We recomend the Secret Desires parties at club Vegas, or the Spice parties as a good intro. Its a good chance to get out there and meet people in a public setting, and they're alot of fun!
The best thing you can do is just get out there and meet people. You'll find someone you're comfortable with soon.
A&K
The best thing you can do is just get out there and meet people. You'll find someone you're comfortable with soon.
A&K
We have to say we disagree. We would definately not start out with a party. Most people are parties are pretty set into the lifestyle, and often are a little bit aggressive.
We'd recommend talking with a couple for a while, then meeting in a public place that you can go home easily afterwards from if you don't want to go elsewhere or just flatout want to leave.
We'd recommend talking with a couple for a while, then meeting in a public place that you can go home easily afterwards from if you don't want to go elsewhere or just flatout want to leave.
We have to say that even do people may be set into the lifestyle at the sat party. You shall find a number of select couples that are new to the lifestyle an are very nice and easy going. I think if you have someone being pushy thats not the couple you dont wish to be with anyway.
Its about making true friendships. Other may just not care for that and just want to get down and naughty...but keep true to your wants and needs and your own personal guidelines that work for both you and your husband.
Nelson
Its about making true friendships. Other may just not care for that and just want to get down and naughty...but keep true to your wants and needs and your own personal guidelines that work for both you and your husband.
Nelson
We would say a meet and greet would be a good place to start. Secret desires is a good one.....we haven't had the pleasure of attending a spice party. We have found that suz and dre are great at meeting everyone and letting everyone feel comfortable. We have had no problems with someone being too aggressive, but maybe we are just a little pervy ourselves. Good luck and remember you can always say no and/or leave, no harm no foul.
just our 2 cents
just our 2 cents
My advice is go where ever you want, because bottom line is.... YOU MAKE THE DECISIONS. If you go to a party, you have the right to make the decision to participate. It will also help you decide if the atmosphere is right for you. We say dive in! No one forces anything on you. I've never been to a party where I couldn't say yes or no.
The only people at the Bowling Party that will be naked are the people that want to be. If you have an adversion to nudity, then my advice is not to be in the lifestyle. You are going to get hit on, you are going to be approached by all walks of life. We're all adult and can make decisions based on our preferences and feelings. So I say go for it. All that is in the lifestyle will be there, no matter how long you take to see or experience it. So if you want to know.... Go.
Just our opinion.
-TR-
The only people at the Bowling Party that will be naked are the people that want to be. If you have an adversion to nudity, then my advice is not to be in the lifestyle. You are going to get hit on, you are going to be approached by all walks of life. We're all adult and can make decisions based on our preferences and feelings. So I say go for it. All that is in the lifestyle will be there, no matter how long you take to see or experience it. So if you want to know.... Go.
Just our opinion.
-TR-
i believe the party wouldnt be a bad place to start .. yes itis possiable it may get a bit carried away but knowing how hard it is to find a couple you are both attracted to .. and them to you..
Having so many open minded people in the same place available to meet . to get to know them that doesnt happen everyday .. we are hoping to meet some new friends . remember the final decision as to what happens is up to you ..
Having so many open minded people in the same place available to meet . to get to know them that doesnt happen everyday .. we are hoping to meet some new friends . remember the final decision as to what happens is up to you ..
Hang out in the chatroom (there's lots of great folks there) and get to know a few people first through online correspondance. Then attend some smaller house parties with people you feel you'd be comfortable with.
This is what we did and it's worked out great.
--Mr. AG.
This is what we did and it's worked out great.
--Mr. AG.
just go to the bowling party, if your eyes get to full you can leave, i relly doubt theres going to be that many naked people there, i wont be naked. i mean what if theres a fire or something gotta at least have your underwear on.
well, the only way to know what you are okay with and what you don't really like is to get out there and try a few things. IT's kinda a TRIAL and ERROR sorda thing. You find out what works best for you and what gets your motor running, and what you both like in the lifestyle, and that is what you stick with until you are ready to change it again. We have found that things change with what we like or dont like....over time. But one thing always remains the same....it is about having fun, it is about US as a couple, and it is about enjoying the friendships we've made. ALl those that we've talked with, and met have become great life long friends, and most everyone in the LIFESTYLE, are great, decent, respectful people and no one will pressure you to do anything you arent okay with, that is always up to YOU and your spouse/partner...
I would suggest that you move slowly...hang out in the chatroom, and chat one on one with some couples and get to know some. Webcam with them, chat a lot with them and when you feel alright with everything then meet up. When you chat awhile online it makes it so much more comfortable to meet in person cuz you already know them its like getting together with friends. Just take it from there, and see what happens. When you get to know a few people and you know what you are comfortable with then I would suggest moving into the party scene. Just like Tequilarose said...you dont ever haveta do something you dont wanna do. You can always say NO, or if its to much for you then you can walk out the door, and no one will judge you for that.
