For those couple like us, that occasionally enjoy a single man, how do you look at a profile here and decide that he is A: really single and not cheating, and B: not just a sick-o looking to play games?
One would hope that they are honest about their status....even if it does hurt their chances of meeting some nice couple.
At one time when I was dating a woman who was into the lifestyle, we found it almost as hard to find a decent male as we did finding the all elusive female. I do not think it was a case of if the male was attached or not (we had no problem with that) it was more a case that the male would not or could not take the time needed to get to know us to the point that she was interested and/or turned on by him. We had the conversation about those males being attached and concluded that it would be almost impossible to find out beyond a shadow of a doubt if he was truely single or not AND that if HE chose to take the chance of ending his relationship at home by participating in this lifestyle that it was his call and we could not be responsible with that outcome. As people we cannot be responsible for the actions of others, only ourselves.
I was very comfortable with her being with another and at times she was souly with that person with me only being present for her ensured protection.
And now to help answer your question. (1)Do not accept cell or office numbers as a sole source of contact. A home number is NEEDED. Call him a couple of times at home so you can get to know him. (2) Find out where he lives. Do a slow drive by (a couple of times) and see if there are any indications of a female present. Look at the house, does it look like a guys house? Is it too prissy? IMHO, guy houses are just that, houses. We do what is needed for upkeep and keep it looking good but that is about it. (3) For the first meeting, meet someplace very public that is very near where he lives. If the you are interested in him, be flirty, sit next to him, touch him, try to hold his hand while lots of people are around. If he is attached, it is unlikely he will take a chance at being seen by those that might know his spouse. (4) Arrange a visit to his house. As a single guy, he must be able (and most likely willing) to host your incounter there. Ask for a tour. Look for all the signs that a female lives there. These signs are/should be totally obvious.
Good luck!
Robert
I was very comfortable with her being with another and at times she was souly with that person with me only being present for her ensured protection.
And now to help answer your question. (1)Do not accept cell or office numbers as a sole source of contact. A home number is NEEDED. Call him a couple of times at home so you can get to know him. (2) Find out where he lives. Do a slow drive by (a couple of times) and see if there are any indications of a female present. Look at the house, does it look like a guys house? Is it too prissy? IMHO, guy houses are just that, houses. We do what is needed for upkeep and keep it looking good but that is about it. (3) For the first meeting, meet someplace very public that is very near where he lives. If the you are interested in him, be flirty, sit next to him, touch him, try to hold his hand while lots of people are around. If he is attached, it is unlikely he will take a chance at being seen by those that might know his spouse. (4) Arrange a visit to his house. As a single guy, he must be able (and most likely willing) to host your incounter there. Ask for a tour. Look for all the signs that a female lives there. These signs are/should be totally obvious.
Good luck!
Robert
I don't know. That last stuff kinda sounds like stalking. 
I like what you said eariler in your post. We can't be responsible for the actions of others.
I like what you said eariler in your post. We can't be responsible for the actions of others.