This question applies mostly to those who do full swap in separate rooms, or have hall passes. But, it could also apply to same room swap too...or even soft swap.
Out of curiosity, do you and your significant other talk about your experience at a later date? Or, is it a mostly or totally unspoken subject?
If you do talk about it, is it general stuff like "It was nice" or, is it a more detailed play-by-play sharing of your experience where you don't hold back?
Lastly, if you do discuss in some detail, is it while you and your SO are having sex or during foreplay? Or, is it at random times, like when driving, etc?
Out of curiosity, do you and your significant other talk about your experience at a later date? Or, is it a mostly or totally unspoken subject?
If you do talk about it, is it general stuff like "It was nice" or, is it a more detailed play-by-play sharing of your experience where you don't hold back?
Lastly, if you do discuss in some detail, is it while you and your SO are having sex or during foreplay? Or, is it at random times, like when driving, etc?
We always share & in detail. What we liked, didn’t like, technics, style etc. we love to have fun, we love to learn & bring each other the greatest pleasure possible. One of the best ways to do this is through open communication. I’ve learned from things guys have done with here that she liked a lot. She now enjoys them all the time! And same for me - I’ve told her things she has adopted & overall our sexual enjoyment goes up.
As for timing, usually the day after & then whenever it comes up.
As for timing, usually the day after & then whenever it comes up.
Canvas wrote:
This question applies mostly to those who do full swap in separate rooms, or have hall passes. But, it could also apply to same room swap too...or even soft swap.
Out of curiosity, do you and your significant other talk about your experience at a later date? Or, is it a mostly or totally unspoken subject?
If you do talk about it, is it general stuff like "It was nice" or, is it a more detailed play-by-play sharing of your experience where you don't hold back?
Lastly, if you do discuss in some detail, is it while you and your SO are having sex or during foreplay? Or, is it at random times, like when driving, etc?
With my ex, we shared every detail, the intimacy and truth in those conversations was so damn hott. Always ended up with us rolling around like teenagers, just enjoying the freedom of life and sexuality with each other.
My wife use to not like to talk about it at all after. We are a same room only/full swap couple. It was uncomfortable for her to talk about the night before but now it brings a lot of extra spice to our marriage talking about it. We've also been able to really define what we like and dislike as a couple amd it helps us narrow down the search if someone is or isn't the right fit for us.
Agreed! Sharing details is the best. We also find ourselves rolling around soon after sharing. We are same room full swap couple which is great because I get a glance of her action but because I am focused doing my own thing details or speaking of the experience is a must!
Interesting thread … not judging, but we have no interest in playing separately, but obviously many do. But we do love discussing the play by play of how an encounter with others went afterwards, which always leads to a 🔥🔥🔥 passionate time together.
Wouldn’t having “hall passes” and playing separately be considered ENM (Ethically Non Monogamous) … but not swinging. 🤷🏼♀️
Wouldn’t having “hall passes” and playing separately be considered ENM (Ethically Non Monogamous) … but not swinging. 🤷🏼♀️
We play same room and share details. Usually right after. Or I will ask for more details when she it tied on our cross. And that is always a fun time!
Once upon a time I have a significant other. He got pissed, and accuse me of having way too much fun. So that’s a no, never again..
For us it is a turn on to hear about what the other experienced. If the individual is a repeat friend then the nity gritty details are typically skipped. We talk about it right after the experience, which typically leads to us being so turned on. Like most thing in life, this aspect has some fluidity, and is in a constant slight changes.
Of course we we do, we share every little detail and those talks usually lead to hot sex.
I wouldn't discuss in detail unless I'd gotten consent from all parties involved. (If I played without my partner.) If I do have consent or it was a shared experience, it can be fun foreplay or hot naughty talk during.
Funkinky why wouldn't swinging be under the ENM umbrella?
Funkinky why wouldn't swinging be under the ENM umbrella?
This is our favorite thing! We do same room and separate, and we love all the details or our favorite experiences.
We enjoy both same room and separate room play. The best part of the experience for us is to share our thoughts and sexy details of the encounter on our way home. It almost always leads to pulling off the road and jumping in the backseat for some very hot and wild sex.
Absolutely. We love hearing the details, or better yet, watching the videos.
Started here as a couple, the ex signed us up.Had been active through college doing a lot of this during college. Really started when we did pillow fantasy talk, then he asked me about my past. I asked are you sure?? He said he was and the rest of him said yes as well. Morphed into a hotwife kind of thing with couples or men, he was definitely a voyeur. We had a great time immediately afterwards if he watched or didn’t, I was happy to tell him every thing.
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Always and that's one of our favorite parts. Everything we do in the LS comes back to us as a couple and we weed out the parts we didn't enjoy, focus on the ones we are learning from and savor the juicy memories.
Great question @Canvas
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Thanks to all for the replies.
Yes. Married people shouldn't have secrets, so we don't.
We participate in the hotwife lifestyle/kink, so detail sharing is a big turn on and almost essential for us. It’s really amazing to come home from a date and have my husband attack me (in a good way), hands all over my body, asking how it was, what happened, and how many times I came 😇
Big fan of detail sharing!