Some of the parties like the Spice, or the Seceret Desire parties I would say are pretty controlled as far as what goes on....in other words, an orgy isnt going to break out on the dance floor (at least I dont think so) LOL! however, if you go to an after party, that might happen so be prepared for that, but you never haveta participate unless of course you want too. I would say that if you feel comfy the Spice Parties and Seceret Desire as well as the bowling party would be a safe place to go and meet people.....limit it to those and dont go to the after parties unless you are okay with seeing some sexual activities cuz I would guarantee that some of that goes on. YOu will learn as you go what works and what doesnt for you.
Just have a good time...and GOOD LUCK! If you do decide to go to the bowling party..go wiht an open mind and just have a good time and if it becomes to much for you..then just say..good night no one will judge you for that!
HAVE FUN
I would suggest that you move slowly...hang out in the chatroom, and chat one on one with some couples and get to know some. Webcam with them, chat a lot with them and when you feel alright with everything then meet up. When you chat awhile online it makes it so much more comfortable to meet in person cuz you already know them its like getting together with friends. Just take it from there, and see what happens. When you get to know a few people and you know what you are comfortable with then I would suggest moving into the party scene. Just like Tequilarose said...you dont ever haveta do something you dont wanna do. You can always say NO, or if its to much for you then you can walk out the door, and no one will judge you for that.
Some of the parties like the Spice, or the Seceret Desire parties I would say are pretty controlled as far as what goes on....in other words, an orgy isnt going to break out on the dance floor (at least I dont think so) LOL! however, if you go to an after party, that might happen so be prepared for that, but you never haveta participate unless of course you want too. I would say that if you feel comfy the Spice Parties and Seceret Desire as well as the bowling party would be a safe place to go and meet people.....limit it to those and dont go to the after parties unless you are okay with seeing some sexual activities cuz I would guarantee that some of that goes on. YOu will learn as you go what works and what doesnt for you.
Just have a good time...and GOOD LUCK! If you do decide to go to the bowling party..go wiht an open mind and just have a good time and if it becomes to much for you..then just say..good night no one will judge you for that!
HAVE FUN
Going to a hotel party/social/dance gives you a taste of the lifestyle. You are obligated, at any lifestyle event, to do nothing but have a good time. We have gotten people to go to parties to get them started and they now go to virtually every party around. People at parties expecially ones who have been around for a while tend to be very friendly to newbies. They want you to enjoy yourselves and come into the fold, so to speak. Lifestylers are not aggressive people, for the most part and those who are find out fairly quick that people do not like that behavior.
A hotel/ off premise/dance/party is more a dance with soem sexy dress and some kissing and messing around if all are in agreement. People do not generally just come up and grab or kissis or fondle without permission. Ask questions of the older people and they will generally answer anything you ask.
Remember there is no protocol in swinging. Everyone has their own preferences, rules and fantasies and their own way of looking at swinging. So talk to more than one couple or lady to get a better more round idea of what is happening. You'll also be networking or starting to network with people and you'll overcome any shyness in a heart beat. You'll be surprised at the people in swinging... Police, nurses, health care professionals, Dr's, Engineers, machinists, truckdrivers, mechanics.... and the list goes on.. Most are everyday people who your wouldn't suspect to be in the lifestyle. If you meet someone you know.... Say hi and talk to them.. let them know you are looking around and curious about the lifestyle. These people might even be your minister or Rabbi and can be very heplful in filling you in on the lifestyle.. Remember they are there for the lifestyle as well so no need to be embarrassed. Just remember Discression in all things about the lifestyle. If you meet at church or the parking lot of a dept store with their kids.... Say hi and move on.. Get togethers with anyone in the lifestyle is not necessarily for sex and sex only ...maybe not even for sex... People are people and lifestylers are just people too.
A hotel/ off premise/dance/party is more a dance with soem sexy dress and some kissing and messing around if all are in agreement. People do not generally just come up and grab or kissis or fondle without permission. Ask questions of the older people and they will generally answer anything you ask.
Remember there is no protocol in swinging. Everyone has their own preferences, rules and fantasies and their own way of looking at swinging. So talk to more than one couple or lady to get a better more round idea of what is happening. You'll also be networking or starting to network with people and you'll overcome any shyness in a heart beat. You'll be surprised at the people in swinging... Police, nurses, health care professionals, Dr's, Engineers, machinists, truckdrivers, mechanics.... and the list goes on.. Most are everyday people who your wouldn't suspect to be in the lifestyle. If you meet someone you know.... Say hi and talk to them.. let them know you are looking around and curious about the lifestyle. These people might even be your minister or Rabbi and can be very heplful in filling you in on the lifestyle.. Remember they are there for the lifestyle as well so no need to be embarrassed. Just remember Discression in all things about the lifestyle. If you meet at church or the parking lot of a dept store with their kids.... Say hi and move on.. Get togethers with anyone in the lifestyle is not necessarily for sex and sex only ...maybe not even for sex... People are people and lifestylers are just people too.