This is a strange one to us. Several couples who advertise here and on AFF live within 20 miles of our house. When we write and say would you like to get to know one another - we either don't hear a word (which is 99% of the time) or we get the "sorry we're not compatible" email.
Hmmmm - we read your profile - didn't see anything that would have raised a red flag - yet we don't get much in responses?
Living within 20 miles of each other - what could be more convenient!!!
Anyone else seem to have this problem?
Hmmmm - we read your profile - didn't see anything that would have raised a red flag - yet we don't get much in responses?
Living within 20 miles of each other - what could be more convenient!!!
Anyone else seem to have this problem?
we have the same problem here in ky. they either don't reply or are a no show when we meet or decide to take a break. have a few that live very close to us and they will not play locally. their are not many who will play in ky. we usually have to go to tn to play.
C'mon people, it's all about compatibility. It's not that people don't want to meet you or are flakey. I could give the post's I've seen on here asking "why" some suggestions. First, guys, if you want to meet other couples and you want them to visualize themselves with you, SHAVE your stuff!!! It's 2006, it's ok to shave. Nobody is going to call you a sissy girl for taking a razor to your sack. A woman doesn't want to be up to her eyebrows in gross pubes. Women, don't do a close up of your crotch, with labia looking something similar to my labrador retrievers gums. Not to mention, whoever is taking the picture has the flash on, which is sure to really enhance and capture every zit and in-grown hair on your ass. Make yourselves presentable. Make sure you look good. Don't over-do it because you have to look like your pictures when you meet. Just be more tasteful and pay attention to detail. That's it. Try a couple of these suggestions and then ask me if your repsonses don't go up considerably. Does this help? LOL. Hope so. Good luck in your quest's.
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Pretty harsh UTHOTCPLEXTREME.... Some truth to it, but a tactless delivery. It does help to be photogentic to get more responses, however... Do you really want to meet some shallow assholes who are basing their whole opinion on a few photos? I will agree with the shaving be more attractive and extremely close cooter shots not so much, as I am not into the really hardcore pics anyway. I'll take playboy over hustler any day. A little clam is ok, seeing oyster on the half-shell isn't (To me anyway).
You should never falter in being who you are or what makes you happy regardless of the shallow shitheads out there. Do what makes you feel comfortable, just know that we are all in this for different reasons and are all looking for what we, as couples, are attracted to. The gamut is different for us all, giving us different results based upon the compatibility we have with the couples around us.
Tami and I would love to meet you two, as we are in this for what's most important in any good relationship with others... FRIENDS! Being friends first will allow you to get to know the other couple and see if there is indeed attractions. It also allows you to know if the people are crazy, diseased, serial killers, married, etc. Even hot ass models can have Herpes or obesessive compulsive disorder coupled with sociopathic/psychopathic rage and a claw hammer fetish.
Good luck with your endeavor and if you ever make it to Utah, we'd love to hang out.
Don & Tami
You should never falter in being who you are or what makes you happy regardless of the shallow shitheads out there. Do what makes you feel comfortable, just know that we are all in this for different reasons and are all looking for what we, as couples, are attracted to. The gamut is different for us all, giving us different results based upon the compatibility we have with the couples around us.
Tami and I would love to meet you two, as we are in this for what's most important in any good relationship with others... FRIENDS! Being friends first will allow you to get to know the other couple and see if there is indeed attractions. It also allows you to know if the people are crazy, diseased, serial killers, married, etc. Even hot ass models can have Herpes or obesessive compulsive disorder coupled with sociopathic/psychopathic rage and a claw hammer fetish.
Good luck with your endeavor and if you ever make it to Utah, we'd love to hang out.
Don & Tami
Common decency...What is that? Ignoring someone's email seems to be the way to NOT say they are not interested...Seems plain old rude...especially when there is an easy no thanks email already written for you on here...
Anyway...If you ever get to FL SWMTCPL...We would not ignore you
Also...he thinks there are a lot of "fantasy swingers" on these sites...they are all about the fantasy...BUT when it comes down to it...they are not ready or willing to do anything...Rather than say so, they ignore you...Just HIS opinion
Anyway...If you ever get to FL SWMTCPL...We would not ignore you
Also...he thinks there are a lot of "fantasy swingers" on these sites...they are all about the fantasy...BUT when it comes down to it...they are not ready or willing to do anything...Rather than say so, they ignore you...Just HIS opinion
Well, I want to offer some other ideas (surprise I have an opinion on something SHOCKING!! )
OK seriously though, because we catch alot of greif becasue we are famously unavailable.
