Since we become involved in the lifestyle sceen, we have enjoyed going to many diverse meet-n-greets from private house parties to the Secret Desires and Spice parties. All have been awesome and much effort seems to go into providing these events for us in the lifestyle to enjoy. Thank you to those that put forth this energy to organize them.
We have found that they all involve many different types of people (looks, height, weight, personalities etc.) at these gatherings. Yet we have been inundated as of late, when we ask people if they are going to the spice party or suggesting that as an up coming meet-n-greet, the response is that they feel the Spice parties are for Ken and Barbies.
As we don't fit that "sterotype" we have enjoyed meeting many good friends there and have not found that to be true ourselves, and attend all those that we can for the fun.
How many feel that the Spice parties are only for Ken and Barbies and feel you fit that mold? Do you stay away because of it, or do you go and make the best of a great party to meet new and old friends?
We have found that they all involve many different types of people (looks, height, weight, personalities etc.) at these gatherings. Yet we have been inundated as of late, when we ask people if they are going to the spice party or suggesting that as an up coming meet-n-greet, the response is that they feel the Spice parties are for Ken and Barbies.
As we don't fit that "sterotype" we have enjoyed meeting many good friends there and have not found that to be true ourselves, and attend all those that we can for the fun.
How many feel that the Spice parties are only for Ken and Barbies and feel you fit that mold? Do you stay away because of it, or do you go and make the best of a great party to meet new and old friends?
We go to the Spice parties, have a great time and we are definitely not Ken and Barbie. We also enjoy the Secret Desires parties and will agree upon one thing... The two parties do attract different groups of people. There are those people who seem to have a loyal following to Spice while yet another group seem loyal to Secret Desires. However, there are still those of us who dont belong to any group, (except maybe AARP), who attend both. We have many terrific friends in both groups and love any excuse to see them as often as we can.
I guess, quoting from the animated movie, "The Point", "you see what you want to see, and you hear what you want to hear." I would suggest you just go where you have the most fun.
I guess, quoting from the animated movie, "The Point", "you see what you want to see, and you hear what you want to hear." I would suggest you just go where you have the most fun.
Well, we have been to 1 spice party and yes it did seem to be very clickish. We knew a couple different couples that were there. And they to thought it was "Ken & Barbie" Seemed if you were not model material you didn't exist. In fact 1 couple that we know (and they are very hot) wont even go any more even though they did fit in with the people. Just not very personable or inviting to the everyday person.
But on the other hand it takes all different kinds to make the world go round. Some people only look at the cover and keep going. Others look at the cover and stop to read a few pages and maybe make very good friends.
So in all to each there own. Lets just all have fun and enjoy
But on the other hand it takes all different kinds to make the world go round. Some people only look at the cover and keep going. Others look at the cover and stop to read a few pages and maybe make very good friends.
So in all to each there own. Lets just all have fun and enjoy
we've heard that about the Spice Parties from various ppl. We have only been to one and we didnt stay long....they only thing I noticed is that it was very clickish....hard to get to know anyone...
However, we would go if we had the opportunity EVER....it has been tuff for us to find sitters. Maybe someday we will get the chance to try both or one or the other. I could see how the different parties attract different folks...but they are different groups so of course they would. We've heard that the Seceret Desires parties are more laid back, and diverse as far as the type of ppl that go. We actually would go to either one, even hearing what we've heard, you haveta develop your own opinions....
However, we would go if we had the opportunity EVER....it has been tuff for us to find sitters. Maybe someday we will get the chance to try both or one or the other. I could see how the different parties attract different folks...but they are different groups so of course they would. We've heard that the Seceret Desires parties are more laid back, and diverse as far as the type of ppl that go. We actually would go to either one, even hearing what we've heard, you haveta develop your own opinions....
Absolutely NOT! They are also for Skipper and Malibu Stacey! :-) (that way Ken gets to do his main squeeze...although we heard she dumped him....AND two hot unicorns....except I think they might be underage....better card 'em!)
We go to both and LOVE both. We are by no means ken and Barbie. (more like Snow White and a horny dwarf)
There are no rules for any party on who can go and who cannot.
A party is WHAT YOU MAKE OF IT. SO GET OUT THERE AND HAVE A GOOD TIME!!!!
There are no rules for any party on who can go and who cannot.
A party is WHAT YOU MAKE OF IT. SO GET OUT THERE AND HAVE A GOOD TIME!!!!
We have said it many times before...were out, away from the kids for awhile, dancing while being surrounded by sexy people...how can you not have fun.
