Long ago, we were on another site where you could send a "wink" to a profile you might be interested in. After experiencing winks for awhile, we actually included in our profile that "we don't answer winks--if you want to contact us, write us!"
To us, the wink was a cheap way out of initiating a contact. It actually puts the onus on the winkee to do something with the wink whereas the winker didn't have to do anything but click on a button.
On the street it takes a bit more courage to wink at someone as it's live and in person. But even then, to expect them to come up to you and start a conversation because of it might be expecting a bit much.
But sending a wink or a "kiss" is too easy. It takes no effort to send yet a response is expected or the receiver appears rude. Or, is that the way y'all feel? Must a kiss be responded to? Is it bad manners to simply delete them without investigating and responding? Is it too much to expect that a person or couple would write a few lines if they were interested? I mean, there was something about us they liked, right?
We'd be interested to hear your thoughts on this feature and how you generally handle 'em when you get 'em.
To us, the wink was a cheap way out of initiating a contact. It actually puts the onus on the winkee to do something with the wink whereas the winker didn't have to do anything but click on a button.
On the street it takes a bit more courage to wink at someone as it's live and in person. But even then, to expect them to come up to you and start a conversation because of it might be expecting a bit much.
But sending a wink or a "kiss" is too easy. It takes no effort to send yet a response is expected or the receiver appears rude. Or, is that the way y'all feel? Must a kiss be responded to? Is it bad manners to simply delete them without investigating and responding? Is it too much to expect that a person or couple would write a few lines if they were interested? I mean, there was something about us they liked, right?
We'd be interested to hear your thoughts on this feature and how you generally handle 'em when you get 'em.
well even though i got bashed on another site for saying this ill say it again you should at least resopnd to it maybe they will say somethign back to you some people are just not that good at starting the conversation so to speak maybe that just helps them a bit just my .02 cents
we usually just say thinks and move on to next email.
I think the kiss thing is a waste of time. We just delete them. If you're that interested, you could at least say "HI!". It's a little more personable. You dont have to write an elaborate note to someone. So, Hi! everyone!
we just send back a kiss.if the oyher party wants they then can write or not.We're with IWANA
We return any kisses that fall upon us and, if the originator is really that interested, they will respond with a more personal greeting. If not, we've wasted about 10 seconds or so to kiss a fool.
We return any kisses that fall upon us and, if the originator is really that interested, they will respond with a more personal greeting. If not, we've wasted about 10 seconds or so to kiss a fool.We're somwhat new here, and haven't experienced the "kiss" or "wink", but I have to say, if your intrested, say so. Isn't that why we're all here, to meet others?
a wink or kiss is a good way to initiate contact as long as the winker writes back...otherwise its a lot of wasted time.
A kiss isn't much of an introduction, if I'm interested, then I'll write a short note introducing myself. If the other party is interested then if they send me a kiss, at least I know they would like to know more.
If you can send a wink you willget a wink back from us. If you were the original winker we expect if you truely are interested in a REAL meeting then you will respond with a quick message. Sometimes the winks come from so far away its like why did they send it but if its just a nice way to say gee wish we lived closer than we say thats cool and wink back.
Norm&Sharon
Norm&Sharon
it is hard enough to get a conversation when you do put the effort in...A wink or a kiss online?? come on. That is nothing. have something to say.....the worst that you will ever hear is "no thankyou"
we go back and forth on how we feel about it, the blew a kiss thing and the add friend when they have not even wrote to say hi... if we feel like it at the time we reply with just hi...
We agree with most of the responses on this topic. C'mon folks, get some gonads & send a real letter. We put our pants on just like you do. Don't be afraid of rejection. It happens to all of us.