Big fan of detail sharing!
We love to share details of all the play we have.
After visiting the Desire resorts in Cancun. We found that for us we personally like watching each other and sharing in the moment, however we also made it a thing to still reconnect and share how it made us each feel and what we saw and observed from our point of view!!
We are a full swap couple who play together and seperate. We enjoy seperate more so there is full concentration on who we are playing with with no Interruptions or lack of concentration. We alway talk about our experiences and alot of playing with talking about our fun!
We also enjoy separate bedrooms, and sharing every detail afterwards! We always have sex after we’ve played! 🥵
Sometimes we do, sometimes we don't. Depending on the person or the situation. The he ofnus like to here all about it, she ... not as much.
We have played with a few couples but most bi-males. We do share details afterwards if we play in separate rooms and also a recap what felt good and what didn't. We are both walking on unfamiliar ground by pushing our boundaries.
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I'm a huge fan of sharing and even doing a video to share.
Ok. So take this with a grain of salt. A nice practice to follow is to always be upfront and honest with your new partners about what and how you would like to share details of your time together with anyone else.... including your spouse. Consent is key and it's always kind (& sexy) to make sure your new partners are good with you sharing details, photos and videos especially if you are in a separate room or solo play situation.
Unexpected bonus - asking what your new partner is ok with you sharing will increase trust which always leads to vulnerability and a feeling of safety which makes for incredible sex.
Unexpected bonus - asking what your new partner is ok with you sharing will increase trust which always leads to vulnerability and a feeling of safety which makes for incredible sex.
So we generally prefer same room sex . . . having said that, both of us have tried solo play and like it under the right conditions. Usually this has been with people we have already played with as a couple and have a comfort level with. We both have separate rules about sharing. She does not like to know details until much later, but wants to know beforehand if he will play and with whom. He not only wants details . . . but has a strong preference for lots of video documentation. For him, it is how she places him in the room with her to participate remotely . . . it also lets him know she is thinking about him.
In addition to the videos . . . we both share details of our encounters with each other (usually as foreplay to sex). In this scenario, BOTH of us enjoy hearing the 'play by play' and as many details as we can each remember. These gifts provide us with a LOT of sexual energy for months or even years! We have found that it not only enhances our sexual relationship with each other, but also our intimacy and our trust of each other. Very HOT!!!
For us, the entire purpose of the lifestyle is to enhance OUR relationship. That doesn't mean we don't care about those we play with . . . only that WE, and our relationship come FIRST. So a condition of her playing solo is video footage . . . which she discloses to her playmate before setting a date. He, of course, discloses to his playmates that he needs to let his wife know beforehand - and often will involve her in a 3-way call so that there are no misunderstandings. This is our agreement as it stands today.
Solo play will likely continue to be the exception . . . but we are both certain that the itch will need to be scratched occasionally. Also, one thing that has been obvious to us and to virtually every other person we have met in this wonderful lifestyle . . . is that whatever agreements/rules we have in place today ... will likely morph and change the longer we are in the LS. That has been the nature of the beast. I mean hell, I can remember when neither of us were allowed to kiss other people . . . lol . . . THAT rule lasted about 2 minutes (lol). We're interested in what your collective and individual experiences have been.
In addition to the videos . . . we both share details of our encounters with each other (usually as foreplay to sex). In this scenario, BOTH of us enjoy hearing the 'play by play' and as many details as we can each remember. These gifts provide us with a LOT of sexual energy for months or even years! We have found that it not only enhances our sexual relationship with each other, but also our intimacy and our trust of each other. Very HOT!!!
For us, the entire purpose of the lifestyle is to enhance OUR relationship. That doesn't mean we don't care about those we play with . . . only that WE, and our relationship come FIRST. So a condition of her playing solo is video footage . . . which she discloses to her playmate before setting a date. He, of course, discloses to his playmates that he needs to let his wife know beforehand - and often will involve her in a 3-way call so that there are no misunderstandings. This is our agreement as it stands today.
Solo play will likely continue to be the exception . . . but we are both certain that the itch will need to be scratched occasionally. Also, one thing that has been obvious to us and to virtually every other person we have met in this wonderful lifestyle . . . is that whatever agreements/rules we have in place today ... will likely morph and change the longer we are in the LS. That has been the nature of the beast. I mean hell, I can remember when neither of us were allowed to kiss other people . . . lol . . . THAT rule lasted about 2 minutes (lol). We're interested in what your collective and individual experiences have been.
alchemyinbdr wrote:
For us it is a turn on to hear about what the other experienced. If the individual is a repeat friend then the nity gritty details are typically skipped. We talk about it right after the experience, which typically leads to us being so turned on. Like most thing in life, this aspect has some fluidity, and is in a constant slight changes.
We agree with this. We are mostly same room/ full swap. We usually share a lot more when we are with new couples. We have a regular couple that we trust and have very few rules with. And will do different room. We already now everything about their play style. So we rarely check in afterwards.
We play both same room and separate but always talk about the details afterwards. Makes for hot sex days after.