For years we fought off the ever-present single male. Some were respectful and great. And some were, well let’s just say less than desirable in both manners and approach. But here I am, after having an account on here for 17 years now, find myself the single male. At least I know what’s expected since I was a couple all this time. But I have to ask. Is this a hopeless venture in the swinging world? Do couples desire an extra “M” in the mix? I know the fantasy is having two women and nothing is hotter I agree. But someone tell me that this endeavor won’t be fruitless. Would love to hear some honest, straightforward, answers.
PS- this is awkward for me. But I’m ready to have some fun. Turning over a new leaf as a single. Also, any single females out there be interested in pairing up with me to pursue couples not favoring single men? Love to hear from you.
PS- this is awkward for me. But I’m ready to have some fun. Turning over a new leaf as a single. Also, any single females out there be interested in pairing up with me to pursue couples not favoring single men? Love to hear from you.
Hi! We enjoy meeting single men. I sent you a message.
We enjoy meeting a single male as well
I think there are plenty of couples who enjoy having a SM join. And as you've mentioned, you've experienced it from the couples angle, so you are well aware of the broad range of people that are single males. As long as you act like one of the ones you felt were "good ones" when you were a couple, you will probably find some success. The biggest downside is likely just that, as always in the male world, there are sooooo many in the pool that it's sometimes hard to break out.
We are always looking for the right fit with single. We have have a couple long term relationships in the past but people move and it’s rare to find that match again
Having known both you and your wife for many years, we have no doubt once people get to know you, you will find a great deal of success meeting others. We are sorry for the separation but want to let you know Cyn is very willing and happy to see you soon. We are one of those couples who want to welcome single men with the proper attitude and attributes into our bedroom.
In all honesty, this day and age you will have better luck. You can play both sides, lifestyle and singles dating. Since we have turned more in the poly side I’ve joined and gone to a lot of singles meets and it’s so similar to the swing life it’s crazy. Lots of the younger generations are more open minded and live the same way they just don’t like labels or “swinger” labels.
Being a MWM is much harder. If the other couple is somewhat open, the wife is going to choose a SM over a married one, so you are left with those strict idealist couples whom only swap, when in reality they really just want your wife anyway. The swing life isn’t for married men anymore. I’ve given up on most of it. Hoping to find a new hobby and live vicariously through the wife’s fun.
Case in point, we posted a date here for a Wednesday of all days, 19 SM responses. 18 couple responses and all except one the wife was “away” or not available. 3fun app is exactly the same % wise.
Just my 0.02
Being a MWM is much harder. If the other couple is somewhat open, the wife is going to choose a SM over a married one, so you are left with those strict idealist couples whom only swap, when in reality they really just want your wife anyway. The swing life isn’t for married men anymore. I’ve given up on most of it. Hoping to find a new hobby and live vicariously through the wife’s fun.
Case in point, we posted a date here for a Wednesday of all days, 19 SM responses. 18 couple responses and all except one the wife was “away” or not available. 3fun app is exactly the same % wise.
Just my 0.02
massageBBCguy wrote:
For a fresh start, it's best to create a solo male profile, my friend. You'll likely have better luck than piggybacking on a not-really-a-couple profile, lol.
This website is notoriously non responsive with customer care. There are MANY couples profiles that can’t get changed to a single profile. That’s probably he case here, and not his fault.
Ops. I didn’t mean to delete my previous post. lol
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For a fresh start, it's best to create a solo male profile, my friend. You'll likely have better luck than piggybacking on a not-really-a-couple profile, lol.
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Hmmm. Not sure I read the part where he said he contacted customer care to switch his account. LOL
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For a fresh start, it's best to create a solo male profile, my friend. You'll likely have better luck than piggybacking on a not-really-a-couple profile, lol.
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Hmmm. Not sure I read the part where he said he contacted customer care to switch his account. LOL
We've been navigating the lifestyle both together and as a stag and vixen couple. We've found that the dynamic can vary greatly from one couple to another, and yes, there is definitely a place for single males in the swinging world. We've had great experiences with respectful and engaging single men, and it's all about the approach and understanding each couple's unique preferences.
Your years of experience as part of a couple will certainly give you a perspective that can help you stand out in a positive way. The key is to remain the kind of respectful and desirable single male you valued when you were on the other side of the equation.
And to massageBBCguy's point, a fresh profile might indeed be helpful to avoid any confusion and to reflect your current status accurately.
We've found that open communication and clear intentions are the cornerstones of a great experience for everyone involved. It's wonderful to hear that many are open to meeting a single male and that there's a positive outlook from both couples and singles alike. The landscape is indeed evolving, and there seems to be a growing acceptance of different dynamics.
Good luck, and perhaps our paths will cross in this adventurous lifestyle journey!
Your years of experience as part of a couple will certainly give you a perspective that can help you stand out in a positive way. The key is to remain the kind of respectful and desirable single male you valued when you were on the other side of the equation.
And to massageBBCguy's point, a fresh profile might indeed be helpful to avoid any confusion and to reflect your current status accurately.