We have been to both parties and have had a great time EVERY time.
We dont buy into the clicky statements...people are the same all over. Everyone would love to have all kinds of people come up to them and chat, who wouldnt, it makes you feel real good. But, how many have the guts to go up to someone else first.
We've found if you want to make friends or even just carry on a conversation with someone, go up to them first, introduce yourselves, be repectful, dont make assumptions about them, dont talk about politics, and truly listen to them.
Anyway, long story short, ya get out of them what ya put into them! And if anyone sees us at a party come on up and say hi, we dont bite, unless you want us too.
We have been to both parties and have had a great time EVERY time.
We dont buy into the clicky statements...people are the same all over. Everyone would love to have all kinds of people come up to them and chat, who wouldnt, it makes you feel real good. But, how many have the guts to go up to someone else first.
We've found if you want to make friends or even just carry on a conversation with someone, go up to them first, introduce yourselves, be repectful, dont make assumptions about them, dont talk about politics, and truly listen to them.
Anyway, long story short, ya get out of them what ya put into them! And if anyone sees us at a party come on up and say hi, we dont bite, unless you want us too.
We attended our first Spice party about a year ago. The organization was top notch! The people were very friendly, and the atmosphere was great! First class all the way! I wouldn't knock the folks who attend these by any means. The term, 'Ken and Barbie' oftimes sounds like a derogatory term for those folks who fall into the 'beautiful' category. (and for the record, the first few posters who said that they don't feel like they fit the classification... You do!) And I mean that with nothing but admiration!
I feel like my wife and I are in a different category, we've up to this point chosen not to attend another Spice party. We hold nothing against the people who do, we just feel like there are other groups into which we 'fit' better. I agree with a previous post about the clique thing. That stuff happens everywhere!
My suggestion would be to give Spice a try! Try ALL the parties/groups around and go where you feel most comfortable. This lifestyle is about open minds, and fun! The beauty of it is there are people for everybody! From Ken and Barbie to Fred and Wilma. From Brad and Angelina to Dan and Roseanne! Find your flava, and have a good time!
Bart- Male half of UtahRedhead
I feel like my wife and I are in a different category, we've up to this point chosen not to attend another Spice party. We hold nothing against the people who do, we just feel like there are other groups into which we 'fit' better. I agree with a previous post about the clique thing. That stuff happens everywhere!
My suggestion would be to give Spice a try! Try ALL the parties/groups around and go where you feel most comfortable. This lifestyle is about open minds, and fun! The beauty of it is there are people for everybody! From Ken and Barbie to Fred and Wilma. From Brad and Angelina to Dan and Roseanne! Find your flava, and have a good time!
Bart- Male half of UtahRedhead
We have attended both and have fun at both. Our personal experiences, we know and have had better luck meeting people at the secret desire partys. We plan on attending both for a long time to come though. Like the 2uvus said a party is a party and BTW 2 maybe not biting but we wouldnt mind a little nibbleing LOL Amanda and Haden
Hey amanda/haden...we're so looking for you guys at tg and sirens party!!
COME SAY HELLO TO US!!!!!!!!
If any of you are going to the Fantasy Ball/Spice Halloween Bash on Saturday and don't know anyone there, PLEASE hunt us down and we'll introduce to many great people.
Our first lifestyle party was a Secret Desires party and we felt pretty uncomfortable and had Chrissy not come up and said hello just as we were getting ready to leave we would have felt pretty alienated.
The following week was a Spice Party, we got invited to join a table, got invited to an after party and the rest is history.
Again, if you don't know anyone look for the guy in red underwear wearing a royal crown and Rainbow Brite - we may actually fit the Ken & Barbie mold, but don't let that intimidate you. We love to make new friends of all looks, loves and walks of life.
art&jaz
If any of you are going to the Fantasy Ball/Spice Halloween Bash on Saturday and don't know anyone there, PLEASE hunt us down and we'll introduce to many great people.
Our first lifestyle party was a Secret Desires party and we felt pretty uncomfortable and had Chrissy not come up and said hello just as we were getting ready to leave we would have felt pretty alienated.
The following week was a Spice Party, we got invited to join a table, got invited to an after party and the rest is history.
