It happens to some. And it's one of those "Oh! Hell! What do I do?" Moments.
So, if I may...I'd like to offer some advice. Please add your own.
You are on a Swinging Site...or at a Party. Lo and Behold...an Ex-Lover appears (Be it an Ex-Spouse or Partner).
What should you do??? Run? Hide? Or just go about enjoying yourself?
First off...remember. You have every right to be wherever you are. So don't panic. Chances are that no one wants to make drama, so just play it cool and all will be well.
Here are my suggestions (remember...I'm just one person, take the advice or leave it - I won't be offended).
Q: Should you acknowledge your Ex?
A: I wouldn't go lock into heavy conversation with them. At most a friendly nod or a wave would do ONLY IF you are on good terms. If you're NOT on good terms simply let it go.
Q: Should I play with my Ex?
A: I'm not even gonna touch that one.
Q: Should I say anything to anyone about this person being my Ex?
A: You're not out to ruin each other's good time. BE ADULTS and RESPECT each other's right to have a good time. If your with anyone, let them know...but beyond that just let it go.
Q: I feel uncomfortable. What should I do?
A: Welcome to the club...they probably do too! Get over it, be respectful and have a good time. If you can't do that, then you probably need a little more space. If you're at a party, thank the host/hostess and leave (you don't want to make anyone else uncomfortable or make a scene). Work out how and why you feel the way you do and live to play another day!
Q: My Ex is making a scene. What should I do?
A: Hmmm...tough one. Anyone?
My advice? Avoid your Ex...avoid a scene, don't ruin the party for anyone else. If you REALLY need to do something, casually pull the Host/Hostess aside and apologize for the trouble and explain who this person is and that they seem to be upset with you. *VOLUNTEER* to leave if the situation becomes intolerable.
Okay, that's enough from me!
Anyone else care to add some advice?
-K_T
So, if I may...I'd like to offer some advice. Please add your own.
You are on a Swinging Site...or at a Party. Lo and Behold...an Ex-Lover appears (Be it an Ex-Spouse or Partner).
What should you do??? Run? Hide? Or just go about enjoying yourself?
First off...remember. You have every right to be wherever you are. So don't panic. Chances are that no one wants to make drama, so just play it cool and all will be well.
Here are my suggestions (remember...I'm just one person, take the advice or leave it - I won't be offended).
Q: Should you acknowledge your Ex?
A: I wouldn't go lock into heavy conversation with them. At most a friendly nod or a wave would do ONLY IF you are on good terms. If you're NOT on good terms simply let it go.
Q: Should I play with my Ex?
A: I'm not even gonna touch that one.
Q: Should I say anything to anyone about this person being my Ex?
A: You're not out to ruin each other's good time. BE ADULTS and RESPECT each other's right to have a good time. If your with anyone, let them know...but beyond that just let it go.
Q: I feel uncomfortable. What should I do?
A: Welcome to the club...they probably do too! Get over it, be respectful and have a good time. If you can't do that, then you probably need a little more space. If you're at a party, thank the host/hostess and leave (you don't want to make anyone else uncomfortable or make a scene). Work out how and why you feel the way you do and live to play another day!
Q: My Ex is making a scene. What should I do?
A: Hmmm...tough one. Anyone?
My advice? Avoid your Ex...avoid a scene, don't ruin the party for anyone else. If you REALLY need to do something, casually pull the Host/Hostess aside and apologize for the trouble and explain who this person is and that they seem to be upset with you. *VOLUNTEER* to leave if the situation becomes intolerable.
Okay, that's enough from me!
Anyone else care to add some advice?
-K_T
You know, I was thinking about this very thing today!
I must say it's all excellent advice..... I would add that it's important to acknowledge the humor in the situation. If you are able, which many should at least try to be, work towards an amicable solution to 'shared space'. Nobody wants to see their ex playing with the 'new one' or the 'flavor of the week' yanno?
All in all - good stuff K_T
Ciao...
Te
I must say it's all excellent advice..... I would add that it's important to acknowledge the humor in the situation. If you are able, which many should at least try to be, work towards an amicable solution to 'shared space'. Nobody wants to see their ex playing with the 'new one' or the 'flavor of the week' yanno?
