Do you find in meeting others that they expect you will be or should be as attracted to or turned on by their partner and or spouse as much as they are?
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As all people are different, results will vary. We've found that most people are hopeful that full compatibility will happen.
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Do you find that in meeting others they expect that you will be as receptive to or turned on by the techniques they perform on or with their partner/spouse and or others they have meet in the past?
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We've actually never had this happen.
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In short do you find in meeting others that at times there are unrealistic expectations as to what is or should come out of the meeting?
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Yes We have! - because people view swinging differently, it's like one will encounter these types.
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I realize that much of this should be addressed beforehand, however pics don't always tell the truth (outdated, very kind camera angles, etc...) and sometimes issues or concerns aren't discussed (bareback, condoms, pic taking, etc...)
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We agree this does and can occur.
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Seeing how this is a new year, lets try and start this off right by being tolerant of others thoughts and opnions.
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I'll agree with that as long as stupid fucks don't piss me off LOL.
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Looking forward to the intelligent and respectful responses.
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I answered honestly :-)
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-Mr. TR-
P.S. My first response basically answers all the questions.
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As all people are different, results will vary. We've found that most people are hopeful that full compatibility will happen.
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Do you find that in meeting others they expect that you will be as receptive to or turned on by the techniques they perform on or with their partner/spouse and or others they have meet in the past?
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We've actually never had this happen.
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In short do you find in meeting others that at times there are unrealistic expectations as to what is or should come out of the meeting?
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Yes We have! - because people view swinging differently, it's like one will encounter these types.
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I realize that much of this should be addressed beforehand, however pics don't always tell the truth (outdated, very kind camera angles, etc...) and sometimes issues or concerns aren't discussed (bareback, condoms, pic taking, etc...)
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We agree this does and can occur.
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Seeing how this is a new year, lets try and start this off right by being tolerant of others thoughts and opnions.
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I'll agree with that as long as stupid fucks don't piss me off LOL.
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Looking forward to the intelligent and respectful responses.
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I answered honestly :-)
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-Mr. TR-
P.S. My first response basically answers all the questions.
Do you find in meeting others that they expect you will be or should be as attracted to or turned on by their partner and or spouse as much as they are?
(Answer) I have found many believe I should be attracted to them or their spouse on a first meeting. As we all know, attraction is based on an individuals taste, which are as different as we all are. I try never to take it personally if someone is not attracted to me, I know it is based on their wants and has little to do with me as a person, because basically they don't know me. My best playmates are usually people I have taken the time to get to know.
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Do you find that in meeting others they expect that you will be as receptive to or turned on by the techniques they perform on or with their partner/spouse and or others they have meet in the past?
(Answer) Oh yes, a routine or standard set of techniques does not fit all. As stated in my first response, I find getting to know each other helps you understand what really turns someone on. I know many in this Life Style do not advocate "regular" playmates, but it seems to make playtime better for me.
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In short do you find in meeting others that at times there are unrealistic expectations as to what is or should come out of the meeting?
(Answer) Another definite yes in my book. Why is it if you consent to meet, some think sex is an automatic given? If you meet and there is immediate chemistry, by all means go for it. On the other hand realize it maybe one sided and respect the other person.
A side subject on this note: Just because you hook up once does not mean you have an open ticket to call and get laid whenever you want.
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I realize that much of this should be addressed beforehand, however pics don't always tell the truth (outdated, very kind camera angles, etc...) and sometimes issues or concerns aren't discussed (bareback, condoms, pic taking, etc...)
(Comment) So true, if we all took the time to discuss and lay out their own boundaries, many issue we all have to deal with would be covered and we could all avoid drama in our lives.
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Seeing how this is a new year, lets try and start this off right by being tolerant of others thoughts and opinions.
(Comment) Respect and common courtesy goes a long way in dealing with others.....
(Answer) I have found many believe I should be attracted to them or their spouse on a first meeting. As we all know, attraction is based on an individuals taste, which are as different as we all are. I try never to take it personally if someone is not attracted to me, I know it is based on their wants and has little to do with me as a person, because basically they don't know me. My best playmates are usually people I have taken the time to get to know.
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Do you find that in meeting others they expect that you will be as receptive to or turned on by the techniques they perform on or with their partner/spouse and or others they have meet in the past?
(Answer) Oh yes, a routine or standard set of techniques does not fit all. As stated in my first response, I find getting to know each other helps you understand what really turns someone on. I know many in this Life Style do not advocate "regular" playmates, but it seems to make playtime better for me.