1. We have a VERY I stress VERY full life. Swinging is fun for us, but not a priority. Between multiple businesses and kids and a super full summer schedule....we almost NEVER get out and party during the summer. So, if someone cannot meet you right away, maybe they have a life outside of swinging.
2. Because of the limited time, we do have a tendency to stick to who we know and like because if we are gonna go through the hassle of getting sitters and clearing schedules for the purpose of adult fun...well then we would like something to work out. (note, even the people that fit in this category sometimes wonder if we are pissed at them because of our unavailability)
3. Some people do not play locally - there are quite a few couples that only play with out of towners - no cheating risks, no running into at the grocery store risks etc etc
4. SOME PEOPLE ARE FLAKES and some people are FAKES ESP if you are talking AFF. Also, some people talk about swinging and fantasize about it, but they are scared to make a leap of meeting people.
5. Some people just may not think you are there type - or to put it bluntly, they are not attracted to you. oh well big deal, get over it.
6. As it was put rather bluntly, yeah good photogs help, but hey, somepeople (like me) are beyond help. the camera hates me, spits in my face. Also, as it was said (labradir lip...that was funny shit!) I would rather see a good face pic that a twat pic any day of the week. Cock pics are as useless as the "ebay" pics (pics of your cars and bikes and shit - unless of course there is a sexy person lounging on the hood of said car, boat, bike etc), even if your dick is a monster, yeah one shot to show what ya got fine, but 7 really? My best feature is my tounge, I am pretty sure no girl wants to see a pic of my tounge. (do they? if so IM me i will send ya one)
)OK seriously though, because we catch alot of greif becasue we are famously unavailable.
1. We have a VERY I stress VERY full life. Swinging is fun for us, but not a priority. Between multiple businesses and kids and a super full summer schedule....we almost NEVER get out and party during the summer. So, if someone cannot meet you right away, maybe they have a life outside of swinging.
2. Because of the limited time, we do have a tendency to stick to who we know and like because if we are gonna go through the hassle of getting sitters and clearing schedules for the purpose of adult fun...well then we would like something to work out. (note, even the people that fit in this category sometimes wonder if we are pissed at them because of our unavailability)
3. Some people do not play locally - there are quite a few couples that only play with out of towners - no cheating risks, no running into at the grocery store risks etc etc
4. SOME PEOPLE ARE FLAKES and some people are FAKES ESP if you are talking AFF. Also, some people talk about swinging and fantasize about it, but they are scared to make a leap of meeting people.
5. Some people just may not think you are there type - or to put it bluntly, they are not attracted to you. oh well big deal, get over it.
6. As it was put rather bluntly, yeah good photogs help, but hey, somepeople (like me) are beyond help. the camera hates me, spits in my face. Also, as it was said (labradir lip...that was funny shit!) I would rather see a good face pic that a twat pic any day of the week. Cock pics are as useless as the "ebay" pics (pics of your cars and bikes and shit - unless of course there is a sexy person lounging on the hood of said car, boat, bike etc), even if your dick is a monster, yeah one shot to show what ya got fine, but 7 really? My best feature is my tounge, I am pretty sure no girl wants to see a pic of my tounge. (do they? if so IM me i will send ya one)
DAMMIT JSTJ - just cause you don't ramble on and on like I do and your post was smaller - you stole my thunder on number 4!!
TequilaRose, Lighten up. Did you not sense the dramatic sarcasm in my response. We aren't shallow at all and don't base everything on photos. Over-reacting and biting peoples heads off before you actually get to know them is more harsh than making fun of shaving and close-up cooter shots. You missed the boat on that one. That's ok though, because there are a lot of passengers out there that think otherwise about us. We are about fun, sarcasm, being silly, laughing, and just sometimes being beyond the norm. If you can't laugh about it, than you need to tone down the "uptight" knob just a little. Sorry we offended you. Everyone else out there, we were joking and having fun with a pretty normal issue on this site. Take care.
