I had a play date a couple weeks ago and I had a great time...
However, when I woke up the next morning, I had bruises (I'm talking red and purple hand-size bruises) all over me: on my breasts, on my hips, on my arms, on my legs. Then and only then, did I actually realize how rough it really got.
How do you determine when rough play is "too rough" in the heat of things??
However, when I woke up the next morning, I had bruises (I'm talking red and purple hand-size bruises) all over me: on my breasts, on my hips, on my arms, on my legs. Then and only then, did I actually realize how rough it really got.
How do you determine when rough play is "too rough" in the heat of things??
My guess would be when you wake up the next morning bruised,,
or maybe not!
or maybe not!
well you sound like you had a good time so I guess a little roughness is ok, but to draw the line somewhere is tough to do. our suggestion is to hook up with people that are understanding enough to respect boundries and keep things on a comfortable level.
D&M
D&M
Not trying to laugh about this one but I cannt help it. If you woke up looking like you had a boxing match I would have to ask how much did you have to drink or was it something elsa?We had have been a bit stiff (:P) before but to wake up black and blue? Hmmm I think you could teach us a trick or two. I really would like more details on this one.
Our boundaries start when we say yes and stop when we say no. Anything inbetween is up to us to tolerate, outside those boundaries, its wrong and time to get up and go.
This is a hard thing to comment about four me but I have dun such a thing my self fill real bad about it to but me and my girl friend had to much to drink one night and thing got to ruff and will I was waiting fur her to say owe or stop or any thing to me about being to ruff she wanted more and more the next day I seen that it got way out of hand and we have not let it happen sense. But the words OWE OR THAT HERTS WOULD HAVE STOPED ME so talk to one and an other
Huh? What was the question again? Rough sex is going to be up to the folks involved. I guess my question (or comment) is this... if you wake up with bruises and welts (wife loves a little ass smackin' and hair pullin') and you can remember you had a good time, then you may not have crossed your boundaries. BUT, if you wake up with welts and bruises... and you can't remember if you had a good time, let alone how you got the bruises, maybe you should check what the heck you had to drink or smoke before you started.....LOL
No alcohol (or smoking of any kind) was involved... and at the time I truly didn't realize he was being "THAT Rough". I will admit though it was quite the evening.
ummm, broken glass, barb wire, pretty much anything that involves stitches or any hospital stay that is longer than one night is out....well unless the nurses are really really hot, then there is an exception to that last rule.
A little soreness the next day could just the sign of very active sex and maybe not being in shape for it. Some people bruise really easily so it does not take much, esp if their blood is really pumping. You gotta judge for yourself at the time, albiet often we can get very lost in the moment (carpet burns he he he, those involved know what i am talking about).
A little soreness the next day could just the sign of very active sex and maybe not being in shape for it. Some people bruise really easily so it does not take much, esp if their blood is really pumping. You gotta judge for yourself at the time, albiet often we can get very lost in the moment (carpet burns he he he, those involved know what i am talking about).
I am one that actually craves rough sex, it helps me feel more submissive. However, I also happen to have really large breasts that tend to bruise very easily. I have done it to myself even just adjusting the twins in my bra! LOL
What I have learned over the past several months of playing is that you eventually learn what is going to make you bruise and you can sort of guild how things go with that knowledge. I know if someone kneads my chest like a loaf of bread Im certain to wake up black & blue. But if they learn to apply the right amount of pressure in certain areas then I never see a mark on me.
Open handed spankings tend to leave me more bruised than paddle spankings...certain nipple clamps will bring welts...certain ways I can get tied to a bed can put my hips at a bad angle and I can't tolerate it for very long...These are all things that you learn about your body and should be able to relay to your play mates.
You also have to take into account the other person, especially if you have never played with them before. Some men don't know how to be with a big girl such as myself so I kind of have to guide them a little bit as to what is good and what might leave marks, etc. Especially if their partners are smaller in stature. Granted at times it might be awkward to discuss these types of things but if you're having sex with them, I'd say the floor should be pretty open for topics lol.
Getting to know how your body reacts to things (outside stimulous, allergies, erotic pleasures etc) is part of your own personal swing responsibility I think. I know some women, regardless of size, have no clue about their own bodies and therefore have no idea what to share with their partners. This is something that I think everyone should learn about themselves, for themselves. It makes you a better lover and partner. Share your discoveries with your mates, that way if things come up in discussions between the guys, it might be easier to have your man tell the guy "Hey she bruises easily, so you might want to watch that" or what ever. I know that Greg and I love chatting online before we actually meet and alot of times these types of topics come up and its the perfect forum for that as well.
Gah, I've rambled on long enough...sorry about that!!! Hope this helps even a little bit...
~Amy~
What I have learned over the past several months of playing is that you eventually learn what is going to make you bruise and you can sort of guild how things go with that knowledge. I know if someone kneads my chest like a loaf of bread Im certain to wake up black & blue. But if they learn to apply the right amount of pressure in certain areas then I never see a mark on me.
Open handed spankings tend to leave me more bruised than paddle spankings...certain nipple clamps will bring welts...certain ways I can get tied to a bed can put my hips at a bad angle and I can't tolerate it for very long...These are all things that you learn about your body and should be able to relay to your play mates.
You also have to take into account the other person, especially if you have never played with them before. Some men don't know how to be with a big girl such as myself so I kind of have to guide them a little bit as to what is good and what might leave marks, etc. Especially if their partners are smaller in stature. Granted at times it might be awkward to discuss these types of things but if you're having sex with them, I'd say the floor should be pretty open for topics lol.
Getting to know how your body reacts to things (outside stimulous, allergies, erotic pleasures etc) is part of your own personal swing responsibility I think. I know some women, regardless of size, have no clue about their own bodies and therefore have no idea what to share with their partners. This is something that I think everyone should learn about themselves, for themselves. It makes you a better lover and partner. Share your discoveries with your mates, that way if things come up in discussions between the guys, it might be easier to have your man tell the guy "Hey she bruises easily, so you might want to watch that" or what ever. I know that Greg and I love chatting online before we actually meet and alot of times these types of topics come up and its the perfect forum for that as well.
Gah, I've rambled on long enough...sorry about that!!! Hope this helps even a little bit...
~Amy~
Umm... I would ask this question first... If it didnt seem "too rough" at the time, But seemed so in the am, Is it possible you had been prior to the encounter, taking prescription medication?
Certain meds, (blood thinners come to mind) or even over doing it with plain asprin can cause someone to be much easier to bruise.
Beyond that, I dunno.. Here is the thing, if it was enjoyable at the time, and didnt seem too rough, in the moment, then ?
Certain meds, (blood thinners come to mind) or even over doing it with plain asprin can cause someone to be much easier to bruise.
Beyond that, I dunno.. Here is the thing, if it was enjoyable at the time, and didnt seem too rough, in the moment, then ?
I can totally relate to this topic as I had a simular experience. Don't get me wrong because a little roughness can be quite erotic but obviously there is a limit. The gentleman that I was with left bruises and I had thought that he had ripped my hood piercing during foreplay. I actually yelled and grabbed his head and told him to stop at which time he had no choice but to comply. I thought perhaps he had just got carried away in the heat of the moment and the amount we had to drink before hand. He was still pretty rough during sex and I found myself just wishing it to be over. My husband was in the other room with his wife and was not aware of what was going on until afterwards. We have not and will not play with them again.
~Mrs. TR~
~Mrs. TR~
TR I agree... Fuck them Fucking Fuckers....
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