My wife and I have been practicing the life style for 6 years (as best we can, not a lot of money for site subscriptions) and for the most part it's been just weard, I find a couple or a single to have fun with,, I talk to her about it we agree that we both want it but then she treats it with complete indifferents. She claims to be excited about our playdate however she makes 0 effort to help me find people and when I do find them she acts like she doesn't care. I talk to her constantly about it wether she wants to do it or not, if she is uncomfortable with it all she just gets upset because I ask. Then on the day of she'll wait until just before they b to where we are meeting up to start getting ready. But make no mistake about it when it comes time she has a great time and can't get enough. I've talked with her many times explaining that we can't if one person doesn't want to do it because it becomes toxic to the relationship. I tell her all the time if we can't have fun then we can't do it. We have been together for 22 years and I would rather not lose her but she is taking the fun completely out of it all
Then stop?
Easy... This isn't for you guys then.
It isn't worth it if it isn't enjoyable.
It works for some but not for most.
It isn't worth it if it isn't enjoyable.
It works for some but not for most.
First and foremost, your relationship should be the priority. If it isn't easy and she is "sabotaging" the LS then it's her way of subtly saying she really isn't interested. Non verbal clues usually speak louder than verbal cues. We would recommend for you to pull back and if she is interested to let her drive. If she doesn't drive it then she doesn't want it. Again just like everyone else has said above maybe now isn't the time.
The situation sounds very similar to what we we're going through. She said yes, I want to the many times we talked about it and actually met a few times. I believe "hind site" she wanted to engage but most often fear overruled and I believe she primarily said yes due to fearing I would end the relationship if she shared her true feelings... 
What do you want us to do? Pick sides?
First, NEVER vent intra-couple issues publicly, no one wants to deal with your drama.
Second, you two need to work it out between yourselves. If you cannot, then seek the help of a professional.
First, NEVER vent intra-couple issues publicly, no one wants to deal with your drama.
Second, you two need to work it out between yourselves. If you cannot, then seek the help of a professional.
Cpl4Fwb wrote:
What do you want us to do? Pick sides?
First, NEVER vent intra-couple issues publicly, no one wants to deal with your drama.
Second, you two need to work it out between yourselves. If you cannot, then seek the help of a professional.
Great point.
All the wisdom has been spoken from the above comments...
However what are your thoughts on just meeting up with lifestyle people without playing?
Maybe she isn't comfortable hooking up with strangers. Maybe you need to build friendships with lifestyle people and slowly work into a little bit of play maybe soft swap. 🤷🏼♀️.
Just throwing some ideas out there to have a conversation with her. Because that's the most important part is that you guys communicate well about what she does and does not want. Her feelings are your top priority! 💋
However what are your thoughts on just meeting up with lifestyle people without playing?
Maybe she isn't comfortable hooking up with strangers. Maybe you need to build friendships with lifestyle people and slowly work into a little bit of play maybe soft swap. 🤷🏼♀️.
Just throwing some ideas out there to have a conversation with her. Because that's the most important part is that you guys communicate well about what she does and does not want. Her feelings are your top priority! 💋
After we wrote those comments. We looked at your profile. It sure looks like it's a fake profile. All the way from Florida to a western-based site. And a trial member with a long message. Hmmmmmm.... Just saying it looks a little bit fishy, We could be wrong. 🤷🏼♀️🤷🏼♀️🤷🏼♀️🤷🏼♀️🤷🏼♀️🤷🏼♀️
Good point Hyfax1... I agree. I hadn't even looked at the profile.
hyfax1 wrote:
After we wrote those comments. We looked at your profile. It sure looks like it's a fake profile. All the way from Florida to a western-based site. And a trial member with a long message. Hmmmmmm.... Just saying it looks a little bit fishy, We could be wrong. 🤷🏼♀️🤷🏼♀️🤷🏼♀️🤷🏼♀️🤷🏼♀️🤷🏼♀️
Meh. We think it's legit, albeit poorly written. Anyone beyond UT, NV, and ID should be a trial member so they don't waste money before realizing this site won't serve their needs. SLS is the site for the swingin' state of FL.
SexyPowSkiers wrote:
Meh. We think it's legit, albeit poorly written. Anyone beyond UT, NV, and ID should be a trial member so they don't waste money before realizing this site won't serve their needs. SLS is the site for the swingin' state of FL.
We actually know some people from the midwest on here. While there may not be a huge catalog of people outside UT, NV, and ID on here, one wouldn't know that until after they signed up. They hit you up for a paid membership at signup. For ~$100 for a lifetime membership it is a no brainer compared to some sites costing $25/month, $190/year, or $500/life.
Cpl4Fwb wrote:
We actually know some people from the midwest on here. While there may not be a huge catalog of people outside UT, NV, and ID on here, one wouldn't know that until after they signed up. They hit you up for a paid membership at signup. For ~$100 for a lifetime membership it is a no brainer compared to some sites costing $25/month, $190/year, or $500/life.
We’ve found this to be the most used site in FL. We moved here thinking it was S L S, but it wasn’t.
women are funny like that sometimes
just keep your mouth shut about the rationale behind this and focus on the fun
dont ask the obvious
she dont wanna help upiu find? fcuk it,. find them yourself
just keep your mouth shut about the rationale behind this and focus on the fun
dont ask the obvious
she dont wanna help upiu find? fcuk it,. find them yourself