K & A
K & A
My apologies.. Please except this as my retraction of the former. Take the good from it and dsiregard any misunderstanding. I thought you were being mean lol.
Sincerely,
TR -Don (I wrote it, not Tami)
Sincerely,
TR -Don (I wrote it, not Tami)
Glad to know we are not the only victims to timewasters.
As expressed in past posts here,we have never met anyone from this site.
Now,having said that we have met people on other sites that have since joined this one.
We have been approached by couples here but have come to nothing.
As expressed in past posts here,we have never met anyone from this site.
Now,having said that we have met people on other sites that have since joined this one.
We have been approached by couples here but have come to nothing.
We find fault with the way SOME people take the internet meeting thing. We find that entirely too many people base everything completely off your profile. We have spoken to people who have read ours and the claim it sounds great, that we sound like a good couple and they would meet us. But then those locals we have contacted, the only reply we ever get is 'We're not compatible'.
So how can they tell we aren't compatible? Both our profiles are practically the same. We both want to find people 'in and out of the bedroom', want to BBQ as friends and then play whenever the feeling hits. Like doing similar things, in fact we saw a couple from one site walking out of the same strip club we we're walking into....but we're not compatible.
So if the verbage is the same....its got to be the pictures and numbers of our profile. Our height/weight ratio, age or our favorite....our pictures. We must not be an attractive couple. Too many people want the 'attractive people' and our personality means nothing.
We've pretty much given up on finding a couple on any website like this, we're here simply because we became lifetime members and you never know what new people might actually want to meet.
So how can they tell we aren't compatible? Both our profiles are practically the same. We both want to find people 'in and out of the bedroom', want to BBQ as friends and then play whenever the feeling hits. Like doing similar things, in fact we saw a couple from one site walking out of the same strip club we we're walking into....but we're not compatible.
So if the verbage is the same....its got to be the pictures and numbers of our profile. Our height/weight ratio, age or our favorite....our pictures. We must not be an attractive couple. Too many people want the 'attractive people' and our personality means nothing.
We've pretty much given up on finding a couple on any website like this, we're here simply because we became lifetime members and you never know what new people might actually want to meet.
SWMTCPL-I completely agree with you. There is never anyone nearby and if they are they say they're not interested. Personally, I think it's site administrators making up a bunch of profiles to make a little money.
We come across the same problem..........we have 32 couples that live in our subdivision that are in the lifestyle and 367 within 100 mile radius. Only 8 % answer emails and we have only met about 1% . The few that gave a reason said that they dont play locally due to discretion issues . and they have face pics on their profile........lol
Their LOSS....hehe
Their LOSS....hehe
i think most people really don't know what they really want .. they have this idea what they think the life style should be ,, but in real life everyone one wants something better then what they have ..... i don't go by looks .. but i do go by they take care of themselves .. and for the same town ... well most people don't want anyone knowing about there life style so ..
I think people who do not reply are simlarly afraid about pictures. THey are afraid that locals will recognize them. We are in a very small town where we have been asked upon returning from a social at 3 or 4 in the morning what was wrong.... Then it goes thru the 2 closest neighbors to the south living east and west of each other. Then it jumps west several houses and then North across the street and back east again. Within one day. 7 families now know that we got in at 4am and there is speculation as to why. The neighbor across the street, as I picked up my mail one afternoon, at the bottom of my driveway, starts telling me about a couple, that I do not know from the other side of town, about them fighting and how they poor mouth and then they were eating steak...... Do I care ... why should I, but in this town everyone knows everyone elses business.... But regardless of the size of the town people are afraid that someone will find out....<shishhhhhh> <don't let anyone here> that they are swingers and God will curse them.... You know what they say about small towns and Baptist.... They see everything, hear everything that happens and tell everyone about everything ...EXCEPT that they recognize no one in the liquor store.. or local whore house.
Explorr
Who's damn business but yours is it as to what time you come in?
It really pisses us off when we hear how others make it theirs!!For all they know you might have gone to a late night movie.
Now as far as others recognising you,why are they looking on these sites?..Yes,perhaps they are looking for people they might know,but chances are they want a taste of the lifestyle but are a little afraid.
There are enough wannabees on this site that display pictures without worrying about the people who might get on here just for a look.
