are there anyone else out there that has had this problem...we have been swingging for about five yrs now and NEVER NOT ONCE HAS THE GUY SINGLE OR MARRIED made my love cum,and believe me she cums easier then any woman I've been with. we are so discouraged we almost gave up on the lifestyle..every guy either cums when she touches his dick ..()I even had her stop givin them head cause they'd get off and be done.hell even told a cpl guys to put on an extra rubber with no luck either they still came or couldnt feel anything took one off and a few fucking strokes.later there poppin...the worst I think is when they start fucking her and they get a few strokes in and start cumming already which she wouldnt even mind if they stay hard or after a short rest they are ready to go again..but no .then they either try to keep fucking her with a limp dick or just get up and walk away and watch there wifes cum like crazy...PLEASE PLEASE tell us there are other men out there that can cum at least a 4 or 5 times and still get it up...DAMN I've been with woman that I had to work at 4 hours to get to cum but damit they did ...I can't belive that this has just happened to us ..anyone have any advice..PLEASE!!! The BIGGEST turn on for me is watchin a a guy fuck my ladies brains out till she can't cum anymore..and besides that what ever happen to "the woman always gets off first?"they all can't be little boys out there......................oh cpls and hell will even consider decently hung single guys if you can fuck all night hell even if you cum in 5 min but can still fuck drop us a line we are getting very desperate..she is about ready to give up on cpls and guys and stick to bi-f ,hey i love stange puss but god seeing my love get fucked is what it's all about 4 me ..
Thanks all
ROB
Thanks all
ROB
We have had the same experience...
The female half of us is a little more difficult to make cum, she needs a lot of foreplay...BUT if you do foreplay, she will cum...
As to the men cumming...You have had poor men to play with...
All we can suggest is to be selective as to who you play with...Whatever they say they can do, unless you hear it from someone NOT with them, cut the time in half...Along with the size...Basically, "I can fuck for an hour!" Translation, "I will go for about 20 mins"..."I have a 10 inch cock!" Translation, "6 on a good day"...I think you get our point....
There are a lot of frogs out there....Takes a while to meet your prince...
Also...We entertain Single men...Do not expect more than 20% to actually show for a meeting...That has been our experience...
The female half of us is a little more difficult to make cum, she needs a lot of foreplay...BUT if you do foreplay, she will cum...
As to the men cumming...You have had poor men to play with...
All we can suggest is to be selective as to who you play with...Whatever they say they can do, unless you hear it from someone NOT with them, cut the time in half...Along with the size...Basically, "I can fuck for an hour!" Translation, "I will go for about 20 mins"..."I have a 10 inch cock!" Translation, "6 on a good day"...I think you get our point....
There are a lot of frogs out there....Takes a while to meet your prince...
Also...We entertain Single men...Do not expect more than 20% to actually show for a meeting...That has been our experience...
Ill match that 5 mins and raise you 1 min
Maybe you ought to watch them with their own wives first. If he is good with her, he's likely to be good with your wife too.
When I was in my early twenties, I use to last only a few minutes till the first orgasm. After that, then I could go all night long. Now i'm in my thirties, I can delay that first orgasm for as long as I want. It seems that you're meeting the wrong type of guys but there is no way to tell before hand.
we have ben swinging off ond on for 10 years i make it a point to make shure my wife is taking care of first befor anyone put there dick in her
SHAWN...We'll take the 1 additional minute and ask this...Ever make it to the Tampa Bay area?
sorry to here that the few times we have the other female has asked him to cum because they wanted him to finish he can get them off at least 3 to 4 times in one session but the guys and there have only been two so far they lasted about 8-10 min so i was a bit upset but the femalesalways want to come back by themselves and they do so i know what you are saying.
A lot of it is mental for men and women.
She can cum with other men and its not that hard.
On the flip side I cannot cum with another woman that easily at all. It gets very frustrating. But it is not the fault of the lady it is all in my head.. I would say take the good with the bad and enjoy the experience. My wife is almost always willing to take care of me after everyone is done. So it all works out in the end.