We've found that open communication and clear intentions are the cornerstones of a great experience for everyone involved. It's wonderful to hear that many are open to meeting a single male and that there's a positive outlook from both couples and singles alike. The landscape is indeed evolving, and there seems to be a growing acceptance of different dynamics.
Good luck, and perhaps our paths will cross in this adventurous lifestyle journey!
We are always looking for single males
I don't get it, what does the W in SWM stand for? Isn't Single Male just SM?
SHEPASKI wrote:
I don't get it, what does the W in SWM stand for? Isn't Single Male just SM?
I believe it’s “Single White Male”…
Starlights wrote:SHEPASKI wrote:
I don't get it, what does the W in SWM stand for? Isn't Single Male just SM?
I believe it’s “Single White Male”…
We're using races to designate LS status now? I just can't see what difference it would make if you were a Single White Male or Single Black Male, or whatever else.
SHEPASKI wrote:lol considering race isn't inherently wrong, and it doesn't breach federal or state laws or general ethical rules especially in swinging. When you think about it, the BBC in my profile name does not stand for British Broadcasting Corporation. lol
SHEPASKI wrote:
We're using races to designate LS status now? I just can't see what difference it would make if you were a Single White Male or Single Black Male, or whatever else.
We have definitely come across profiles that explicitly state they are only interested in white males. They even go as far as excluding specific races that they aren’t interested in.
Everyone has their right to like their flavor of jam at the end of the day… at the same time it sorta makes things obvious (to us) that those types are probably better to stay away from in any context anyway. Not everyone in the LS is accepting. Preferences are allowed no matter how offensive they may sound 🤷🏽♂️
I think it’s hilarious when athletic or fit body types are a requirement from some of the very unfit ladies here. To each their own 🙃
HYM4CYN wrote:
Having known both you and your wife for many years, we have no doubt once people get to know you, you will find a great deal of success meeting others. We are sorry for the separation but want to let you know Cyn is very willing and happy to see you soon. We are one of those couples who want to welcome single men with the proper attitude and attributes into our bedroom.
You two are absolutely amazing people. And you can count on it!! The same goes for you both. Classy and cool. 👍
Starlights wrote:
This website is notoriously non responsive with customer care. There are MANY couples profiles that can’t get changed to a single profile. That’s probably he case here, and not his fault.
Exactly right. Haven’t been able to change it and it’s a lifetime account. So I really won’t want to buy another one. Thanks for the kind words.
JABRONES wrote:
We've been navigating the lifestyle both together and as a stag and vixen couple. We've found that the dynamic can vary greatly from one couple to another, and yes, there is definitely a place for single males in the swinging world. We've had great experiences with respectful and engaging single men, and it's all about the approach and understanding each couple's unique preferences.
Your years of experience as part of a couple will certainly give you a perspective that can help you stand out in a positive way. The key is to remain the kind of respectful and desirable single male you valued when you were on the other side of the equation.
And to massageBBCguy's point, a fresh profile might indeed be helpful to avoid any confusion and to reflect your current status accurately.
We've found that open communication and clear intentions are the cornerstones of a great experience for everyone involved. It's wonderful to hear that many are open to meeting a single male and that there's a positive outlook from both couples and singles alike. The landscape is indeed evolving, and there seems to be a growing acceptance of different dynamics.
Good luck, and perhaps our paths will cross in this adventurous lifestyle journey!
Thank you! I appreciate the feedback. I’m working on converting the profile. I’ve been upfront and honest about my status. Not playing games as I didn’t tolerate that when I was married. But it’s a lifetime account and I want to convert it to single. It WILL NOT let me change it.
NorthernUTkitty wrote:
We are always looking for single males
Look here. She’s beautiful. 😱
SHEPASKI wrote:
I don't get it, what does the W in SWM stand for? Isn't Single Male just SM?
Sure. Works for me. SM it is. 👍
SHEPASKI wrote:
I believe it’s “Single White Male”…
We're using races to designate LS status now? I just can't see what difference it would make if you were a Single White Male or Single Black Male, or whatever else.[/quote]
I think you’re reading too much into my abbreviations. I’ve always seen that posted for single males, and race aside, some women/couples have preferences. All about personal preference and not some race baiting that I’m picking up here. I’m a cis male looking for fun. Better? 😉
massageBBCguy wrote:
lol considering race isn't inherently wrong, and it doesn't breach federal or state laws or general ethical rules especially in swinging. When you think about it, the BBC in my profile name does not stand for British Broadcasting Corporation. lol
Exactly right! Thank you. I’ve met many a woman who talk about, fantasize about, or experience the BBC. Not just BC, but BBC. In a purely “sexual” setting, I think it’s 100% OK to name your flavor. Some like chocolate and some like vanilla. And a host of other Neopolitan configurations. People need to relax. My post was far and away from even considering that the “W” meant much of anything. I mean if it upsets people I can remove the “W” because you can look at my pics and see what “flavor” I am. 😛
lol. Please don’t remove the “W” lol
sorry to hear about the divorce, best of luck to you man