We recognised a couple we saw on another site at Home Depot once.Know what?They didn't have "Swinger" tattooed across their foreheads or anything and they had stuff in their cart that normal people buy.
This lifestyle can create friendships with benefits,it has for us..If nosey parkers want to come on here for a look round,good luck to them..They will see what they are missing.
Cheers
Who's damn business but yours is it as to what time you come in?
It really pisses us off when we hear how others make it theirs!!For all they know you might have gone to a late night movie.
Now as far as others recognising you,why are they looking on these sites?..Yes,perhaps they are looking for people they might know,but chances are they want a taste of the lifestyle but are a little afraid.
There are enough wannabees on this site that display pictures without worrying about the people who might get on here just for a look.
We recognised a couple we saw on another site at Home Depot once.Know what?They didn't have "Swinger" tattooed across their foreheads or anything and they had stuff in their cart that normal people buy.
This lifestyle can create friendships with benefits,it has for us..If nosey parkers want to come on here for a look round,good luck to them..They will see what they are missing.
Cheers
Thanks everyone for adding your comments. From what we're reading this appears to happen quite frequently.
We received email from several couples saying they also have this problem. We are thinking maybe many local couples are like so many others - fakes and wannabes who have no intention to meet - but enjoy the dream of being in the lifestyle.
Guess we'll never quite know for sure...but those we are fortunate to meet - what a great time we have!
We received email from several couples saying they also have this problem. We are thinking maybe many local couples are like so many others - fakes and wannabes who have no intention to meet - but enjoy the dream of being in the lifestyle.
Guess we'll never quite know for sure...but those we are fortunate to meet - what a great time we have!
COUPLE163, None of their business but like many towns and really neighboorhoods in bigger cities, people are nosey and have to have theirs in everyone's business. I don't worry about people recognising me and neither does my wife. The way we figure is that only people who are interested in the lifestyle look at these sites. It's almost like meeting someone you know at a social.... So what...thery're there for the same reason. As for wannabees..... I think that there are people who would like to take the plunge but are afraid of what they may run into. Who people are and are they pervs and could I catch something. From this site and another I have gotten about 6 couples to meet us and to go to clubs. We don't try to have sex with them when we meet and we let them know what to expect at a club and who some of the people are... Not names or anything like that but that there are nurses and doctors and lawyers(that scares most...you know what they say about lawyers), health care workers, police, mechanics and truck drivers, sales people of al;l types... and most are just regular people....So we try to promote the real part of the lifestryle to the wannabees by engaging them ...talking to them on the web and then the phone addressing their concerns and getting them off the stopping block that they are on.... Wannabees are not necessarily people who just want to stay on the fringe, they are people who are afraid because they are not sure what they may walk into... We've run into people at shopping malls, 40 miles from our house, that we've know at clubs for years.. and them with their kids in tow.... One of the brand new couples who we got off square one we've met at the local Wally World in the grocery dept with her daughter... BTW that couple now goes to every social of multiple clubs in the area... One of the web sites is owned by a local and we've met them in the parking lot of a dept store and them with their kids.. Just nod and say hello.... His wife didn't even recognise us the way we were dressed and in the light of day......So we don't get flustered if people recognise us.. We even had one lady who knew B and where she works, walk up and introduce herself at a social. the world is a small place.
But all in all the nosey bodies in towns causes people to be quite careful about contacts locally. I remember when we started and the internet was fairly new and so were these sites ... we were concerned about people recognising us and in fear of our work being compromised... but that was in the 90's and we were concerned for our anonymity. As we became more confortable we tossed caution to the wind.... I think that many couples are afraid to lose their anonymity and have trouble in their community... Talk to people... when you contact them let them know your intentions.... get them to open up by letting them know that people in the lifestyle are just normal people who like sex and fun with others...
Ray
But all in all the nosey bodies in towns causes people to be quite careful about contacts locally. I remember when we started and the internet was fairly new and so were these sites ... we were concerned about people recognising us and in fear of our work being compromised... but that was in the 90's and we were concerned for our anonymity. As we became more confortable we tossed caution to the wind.... I think that many couples are afraid to lose their anonymity and have trouble in their community... Talk to people... when you contact them let them know your intentions.... get them to open up by letting them know that people in the lifestyle are just normal people who like sex and fun with others...
