My wife has always gotten excited watching bi fems on video having sex and gets very wet. She has told me she has a curiosity about f/f sex also. We are both high profile types in our little pond and she is afraid that if she acted on her urges it would get out. Also she is concerned about desease. I have been tempted to take her on a short trip out of our area and pre arranging a "chance" meeting with a woman that would seduce her. My question is, do you think she would get angry if she found out it was arranged? Or allow herself to go along and enjoy herself? Would you be angry if your husband arranged something sexual for you that you let him know you would enjoy but could live without? She has also expressed an interest in limited activity with another guy but again says she is satisfied with the fantasy. I would love to see her do both.
HARDC, because she is concerned about about it getting out and jeopardizing careers or reputations you may not want to "arrange" something. If it is going to happen it will but let it be in due time and/or after you two have made that decision together. It is great that you are supportive and as long as she knows that, if and when the time comes she will appreciate your support and patience. Sometimes people live through their fantasies until the opportunity can become a reality. Just be patient and we hope things work out for you two. Have a great one.
R&S
R&S
I understand what you are saying. We are both in our early 50's though and time keeps on clicking by. My wife is very attractive and I know I am lucky to have her, but I don't want to look back someday and regret not having tried. I was thinking of hiring an escort to seduce her. That way at least no one would know and it would be out of town anyway. Just thoughts at this point. I would never want her to do something she really doesn't want to do, but I am curious what would happen if she had the opportunity.
Communication is always a valuable key in the lifestyle. While she may enjoy herself and not get upset, there is just as much possibility that she will. You would be better off working on the arrangments together and that way you know she has interest in the girl rather then just the moment.
I dunno, althought communication is key I to was curious about f/f sex but would never go through with the arranging of it myself. I figured if it happened then wonderful but if it was up to me then it would never happen. My husband took the bull by the horns and took me to a club where it was for swingers, of course, I went on my own free will, but he arranged the night out, and made the plans, and didnt tell me a thing till we got there. That way I didnt needta think about it. Although we had talked about it, and he knew that I was willing, but just to shy to ever make the move. I was worried also about reputation because we lived in a small area he took me out of town, which relaxed me a ton. It was fun, and I wasnt mad Iwas excited to go in and glad I didnt haveta make the decision or make the first move towards going through with our fantasy. It was a nice relief. We had a good time and it made me more relaxed for more involvement. Just discuss what she would like to do and ask her if maybe you arranged the meeting all your own so she didnt need to worry bout anything and made it for out of town would she go along with it, and then suprise her if she indicates that it would be okay.
Sooo let me get this straight... your on a swingers site (since 2002) and your just now looking to hook up but yet your wife is afraid someone might find out about a F/F encounter??
We're confused... so its ok if someone knows or finds out that you are swingers as long as there's no F/F play??
What we're saying is, you state " We are both high profile types in our little pond and she is afraid that if she acted on her urges it would get out." so, do you not actively swing already? or have you been a member this long and never had an encounter? because if you have had a M/F encounter before then what would be the difference?
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We're confused... so its ok if someone knows or finds out that you are swingers as long as there's no F/F play??
What we're saying is, you state " We are both high profile types in our little pond and she is afraid that if she acted on her urges it would get out." so, do you not actively swing already? or have you been a member this long and never had an encounter? because if you have had a M/F encounter before then what would be the difference?
Just our 1/2 cent
Please don't take it the wrong way.. just inquirering minds...
Hi Everyone!
As a woman and a partner I would be VERY unhappy to have an encounter 'arranged' without my knowledge. It's a trust thing, for sure. It has been my experience that the best way to experience this is in a couples situation. I've had a rocking good time with arranging f/f play in that arena. Another simple option for you is a trip to a city that has a good swingers club.
Gonna have to do that myself soon too
Good luck and lots of fun to the both of you!
Te
As a woman and a partner I would be VERY unhappy to have an encounter 'arranged' without my knowledge. It's a trust thing, for sure. It has been my experience that the best way to experience this is in a couples situation. I've had a rocking good time with arranging f/f play in that arena. Another simple option for you is a trip to a city that has a good swingers club.
Gonna have to do that myself soon too
Good luck and lots of fun to the both of you!
Te
no offense meant but i have to agree with flcpl you have been on here going on 5 years and it just now comes up tp play even just limited with another man.as far as another woman i would discuss it with her and find out if she would actually go through with it befor pursueing it not fair to other woman if your wife backs out.if she would then go on vacation some where near some swingers clubs and inadvertantly go to one.while there you can discuss it again and let her know that you support what ever she decides.florida is a great place for clubs both on/off premise.i would say better an on premise in case she gets cold feet then the other lady/couple can still hook up.
To answer some questions, yes I have been on here a few years to learn about the lifestyle and out of curiosity. No we have never played outside our marriage although we have had discussions about it.
I like stichs suggestion about discussing going on trip out of town and arranging something.
One thing I have learned while being here is that most people here are genuinely nice and honest and having fun. If we do get out there, it will be because people like you made us feel comfortable enough to experiment and have fun.
Thanks for your suggestions..
jimmy
I like stichs suggestion about discussing going on trip out of town and arranging something.
One thing I have learned while being here is that most people here are genuinely nice and honest and having fun. If we do get out there, it will be because people like you made us feel comfortable enough to experiment and have fun.
Thanks for your suggestions..
jimmy