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In short do you find in meeting others that at times there are unrealistic expectations as to what is or should come out of the meeting?
(Answer) Another definite yes in my book. Why is it if you consent to meet, some think sex is an automatic given? If you meet and there is immediate chemistry, by all means go for it. On the other hand realize it maybe one sided and respect the other person.
A side subject on this note: Just because you hook up once does not mean you have an open ticket to call and get laid whenever you want.
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I realize that much of this should be addressed beforehand, however pics don't always tell the truth (outdated, very kind camera angles, etc...) and sometimes issues or concerns aren't discussed (bareback, condoms, pic taking, etc...)
(Comment) So true, if we all took the time to discuss and lay out their own boundaries, many issue we all have to deal with would be covered and we could all avoid drama in our lives.
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Seeing how this is a new year, lets try and start this off right by being tolerant of others thoughts and opinions.
(Comment) Respect and common courtesy goes a long way in dealing with others.....
As far as first meetings goes and expectations on such.......if you make it perfectly clear that you will/will not be playing around on the first meeting then that fixes that, and takes the pressure or expectation right outta it. For us, we make it perfectly clear (at least we hope) that we WONT play around on the first meeting. We like to just go to dinner, visit and get to know the other couple first. If there is a connection/attraction then we will make plans for another time to go out and see what happens from there. However, we always go into things with out any expectations, we just go with the flow and see where it leads us. Having said that, however, we do discuss before hand between each other if we are okay with it going "there" and then we go and have a good time....that way if something sexual happens then GREAT, and if not....well, then no big deal we had a great time anyways. We have found that this works well for us. When you take the expectations outta things then you can relax and have fun.
As far as the other questions on attraction to spouse or whether or not what you do with your own spouse will turn on the other couple.....well, you just haveta kinda wing it, and hope it works out. There are gonna be times that you might be only attracted to the wife or only to the husband. Its just how it goes.
There isnt anyone that will do for me what my own husband does for me. Yes, we have been together for a long time and so we have learned what the other likes/dislikes.....and what drives each other WILD. When you get with someone else they arent goin to know exactly what to do......however, when someone takes the time to try and figure it out and is patient, and listens for ques.....everyone is different. What you do for your wife isnt going to do it for another women or vise versa. Gives you a chance to learn something new or try different things. It can be a good thing, really! either that or you really find out things you absolutely hate.....
As far as the other questions on attraction to spouse or whether or not what you do with your own spouse will turn on the other couple.....well, you just haveta kinda wing it, and hope it works out. There are gonna be times that you might be only attracted to the wife or only to the husband. Its just how it goes.
There isnt anyone that will do for me what my own husband does for me. Yes, we have been together for a long time and so we have learned what the other likes/dislikes.....and what drives each other WILD. When you get with someone else they arent goin to know exactly what to do......however, when someone takes the time to try and figure it out and is patient, and listens for ques.....everyone is different. What you do for your wife isnt going to do it for another women or vise versa. Gives you a chance to learn something new or try different things. It can be a good thing, really! either that or you really find out things you absolutely hate.....
Something that's helpful?
Always lower your expectations of what *could* happen - especially at larger parties. With 1 on 1 meetings, yes. The advice that you make it clear there won't be play on the first meeting is good.
You'll learn many a thing from others, but usually the first time with another playmate can be classified as a "get-to-know" session. People are rarely at their best the first time around. If you all get along, make a point to play again. That way you're even more relaxed and you'll probably even have a better time.
If the first time didn't go into the books for you? You've lost nothing and you can just write it off as Chemistry or a "The first time was nice, but we're not gonna do it again. Thanks!"
-K_T
Always lower your expectations of what *could* happen - especially at larger parties. With 1 on 1 meetings, yes. The advice that you make it clear there won't be play on the first meeting is good.
You'll learn many a thing from others, but usually the first time with another playmate can be classified as a "get-to-know" session. People are rarely at their best the first time around. If you all get along, make a point to play again. That way you're even more relaxed and you'll probably even have a better time.
If the first time didn't go into the books for you? You've lost nothing and you can just write it off as Chemistry or a "The first time was nice, but we're not gonna do it again. Thanks!"
-K_T
Good Morning,
Him typing here....As per usual....
"Seeing how this is a new year, lets try and start this off right by being tolerant of others thoughts and opinions".