Ray
The site is fairly new. It is growing from two states. It started in Florida and the owner (Rob) moved to Utah and it has since grown in these two states mostly. It is slowly spreading to the surrounding states like ID, COL,NV, AZ (west) and GA, SC, NC, VA (east). It's other places as well, just not as much..... YET. Give it time and hopefully your area will be saturated.
-TR-
-TR-
My opinion..most people are kabukkied out about going to the store and seeing the people there..and are unsure of how to act..i have several peps we have had fun with and we see them with their family..friends moms dads..and we just say hi and treat them like our non-sexual friends...well thay are our friends also...just with benifits!!
Sweetnal,we have playmates where we know their families also.Further some know where i work and pop in from time to time.I treat them with the respect I would expect and show no clues that we play together.They are just friends.
It's different of course behind closed doors
It's different of course behind closed doors
i think the majority of people on these sites never hook up with anyone.
You must be surrounded by a shitload of wannabes because if you
asked us to get together, wild horses couldn't hold us back!!!!!
You're a gorgeous couple.
asked us to get together, wild horses couldn't hold us back!!!!!
You're a gorgeous couple.
Worried about bumping into people? Hell, I can't wait to go pick up a gallon of milk and some bread only to have that unexpected awkward moment of bumping into the couple you just banged the other night at a house party. The planets align, the crickets stop chirping, and if subtitles could suddenly come across the floor, they would read, "Hold your shorts, while we pause for this brief uncomfortable moment". LOL. Like in Austin Powers when Dr. Evil and Frau decide to have sex and ask before if it will change things. They agree it won't until the next morning when they see each other and they are making their morning coffee and feel uncomfortable knowing that it did in fact change things. You have to admit, when you screw someone, you can't look at them the same way if you run into them. All you can do is picture their wet tongue in your mouth, their legs wrapped around you saying "Ooo baby". Sort of makes for a strange contrast when your standing in line at a supermarket and they are buying diapers. LOL. This is life people. It's about contrast. It's about those profound memorable moments that make this trip worth taking. Let's not read so much into the whys. Let's just put everything we can into the situations that do workout. Second guessing takes too much time and energy. Let's all enjoy our experiences and have some fun!! We have, and I know you will too. Have a great weekend, and may the gods of swinging bring you prized situations that make a lifetime of fun memories.
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I have to say even after reading all the comments it does seem that it is hard to find local folks for tons of reasons. No matter what site we are on it seems we find it easier to find someone who is 200 miles or more away than to find someone within 25 miles.
UTHOT well put. We LOVE it when we bump into a playmate.
We tend to be very good friends with playmates. Swinging is but a small part of the relationship with them. RARELY do we swing with people that are not close friends.
We noticed that people from around here tend to go to parties and meet couples from 30 or more miles away. When people at the swing club find out we like three miles away they are like "NO WAY TOO CLOSE TO HOME" what if you run into someone you know. DUH Mz Rocket Scientist THey are there too.....
OH well just our two cents worth
We tend to be very good friends with playmates. Swinging is but a small part of the relationship with them. RARELY do we swing with people that are not close friends.
We noticed that people from around here tend to go to parties and meet couples from 30 or more miles away. When people at the swing club find out we like three miles away they are like "NO WAY TOO CLOSE TO HOME" what if you run into someone you know. DUH Mz Rocket Scientist THey are there too.....
OH well just our two cents worth
Hey UTHOTCPLEXTREME,
You're hillarious, love your humor, there is not enough of it in this lifestyle.
Funhdcpl
You're hillarious, love your humor, there is not enough of it in this lifestyle.
Funhdcpl
people are flakey and you are right the people closest to you don't want to meet with you , perhaps it is age, size most of the post want barbie doll women and ken dolls, be between 18 and 30 , party all night and fuck until dawn, then go home
Single guys you are out no matter what , only kidding
Single guys you are out no matter what
, only kiddingWe've never had trouble meeting people. Maybe 20% of the people we've talked to turned out flakey.
Just our 2-cents.
Just our 2-cents.
Negative...that's cause your so hot! We've been trying to meet you for awhile
We haven't been meeting any new couples lately. Too many friends as it is and too busy for more.
Besides, it's kind of hard to see what 'both' of you look like with those pics. We like to see who we're talking to.
