I stumbled into the middle of a chat dialog the other day but had to leave before there were any conclusions drawn. I am curious to hear what opinions or comments people might have regarding bondage, domination and submissives, (or master - slave ), relationships.
I personally dont believe in harming or humiliating another person. I have read both pro and con for this type of fetish but am interested to hear what real couples feel about instead of someones published view point.
I personally dont believe in harming or humiliating another person. I have read both pro and con for this type of fetish but am interested to hear what real couples feel about instead of someones published view point.
Every Dom/sub relationship is different. It is my opinion that a D/s relationship is what You make of it. To me A Dom is a person that does many things. He guides along with teaches a submissive. He is there to protect a submissive, and is always to look out for a submissive best interest. He will never hurt a submissive intentionally. He listens to His submissive wants along with her needs. He gives her love, understanding, and compassion. A true Dom will allow His submissive to express His or her feelings and concerns and take His or her feelings into consideration, But He has final say in All.
A submissive has a very special gift to offer. It is the best gift a Dom/me could receive from a submissive. A submissive is one that will give His or herself completely. Heart, body, and soul. As a submissive You will love, honor, obey and most of all respect. Being submissive You have a desire to give pleasure in all ways to Y/your Dom/Master. A submissive looks to T/their Dom/Master for guidance, protection, love, compassion, understanding, and control of His or her life.
I strongly believe that in a D/s relationship there has to be total trust. A submissive is offering complete control of T/themselves to another. There has to be complete trust!!
A submissive has a very special gift to offer. It is the best gift a Dom/me could receive from a submissive. A submissive is one that will give His or herself completely. Heart, body, and soul. As a submissive You will love, honor, obey and most of all respect. Being submissive You have a desire to give pleasure in all ways to Y/your Dom/Master. A submissive looks to T/their Dom/Master for guidance, protection, love, compassion, understanding, and control of His or her life.
I strongly believe that in a D/s relationship there has to be total trust. A submissive is offering complete control of T/themselves to another. There has to be complete trust!!
See the trust in her eyes!
OK shes very Hot!
A Dom/Domme should guide, and teach T/their subs with a firm, but yet a very controlling hand.
As the Dominant, the decisions are in Y/your hands, not only for Y/your pleasure and desires, but remembering to keep the feelings and desires of both parties in mind. The sub has not given him/herself to You to be exploited, but rather to be protected, disciplined when necessary for T/their own good, cherished for the precious gift T/they have given You.
When a sub gives her/himself to You, to do as You see fit, it is a very special and beautiful gift. She, or he, is not an inanimate object to be treated with disdain nor a doormat to wipe your feet on. T/they submit to You because he or she has chosen to give a priceless gift to the one T/they have found worthy of receiving it. Don't make the sad mistake of abusing that. It is not an obligation, so do not expect it simply because You are a Dom/Domme. Neither can it be bought or forced from another. Only given.
The key elements for D/s to work, with or without a collar are considered to be:
Full and entire honesty, Mutual respect, Mutual pleasure, Pride, dignity, strong character, love and affection.
Not to mention that these wouldn't be bad traits to apply in any relationship involving another W/whom You care for. D/s or otherwise
Nelson
As the Dominant, the decisions are in Y/your hands, not only for Y/your pleasure and desires, but remembering to keep the feelings and desires of both parties in mind. The sub has not given him/herself to You to be exploited, but rather to be protected, disciplined when necessary for T/their own good, cherished for the precious gift T/they have given You.
When a sub gives her/himself to You, to do as You see fit, it is a very special and beautiful gift. She, or he, is not an inanimate object to be treated with disdain nor a doormat to wipe your feet on. T/they submit to You because he or she has chosen to give a priceless gift to the one T/they have found worthy of receiving it. Don't make the sad mistake of abusing that. It is not an obligation, so do not expect it simply because You are a Dom/Domme. Neither can it be bought or forced from another. Only given.
The key elements for D/s to work, with or without a collar are considered to be:
Full and entire honesty, Mutual respect, Mutual pleasure, Pride, dignity, strong character, love and affection.
Not to mention that these wouldn't be bad traits to apply in any relationship involving another W/whom You care for. D/s or otherwise
Nelson
Where's that tiny little pecker hiding???
That's intelligent and original.
Simply put...DIFFERENT STROKES FOR DIFFERENT FOLKS...
What you like...you like...what you do not like, you do not like...
I ahev seen many d/s "shows" some were interesting...others disgusted me...BUT they were (apparently) enjoying it..So why not let them?
We have little "tie down" sessions, but nothing overly kinky...just some fun and enjoyment...but there are some that would call that d/s or perverted or whatever....so to each their own...