But I don't want to quit because of it. The playing flirting and everything else is more fun for me than just going out to cum..
She can cum with other men and its not that hard.
On the flip side I cannot cum with another woman that easily at all. It gets very frustrating. But it is not the fault of the lady it is all in my head.. I would say take the good with the bad and enjoy the experience. My wife is almost always willing to take care of me after everyone is done. So it all works out in the end.
But I don't want to quit because of it. The playing flirting and everything else is more fun for me than just going out to cum..
Meester Sexypants,
Maybee eet eez because your pants zay are too sexzee, no?
Maybee eet eez because your pants zay are too sexzee, no?
I don't know about anyone else but for me the idea of being with someone new is quite overwhelming regardless of how long you have known them. It is hard to let go of all insecurities and relax enough to reach an orgasm. We have tried getting to know a couple and become good friends before playing, but the bottom line is that I am not comfortable enough with myself or anyone else for that matter to cum (yet). Or perhaps it's all the buttons my husband says that I have that makes it virtually unattainable. LOL Whatever it is, he is always happy to oblige after all is said and done.
Mrs. TR
In search of the ever elusive "O"!!
Mrs. TR
In search of the ever elusive "O"!!
Yeah, we used to entertain single guys too. Lol! We have had ONE guy who did not cum in a minute or just a few minutes. Its obvious why those same guys are looking for sex because if they have wives or girlfriends they are not satisfying them. Funny how 8 inches turns into 5.5 or 6 in person. We even had one idiot show up with a cock ring already on him! He lasted a couple minutes too.
Sadly, its very tough to find a good playmate. Took us 3 years to find one we wanted to come back.
Sadly, its very tough to find a good playmate. Took us 3 years to find one we wanted to come back.
Dreaded single male offering assistance..lol but thoses who know me know I take my time for the womans benifit. So there are some of us out there. And judging from her pics she's so hot do you blame them?
For some I guess it is about self control and willingness to slow down a little to make things last longer. I know that for me it is important the the woman always cum before I do. I honestly try to make sure they have multiple orgasms first, if they can.
Just my two cents from another dreaded single guy.
Just my two cents from another dreaded single guy.
From a single guy's viewpoint and one that has a played for a while, I believe you have just not met the right guys. Maybe look at more mature person with a little bit more experience. If this was their first time in getting together to play and they were fairly young, I can see and would almost expect that they are not going to last.
Look around and and maybe check out any comments on their page if they have them.
I am sure you will find just the right fit that will give the misses the pleasure she is desperately wanting.
Good luck and have fun.
Bud
PS I am 14" and can last 4 days. Haha! (just following the tread)
Look around and and maybe check out any comments on their page if they have them.
I am sure you will find just the right fit that will give the misses the pleasure she is desperately wanting.
Good luck and have fun.
Bud
PS I am 14" and can last 4 days. Haha! (just following the tread)
Ok. understand where everyone is cumming from...
but here is the problem as I see it.. When entertaining such selfish people, Is it a case of ...
Pop and, Ummm , wheres my pants?
Or do they stay for another round? or two? Did you make it clear that was the case? All too often we have seen that mentality with single guys, where they wanna get off and then get out..
We make it clear all the way thru our process, any playtime will be an extended session (at least three hours if not longer) before the shoes come off, or the belt is loosened. if they have a problem with that, we move on and tell them it isn't going to work out.
Biology aside, If they are quick on the trigger, We would expect to at least try for another round or two.
but here is the problem as I see it.. When entertaining such selfish people, Is it a case of ...
Pop and, Ummm , wheres my pants?
Or do they stay for another round? or two? Did you make it clear that was the case? All too often we have seen that mentality with single guys, where they wanna get off and then get out..
We make it clear all the way thru our process, any playtime will be an extended session (at least three hours if not longer) before the shoes come off, or the belt is loosened. if they have a problem with that, we move on and tell them it isn't going to work out.
