This one is for the guys. Some guys cannot get it up , or have difficulty getting it up when other people are around besides him and her. What helps with the nerves? The guys are really interested in it all but their tool doesn't want to cooperate. Does Cialis or Viagra help for this? Valium? Does having a beer help anyone? It ruins the chances of the guy getting invited back. What works?
hehe....I have seen this happen b4. Both with couples we've been with and my own Mr Stitch. (he will kill me for saying that) BUT, its just a part of it. it wasnt at all that he wasnt turned on or that he wasnt into it at all...it was just nerves and anxiety, really. Up until we began this lifestyle we had only been with each other sexually and otherwise so it was all new to us and to his friend down below...hehe. THe first time we were in a situation that was with another couple it was extrememly exciting and erotic it was everything he had ever thought it being....and he was like...WTF, here is an extremely hot women infront of me, my wife is next 2me being extremely turned on and with another guy this is exaxtly what I thought it to be, and "YOU WONT FREAKEN WORK" lol We realized that it was just something we had to work thru. and with time and experience it got better. IF it happens now we've just learned to take it slow and I can go over and help out which turns him on and its all good. The thing is is not to make a big deal of it.....just go with the flow and if it happens then just go help your hunny out. If the other couple doesnt invite you back based on that alone then, I'd say that they werent really worth it anyhow. It has happened to just bout everyone we know its something that gets better with time and comfort. Now our problem is not that it wont get up but that it wont go down....LOL
Good luck, and again, just have fun and the best medicine you can give him is just patience and a little help and understanding
Good luck, and again, just have fun and the best medicine you can give him is just patience and a little help and understanding
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One time the wife started playing w a couple I did not know they were into any
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One time the wife started playing w a couple I did not know they were into any
Thing letalone full swap so it happen 2 me (not 4 long ) but it did ray
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Straight, someone had trouble getting it up around YOU??!! Can't even imagine that.
This happens to everyone once in a while.... Especially when you are new to the game. It is just nerves and subconcious anxiety. I can tell you Cialis works great and lasts 36 hours with(for me) no side affects at all! Viagra works great , but had bad side effects with me, blue vision,stomach pains,flushed feeling. Just talk to your doctor and see what he says. I also discovered, and have met others who back this up, that I can drink Jaegermiester all night long with no "side effects"! Other beer or liquor has that limit where you are are fine , but one drink more and you are a much more of a voyer that a participant!Seing the other guy wip out an 11 in
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If the lady goes down on him he will probably lose the anxiety on the spot. He needs to stop thinking about what's about to happen. This is one time when the big head needs to follow the little head...So long as the brain will say I want that, i.e., a particular woman ...sex, most of the ED drugs will help... But even if he uses the drugs and a dick bigger than his works on his thoughs then the drugs will not keep it up... Is sex in the lifestyle a competition? Hell no it's all about fun and fantasy or to put it another way SEXUAL fun!
Noooo..This doesn't happen does it??All the guys are studs!they get with another woman and UP it comes ready to give her a good seeing to!
Well,hey!this isnt the case is it?guys get nervous too..What you can do with your wife in the privacy of your own home doesn't mean you can do it with another man's wife.
I think perhaps age and self confidence has a lot to do with it also.
Perhaps a second or third meeting with the same couple might help.The more you see them the more relaxed you become when you realise the woman isnt going to laugh at you when you leave.
I think the problem isn't in the man's dick it's in his head.You think the woman is expecting a great stud to fuck her brains out,instead she gets a regular guy who is very nervous and therefore can't perform as expected.It makes him no less a man,and it DOESN't mean he doesnt fancy her.
There are other ways to keep her happy using fingers,tongue etc..If the woman you are with is a decent sort she will know what's going on.
If they contact you after and say they don't want to see you again,then they weren't worth meeting in the first place.
Well,hey!this isnt the case is it?guys get nervous too..What you can do with your wife in the privacy of your own home doesn't mean you can do it with another man's wife.
I think perhaps age and self confidence has a lot to do with it also.
Perhaps a second or third meeting with the same couple might help.The more you see them the more relaxed you become when you realise the woman isnt going to laugh at you when you leave.
I think the problem isn't in the man's dick it's in his head.You think the woman is expecting a great stud to fuck her brains out,instead she gets a regular guy who is very nervous and therefore can't perform as expected.It makes him no less a man,and it DOESN't mean he doesnt fancy her.
There are other ways to keep her happy using fingers,tongue etc..If the woman you are with is a decent sort she will know what's going on.
If they contact you after and say they don't want to see you again,then they weren't worth meeting in the first place.
Advice from a guy thats seen it happen and has had it happen?
Don't drink much (1 or 2 drinks...that's it).
Don't eat anything heavy.
Keep it light.
The more you think about it...the more you worry the more trouble you'll have.
And sometimes (yes, it's true) your partner can put a lot of pressure on you. So just make sure the communication is open and the expectations are *LOW*.
K_T
Don't drink much (1 or 2 drinks...that's it).
Don't eat anything heavy.
Keep it light.
The more you think about it...the more you worry the more trouble you'll have.
And sometimes (yes, it's true) your partner can put a lot of pressure on you. So just make sure the communication is open and the expectations are *LOW*.
K_T
I for one am glad to see that I am not the only one that suffers from this particular problem. I have been in situations before that have been much less than was imagined, and thought it was all me. Thanks to all who posted up here and admitted to it, the honesty is appreciated. The advices are also...
Of course all the different physical things add up differently to enhance or detract from the experiences, but I have been convinced that age had the most to do with it. I notice that most who posted are also pretty much contemporaries, and know the aging processes as well. I have always wondered what it would have been like if we had started into this lifestyle choice about 6 or 8 years earlier, when we were still riding the wave of our youth.
Of course all the different physical things add up differently to enhance or detract from the experiences, but I have been convinced that age had the most to do with it. I notice that most who posted are also pretty much contemporaries, and know the aging processes as well. I have always wondered what it would have been like if we had started into this lifestyle choice about 6 or 8 years earlier, when we were still riding the wave of our youth.