Besides, it's kind of hard to see what 'both' of you look like with those pics. We like to see who we're talking to.
we do have the same problem here in our town. So many people that live where we live advertise on here and AFF and other sites. Know how many we have actually met and played with? One...lol..one couple out of hundreds within a 5-7 mile radius of us. Does that bother us? Yes and no. We were dismayed at first but then learned through word of mouth that a great many people in our town are not what they appear to be. We have been doing this for over a year and have had many wonderful ups and a few downs..they are learning experiences. We take the good with the bad. Most of the people we know and play with are in Jacksonville, Gainesville, Newport Richey, Hastings..and...that's about it. In the recent past, we get hits from people wanting to know us better..we do the usual thing of giving them our yahoo id etc...yet 99.99% of the time, they turn out to be fakes. I mean, who is going to chat on yahoo at 3am when you gotta go to work in a few hours?..lol..The good thing about this lifestyle and please disagree if anyone wishes too, is that a person's true colors really do come out; you can't put on a fake personality thinking it will instantly get you laid. Furthermore, we learn that not everyone is in this lifestyle for the same reasons as others. We did it primarily to make good friends that we can enjoy all that life has to offer and not just in the bedroom. We have found a few couples and women that fit that category to a T. (luv u folks!!..lol) and it has made us happy indeed. Some people are in this strictly for the sex, nothing more nothing less. There is nothing wrong with that...we're live and let live people and we will defend the right for others to pursue that. But in our opinion, that just seems to be so one-sided and semi narrow-minded that it takes away from the object of pursuing friendships. We feel that to have a fulfilling sexual relationship with others, you need to have a solid social relationship to begin with.
Ultimately, in order to have either one, you need to actually get out there and meet people...So, having said that, all you St. Augustine people..lololol....where you be hiding?.....
Ultimately, in order to have either one, you need to actually get out there and meet people...So, having said that, all you St. Augustine people..lololol....where you be hiding?.....
Nope, never had that problem.
CARESS4U
CARESS4U
it seem alot are fake or do not know what they want they read our porfile and want to add us we talk on yahoo alot then show them some pic g-x then it seem we meet and we then get we are cute and sexy and fun to be with but to young .one couple we meet meet at mall talk 2 hours then mall close talk 1 hr in parking lot got her work home and cell # and his 3 cell call them to say we had extra nascar tickets and know they like nascar but they never wrote or call back also alot saying they are couple u go to meet and only the male show up that not right
We have actually met and played with a cpl who lives within 20 miles! Believe it or not it was on this site that we met them so those of you that say swingular is posting fake profiles we disagree.
What we do agree is there are ALOT of "wannas but nevers" on this site. We have been in the lifestyle now for about 8 yrs and can tell you that its a big #'s game you have to contact ALOT of people to find the real ones!
What we find trully amazing is the #'s of single guys who we have said we would meet over a drink and 99.9% who express interest in meeting NEVER show! Heres a tip to the single guys out there DON'T contact a cpl if you cannot SHOW UP for a face to face meeting!
We have had pretty good luck with meeting cpls not so many on this site but we have met a few on swingular too. We have found that if you are contacting the over 40 crowd you have a much better chance of meeting a REAL cpl.
Nothing against the younger cpls we have just found that there are far more many young cpls who THINK they are ready to swing but are too hung up on trying to find the Ken and Barbie types.
Bottom line swingular does have REAL cpls you just have to weed through all the fakes to find the real cpls but that is like that on any swing site you go to. You will never know if the personl on the other end is real till you setup a face to face meeting. If you visit North Florida let us know we are REAL and we love to play :-)
Norm&Sharon
What we do agree is there are ALOT of "wannas but nevers" on this site. We have been in the lifestyle now for about 8 yrs and can tell you that its a big #'s game you have to contact ALOT of people to find the real ones!
What we find trully amazing is the #'s of single guys who we have said we would meet over a drink and 99.9% who express interest in meeting NEVER show! Heres a tip to the single guys out there DON'T contact a cpl if you cannot SHOW UP for a face to face meeting!
We have had pretty good luck with meeting cpls not so many on this site but we have met a few on swingular too. We have found that if you are contacting the over 40 crowd you have a much better chance of meeting a REAL cpl.
