he just wants to get laid.
The man who is legitimately in the lifestyle understands etiquette, is respectful, relaxed and isn't intent on hopping into bed the second he meets a new couple.
The man who simply wants to get laid treats the women in this lifestyle as if they are there for his pleasure, and so, this man adopts a very poor, disrespectful attitude towards the people he meets. He may turn on the charm when necessary, but they have no problem with standing up a couple for a party night if he can't make it (because his wife won't let him) or if it's just inconvenient for him.
It's sad that a few disrespectful men make it difficult for couples to hook up with solo males who are genuinely in the lifestyle, but such is the way of things. All I know is that when I make a date, I keep it, barring insurmountable circumstances.
Keep playing --
T
The man who is legitimately in the lifestyle understands etiquette, is respectful, relaxed and isn't intent on hopping into bed the second he meets a new couple.
The man who simply wants to get laid treats the women in this lifestyle as if they are there for his pleasure, and so, this man adopts a very poor, disrespectful attitude towards the people he meets. He may turn on the charm when necessary, but they have no problem with standing up a couple for a party night if he can't make it (because his wife won't let him) or if it's just inconvenient for him.
It's sad that a few disrespectful men make it difficult for couples to hook up with solo males who are genuinely in the lifestyle, but such is the way of things. All I know is that when I make a date, I keep it, barring insurmountable circumstances.
Keep playing --
T
i always show up and when i say i will attend i always do,my word is like gold.i never go back on it. those other guys is why us other guys cant have fun in the lifestyle.they riun it for the rest of us
Sorry, everyone has had such bad luck in single guys. I know being a single guy, i hope you don't give up totally, not all of us are bad seeds, some do have manners and respect. Bottom line is without you woman/ couples .. there would be no single men in this lifestyle , you control the power in my eyes. I enjoy this lifestyle for quite some time, and hope there is always a need for a single man like me. We are here to make your time more enjoyable. Best of luck to all, and if any single female, or couple wants to get to know me, here i am.
I can't speak for ALL the other single males.. but IF I get an invite.. I'm there.. early if possible! After all.. the chance of a single guy getting an invite is pretty rare.. and for someone to screw it up.. well... that's just down right rude!! In ANY situation.. swinging..or just a regular date.. ANYONE out there willing to give me a chance.. just drop me a line!
We just prefer to party with couples....saves a lot of hassles. like all the guys who say they are single but just stepping out on their wives. (that can be a bad bit of business) besides we like to meet and make friends and "date". so couples are just better for us. that isn't to say the right guy wouldn't get ALL our attention.
B_AND_SC sound about right... for us it is more fun with couples, so we spend our efforts in looking for couples, but when at a party, if chris sees a guy she likes, she does not care if he is single, we feel singles are best met in person... rather than online...