So wanted to vent about discretion or lack there of. I'm sure everyone in the lifestyle at 1 point or another will bump into people you know; if your in the lifestyle Long enough. I feel like this is inevitable and the chance you take being on public forms and social media. That being said, keep in mind, not everyone is open about it and want their best friends or family members knowing about this. It's not your place to expose other people's skeletons in their closets. To say, "hey, do you know so and so?" Is cool. To say, "oh, your so and so's sister? Did you know or see these convos or pics of your sister?" Seems off limits, uncalled for, and sorry to say, a deusche bag move. I don't get how people have the nerve or the balls to expose some peoples skeletons in their closets to other people they barely know.
Word of advice, don't be a piece of shit and expose people. Keep your mouths shut if it isn't affecting your life or the people under your roof, it's none of your business.
Word of advice, don't be a piece of shit and expose people. Keep your mouths shut if it isn't affecting your life or the people under your roof, it's none of your business.
COUPLE801801 wrote:
So wanted to vent about discretion or lack there of. I'm sure everyone in the lifestyle at 1 point or another will bump into people you know; if your in the lifestyle Long enough. I feel like this is inevitable and the chance you take being on public forms and social media. That being said, keep in mind, not everyone is open about it and want their best friends or family members knowing about this. It's not your place to expose other people's skeletons in their closets. To say, "hey, do you know so and so?" Is cool. To say, "oh, your so and so's sister? Did you know or see these convos or pics of your sister?" Seems off limits, uncalled for, and sorry to say, a deusche bag move. I don't get how people have the nerve or the balls to expose some peoples skeletons in their closets to other people they barely know.
Word of advice, don't be a piece of shit and expose people. Keep your mouths shut if it isn't affecting your life or the people under your roof, it's none of your business.
Well said
Love this!!!! People don't get that some of us have the need to be more private do to jobs or visibility in the community etc!
I agree, privacy must absolutely be respected. Always ask to take pictures, even in a vanilla "clothed" setting, and convey your intentions for/with the picture. Always ask, and don't be upset/offended if you're told no.
Enthusiastic consent is so critical with the lifestyle, and I feel like that should extend to picture taking, in or out of the bedroom.
At the end of the day, if people found out we were in the lifestyle, either of us don't mind that happening, as long as other people we have previously/were currently playing with aren't having their own business aired out against their consent. We've had long discussions about the possibility, and while it hasn't happened yet, we're fully aware that it's plausible. It's all about risk management, and part of that is discretion.
At the same time if people we knew were to find out, I would rather people find out on their own, and not because some uninvolved third party blabbed our business.
Enthusiastic consent is so critical with the lifestyle, and I feel like that should extend to picture taking, in or out of the bedroom.
At the end of the day, if people found out we were in the lifestyle, either of us don't mind that happening, as long as other people we have previously/were currently playing with aren't having their own business aired out against their consent. We've had long discussions about the possibility, and while it hasn't happened yet, we're fully aware that it's plausible. It's all about risk management, and part of that is discretion.
At the same time if people we knew were to find out, I would rather people find out on their own, and not because some uninvolved third party blabbed our business.
Had a coworker like our profile on SDC, but faces were covered so they didn't know. Next day I text em while sitting at our desks. The reaction was perfect 😂 the wives had alot of conversations because they were new to the ls and had questions.
there are many people especially in this area that work for owners of companies that are LDS or just very religious and that is a real concern. people have been fired from jobs for years for being in the lifestyle. Of course they aren't going to put on the "letting go paperwork" person was a swinger. they will make up a reasonable excuse but it does happen. once they know of you being on the lifestyle your job could be at stake. you might think it's none of their business which is true but until it happens to you its a whole nother story. when couples end up with issues with another couple that is the worst thing you can do is to expose their lifestyles. Remember karma is a bitch. don't do it. also we have found out that even though there are thousands of people in the lifestyle it is still a small world and you are building yourself a reputation that sooner or later will bite you in the ass if you don't do good by others. if you are one of those people that do continue to do wrong by others then don't be surprised when doors start to close on you slowly. sooner or later we all will have a bad experience with other couples and all we can do is move on.
PUCHAS wrote:Yeah unfortunately one of ours is with the woman half who is on medication for bipolar so we get blasted on here from their fake account they create. And even try and out us. We walked away from that mess and when she has an episode we feel the repercussions. We have learned be careful of your friends in the LS. If everyone could just respect others and move on like you said.
there are many people especially in this area that work for owners of companies that are LDS or just very religious and that is a real concern. people have been fired from jobs for years for being in the lifestyle. Of course they aren't going to put on the "letting go paperwork" person was a swinger. they will make up a reasonable excuse but it does happen. once they know of you being on the lifestyle your job could be at stake. you might think it's none of their business which is true but until it happens to you its a whole nother story. when couples end up with issues with another couple that is the worst thing you can do is to expose their lifestyles. Remember karma is a bitch. don't do it. also we have found out that even though there are thousands of people in the lifestyle it is still a small world and you are building yourself a reputation that sooner or later will bite you in the ass if you don't do good by others. if you are one of those people that do continue to do wrong by others then don't be surprised when doors start to close on you slowly. sooner or later we all will have a bad experience with other couples and all we can do is move on.
Sooo very disappointing. We like to keep things positive . . . but this kind of behavior is TOXIC! In general . . . a good rule of thumb to follow is "Their story is their story to tell" don't steal from others. You can tell people you played with another cool couple . . . but you should never give their names, not even their profile names, in ANY situation we can think of . . . at least not without explicit permission. When you tell other people's stories . . . you are a thug, and you are stealing what may be their most prized possession . . . their privacy! Think before you speak!