Nothing against the younger cpls we have just found that there are far more many young cpls who THINK they are ready to swing but are too hung up on trying to find the Ken and Barbie types.
Bottom line swingular does have REAL cpls you just have to weed through all the fakes to find the real cpls but that is like that on any swing site you go to. You will never know if the personl on the other end is real till you setup a face to face meeting. If you visit North Florida let us know we are REAL and we love to play :-)
Norm&Sharon
There is no doubt that this website harbors real people. But for every 1 true profile there seems to be about 15 fakes, possibly more. As someone stated earlier, it is a numbers game. Very true indeed. Our only question is if you post a profile on here yet you don't want to meet someone from your own hometown for whatever reason..(most times we believe its because of looks...sorry we're not models..lolol)..then why post a profile to begin with?
its all a Ken and Barbie thing if your not thin or young your not going to swing with anyone young and hot well all I can say is Watch out Ken and Barbie one day you'll get old and gain weight then you will understand that being a friend doesn't mean we have to look all that but to be able to share good times together not caring what each other looks like.
Well written Napattack..There are plenty of couples out there who will look past the photos and decide to meet you on the information you put on your profile,but they are usually on other sites.
Your success on this site is based mostly on locale. Because the site's owner is located in Taylorsville, UT, then it stands to reason that the density of "Swingular Member" swingers will be the greatest in Utah and will slowly trickle out until enough people in your areas sign up.
We have quite a bit of success on swingular because we live in Utah. We are originally from Oregon and have had great success since we've moved here. If we decide to move back, I don't think our results will be nearly as good. I've searched our old zip code and the results were horrible. Try it yourself. Our results are phenomenal here in Utah because of shear numbers.
Sure there are asshole and fakes on here, but I don't think that's the problem. I think the problem is that swingular is not that big in most states other than here and Florida, which is where it was born.
We are very outgoing and love to meet new people. We have no problem "meeting" anyone. There should be no problem meeting. Just because you meet doesn't mean you fuck. If anyone expects that result every time they meet people, they are ignorant fools. You have to be attracted to the other people for the sex part to work. We can be friends with anyone we find to be cool. For the "Friends with Benefits" clause to kick in, we have to both be attracted. After all, who the hell wants to have sex with a person they don't find sexy? The point of the lifestyle is to make certain fantasies come true and reach new levels of gratification, not to make you feel cheapened, repulsed or violated.
Just a thought.
Mr. TR
We have quite a bit of success on swingular because we live in Utah. We are originally from Oregon and have had great success since we've moved here. If we decide to move back, I don't think our results will be nearly as good. I've searched our old zip code and the results were horrible. Try it yourself. Our results are phenomenal here in Utah because of shear numbers.
Sure there are asshole and fakes on here, but I don't think that's the problem. I think the problem is that swingular is not that big in most states other than here and Florida, which is where it was born.
We are very outgoing and love to meet new people. We have no problem "meeting" anyone. There should be no problem meeting. Just because you meet doesn't mean you fuck. If anyone expects that result every time they meet people, they are ignorant fools. You have to be attracted to the other people for the sex part to work. We can be friends with anyone we find to be cool. For the "Friends with Benefits" clause to kick in, we have to both be attracted. After all, who the hell wants to have sex with a person they don't find sexy? The point of the lifestyle is to make certain fantasies come true and reach new levels of gratification, not to make you feel cheapened, repulsed or violated.
Just a thought.
Mr. TR
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I agree Tequila. We used to live in Texas, and many of the people we played with (which was a SMALL group, maybe 3 or 4 couples) were really close friends. Heck our kids were friends. So there was a real friendship first, and the benefits came further down the line. Swinging seems to have changed a lot in recent years though. I guess it's because now it has become so common. Plus we live in a (gotta have it now" world and a lot of people expect, er, "immediate gratification", which makes it hard for people who may not be spokespeople for Glamourshots to get in, even if they are truly one-of-a-kind people. From experience, sometimes the words in the profile say more than the pics. Exchange a few emails. Chat. See if the person on the page is someone you might hang out with on a Saturday, then take it from there.
We're fortunate. We have several couples that we play with that are within a 20 mile or so radius of us. We also do many vanilla things together so that may another reason. While we enjoy the occasional fuck and flee, that always happens many miles from home for us.