Again, if you don't know anyone look for the guy in red underwear wearing a royal crown and Rainbow Brite - we may actually fit the Ken & Barbie mold, but don't let that intimidate you. We love to make new friends of all looks, loves and walks of life.
art&jaz
Ok, we have been told we may fit the barbie and ken type - I don't see it though I have a penis and she does have nipples i promise. So with that said my take on the party scene
A party is a party, I have seen vegas parties get clique-ish as much as the spice parties can be. My take is this if you:
A - Are looking to dance and flirt and see if fun happens then you will have fun regardless of looks. Then you can have fun in anygroup
or B - you want to meet people, take em to a neardby hotel and screw their brains out, you are goign to be more comfortable with people close to your own looks, age, style etc, and if you don't finr that and get frustrated buy a mixed group having fun ..... you will think it is clique-ish.
Open your mind your heart is sure to follow.
Oh yeah, come by and I will verify the wifes nipples to prove she is not a barbie!
A party is a party, I have seen vegas parties get clique-ish as much as the spice parties can be. My take is this if you:
A - Are looking to dance and flirt and see if fun happens then you will have fun regardless of looks. Then you can have fun in anygroup
or B - you want to meet people, take em to a neardby hotel and screw their brains out, you are goign to be more comfortable with people close to your own looks, age, style etc, and if you don't finr that and get frustrated buy a mixed group having fun ..... you will think it is clique-ish.
Open your mind your heart is sure to follow.
Oh yeah, come by and I will verify the wifes nipples to prove she is not a barbie!
Thanks for all your replys. This is what we were intending. We desired for the others (who have and who have not gone to these parties as of late because of judegements) to see how people really felt about these GREAT parties and meet-n-greets. By your comments things can help to get better no matter where you stand or fit.
We love to go to these parties and get togethers with these many diverse people
and create those great friendships as we have. Dancing, Talking, Flirting, Playing, and having on hell of a great time.
We would love to hear more comments on this if you care to share.
We love to go to these parties and get togethers with these many diverse people
and create those great friendships as we have. Dancing, Talking, Flirting, Playing, and having on hell of a great time.We would love to hear more comments on this if you care to share.
Hey all! I have to agree with Sexypants and CNKISS (and yes he has a penis and she has nips
We have gone and had great times at both, and had not so great times at both. That being said, any bad experience was never a result of any of the hosts. The host are all great and fun people but the parties are basically what you make of them and what your expectations are going in.
Mo & Gary
Mo & Gary
So UTSLUTS, when are you going to do all that you mentioned to us? We made it to lap sitting, does that mean we fit in your groupie circle? LOL
Kisses.. Cyn and Him (We will be there Sat night for you to abuse)
Kisses.. Cyn and Him (We will be there Sat night for you to abuse)
CYN will you be my naked barbie doll? I want to take off all your barbie clothes and lick lick lick lol
Hey all...this is going to be our very FIRST party.....is there a corner that we are supposed to stand in until one of the groups or non-groups finds us? We just aren't sure about whether we are supposed to be in the Barbie-House with the accompanying pink corvette, or maybe we should be in the G.I. Joe side with the Hummer?
Yes Harley, the corners are the best..... the corner we like to stand in is called the "dance floor" come stand in our corner (it is the most fun corner in the place) cya out there 
Hey all...this is going to be our very FIRST party also, and we are excited to party with you all
Any party that continues to invite us can't be labled "Ken & Barbie" types - hell - we're getting old enough to be ken & barbies grandparents!
The whole of swingular is invited. The formula of you being invited and not being "barbie" doesn't work. You guys are a hot fuggin couple none the less. We find any party that costs $60 to be ridiculously over-priced. Even $30 is pushing it. What does the $60 dollars cover that the bought (also over-priced) drinks won't? Additionally, the crowd is not as down-to-earth as some of the other parties. We don't think it is worth it. Although, as with any other issue on this site, to each their own. Please let us all know if $30 - $60 is worth an off-premise bar experience. You can get the same experience hosting your own get-together at a local dance club for $4 bucks and the cost of drinks. We like that math and crowd full of our friends just a little better. That's us though.
Mr. TR
Mr. TR
No, we just like to spend our money wisely :-)
I have been to both, and I understand where the 'Ken and Barbie' comments come from. In my opinion, the difference is the average age of most of the people there. The Spice Parties seem like a much younger crowd-probably where the 'Ken and Barbie' phrase came from-not old enough to have stretch marks yet LOL.
Either way, they are very fun to go watch women with flawless bodies rubbing together and men who probably have more stamina than I could handle!!!!
Either way, they are very fun to go watch women with flawless bodies rubbing together and men who probably have more stamina than I could handle!!!!