My wife and I were raised in a small and conservative rural town. My parents were not religious. Her parents were and could be described as Christian fundamentalist. They more or less lived a sheltered life in this conservative bubble and instilled in my wife from an early age how dirty and shameful sex was, particularly after reaching puberty and being one of the best looking girls in school, head cheerleader, etc.. Their scare tactics were pretty successful, until we started dating our senior year. Loving sex, she quickly overcame the shame and guilt her parents instilled in her and has always been enthusiastic and willing to try anything in the 39 years since. There's one exception to that and it's including others. We have acted as voyeurs, connecting with people here on Swingular, but we haven't been physical with others. We both have fantasies though, and she's becoming more vocal about it. She's upset with her upbringing, saying she wished she didn't have the inhibitions she has, and is wondering how she can overcome them.
Any words of wisdom from those who had similar upbringings and overcame their inhibitions and sense of guilt?
Any words of wisdom from those who had similar upbringings and overcame their inhibitions and sense of guilt?
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That is a great question.
I have helped my hubby on his journey tremendously. He has a great love of reading and I have recommended and helped him as well as others.
God Loves Sex: By Dan Allender
Great book about a very honest look at sexual desires and the reality of sex.
Sinless Sex:
by William R. Stayton
God vs. Gay?:
by Jay Michaelson
The Passionate Torah:
by Danya Ruttenberg
The Ethical Slut: Great for Open Relationships, Hot wife lifestyle and Other Freedoms in Sex and Love
by Janet W. Hardy
Sex God:
by Rob Bell
Come As You Are:
by Emily Nagoski PhD
This is a really good starting point.
My hubbys light bulb moment was realizing he could be spiritual without being religious.
This translated to loving without being in love.
He can be sexual without being in love.
Hope this helps!
Chrissy!
I have helped my hubby on his journey tremendously. He has a great love of reading and I have recommended and helped him as well as others.
God Loves Sex: By Dan Allender
Great book about a very honest look at sexual desires and the reality of sex.
Sinless Sex:
by William R. Stayton
God vs. Gay?:
by Jay Michaelson
The Passionate Torah:
by Danya Ruttenberg
The Ethical Slut: Great for Open Relationships, Hot wife lifestyle and Other Freedoms in Sex and Love
by Janet W. Hardy
Sex God:
by Rob Bell
Come As You Are:
by Emily Nagoski PhD
This is a really good starting point.
My hubbys light bulb moment was realizing he could be spiritual without being religious.
This translated to loving without being in love.
He can be sexual without being in love.
Hope this helps!
Chrissy!
JK0207 wrote:
That is a great question.
I have helped my hubby on his journey tremendously. He has a great love of reading and I have recommended and helped him as well as others.
God Loves Sex: By Dan Allender
Great book about a very honest look at sexual desires and the reality of sex.
Sinless Sex:
by William R. Stayton
God vs. Gay?:
by Jay Michaelson
The Passionate Torah:
by Danya Ruttenberg
The Ethical Slut: Great for Open Relationships, Hot wife lifestyle and Other Freedoms in Sex and Love
by Janet W. Hardy
Sex God:
by Rob Bell
Come As You Are:
by Emily Nagoski PhD
This is a really good starting point.
My hubbys light bulb moment was realizing he could be spiritual without being religious.
This translated to loving without being in love.
He can be sexual without being in love.
Hope this helps!
Chrissy!
Thanks for that great list!
Not sure it matters, but my wife is not religious... at all. She has seen, and still sees what organized religion can do to people. She just has these deep seated inhibitions believed to be the result of how her parents raised her.
At any rate, I'm sure the reading list you posted would be of great help!
With that in mind
The ethical slut
And
polysecure by jessica fern are great
Another good read is
Pussy by Regena Thomashauer
The ethical slut
And
polysecure by jessica fern are great
Another good read is
Pussy by Regena Thomashauer
It isn’t shameful and dirty the “FUN”part?
If your not into all that book reading try this….Start off easy go to some strip clubs, clothing optional hot tub or pools. A little bit of alcohol goes a long ways.
A little porn , attend some meet and greets ( no commitments is required so you can go and just talk to others. Most people are great to talk to, very friendly. Be aware, their are hungry singles that get too attached sometimes… some are great and others not…after that attend a party and just stay as long as your comfortable…no pressure just fun talking and socializing. There might be some play rooms but nobody has to do it just cause they attended the party.baby steps are good for those just starting out. Make sure to communicate to each other!!! Relax and enjoy!
A little porn , attend some meet and greets ( no commitments is required so you can go and just talk to others. Most people are great to talk to, very friendly. Be aware, their are hungry singles that get too attached sometimes… some are great and others not…after that attend a party and just stay as long as your comfortable…no pressure just fun talking and socializing. There might be some play rooms but nobody has to do it just cause they attended the party.baby steps are good for those just starting out. Make sure to communicate to each other!!! Relax and enjoy!
Boise has the strip joints, they also have a club called “the warehouse” with different kind of parties, you have to get vetted by going to a meet and greet. I not familiar with any hot pools over there. I can recommend jerry johnson hot springs in montana and Gold bug near Challis.
Hopefully this helps you out. Wife was very molly mormon when we got married. She now has a better self concept about herself and is confident about guys wanting to be with her which she wasn’t at first. Not that she is undesirable, She also is a former cheerleader from a small town. The process is challenging but she will grow more confident in her skills and abilities as she gains progresses. My wife has trouble starting conversationsbut can do so more easily with aome alcohol, just some to take the rough stress off.
Hope this helps!
Hopefully this helps you out. Wife was very molly mormon when we got married. She now has a better self concept about herself and is confident about guys wanting to be with her which she wasn’t at first. Not that she is undesirable, She also is a former cheerleader from a small town. The process is challenging but she will grow more confident in her skills and abilities as she gains progresses. My wife has trouble starting conversationsbut can do so more easily with aome alcohol, just some to take the rough stress off.
Hope this helps!
Send me a text if you have anymore questions.
We live in rexburg, so you can understand how hard it is here to live in the lifestyle!!!
We live in rexburg, so you can understand how hard it is here to live in the lifestyle!!!
1EZ2 wrote:
If your not into all that book reading try this….Start off easy go to some strip clubs, clothing optional hot tub or pools. A little bit of alcohol goes a long ways.
A little porn , attend some meet and greets ( no commitments is required so you can go and just talk to others. Most people are great to talk to, very friendly. Be aware, their are hungry singles that get too attached sometimes… some are great and others not…after that attend a party and just stay as long as your comfortable…no pressure just fun talking and socializing. There might be some play rooms but nobody has to do it just cause they attended the party.baby steps are good for those just starting out. Make sure to communicate to each other!!! Relax and enjoy!
Thanks for your posts! We've been wanting to check out some sex clubs for a long while now. Considering our location, and a major project tying us down, we haven't had the time. We have about one year left on our project, then we be will free to check the scene out.
As far as porn, we've been watching it together since 1990. That's when she starts lamenting her inhibitions.
JK0207 wrote:
With that in mind
The ethical slut
And
polysecure by jessica fern are great
Another good read is
Pussy by Regena Thomashauer
Perfect. Thanks!