All in all - good stuff K_T
Ciao...
Te
Ran into my ex at a party once . we just said pleasant hellos and wen ton with the party.
LATER THO; she came up to me and told me she was going to have a fantasy fullfilled and wanted to know if i would help. I told her i didnt know she had a fantasy but i would as best as i could help.
She wanted to lose her anal virginity and then take on three guys at once. Guess who got to take her virginity
she was awsome and i told her afterwards.she has 40DD breats and a small waist. she looked so dang sexy in the wall mirror nest to the bed. She had all 3 holes filled by 2 10 inch cocks and my 7 inchcock all were balls deep and tits were swinging so hard i thought she was going to knock someone out.....lol
Afterwards she walked up to my girlfriend and told her Thanks for the use of me.
So a unexpected meeting CAN be pleasant for two mature adults.
LATER THO; she came up to me and told me she was going to have a fantasy fullfilled and wanted to know if i would help. I told her i didnt know she had a fantasy but i would as best as i could help.
She wanted to lose her anal virginity and then take on three guys at once. Guess who got to take her virginity
she was awsome and i told her afterwards.she has 40DD breats and a small waist. she looked so dang sexy in the wall mirror nest to the bed. She had all 3 holes filled by 2 10 inch cocks and my 7 inchcock all were balls deep and tits were swinging so hard i thought she was going to knock someone out.....lol
Afterwards she walked up to my girlfriend and told her Thanks for the use of me.
So a unexpected meeting CAN be pleasant for two mature adults.
I guess 1st of all, if my ex wife showed up at a swing party or social of even on a web-site like this one..... I'd hit my life alert button. This woman was so turned off by sex..... Even after 30 years I'd be quite surprised if she had changed...Ther was one interesting thing about her... After she and I split she found she liked anal sex with me... Finally agter 30 + years we can talk with out ducking verbal blows. .. I think if she showed up at a social or party... I'd be quite cordial with her....Who knows she may still like anal and she was quite good at it also..
i know this is off topic but how does a girl become good at anal?
I don't know about girls, which implies youth, but women can and do. If anal turns a woman on and she responds like a ravenious fiend trying to suck your life force out through your penis.... I call that good.... If this responce is greater than that which was the initial responce to anal sex, one could say that she got better.. It's all a relative thing... If one has orgasms via anal sex and they are intense, more so than vaginally, we have a winner...actually we have 2 winners...both partners win.
OMG! That's funny!
Suck the life force outta you through your cock. Yes, that would be signal of good times.
As the one who wants to put the cock in the ass? Do the research. If you're working with a woman who's never done this (been there), take it s l o w !
You may well not get fireworks the first time out. But if you listen to them and are in tune with their body, you will know if they're enjoying it. Don't push it (ha!) and be prepared to ease out early. If you take it easy the first time you will likely (very likely) get to have the anal sex again.
After you've both worked into it? Encourage her to tell you what she likes. On her back, legs up? On her knees in deep? Fast? Slow? Find a good groove and work with it. Once that's working, encourage her to do some research. Let her know what you like and (important!) let her know what she's doing that YOU like (positive reinforcement!)
Trust. If she likes it, she'll really start liking it more. She'll want to learn and in this game, knowledge = kinky fun!!
There ya go!
Have fun.
K_T
Suck the life force outta you through your cock. Yes, that would be signal of good times.
As the one who wants to put the cock in the ass? Do the research. If you're working with a woman who's never done this (been there), take it s l o w !
You may well not get fireworks the first time out. But if you listen to them and are in tune with their body, you will know if they're enjoying it. Don't push it (ha!) and be prepared to ease out early. If you take it easy the first time you will likely (very likely) get to have the anal sex again.
After you've both worked into it? Encourage her to tell you what she likes. On her back, legs up? On her knees in deep? Fast? Slow? Find a good groove and work with it. Once that's working, encourage her to do some research. Let her know what you like and (important!) let her know what she's doing that YOU like (positive reinforcement!)
Trust. If she likes it, she'll really start liking it more. She'll want to learn and in this game, knowledge = kinky fun!!
There ya go!
Have fun.
K_T