What you like...you like...what you do not like, you do not like...
I ahev seen many d/s "shows" some were interesting...others disgusted me...BUT they were (apparently) enjoying it..So why not let them?
We have little "tie down" sessions, but nothing overly kinky...just some fun and enjoyment...but there are some that would call that d/s or perverted or whatever....so to each their own...
Well well said : HUNT4U88....
Nelson
Nelson
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We are not into the extreme end of BDSM we do like to push the limits from time to time.
My posting is the making of a fun relationship and keeping things fun with your partner!
An interesting topic and Great posts thus far. Hopefully we can add to an already educational discussion.
Many years ago, we tried the whole "Tie you up, Tie me up" thing. And while at the time it was fun, it wasnt even breaking the surface of what BnD. or D/s is. About last year, I was bouncing around the web, and hit on a info site, with TONs of info and research on this type of play.
What had been fun years ago, was a turn on after reading the research. I continued said reading and research, and even joined a few discussion forums to learn more. After a week or two, we talked about it, and I showed her what all I had been reading. I asked her to take a look and make an informed decision about, really trying it.
I all but put it out of my mind when the subject was brought back up a few months ago, and she was willing to give it a try. We spent an evening, with her as my subject, and my goal was simple, for us to enjoy ourselves. With a blindfold in place and hands and ankles secured, We tried out nipple clamps, and a flogger, and for two hours, I brought her to the edge of orgasm, and held her there. Yes, I said for two hours. I would get her close, and change direction, or stop entirely. By the end of the session she was so frustrated she was begging to be fucked. When I relented, I brought her to the edge the final time, and when I slid the head on my cock, into the entrance of her pussy, she came hard, and continued to do so while we enjoyed one hell of a hot session of fucking.
We talked about it afterwards, and she said what she loved was the different types of play, and being brought to the edge, and teased. She wanted to cum so bad, and because I didnt allow it, she wanted me to whatever i was doing all the more.
Its not a matter of humiliation, in our case, the closest thing to that was making her repeat the word all women hate to refer to them selves as C * * T. She even admitted that turned her once she got into it. Its more surrender of control to someone else, and allowing them to do as they please.
One final note, I do not consider my self as a master, and her my slave. This to us is simply a different type of play we can enjoy, like oral sex, or whatever. Niether she nor I need to break out the restraints and whips to enjoy ourselves. We arent even sure we could enjoy ourselves by including anyone else like this. Sure the gang bang or gang rape fantasy is hot, but remember one thing about this type of play SSC
Safe
Sane
Consentual
Anything that isnt, can be dangerous.
Many years ago, we tried the whole "Tie you up, Tie me up" thing. And while at the time it was fun, it wasnt even breaking the surface of what BnD. or D/s is. About last year, I was bouncing around the web, and hit on a info site, with TONs of info and research on this type of play.
What had been fun years ago, was a turn on after reading the research. I continued said reading and research, and even joined a few discussion forums to learn more. After a week or two, we talked about it, and I showed her what all I had been reading. I asked her to take a look and make an informed decision about, really trying it.
I all but put it out of my mind when the subject was brought back up a few months ago, and she was willing to give it a try. We spent an evening, with her as my subject, and my goal was simple, for us to enjoy ourselves. With a blindfold in place and hands and ankles secured, We tried out nipple clamps, and a flogger, and for two hours, I brought her to the edge of orgasm, and held her there. Yes, I said for two hours. I would get her close, and change direction, or stop entirely. By the end of the session she was so frustrated she was begging to be fucked. When I relented, I brought her to the edge the final time, and when I slid the head on my cock, into the entrance of her pussy, she came hard, and continued to do so while we enjoyed one hell of a hot session of fucking.
We talked about it afterwards, and she said what she loved was the different types of play, and being brought to the edge, and teased. She wanted to cum so bad, and because I didnt allow it, she wanted me to whatever i was doing all the more.
Its not a matter of humiliation, in our case, the closest thing to that was making her repeat the word all women hate to refer to them selves as C * * T. She even admitted that turned her once she got into it. Its more surrender of control to someone else, and allowing them to do as they please.
One final note, I do not consider my self as a master, and her my slave. This to us is simply a different type of play we can enjoy, like oral sex, or whatever. Niether she nor I need to break out the restraints and whips to enjoy ourselves. We arent even sure we could enjoy ourselves by including anyone else like this. Sure the gang bang or gang rape fantasy is hot, but remember one thing about this type of play SSC
Safe
Sane
Consentual
Anything that isnt, can be dangerous.