Biology aside, If they are quick on the trigger, We would expect to at least try for another round or two.
It is a comfort thing for us.
Well lets see ....We have broken one couples bed , not once but three times in the same nite! I made one lovely lady of a couple cum to soon (so she said) by oral sex on her ,,,then
I have to agree with Walt (of TammyandWalt)...it's really about making sure the woman is satisfied. I've never had a problem enjoying myself when the gal is happy...if she's not though, that's a different story! Just my 2 cents...
hhmmmm well just might have to make a visit to dallas texas....hhmmmm
"We make it clear all the way thru our process, any playtime will be an extended session (at least three hours if not longer) before the shoes come off, or the belt is loosened. if they have a problem with that, we move on and tell them it isn't going to work out. "
Im just curious, what can you do for 3 hours with your clothes and shoes on? Tell dirty jokes?
Im just curious, what can you do for 3 hours with your clothes and shoes on? Tell dirty jokes?
Well I have to say that I have been in both situations. We have been with couple where he lasts a long time because he will try and control himself to the point it is frustrating for me because I just begin to feel something and he stops the good motions. I have also been in the position where having Mr. Firestarter get his wife so excited over excites the other guy and i have to wait for a recharge.
I don't see it as an issue that has to do with swinging it an individual male thing. My ex-husband only lasted tops of 3 min no matter how hard he tried to hold back. Thank God now I have a man that takes care of me every chance he can and does it several times each time we are together. It isn't just penetration its oral and manual stimulation as well because he knows I like it all the ways he pleases me.
For those men that pump and dump and don't try anything else to please the woman in the other couple - he is a selfish person and likely is in other aspects of his life. Getting to know them a bit before sleeping with them might clue you in to this fact.
Ms. Firestarter
I don't see it as an issue that has to do with swinging it an individual male thing. My ex-husband only lasted tops of 3 min no matter how hard he tried to hold back. Thank God now I have a man that takes care of me every chance he can and does it several times each time we are together. It isn't just penetration its oral and manual stimulation as well because he knows I like it all the ways he pleases me.
For those men that pump and dump and don't try anything else to please the woman in the other couple - he is a selfish person and likely is in other aspects of his life. Getting to know them a bit before sleeping with them might clue you in to this fact.
Ms. Firestarter
When I was 34 I had that problem...I went to a urologist and was told that I either had too many veins or not enough arteries in my penis...I had a pump put in...and i assure you it will stay erect until I tell it not too...and no one can tell I have a pump in unless they feel the pump in the scrotum....
Well I
I can last... no lie. I'll be down in Vegas this weekend. I know it's not exactly close to where you're at, but if you want, we can meet down there. Let me know.
we have been there as well. we have talked to couples who say they have sex 5 times a day and after we hook up my wife says that no wonder they have sex 5 times a day.....5 X 5 = 25 mins. lol and there hubby have even gotten really mad that i was still going at with there wife and and all he could do at that point was sit around and watch. also she has been with guys who talked a really good game and did not last long at all.... she wants a good power fuck and just gets a jack rabbit.
We've had similar issues ourselves, but I think your looking at it all wrong...
If the other guy cums that easily, then either he should bounce back (but doesn't sound like that has been happening) and take longer the second time, or he can be a good camera man for your now 3-some.
I try to look at it as more opportunities for you guys to have more 3-somes and you know how to make her cum...whether the girls are bi or not.
Anyway, that's my take...
If the other guy cums that easily, then either he should bounce back (but doesn't sound like that has been happening) and take longer the second time, or he can be a good camera man for your now 3-some.
I try to look at it as more opportunities for you guys to have more 3-somes and you know how to make her cum...whether the girls are bi or not.
Anyway, that's my take...
Hmmm. Wife has the problem of people taking too long or not popping off and saving it for the wife. In which case, she makes a mental note of them and will NOT play with them anymore since it gets her too sore if they take too long and if they don't pop, she doesn't like it.
