Can any one take the time to check out my profile and let me know what and how I can improve it? I've got public pictures that aren't a "cock" picture. I've got private pics that show my face. I've tried to make my profile as complete and honest as I can. I only try to contact people that have listed that they are seeking "single males". On the street women flirt with me and I'm told that I'm a good looking man. Yet after others viewing my profile and me writing to others I haven't even received a rejection. Can any one even see me??????
Haven't been involved in the swinging lifestyle long have you? If you had you would know that being bi is a strike against you for the majority of swinging couples. Also sadly it is normal for singles and even couples to make comments about how few people can be bothered to respond even if it is a polite "no thank you". Tons of people have offered excuses for this lazy/rude behavior. A lot of couples take offense when this topic comes up thinking that they need to respond to everyone that writes which is not true if the person writing doesn't even come close as a match (ie couple not looking for a SM or BM). The offenders I'm referring to are the ones that list they are interested in a single males or couples, but in truth they are not actively looking and so they don't feel obligated to respond in anyway.
Bottom line is that there is nothing you can do. Have patience and hopefully you will find what you want in time.
Bottom line is that there is nothing you can do. Have patience and hopefully you will find what you want in time.
I just wanted to add my comments here. I am really impressed with your profile. You make it sound really easy to contact you, and you sound very sincere and down to earth.
Honestly I think the only part that is working against you is being a single male. And, unfortunately there is nothing you can do about that. I think anybody who IS interested in a single male would find your profile a refreshing change from most of the nasty ones out there.
I hope someone looks past the 'single male' stigma and gives you a chance. If you were closer, I would certainly try!!!
xoxo
Chelle
Honestly I think the only part that is working against you is being a single male. And, unfortunately there is nothing you can do about that. I think anybody who IS interested in a single male would find your profile a refreshing change from most of the nasty ones out there.
I hope someone looks past the 'single male' stigma and gives you a chance. If you were closer, I would certainly try!!!
xoxo
Chelle
Please do not fall into the 'Wahhh' fest that Mr Lost1972 is in. That is the most stereotypical thing that you can do to guarentee that couples will be turned off. Set yourself apart from the whiny, overly-aggresive, obnoxious single guys that are a dime a dozen everywhere. I would suggest a couple of more pics in your public album. Something clothed and looking handsome and a face pic. Put yourself in the state of mind that if youre in the lifestyle as a single guy then you are there for the girls. Now i know that your profile says bi but the women hold the keys to everything so I would concentrate your efforts there. I disagree with bi being a strike again you. Yes...some couples will pass you by but the couples that you are most interested in will be attracted to that. Be patient...go to parties...allow people to see you in a non-threatening, non-stereotypical way and you can have alot of fun. Most of all, dont go into everything looking for sex. Realize (and yes, its basically the same for couples) that if you are hooking up one out of every ten times then you are king stud of the universe in the single guy world. Good luck...have fun with it and realize that we all are doing this to have fun.
PS...confine your efforts to people that are looking for single guys. Read profiles and see if you think that you fit.
PS...confine your efforts to people that are looking for single guys. Read profiles and see if you think that you fit.
HOLLY_WOULD
Thank you for your take on my post. However I don't see where it's a 'Wahhh' fest. All I did was point out the typical behavior that is mentioned over and over in the forums about how people don't respond to messages sent to them. BillB69 is not the 1st to wonder about this lack of polite response wondering if there was something lacking in his profile or something that was scaring people away from him. I was just pointing out that it's a standard behavior which lots of people get defensive about.
Thank you for your take on my post. However I don't see where it's a 'Wahhh' fest. All I did was point out the typical behavior that is mentioned over and over in the forums about how people don't respond to messages sent to them. BillB69 is not the 1st to wonder about this lack of polite response wondering if there was something lacking in his profile or something that was scaring people away from him. I was just pointing out that it's a standard behavior which lots of people get defensive about.
Hated those pictures nothing flattering about them. As the female in a couple I suggest getting some good pics taken dressed up , and let that hair down.
THANK YOU to all of you who have replied to my question by either posting here or sending me a personal email. Some things people said were repeated by others. Some things were only said by individuals as their preference. I'll change some things and keep some things the same. It is an odd thing to me that more than 90% of the responses came from couples that were NOT looking for single men. What sort of things do the couples and single ladies, that ARE seeking single men, want to know or see????