So I've been seeing a woman for a few months and I'm crazy attracted to her. She's older than me which I love and she has a stunning face and body. So we'd been hanging out for about month before we had sex and when we did I was a serious minute man. We had a few more sessions that night but still under a minute the first time. So she brought it up a few nights later and it really hurt my feelings, mostly I took it as an attack on my ego but that's not how it was meant. So everytime we've had sex since that first night, I've taken a few percocet to turn my nuts off. I still get just as hard but will NEVER EVER EVER cum. Then after the first few times she starts asking if I'm still into her. I'm more so than ever but I don't want her clowning me like she did so I'm taking steps to prevent it. So tonight we finished and of course I didn't cum and she goes into "why not why not what's wrong" So I told her what I've been doing and she told me to go home. SO I'm looking for a bit of female view on this. How is what I did perceived in the mind of a woman. It came totally from a place me wanted to be able to give her as much of my as I could but my B.P. just wouldn't stay high enough. What have I done here???
A woman wants to make a guy cum as much as he wants her to cum.. And yes we feel that it is OUR fault if we cannot get a guy to cum!!!
From a woman's point of view... if a man goes too quick then (some of us) we feel the guy isn't into us ... but on the other hand... if a man goes too long and doesn't cum we (some of us) feel we aren't doing the job right.
Sometimes painkillers have that effect of the stamina being great but it "shuts off" ejaculation.
Most women don't realize the a man can have an orgasm without ejaculating. And that everything still feels good for a man.
I had to learn the hard way... I have a friend that takes Percocet and he has the hardest time cumming and I thought I was doing something wrong. And he kept telling me it was the meds he was on and not me cuz he liked everything I did... I did finally ask couple of the Drs I work with about this...
Just a thought---
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From a woman's point of view... if a man goes too quick then (some of us) we feel the guy isn't into us ... but on the other hand... if a man goes too long and doesn't cum we (some of us) feel we aren't doing the job right.
Sometimes painkillers have that effect of the stamina being great but it "shuts off" ejaculation.
Most women don't realize the a man can have an orgasm without ejaculating. And that everything still feels good for a man.
I had to learn the hard way... I have a friend that takes Percocet and he has the hardest time cumming and I thought I was doing something wrong. And he kept telling me it was the meds he was on and not me cuz he liked everything I did... I did finally ask couple of the Drs I work with about this...
Just a thought---
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well just liked mentioned by the last poster.....a women does feel responsible when a man doesnt cum. We like to know that we turn u on enough to "get there" just like you like the thought that you guyz can get us there. I dont think anything of it when my husband cums quickly, I just chalk it up to....DAM, he was into that, and I love it actually, besides.... he always makes sure I go b4 he even thinks of it. When he doesnt cum, even if I know he has been drinking, and cant cum, for whatever the reason.....I still feel a little bad because he maybe wasnt turned on enough, or I jsut didnt do it for him.....just like you guyz would feel if we didnt cum.
Just a question.....but why instead of taking it upon yourself to "fix" the problem why didnt you just talk to her, and let her know that it hurt your feelings that she laughed at you....or rather laughed about you cumming so quickly the times b4. Why didnt you just talk to her about it, rather then deciding to take percocents. IF it were me, I would be more upset and embarressed that I hurt your feelings about it, and you didnt talk to me bout how you felt...then taking the pain pills although that isnt a good thing either to do. If you are being intimate with her, then you should be able to let her know how you feel bout it, if you cant talk to her then it isnt much of a relationship....and maybe thats why she was upset.
Just my two cents...and then sum....
Just a question.....but why instead of taking it upon yourself to "fix" the problem why didnt you just talk to her, and let her know that it hurt your feelings that she laughed at you....or rather laughed about you cumming so quickly the times b4. Why didnt you just talk to her about it, rather then deciding to take percocents. IF it were me, I would be more upset and embarressed that I hurt your feelings about it, and you didnt talk to me bout how you felt...then taking the pain pills although that isnt a good thing either to do. If you are being intimate with her, then you should be able to let her know how you feel bout it, if you cant talk to her then it isnt much of a relationship....and maybe thats why she was upset.
Just my two cents...and then sum....
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