Actually, because she gets sore easily, minute men work well for her. Can do one, take a break and do another and another.
Actually, because she gets sore easily, minute men work well for her. Can do one, take a break and do another and another.
My Husband has NO problem in that dept at all he's a marthon fucker and can last for hours!!!Sometimes its a curse though because usually after cumming 4-5 times I'm done and he's still up and raren to go! 
Wefly, great suggestions and attitude! I usually take a quick cummer as a compliment the first few times... as in he is so happy to be there that he could not help it. But I have to agree that every once in while, no matter what kind of relationship you are in or looking for, you find the occ. dud. In my line of work, I swear there are more minute men now than ever! LMAO or you will find the guy with a nice cock (looks the 10 inches he says it was, nice and fat, and he can last for hours!) and the personality sucks! Nothing like his last words as he leaves in the morning,"God, Baby, we need to get together again, and real soon! You are such a great fuck hole, and you suck good too!" Gee, he wonders why I never answered his calls again!
There are all kinds out there and you just have to sift thru and see what you can make out of it all.
I have to admit that when I am with men (1 or more), I am not usually nervous. But put his wife in the same room with me, and I think I would have a hard time getting into it and cumming at all. Never been with another couple so I am sure the first few times at least, the comfort level would not be there for me, no matter what I felt before we got naked. I would be comparing myself to her all the time, if my responses were as good, as fast, as intense as hers.. and would I be good enough for her hubby. More competitive than jealousy. Am sure guys go thru the same thing sometimes too. We all seem to think guys can work their cocks on command, but they don't work as well at times as they want them to.
Hope that helps and does not confuse too much.
There are all kinds out there and you just have to sift thru and see what you can make out of it all.
I have to admit that when I am with men (1 or more), I am not usually nervous. But put his wife in the same room with me, and I think I would have a hard time getting into it and cumming at all. Never been with another couple so I am sure the first few times at least, the comfort level would not be there for me, no matter what I felt before we got naked. I would be comparing myself to her all the time, if my responses were as good, as fast, as intense as hers.. and would I be good enough for her hubby. More competitive than jealousy. Am sure guys go thru the same thing sometimes too. We all seem to think guys can work their cocks on command, but they don't work as well at times as they want them to.
Hope that helps and does not confuse too much.
I don't think the wife takes it badly when they pop quickly. She hasn't met a guy yet that pops in a minute. For her, 5 mins is fine. Drag it past 15 and she will be sore and you won't get another "invite". Fail to pop or save it for your wifey and she will bitch about it.
There's guys that can make women orgasm without even using his dick,
She loooooves his hands. Dude, You know who you are, Thanks. It really helped me get better at it.
<b>Swinging:</b> Getting better at sex by other's examples
She loooooves his hands. Dude, You know who you are, Thanks. It really helped me get better at it.
<b>Swinging:</b> Getting better at sex by other's examples
How about this. I know I am a 2 stroker or tend to be (not really but for the sake of argument). I do a couple of things. "clear the pipes" before starting anything a couple hours ahead of time. Also, get her off digitally, orally, show her cartoons, etc, etc. Maybe she won't mind that I pop after a couple of strokes?
yeah, that is a problem foreign to me, maybe I could lend the Mr to you for an hour or so
In my experience I found that asking what she wants or what turns her on and trying to do those things is best. Yes i was a fast cummer. But now with age comes longevity.
Great topic! I have been involved with about 5 couples in my 8 years and I have to say for me it's about how turned on I am. I always try to please the women before I get my nut. There was a case where I was so turned on by the fore play that it only took me about 2 mins to cum. If I think that I might be too turned on I will try and have a few drinks to calm down. Also breathing more and thinking of other things has worked as well. Lets face it sometimes no matter how hard some of us try it's a mental thing and if the women is smoke'n hot no matter what he's going to cum quick.
Not sure if that helps but some others in this thread have some great input. I hope things work out and you find that right match.
Not sure if that helps but some others in this thread have some great input. I hope things work out and you find that right match.